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Hey! My name is Ashlea. I've been a member on here for a few years. I'm 24 years old and have a little baby boy. I'm pretty outgoing and I love to joke around. I have a very strong sense of humor and I love making people laugh. I don't care too much about what other people think about me because in the end, you're all you got. Nothing else matters but your true opinion of yourself. I think everyone is beautiful in their own ways. I never look down on anyone nor do I judge people for their decisions or lifestyles.


I love to listen to music. That's probably the only reason I like driving, otherwise, It'd be boring as hell. I love spending time with my son. He is by far the best thing that's ever happened to me. He is my best friend and when I'm with him, nothing else matters. The whole world could pass me by, and as long as I have him, it doesn't matter one bit. He's the only one who can truly make me smile. I am truly happy because of him. I love spending money when I have it, and sometimes, that can be a bad habit. I love to write poems, and am told I am very good at it, but only when I'm upset or bothered by something. Lately, though, I have not written any. I also enjoy writing. I seem to have a way with words and I love how a paper sounds after I write it. It makes me sound more intelligent.(lol) I also like to watch movies, mostly comedy and drama...I hate action movies and boy-ish movies. Horror movies give me nightmares(yes, even at this age.) ...I like to go on the computer alot and I love meeting new people, so feel free to get in touch with me!


I hate people who think they are better than you, and people who are snobby or stuck-up. Having that attitude will never get you anywhere in life, and I look at it as a sign of immaturity. I like to be around people that within the first 5 minutes of talking to them you know that you will already feel comfortable with them because they are that down to earth. I can't stand people who criticize other people and their lives. Understand that you, as well, have things about your life that you do not like...so you wouldn't like it very much if people talked about you in a bad way, would you? We're all human, we all make mistakes and run into bad situations. Things happen that we can't control. These are all parts of life though and can be handled with the help of others, which is why negative criticism is not needed.

I believe that what you can't control, you have to let go. Too often we hang onto things when we have no control or power over its outcome, so in the end, life will take its course and we have to just go with it.


I guess some people would say I can be selfish at times, although I choose not to believe that(lol), and if things don't go my way, i WILL be upset. But, I also learn to get over it and move on. I love giving advice. Everyone I know say that's the one thing they love about me the most...I never judge anyone on any of their problems and I truly do enjoy helping people with their problems in any way I can. I will go to any extent I have to in order to help someone else. I have a habit of putting other people's needs ahead of my own. I have been giving people advice and helping people so much with their problems that I don't even get that GREAT feeling anymore from helping people. It's just in my nature and I am happy to just be able to be of some sort of help to anyone: stanger or friend.


I am not here for the ratings or comments. I am only here to help you, and I hope to recieve help in return when I am in need as well. I understand how sometimes you just need somebody to talk to...someone that understands. So don't be afraid to ask me any questions about anything...i'll help you with anything I can. If there is anything I can help you with that you would like to discuss privately, you can note me in my inbox or email me as well as instant message me on AIM. I would be glad to help you. hope to hear from you soon!!




♥ .even the people that never frown...eventually b r e a k . d o w n. ♥

advice

When I am embarrased or telling a slight fib, (or maybe a bigger fib hehe) I blush! My face turns all red! For example, if someone says "Do you like Josh" and I say "no" (When really I mean yes) I blush, and you can tell I'm lying because I blush! Or when I embarrass myself, like say I fall, but try to make it seem like it didn't bothe me. You can always tell it bothers me b/c I blush! Blushing is soooo embarrasing!! Any tips on how to stop the blushing? (Or is it not possible?)
Signed,
Bashful

To blush is a normal healthy physiological response. The problems seem to occur when this blushing reponse creates feelings of anxiety which in turn fuels the blushing which in turn fuels the anxiety etc. Also, some people blush much more than others, having built, unwittingly, 'conditioned reflexes' over the years. Sometimes the blushing is situational, at times for example, when the person has to speak in front of groups of others, sometimes a person will often blush even with just their immediate family.

Blushing is involuntary and unfortunately not much can be done to control it. It’s embarrassing but you’re not the only one who blushes. All people do, only some of us hide it better than others due to our complexions. Fair skinned people are more likely to overtly display their blushing due to their coloring.

Often blushing is linked with shyness and embarrassment in our minds. Blushing may in fact be due to that and you can try counteracting it by confronting these associations. You may want to try relaxation techniques and visualization techniques of yourself not blushing. If you experience something like raising your hand in class without being self-conscious you can, perhaps stop blushing. If you see yourself blushing in your mind, why can’t you see yourself not blushing? Are there factors that influence your blushing?

It may take time for your blushing to go away. Some individuals grow out of it and others sometimes retain the trait. Since you are truly concerned, FX recommends seeing your doctor and maybe a therapist. A therapist may be able to help you confront emotional situations that trigger blushing and help you realistically assess how others perceive you. If you are able to overcome the anxiety that triggers blushing, its frequency and intensity will decrease and you will be able to function in settings that were previously threatening. If you continue to struggle, a therapist could work with a doctor who could assess whether medication would be beneficial.

Discuss the situation with your mom and explain the extent of your blushing. Let her know that you want to see a doctor and a therapist. Show her this question and answer and maybe that will let her know how serious you take this issue. If you discuss it with her in a calm and logical manner she will see your point of view. Check out Serious Blushing for more info.

If you need a therapist and live in northern New Jersey you can call the Access Center at Atlantic Behavioral Health at 888.247.1400 for an appointment. If you live in northern New Jersey and would like help finding a doctor you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973.971.6475.



hope i helped !!:) good luck!!

x0.ash.0x




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(Rating: 5) Oh my gosh! Wow! That was great advice!!!!! Thank you so much for taking the time out to do that! You rock!
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