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I know this is weird but when I try to go deep on my boyfriend I gag and it really seems to turn him on! Now, is that because he is a freak lol or is this something guys are into?
Oh, and why do i gag when i deep throat my boyfriend anyway? I try not to but... (embarrassed)
I will rate you I promise! (link)
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We don't give out advice that any way borders on how to. That said, if you are gagging you clearly are doing it wrong and aren't meant to take the whole thing in like that.
I'm sure it would be a turnoff for him to see you gagging all the time when you shouldn't be. Besides, porn isn't at all realistic depiction of normal sexual interaction.
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Any ideas of where my school could donate . Its in Ontario, Canada. (link)
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Sick Kids is a major one for Canada and Ontario. They're always looking for donations. They're always on street corners in Toronto looking for people's donation and time. Sadly, most walk by the person canvassing for donations without listening to their story.
The World Wildlife Fund has offices in Toronto I believe and Canadian branches that will take donations readily. Every American charity such as Cancer Society, Alzheimers, Diabities, Red Cross etc. have branches in Canada. Donations to those branches help Canadians.
You could also look into Yellow Brick House, food banks, places for battered women and children and charities that send kids to camps who wouldn't ordinarily get to go. You could even take your money divide it in half and give to a charity and then give to the school to get things they don't have money for.
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i was anorexic. i then suffered from BED (binge eating disorder). the doctor explained to me that it was because my body was trying to "restore" all the nutrients it had lost. when i was anorexic, i lost about 30 pounds. Then, i gained about 15 back total, and i felt really good. that was my ideal weight, told by how my body felt, the doctors, and my bmi. i was put on birth control because i lost my period and with the birth control i gained 15 pounds more! right back where i started :(.... the issue is that I gained it purely because of the pills. I eat VERY healthy and exercise every day. the doctor explained to me that it was a shock to my body because it had such little hormones and this was like excess to it. but, now i'm trying to lose the 15 again.. because that is where I feel good. i'm not anorexic anymore, so i'm not gonna do anything crazy. but, i find it hard to stick to a "diet." I get emotional and scared. But, even though I eat healthy and exercise regularly, I can't lose weight because my body is already use to that. I need to stick to something that will "shock" my body into weight loss mode. Hey, i'd be happy with the first ten pounds lost. i just need to stick to it... that's all. any ideas on how to help me stick to it without getting those negative feelings? i know the only reasons i get them is because i'm scared of how bad i felt when i was sick... any advice is helpful. thank you. (link)
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Your doctor never came out and said lose 15 pounds or go ahead it's safe to. You mentioned that's where you would feel good but alas with your illness and past it may not be where he or she wants you to go.
ASK and then get help staying healthy and being at the right weight and eating well. What bothers me is that this may be the disease trying to convince you something like this is okay when it isn't. Only your doctor knows and how to keep you safe.
What troubles me the most is that you said you want to "shock" your body into losing weight. That's really odd wording and terminology for someone who is well or has had eating problems. I'm not saying you're ill and don't know it but that statement really comes off wrong and triggers an alarm.
I would see your doctor pronto tell him/her about the 15 pounds and the kind of thinking you're having such as "want to shock my body into losing weight" and see if that's normal as to me it seems like there's an issue to address here.
I'm not saying this to be hurtful but a lot of this looks like something's going on that you have to address as your thinking isn't that of someone healthy and managing the disease properly.
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M/18. I suffer from deep depression everyday of my life, nothing makes me happy and everyday I think about suicide. What should I do about this? (link)
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Know that this isn't your thinking or normal thinking for starters. I think you're able to see that as believe me a lot of sufferers have a hard time seeing that this isn't normal as it's totally engulfed them.
What you need to do is tell an adult you trust be it a teacher, counselor, coach, aunt, uncle or parent that you're having constant dark thoughts that are scaring you and that you're never happy and constantly thinking about ending your life.
The best thing you should do and it takes courage to do it is walk into any hospital emergency room and tell them exactly what you told us and that you need help especially when all you think about is ending your life.
What happens then is that a psychiatrist will see you. He/she will ask a bunch of questions about the feelings you are having and figure out what to diagnose you with and come up with a program of psychiatric counseling and prescription drugs.
Usually they send you away with a prescription and then see you weekly until you become more stable. However, in your case they'll likely have you on a 72 hour in hospital stay (required) because they will think you have reason to harm and or kill yourself otherwise.
They'll get you the help you need but you may have to be an in patient for awhile. I've been there. You're not well and the only way to get help is to do it medically.
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Hi there can anybody tell me more about Chloe Grace Moretz who plays Hit Girl in the movie Kick Ass?
Does she have a fan club, a MySpace or Facebook or anything where I can learn more about her? Oh and does she have a twitter?
This is the most awesome movie I have seen in a long time maybe ever and I think I am Hit Girl's biggest fan! :)
Thank you in advance to everybody who answers this and I promise I will rate each and everyone of you!
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http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1631269/ is her profile. Hit mini-biography for all the details on her.
Are you the one who just asked about Hit-Girl costumes? I'm just curious. I saw a stunt from the film involving a flattened taxi being shot in Toronto for it.
Unfortunately, the movie is tanking at the box-office only having made $8 Million so far when it was expected to make $40 Million in week one. It should make $20 Million by Sunday.
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Can anybody tell me where to get a Hit Girl costume?
If there isn't one that is already made can you help me make my own? Thank you very much for helping me to fulfill my new dream which is to go to graduation dressed as Hit Girl! Not to mention Halloween. (link)
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Private message me later. A family member actually made a homemade Kick-Ass costume of the lead male character on his own for himself to dress up in and go to the film's premiere.
He's an artist so he built his suit from scratch with the help of a book called Kick-Ass: Creating The Comic, Making the Movie. It has actual line drawings of patterns for the real suits and photos to go on that were big enough for him to come up with a pattern and sew it together. Maybe you can do the same.
He would know all the fabrics you need and how long it would take to do this yourself or have an artistically inclined friend do it for you. I will ask him for tips. I have yet to see actual Hit-Girl suits in stores or anything for Kick-Ass yet.
If you need it for June the best bet would be to get cracking yourself and get Kick-Ass: Creating The Comic, Making the Movie like my brother did as it will greatly help to make your own. I know once he made the pattern which was the hardest to do he made the suit in 2 weeks.
I can send you photos of what he did if you PM me if you're interested. Maybe I can ask him how he would make a Hit-Girl suit. Also check Google, Ebay and the Internet out for Kick-Ass Costumes or Kick-Ass Replica costumes along with the Hit-Girl name.
There's a lot of people who make Star Wars, comic book characters, anime etc replica costumes to go to conventions with other fans. Even if they don't do Hit-Girl or Kick-Ass characters they for sure could help with advice on how to make your own.
I'm not in any fashion connected to any designers doing this. My brother did it for fun not profit. Not promoting anything either. I just want to make sure you can make your own suit if you can't buy it.
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This is so embarrassing! When my boyfriend fingers me I really like it and everything, but I just kind of sit there stiff as a rock because I don't know what to do. He thinks I don't like it. :-( The problem is I guess I am afraid if I moan or something he will be grossed out. So what should I do if anything?
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Tell him you have always felt self-conscious about your body and this is the first person you have let see it or touch you in an intimate relationship.
Tell him you are nervous and find it difficult to "let-go" and react openly but are enjoying it.
You can encourage him while he's doing it by telling him what feels good and what doesn't or tell him he's doing well. He probably thinks he isn't and it's a pride thing with him. Set him straight about it. You'll be fine from here on out if you do.
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My friends were talking at lunch today and one of them said that her boyfriend got cum on her last night. What does that even mean? What is cum?
I hope I don't sound too stupid LOL! (link)
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Semen.
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hey, I saw someone ask for jobs for 15-year-olds, so I thought I would ask are there any 13-year-old jobs? I can't find any! Can anybody help? My family really needs money! (link)
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The easiest and perhaps best thing you can do at 13-years-old is babysitting. Create your own business and charge people to watch their kids on a frequent basis.
You'll need to take a course designed for teens that teaches you a lot of skills plus certifies you in CPR and lifesaving skills. That part's a breeze.
I don't know the law in the U.S. and it differs from each state but to my understanding you need to be at least 14 to get a work papers or a social security number. (CORRECT ME IF WRONG). In Canada it's that way and you can legally be hired nor work until 14 unless it recently changed.
It's great that you want to help you family financially but you also have to understand that your parents know how young you are and that the problem isn't at all influenced by you.
It will get worked out but don't put a ton of pressure on yourself to have to work. Do what you can but if you can't go to work yet don't feel you're letting anyone down or that you aren't pulling your weight.
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From what I know oral sex is- handjobs blowjobs fingering ect.
Please correct me if I'm wrong.
- I have tlked to my parents about sex and they tell me to wait till marriage when they say wait they mean " oral" to. Well I'm still figureing myself out and I'm not going to take place in sexual activity in till it's right for me weather that is before or after marriage I really don't know. My family and I strongly believe in god. However my older siblings have boyfriends and my parents don't want them in the same bed togeather. They disagree with why my parents say and it has an effect on the way I think about sex "and waiting ect." I don't believe that it
sisters have waited to have oral in fact I REALLy don't think they have. This confuses me cause my parents tell me one thing but my sisters do another. I just wanna no how you feel about this and what I should do it's really bothering and confusing me. I'm getting at a age were I wanna be prepared on how far I wanna go. (link)
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ADDITIONAL: RE: FEEDBACK. If you are "confused" or "conflicted" about this DON'T do it. That's a flashing neon sign that you aren't comfortable or ready for it. Trust instinct and what that voice keeps telling you.
ORIGINAL:
Your parents are providing you with the best guidance they can when it comes to sex. A lot of their concerns are valid--okay almost all. They're concerned that you are too young, boys will take advantage of you, bad reputation and getting hurt emotionally or otherwise. And yes you can get STD's from it.
They think you aren't mature enough to handle it. The only person who can decide whether or not to do this at this stage of your life is you. But what you should do is take their advice and read up on the topic.
The key things in making a sound decision is asking 1) Am I comfortable with the act itself? 2) Do I have the right partner and 3)Am I mature enough to deal with any repercussions and not to cave in to pressure?
When it comes to virginity this is a real grey area. Some people think it's the same as intercourse and some don't thinking losing virginity has to do with intercourse alone. It's about what you think and feel ultimately.
As far as God goes and religion NOTHING can take away your bond with God and your beliefs and that includes sexual activity. God isn't going to judge or strike you down and nothing about your devotion and adherence to what you believe has changed.
Mulling all of this over will help you know where you stand and how far you want to go. you can lay it out for your partner that this is where you draw the line and intercourse is absolutely out. If he tries to force anything else kick him where it hurts.
As far as your sisters go they took your parents advice and or didn't and made their own decisions and either rejected what they were told or took it under consideration. You can be smarter and well-prepared by reading and discussing the idea with your partner.
Sex is not a race and it's a personal decision whether you do this or not. Don't let any pressure come your way. Also, if close to your siblings perhaps discuss their choices and why they chose to do it now and take in consideration what they tell you. Take time to know about this act and that's how you avoid problems.
No parent likes the idea of their kids having any type of sex but this won't get you pregnant and on the whole is probably a lot safer than intercourse. Again, it's always down to your decision and feelings about it--not your parent's. They can guide you but ultimately it's all down to you. And yes, oral refers to mouth.
Although very common amongst teenagers it's not a universal thing by any stretch and you shouldn't feel any pressure to do it because of the perception that everyone you know does it.
You also have to ask yourself about whether you are ready for a partner to reciprocate as well as that's a large part of it.
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I'm 13 and i cut myself,drink, suffer from depression, and have suicidal thoughts. i need help but i don't want to speak to anyone because no one knows. and i want to stop without some one even knowing i had this. how do i do this?? (link)
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This isn't something you can solve all alone. It's neurological in nature and a disease (depression) with symptoms (cutting, suicidal thoughts etc.) It needs a psychiatrist who can provide monitoring, medication and get you well again.
You're very sick mentally right now and that's not being said to hurt you. I know from experience and seeing people with these types of disorders. The hardest part is telling someone but you have got to or it will get worse. It can't be fixed without professional help.
As a child you grew up knowing one thing above all was important. You knew never to keep icky secrets or anything affecting your well-being to yourself. That's why you need to release this.
Nobody will be angry at you at all and your parents LOVE you and will always help you and you can bet that's the truth here. Never feel ashamed as much of this problem isn't in your control or because of your doing.
If talking to them directly is hard write it out on paper and leave it on the breakfast table for them asking for them to take the next step in helping you. You can also do that with a teacher, principal, counselor, friend's parents, aunt's, uncles or whomever you think will listen.
AA has a program for teens with drinking problems and you could get support there but need to deal with the mental health issues first.
No psychiatrist would ever put you in ANY hospital ward EVER unless they felt you were A) delusional B) of harm to yourself or others or B) unable to function at all (temporarily) so don't fear seeing one.
The thing is there's no way to handle your problems without the help of others or other people knowing as the solution is harder than that and involves more.
What you should do is go to an emergency room (yes it's indeed an emergency) and tell them what's been going on (be brutally honest) and have their on call psychiatrist access you for depression and other disorders bipolar etc that may be triggering the thoughts and depressed feelings.
What they'll do is come up with a plan for how to treat your illness and likely put you on medication and send you home unless you're as I said not in full control. You haven't a thing to lose by telling people you have this problem but a whole lot to gain. Why continue suffering in silence?
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Other than crunches and running, do any of you have any tips or secrets that helped you lose a lot of weight around your waistline? Be specific - how long it took, how much you lost, etc. Thanks. (link)
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Eating a sensible lunch and dinner is key. Try to cut out all sweets or as much as possible. Drinking water and tea instead of pop helps.
If you walk for at least 90 minutes a day or around a track for 90 minutes a day it adds up. Also try meal replacement shakes and bars. It's all about being consistent and sticking to a game plan.
You should try swimming as that will help you shed pounds if you do it 2-3 times a week over the course of a few months. Biking is another option.
In my case I was 217 pounds and got down to 165 by all of these things plus 3 times a week kickboxing in 4 months. If you do something drastic like that the weight will come off if it's a lot of pounds rather than just a few.
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Hey i am a 19/f and for some reason i do get tired a lot. But i've noticed lately i get tired at the same time of the day. I take medicine for ADHD, focalin. And even when it wears out i get tired. But when i don't take it i still get tired the same time of the day like around 1 or 2 in the afternoon. What's wrong with me? I think it has to do with my diet, which consists of fast food, which i've cut down some what. But could there be other reasons possibly? thanks in advanced (link)
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The first thing I would do is phone your doctor about your medication. He/she can do a routine blood test to figure out if your dosage is too high.
It sounds as though it is if you feel like a zombie all the time and out on your feet. You shouldn't be this tired. That's not normal and a sign that your levels are way, way off.
Your diet likely isn't the main factor but certainly of concern. You have to find a way to eliminate the urge to eat all that food regularly. Your doctor can help with tips and a meal plan but the grunt work is yours alone.
Also, do you drink a lot of water each day? Medication like this requires that you drink a lot of water as it helps it to regulate and go through your system. Try that too and see if you feel a difference.
Get yourself to a doctor and have your focalin levels checked out. You're getting too much of that or something else that's been prescribed.
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My bestfriend asked me if she could go out wit my ex-boyfriend whom i had dated 4 about 10 months before we broke up. I wondered why she would take interest in someone she barely knew. Later i found out that she had been talking to him behind my back. So i told her we couldnt be friends anymore and i haven't talked 2 her 4 about a year and my ex-boyfriend, whom i still remained friends with after the breakup, is not apart of my circle of friends any longer. So my question is "Did I Do The Right Thing By Cutting Them Both Off?" (link)
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How can you be so sure that their "talking" was nothing more than that at the time? It's not like he cheated on you with her. Talking is not a crime unless they cheated.
It seems the issue is jealously and worry over someone taking someone from you. I think you have shot yourself in both feet. Once this guy stopped dating you he's on the market and fair game.
Knowing that you weren't interested in him she told you about pursuing things as that's where their friendship led them too. She didn't have to ask you what you thought or for permission.
You might not like them dating and nobody says you have to but you just lost your best-friend over something completely stupid. Perhaps your friendship was never on solid ground.
Like a dog with its tail behind its legs you need to approach her again and admit you were acting stupid and would like to fix things. If she won't have it than you've learned a lesson about jealousy the hard way as you had no right to act like you did. None. Once he's not your boyfriend he can date whomever he wants as can your friend if she likes him.
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hi ive been spitting up mucus for like 3 weeks but i dont have a cold or anything. and i haven't had one recently. i have been sneezing randomly all the time- could this be alergies possibly? if not what could it be?
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We're not doctors and nor do we suggest anything that could be misconstrued as a likely diagnosis. What you're telling us about doesn't seem normal. You shouldn't be spitting anything up and for that long untreated.
Why have you waited 3 weeks to act?
You need to see a doctor as soon as possible and find out what the score is. Nobody else is going to be able to help you otherwise. You shouldn't be spitting up anything for that long. It needs intervention and promptly.
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i broke up with my boyfriend of two years about five weeks ago. writing, especially songwriting was my life. we even did music together and recorded it and stuff. but i havent written anything since we brokeup. i really want to but it reminds me of him it just hurts, plus i dont know where to start its like my gift has been totally flushed away for good. even my notebooks of songs vanished. what can i do?? (link)
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Start over again! Write even better songs. Be driven to do so. Honey, you couldn't lose a gift like that if you tried.
It may seem like that temporarily but nobody and nothing can take away a natural ability God has given. Hang in there. You don't want to write just yet as the pain is fresh and writing reminds you of him. In the future it won't.
Give it a little time. It's not flushed away for good. Keep a notebook through this experience of thoughts and ideas. Soon when ready you'll be able to make it into music.
The best songs come from pain. Confront yours as I think the inability to do so and try to write about it is holding you back.
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Okay I am a female and i was recently thinking about getting a tattoo. I wanted to get a pelvic tattoo but I am scared of the streching after pregnancy. I want a tattoo in that general area but i want to be careful in what i get, I know that some tattoos will look worse than others if they do stretch so are there any idea on what i could get? If not is there any place around that area that i can get a tattoo without having to worry about streatchin after a pregnancy? (link)
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The best thing to do is go directly to a tattoo parlor and ask the artists there about tattoos in that area and if pregnancy will adversely affect them.
They will know based on what you tell them you want done whether it's a good choice for that area and the amount of pain, aftercare etc. Just call a shop even and see what they tell you over the phone. That's the best way to know.
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My little sister has just started having her periods and I wanted to make a list of tips to give her to help her out. I don't live with her and she lives in a house full of guys (Dad & two older brothers) so it's pretty embarrassing and frustrating for her. The neighbor's have been trying to help her but they don't really take very good care of themselves so I'm afraid she's going to get lost with all of this.
What are some really good tips to tell somebody who has just started to have periods? What do you wish somebody would have told you? What have you learned throughout the years that you didn't know at first (but wish you had known or are glad you found out)? (link)
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You should purchase her a copy of Lynda Madaras's book What's Happening To My Body: A Guide For Girls. There's also one for boys. I would get both.
They've been in print for decades and have all the information on everything she needs to know including menstruation and how to deal with it.
You should also look into http://www.scarleteen.com as it has scientific diagrams, articles, fact-sheets and other resources. It even has a message board staffed with professional sex-educators so you or others in her life can use what they have done to help talk to her better.
Finally, think in your head of all the things you never were taught that she needs to know and go from that. Definitely, a hard part is tampon correct usage, discharge etc. Also talk to her about feelings, masturbation etc that no male would ever discuss freely with her.
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17/f boyfriend is 17/m. i forget when, but my boyfriend and i had an intense make out session [with ALL of our clothes on] and i somehow ended up on top of him grinding or whatever you would call it but not like intense grinding where its like rough..you know? okay well anyways, im not on birth control because it can cause cancer so my mom wont put me on it, and he wasnt wearing a condom but he did cum. i was ontop of him where he cummed. there was a spot on his pants that was wet [i dont remember how wet or how big or if it got on me] but it was there. so i got off of him. and i have been freaking out that im pregnant because i have not gotten my period this month, and i usually get it at the end of the month, but now im not? and its almost the end of the month. i am seriously freaking out. i cannot be pregnant like this wouldnt be fair so i researched the topic alot and found basically the same information on each one that said..
Q: We had sex with our clothes on, could I be pregnant?
A: No. If you had sex in your jeans, shorts, underwear or bathing suit, there's no way you can be pregnant. Sperm can't swim through clothes and continue traveling into the vagina. Sperm can only swim in liquids--like semen and vaginal fluid.
but i didnt have sex. thats the thing. and i did have underwear AND jeans on and he had boxers and his jeans [plus our shirts and stuff]. im seriously bugging out. i am such a good girl, i hate myself, i dont know what came over me. and i talked to him about it and told him that if i am pregnant, i am getting an abortion and he doesnt believe in that. and i will be forced to break up with him and ill never be able to leave the house again. and please dont tell me to take a test. thank you. please help me. my back hurts from time to time, my boobs have hurt for like a weekish now and thats it. i dont have my regular period symptoms like feeling wetness in my vagina or a lot of discharge or cramps... and i am freaking out. i cry every day, its horrible. thank you for taking the time to read this. (link)
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Your systems are all in your head. You're freaking out for no reason. There's no scientific way possible for semen to travel through all those clothes into your vagina to make you pregnant. It can't happen ever. Are you a bad person?
Should you hate yourself? The answer: absolutely not! What you're doing is NATURAL and safe for that matter. If you enjoy it fine if not don't. Nothing bad is going to transpire because of it. I seriously shake my head at what they don't teach kids about in sex-ed programs.
I'm recommending you read scarleteen.com as it cuts through the myths and empowers teens. It's staffed by professional sex educators and the fact sheets & articles will make it so you never have to work yourself into a tizzy over incorrect information like this.
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Hi! I am in high school and am struggling a lot this year. I have always done so well in school but I don't know what has happened this year. We got a report from our teacher's last week and I am failing two classes, actually. I'm not sure what to do and I'm very ashamed of this. I know I'm going to have to tell my parents because I seriously need some help. How do I tell them in a way that they won't be so upset with me? I've lied to them for the past few weeks about how well school is going so this is going to be a shock that I'm not failing just one class but TWO. Like I said, this is the first time I've really had a hard time in school...
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Hire yourself a tutor and go to summer school. Tell your instructor this term and in summer school that you didn't know what to do when you got into trouble and felt ashamed to admit to him/her or anyone that you needed help.
Not much they can do now unless you tried your damndest, made attempts to understand the material but just can't. If you had a documented learning problem causing the failure then...
You lied to your parents and can't take that back. Let them know how hard the courses were for you and that you didn't know what to do and didn't want they to look down on you as usually you're an over-achiever.
All you need to do is get a tutor, study hard and re-take those two courses again and pass having learned what you need to do to succeed in them and always ask for help. It's dumb not to. There's no shame in failing anything you weren't good at but in not asking for help.
Tell them what happened as it's NOT that big a deal. They may be upset about it but will know it's something you can make up. It shouldn't affect your standing for any post-secondary either. I think the failure gets removed if you take the same course again and pass. A lot of bright kids fail courses for the same reason you did.
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