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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.


I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!


I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.


I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.


I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!




♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

advice

Hi, Ashlee..
Ok, so i'm Annie for our school play and opening night is tomorrow and i am so nervous!! Do you have any tips on how to make me not so nervous? Anything would help!
~Caydee

Unfortunately, there's no sure cure for halophobia, which most
of us know simply as "stage fright."

However, there are some fairly simple techniques you can use to
reduce the stress that comes with it. Even better, once you've
learned these techniques, you'll find them helpful whether you're
addressing an audience of one, a hundred, a thousand, or a million.
1. Understand that some nervousness is actually good. Once you gain a little confidence, the same adrenalin that causes anxiety can energize
you with enthusiasm--an essential element of almost any successful interview.

2. Visualize success. See yourself feeling comfortable and confident
during your play. Imagine everyone congratulating you and praising
your performance afterward. The more positive pictures you send to your subconscious mind, the more relaxed your conscious mind will feel when you're doing it for real.

3. Avoid thinking about bad speaking experiences in the past. The more you remember those negative images, the more likely they are to repeat themselves.

4. Remember some important basics. Arrive early, and avoid cold drinks,
especially ice water, just before you speak.
5. Comfort yourself in the knowledge that even veteran speakers get stage fright...

6. and last but not least......PRACTICE!!! practice in front of your mirror tonight and you'll feel better about it all ..

good luck!! have fun!! you'll be greattt!!!

ppllleassee get back to me and lemme know how it went?

aShLeA

ps. my name is spelled this way because that's the way i was born with...my name is Ashlea.

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(Rating: 5) So far its going really well. I have the last show to do today, and i feel really confident. Thanks for the help!
And also, why are you spelling your name like ashlea? It's spelled Ashlee...or so I thought. :0
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