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My So Called Friends
My bestfriend asked me if she could go out wit my ex-boyfriend whom i had dated 4 about 10 months before we broke up. I wondered why she would take interest in someone she barely knew. Later i found out that she had been talking to him behind my back. So i told her we couldnt be friends anymore and i haven't talked 2 her 4 about a year and my ex-boyfriend, whom i still remained friends with after the breakup, is not apart of my circle of friends any longer. So my question is "Did I Do The Right Thing By Cutting Them Both Off?"
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How can you be so sure that their "talking" was nothing more than that at the time? It's not like he cheated on you with her. Talking is not a crime unless they cheated.
It seems the issue is jealously and worry over someone taking someone from you. I think you have shot yourself in both feet. Once this guy stopped dating you he's on the market and fair game.
Knowing that you weren't interested in him she told you about pursuing things as that's where their friendship led them too. She didn't have to ask you what you thought or for permission.
You might not like them dating and nobody says you have to but you just lost your best-friend over something completely stupid. Perhaps your friendship was never on solid ground.
Like a dog with its tail behind its legs you need to approach her again and admit you were acting stupid and would like to fix things. If she won't have it than you've learned a lesson about jealousy the hard way as you had no right to act like you did. None. Once he's not your boyfriend he can date whomever he wants as can your friend if she likes him.
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i mean, 10 months IS a long time. so you had a right to be mad, and you felt like she betrayed you.. which she did.
she was talking to him behind your back and then when the opportunity came to be in a relatonship with him, she THEN asked you if she could be his girlfriend .. like, thats low. if she wanted to keep the both of you in her life, she would have told you right off the bat that she was talking to him BEFORE she wanted more.
and its kind of an unspoken rule for your best friends to NOT go out with your exboyfriends of like, 10 months. its just not right and obviously, its going to be awkward and make you mad/upset.
so in my oppinion, yes, you did do the right thing by cutting them both off. never second guess yourself. you followed your heart and cut them off so you could feel better. but my opinion doesnt matter, the only thing that matters is if YOU think you did the right thing. but again, yes, i think you did the right thing. i believe that anyone in your situation would have done exactly what you did .. including me.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] xxo.
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