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Im a 14 female
I go to a new school and I like a few boys but I dont know what I should do.. Should I talk to them? Wait since its only the second week of school? Wait for them to come to me? Have a friend do it? Haha Im used to them coming to me first but high school is different.. Any type of suggestions will be great(:
Also what would I talk about if things get awkward?? (link)
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Go ahead and talk to them. Just don't be forward or too flirty or anything like that. You don't want to freak them out. You could probably just talk about anything in general. School would be a good topic.
I would definitely not have a friend talk to guys for you. It's better when you show confidence.
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hi my name is jessica im 15 and ima female. theres this guy i like and hes in my bio class but he doesnt talk to me or know that i exist. i like his looks and how he acts and his style i want a song that can talks about how i like him and that ill be a good girlfriend. and another one about how im so confused and dont know if i should tell him. also how i love him so much inside and he makes me happy when ever i see him.please help i wanna tell him soon :) (link)
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Okay well my advice is to not tell him how you feel through a song. Especially if he doesn't really know you. That kind of thing can scare a guy off if you're not close to him.
If you want him to know that you could be a good girlfriend, then first try talking to him. Try to be his friend and then see where it goes from there. Relationships last longer and better when it comes from friendships.
But if you do want some songs that relate to your situation then here are some, but I wouldn't suggest sending any to him..
Christina Perri-A Thousand Years
Carly Rae Jepson-Call Me Maybe
Avril Lavigne-Day Dream
Taylor Swift-Enchanted
Vertical Horizon-Everything You Want
Avril Lavigne-Fall To Pieces
Michael Buble-Haven't Met You Yet
New Found Glory-Hold My Hand
Mika-I See You
Taylor Swift-Invisable
Mandy Moore-It's Gonna Be Love
Jesse McCartney-Just So You Know
The Cab-Lala
Every Avenue-Mindset
FM Static-Moment of Truth
Paramore-Never Let This Go
Jordin Sparks-Next To You
Rob Thomas-Someday
Taylor Swift-Teardrops on my Guitar
Avril Lavigne-Things I'll Never Say
David Archuleta-Crush
David Archuleta-Waiting For Yesterday
My Favorite Highway-What Are You Waiting For
Jason Derulo-What If
Avril Lavigne-Who Knows
Good Charlotte-Wondering
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We dated each other. He broke up with me for his ex. They don't like each other anymore and he started to talk to me again. He says he likes and he wants to go out with me again but after a little bit of time. We hadn't talked in 2 weeks and we saw each other at a friends house that we have in common. I didn't know he would be there and he had no idea I was gonna be there. There was my best friend, me, him, his friend, and our friend in common there. He ignored me the whole time! I told him last time that we hung out that I didn't want people to see us together just yet so they wouldn't get the wrong idea. Maybe he didn't talk to me as much because of that. But our friend in common was hanging out with him today and asked if he still liked me, he said yes. Our friend in common is kinda easy and I don't want her hanging around him as much(she is more my friend than his. They started talking because of me) she is getting close to his family and stuff and I am worried he will like her and not me anymore... He also wants to have sex. We are both 15! It's illegal in Michigan. I told him no but he keeps asking so I am worried if they hang out more, since she has had sex, they might. I am so confused. I don't even know what I am asking anymore just please give me some advice!
P.S. I don't know if I can trust either of them... they both have pushed my trust limits but I do a little bit for both. (link)
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Okay well, you can't trust either of them.
If they have sex, she's a bad friend and he is a jerk.
You shouldn't even think about getting back together with him. Mostly because he's pushing you for sex. He's treating it like that's all he wants from you. If that's all he wants, he's not worth it.
Plus if he gets involved with your friend then why would you want a guy who changes his mind just because she will have sex with him and you won't.
If you can't trust him, why bother with him?
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I'm eighteen years old, and I'm basically a follower. If real life were a video game, I'd totally be a support character. I'm very good at being backup, being there for people and sacrificing my own wants or needs for theirs. I'm also very good at following orders and respecting seniority. I have been my entire life. I always think about other people first. I follow people the majority of the time. If my friends and I, say, go to the mall or something, I prefer following behind them. I don't know why, it's just how I am!
It's not to say I can't lead. I guess I'm sort of a lazy leader, in a way. If a situation arises where there are all followers amongst us, I'll take the lead if I have to. But if anyone else wants to lead I'll follow them.
A follower is always described negatively... Is it really all that bad to be a follower? I mean, without us, leaders would have no one to LEAD, right? Thanks for your time. :D (link)
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I'm pretty much the same way. But yeah, being a follower is usually described negatively.
Honestly, the only times I see it as a bad thing is that they have a hard time making decisions, are taken advantage of, and depend on others.
So in your situation, its not a bad thing. It just depends on the situation of who you are following and why.
Going to the mall and walking behind them isn't a bad thing, but if you're following someone who is leading everyone into something stupid, then its a problem.
Most followers can't stand up for themselves. I don't even know if I'd consider you much of a follower. Maybe someone who is really supportive and doesn't like to be in charge all the time unless necessary. You just don't like being the center of attention.
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This guy at work asked me to hangout one night after work so I told him to text me when he got out and he did but said he was too tired to hangout. He asked me to hangout two more times after that and did the same thing. Eventually we did get together and he kissed me. Now he still asks me to hangout almost every day but then cancels out, or just doesn't bring it up again. I'm so confused, why would he be acting so weird? (link)
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Honestly, there could be many reasons why he keeps flaking. I wouldn't hang out with him if he keeps doing this. It can be really annoying and frustrating. I'd straight up ask him, although his answer will probably he that he is tired. But if you do ask him, he'll probably stop doing it so much or won't ask to hang out as much.
I wouldn't kiss him either, not when you don't know what's going on with him.
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I need help because I've been seriously contemplating suicide. Nobody but my boyfriend knows this. Many people on this website and my boyfriend told me to talk to somebody about it. However, I'm unsure on how to do this. I don't want to mention it to my parents, because, well, they're youth pastors and I feel as if they haven't known my situation lately and I tell them it's been going on for awhile, they'll think badly of themselves. Or if I told somebody close to me, they'll think my parents shouldn't be in a position to help other teens like me. But, I don't think it's all there fault they don't know, I hide it well. I don't know how to talk to someone i know about my cutting or suicidal thoughts. Please somebody help me! I am embarrassed by my situation and I don't want somebody to think badly of my family or myself. (link)
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You should tell your parents. Most parents have no idea what they're kids are going through. They won't know until you tell them. You need help, so they are the people you should go to.
It's not their fault they don't know, explain that to them.
You're parents probably had to deal with other teenagers like you. They will be shocked when they find out, be ready for emotions. Just tell them how you've been feeling and you want help. They'll help you.
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Hey there(: I am 14/f and three days ago I had my first kiss, with my my boyfriend that I love with all of my heart (link)
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I would consider your first kiss as the one you recently had. Playing pretend with your friends don't exactly count, especially if it half of his lips. Plus you were really young, especially the boy. I mean he was like 8 or 9. I probably kissed a little boy when I was young but I wouldn't consider it my first real kiss lol
It's not something you should be worried about anyway. But yes, this recent one was your first kiss.
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Alrighty, so Im 14/f and I kinda like this guy named Sam, 13/m. Him and I talk all the time on facebook but we hardly hang out or anything, he lives next to my bestie =P Anyways, I leave for my cottage tomorrow and I want to tell him I like him, he has rated me an 8 and told me I am cute. I would like to at the end of a convo say "I like you, kk bye". Well what do ya think? I have feelings for him and I'm not sure what I should do. I need to tell him somehow before I leave tomorrow though. Advice?? (link)
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If you really want to tell him, then go for it. You won't know how he feels unless you let him know.
I wouldn't do it at the end of the conversation. Just bring it up and say something like, "I think I'm starting to like you." or something like that.
If he says he doesn't feel the same, don't worry about it. At least you still have a friend and now you know right?
But go ahead and tell him and see what happens.
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I am 15 years old and a pastors kid. I feel completely worthless and I can't find help. Today I was seriously thinking about killing myself and my boyfriend is the only one who I've told about my suicidal thoughts and he doesn't know what to do to help me. I've been cutting myself for a couple of years now and I'm tired of hurting. I dont want to live anymore! Im mentally and emotionally exhausted! My parents or friends don't seem to notice my pain or my scars.....I feel like nobody cares! Please I need help!!!! Tell me what to do, please! I don't know who to turn to and I need advice! (link)
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So many people have felt the way feel. I was really depressed when I was 14 and 15 and also went through cutting.
You need to talk to someone. If you want your parents to notice your pain, you need to talk to them. My parents didn't notice for years, neither did my friends. I didn't want them to and I didn't think they cared, but they love you and they will care.
Although, my dad didn't take it very well. They will be really upset and expect a lot of emotions but you need help before it's too late you know?
You writing this shows that you do want help. Just talk to them and tell them what's been going on and say you want help to stop these thoughts and your cutting problem.
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hi, I'm 14 and a male, my girlfriend came home from her holiday in the south of France about 3/4 weeks ago, she took a pill's so she wouldn't come on her period while she was out there. when she came home we had un-protected sex for 10-15 seconds, she was on her period at the time but it was at the end of a 7 day period. it's now been the 3/4 weeks and she hasn't come on her next period, could she be pregnant? or could she have missed her period this month because of the pills she took? please help my curiosity. (link)
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It could be both.
The pills can cause her to miss her period or cause it to come later.
If she wasn't on the pill while you both had sex, there is a bigger chance she could be pregnant than if she was on the pill. On top of that, you didn't use protection.
But hope for the best right now and next time, use protection.
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I just turned twelve and im not sure if im cramping I have this really bad pain under my stomach and my back to my thighs hurt and I feel dizzy. My stomach feels like soneone is ripping my guts out. I even feel really weak! Please help me out! (link)
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That happens to me each month I start my period. I always get cramps because of my period. I always describe it as someone stabbing my stomach. So I understand the feeling completely. One time I even had nausea and was dizzy. I've gotten cramps almost every month for 5 years.
Have you started your period? I started when I was 12 so if you haven't, there's a good chance you will be soon.
If you're sure it's not because of your period or anything, you should go see a doctor.
The first couple years, it hurt so bad I'd stay home crying for hours till it went away.
If all this is because of cramp from your period, take Midol, it helps. Also put a heating pad on your stomach.
If it's not that, like I said before, go talk to your parents and see a doctor to make sure it's not dangerous.
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Alright so Im 14 and the guy I like (Sam) is 13, he is super nice, funny, cute, and amazing! We've talked alot over the summer and I think I might be falling for him, he even stops gamming when I msg him just to reply =) My ex's never did that... Anyways, I like him alot, I have no clue if he likes me.. How do I find that out. We only really talk over facebook... Most of our convos are really sarcastic and when we say goodbye we either say "bye cutie" or "bye friend". We practically wheel each other, but, we're running out of thingss to say and I dont want out convos to end because he can make my day just by saying "hey cutie;)" in the morning with a winky face. How can I tell if he likes me? I want to know so bad.. I just dont know if I'd date him becuase I broke up with my ex bf a month ago... Advice opinions? (link)
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It does sound like he's interested in you. Either that, or he's just a flirty guy.
I think you should start hinting that you like him. Start flirting with him a little more and see how he responds. You can also compliment him, not a whole lot but every once in awhile.
You could ask him what he thinks of you.
Or you could straight up tell him that you might be starting to like him.
Or ask him who he likes.
I'm sure that no matter what happens, you'll either end up together or good friends.
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Ok so 13/f and every year my mom, sister, and younger brother go to our cottage over 8 hours away. Our neighbours (cottage next to ours) go down at about the same time and I've become really good friends with both of them (girl my age, guy 2 years older) We go swimming in the water all the time together and its super fun. Im nervous to see the guy though because last year we sorta wheeled each other the whole time.. What should I do? (link)
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I wouldn't try to pursue a relationship with him. You could probably become really close with him though. Even if you like him, I'd just leave it as friends because he lives far away.
Don't be nervous about seeing him. Be excited and friendly. Just have fun and enjoy your time there!
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Me and guy A were best friends, we liked each other very much. But two years ago, guy B wrote a love letter to me, I was immature and curious so I started hanging out with him, we became very close and everyone thought we were dating. I never liked guy B. I didn't response to what people were saying, but I forgot to care about how guy A is feeling. Guy A started to ignore me, he believed that I was dating guy B. I thought he was just angry and didn't know until now that he was very jealous then. Last year, I moved to America to study there, I didn't contact them both until this summer when I came back for vacation. I invited some of my old friends for dinner, and they invited guy A. Guy A treated me like he didn't know me before, he must have thought that I wasn't the girl who he think I was. He must have been very disappointed. I really love guy A, I didn't stop loving him at all, but he didn't knew. I really regret what I did to him. It's been a year, so I know that he has already decided to move on. I am going back to America next week, and I want nothing more than a forgiveness. What should I do? Should I invite him out and tell him everything? Or should I just move on? (link)
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This situation is completely up to you. You can give him an apology if that will make you feel better and help you move on. Just explain everything to him and then let him go.
If you think you will still have feelings for him if you do that, then you should just completely let him go and move on.
Either way, in my opinion, is fine.
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Okay so I'm 13 and so is my boyfriend. We've talked about kissing and he acted like he would the next time he got the chance. He has had a couple of chances but hasn't taken them. I'm to nervous to make the first move because its my first kiss and this would be his third. How do I let him know without completely just telling him? (link)
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Maybe you should hint at it. I mean, you guys have already started talking about it so there isn't much worry of rejection.
I totally understand how you'd be nervous about making the first move so I'd just get really close and give small hints that you want to kiss him. Hopefully he'll notice and kiss you.
Also, don't rush it. The first kisses are great and you want it to come naturally. It's going to be fine and you'll enjoy it.
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me and this guy my bf want to have sex but want to stay virgins until married we are fifteen and sugesstions (link)
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If you can't be a virgin if you have sex.
Till you get married, you are going to want to have sex. But in my opinion, if you wait, it will be worth it. You should wait until you both are ready. Right now, you're still second guessing it because you do want to wait.
I mean, your virginity is one thing you can't get back.
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I am a female and 16 and
I have this best guy friend and we have no problem talking about anything and everything. If he says something that I might have found a bit offensive he always knows how to apologize and make up for it. We tell each other we love each other but it isn't actual love it's a "friendship love" you know when chick friends say "I love you" it's like the same thing (I think)
Every now and then he'll send me cute pictures with sayings on them. For example one picture he sent me was of a teddy bear holding a heart and it said "see this heart it's for you" but then he's also sent me these other pictures that said "we're not together but no else is allowed to date you ok" and following that picture he texted me "ok? :p" and I replied "lol ok sure but same goes for you" and he said "ok that's fair".
Another picture he sent me said "I want to tell you that I love you but I'm afraid of the silence that might follow" and after he sent te picture he said "this is very true"
Is he tryin to tell me something through pictures?
Oh yeah and something else you should know is that due to religious beliefs we don't date until we r at the age and mature enough to marry
And something else he's said to me is that I "owe" him a date so in 4 years from now that's going to happen.
I'm just so confused because he's the type to not tell someone he likes them and I don't want to ruin our friendship cuz it's amazing.
All I want to know is if he likes me without having to ask him
Does anyone think he might like me?
P.s I don't mind at all if he does because I've kind of always had a bit of feelings for him (link)
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In my opinion, he sounds like he likes you. Especially that he said that you owe him a date in 4 years and he doesn't want anyone else to date you.
So you have a pretty good guess that he does have feelings for you.
I say I love you to some of my guy friends so who knows what he means there but through the other things he's sent you, it'd be a good guess that it's a more than friends thing.
If you want to know for sure coming from him, maybe hint some stuff. Like flirt a little bit more or something. You could even ask him who he likes.
Or you could tell him that you might be starting to like him but if he doesn't feel the same way, that you still want to be close friends.
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This is a serious question. Please only answer if you can truly give input. I have alway been very religious. My family is Catholic and I was raised Catholic. I was baptized as a baby, had my first communion, did confirmation, etc. Somewhere along the lines, I strayed. I always believed in God and continued to love Jesus. But, I was living my life my way. When I started college, around my first and second year, I was working full time and going to school. With all this extra money, I did not invest into a savings account, move out, or even help out with bills. i did something absolutely terrible. All I would do was talk to psychics and get involved in spells and witchcraft. One of the worse parts about all of this is that my mother supported me. This isn't her fault and I am in no way saying it is. But, it just made things worse because she would help me find spell-casters and all this nonsense. She took me to this one guy that owned a feng-shui shop (i apologize for the spelling). He claimed he knew spells and magic and was psychic. He told me that he needed to put a spell one me and had to touch me down there. I thought he meant with my clothes on. He asked me to close my eyes and put his hands inside my pants. Then, he told me that for the spell to work, I needed to come to his store and masturbate in the back room. I felt so dirty. I knew right, then, and there, that all I had been doing with these people was WRONG and NOT with the Lord. I prayed so hard. I feel so guilty. This has been by far one of the worse sins I have ever committed. I feel so absolutely guilty about it. This was a couple of years ago. I am about to graduate college now and I have made a complete turn around in following my Christian faith. I read the Bible. I pray to God daily. I seek the Lord and understand that to follow Him, one must be disciplined in some way. We are only human, and to try to remotely resemble God, we must have some sort of discipline over our actions.
As a result of reading the Bible, I have a complete new view of life itself and of my faith. I would consider myself more of a Christian then necessarily being part of a denomination. I am seriously starting to question the Catholic Church. I don't understand why I have to confess my sins to a priest. I don't understand why only a priest could bless water, bless a person, or turn the host in the body of Christ. Is he a magician? He's a sinner, just like I am! Why does he get those special "powers?" The Bible says that you are to call no other man Father (except your biological father). They seem to treat the pope as if he's God, himself. The Bible explicitly says that Jesus is our only mediator to God, the Father. Why then, do we pray to Saints? It just all hit me. I have really considered converting to another Christian denomination, like maybe Episcopalian.
My cousin has chosen me to be the godmother of her daughter, who will be baptized soon (into the Catholic Church). I can't just tell her no. Catholics also believe that if you don't get married through their Church, you are not truly married, so you are living in sin by "acting" like a married couple. This is the only thing that really scares me about leaving the Church. Can anyone offer me some advice?
Last question. I know that this is a lot of information... but, masturbation feels REALLY wrong. Pleasuring myself does not make me feel very good about myself afterward, although I have never believed it to be a sin. I always thought that we were created as sexual beings, and this was just a way to release sexual tension. It's something natural, like going to the bathroom or eating. But, it feels absolutely wrong. The Bible does not mention it at all. So, it's very much a topic to pray upon and decide if it's wrong to you. But, it feels very wrong. It feels even more wrong then sex. Now, I do have another thing to ask about sex. When I met my boyfriend, we were close friends for a while. I was head over heels for him already :). I prayed SO hard that God would help our relationship grow because I loved him. And he did. My boyfriend is also a follower of Christ. But, like anybody else, we've let our physical desires get the best of us. I know that I want him to the person I look at as I'm walking down that aisle. I think the best way to head in that direction is delay sexual intercourse till marriage. I want to talk to him about not having sex without sounding creepy. I want to sound like a respectable lady, not creepy, you get me? Something along the lines of "I've always wanted to wait... maybe we should." I just need someone to word it properly for me.
So, to recap:
1) converting to a Christian denomination, but, becoming a godmother and getting married through the Catholic Church?
2) talking to my boyfriend about waiting till marriage to have sex?
Thanks! (link)
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Wow, I really feel for you.
I don't know a whole lot about Catholics. I dated a guy for a few months and we've talked about it but I've never been to a Catholic church or anything.
I'm a Christian as well, Baptist, and I think it's really good that you are praying and reading the Bible.
The whole thing about the priest, I've had a conversation with my boyfriend about that. In my own opinion, I don't see why you need to confess to a priest. What I believe is that you should pray to God. I pray to God like He's someone I can regularly talk to. There is no other reason to confess to other people because it's between you and God. I also like that you actually look into the Bible yourself. There are lots of people who just go to church and believe whatever they hear but don't read the Bible to see what it actually says.
I think you can still be a godmother. If you have any doubts about whether you should do it, just talk to your cousin and let her know how you've been feeling and if she is still ok with you being the godmother.
I know lots of Christians say masturbation is wrong. I think it's all in preferences. I can't see it as a sin either, if it feels wrong for you then you know it's not the thing for you.
It was never really hard to bring up the topic of waiting with my boyfriends. Just when you're hanging out with him, just tell him that you've been thinking about sex and all that and you wanted to let him know before your relationship takes the next step that you want to wait till you are married to have sex. I'm sure he'll be respectable of your decision.
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I feel like I am super affectionate with my boyfriend, Matthew. I am just SOOO glad to have him in my life, I love him so much, and I'm so proud of him that I can't really keep my hands off him. I'm always hugging him, kissing him on the face or top of the head, and staring at him. The problem is, I've always been afraid that I embarrass him or make him feel awkward when I do that when people are around. It's not like I have my hands all over him in front of our friends and family all the time, I just hug him a lot when were at restaurants and stuff. Then, a few weeks ago, he was almost killed when a huge, rolling truck almost crushed him (no one was hurt just so you know), so I was really hugging and kissing on him a lot in front of some people and running my hand through his hair. Also, a couple days ago, he passed out in front of a crowd at work and was taken to the hospital. He's fine now, but when I saw him afterwards, I did the same thing again, but was a little calmer. He was hugging me back after the truck thing, but not as much at the hospital. I just thought he didn't feel good, but could I embarrass him by doing that stuff. (link)
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I normally do that with my boyfriend. We're really comfortable with each other and we know what we're both cool with.
So when you get the chance, you should just straight up ask him. Ask him if he think you're too affectionate or you embarrass him by doing all that. He'll either say yes or no and then you'll know how you can act from now on.
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ok hi guys. im 13 and i have a 2 main bestfriends, i love them and appreiciate how helpful and kind they are because where i live, its really hard to find people like them. but my other 'bestfriend' is very popular!!! sometimes i get jealous but i dont let it get to me. anyways sometimes we argue , not alot but she always acts like she doesnt care, or gives an attitude or like i tell her sometimg funny she says " lol . " i hate that -_-!!! well but we are sorta really close friends but i dont know if i can call her my bestfriend. whenever i get angry at her i dont reply to her messages. but i cant help not talking to her because she understands well. but my parents dont let me hang out with her because they think shes a bad influence, but i dont think she is. we fought yesterday but we sorta talked today, i guess everything happens for a reason, do you think i should let her go? iv only known her for a year thought, thanks guys sorry for making it long ! bye (link)
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Well your parents probably have a good reason why they don't want you around her.
I've had a similar situation like this when I was 14. I had 2 girls who I considered my best friends. One of them, my dad told me to stop hanging out with her. I loved her so much and she was there for me so many times. I was upset and I didn't want to listen to them.
But I did listen to them, I didn't hang out with her anymore. I would still say hi and be friendly but I didn't hang out with her or consider her one of my good friends.
Now that I look back, I realized they were right. Even though she wasn't that bad of a girl, she wasn't the best influence on me. She caused a lot of drama and at 14, I didn't need that.
So I do think you should let her go, your parents see things from a different view. They're not super close to her like you are so they can see things you can't. You can still be nice to her and say hi and maybe talk every once in awhile but don't hang out with her anymore.
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