I just found out my daughter is going to be asked by her boy friend to marry him. But before he does, he wants to talk with me and ask my permission. I respect his wanting to ask my permission before he "pops the question"
He is ten years older than my daughter, [30] and I have met him once. He is not from our community and I do not know that much about him.
Here is my question, What questions should I be prepared to ask of him when we do have the "talk?"
I would suggest just talking and getting to know him better. Ask him about himself, but don't make it into a interrogation. It already sounds like he's half way decent since he has the courage to ask your permission first. Not a lot of guys do that nowadays. Some questions I can suggest:
Where'd did you grow up? What are/were your parents like? What are some of your interests? Get to know him and base your decision on that. I would try to avoid questions like, "Why are you good for my daughter?", "Why do you want to marry my daughter?", etc. But do what you feel the most comfortable doing. If you "must" know the answers to those questions, ask them.
You might even want to consider having a small get together of you, your daughter and his family so you can get to know them all. After all, if they do get married they're going to be a part of your life.
Best Wishes.
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Very Helpful, Thank you.
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