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OMG! i dont knoe why..but my teeth are yellow!! i brush 3 times a day..and i dont smoke!!..whats wrong?!

Are you sure they're really that yellow? Maybe its the natural yellow tint? If not..and they're pretty yellow..i would try flossing more it might help. Also, what i like to do is i put mouthwash on my toothbrush after gargling it..and i brush with that..it works for me..but it might not work for you, i dont know. The best answer is to ask your dentist when you go for your next checkup. He/she may suggest whitning strips.
I`m sure your teeth will be pearly white soon, good luck!

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shes really emotional all the time ive been her best friend since kindergarten i feel a total responsibility over her instead of friendship, she bugs me all the time and all my best friends really dont like she makes me so depressed that well ive done some bad things to myself im tired of being her second mom and anytime i try to do things with other friends without her she flips out i dont wanna lie to her and i dont wanna make it a big deal by completley ditching her, how do i nicely silently disapear form her life?

When she calls...dont answer if you have caller ID. Have your mom say your not home..etc. if you want to approach it that way. She may catch on. You could write her a letter telling her how you feel if you like to write and get your feelings out. I find this helpful. Tell her you dont find this friendship to be working out..and that you want space from her..etc. Dont let her ruin your life like this..its not fair to you. I know you want to do this nicely..ive been in your situation before and i was able to let my friend down nicely..but every once in awhile you need to verbally tell her off. (not cursing her out..just talking to her in a firm tone telling her how you feel and how things are going to be)

-best of luck...write to me if you want further advice or have more questions please

-melissa

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Okay so i have this friend and he is a year younger than me and is going to call me in about an hour and hes gunna ask me out and i dont wanna go out with him. any ideas that i could use to say no but to not hurt his feelings?
im 13 and hes 12

Maybe tell him you want to stay friends and if you go out it might make your friendship awkward later. You could also tell him that between school and everything else you dont want a bf...you could also be straight out honest with him and explain that you dont see him as a bf..you see him as a friend and that u wanna stay friends or something.
good luck!
-melissa

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my really good friend just called me and her cousin goes to my boyfriends sschool and she said her cousin said that MY BOYFRIEND HAS TWO OTHER GIRLFRIENDS........and that she seen him kissing on girls and stuff...... im so upset i dont know what to do..i was just on the phone with my boyfriend and he was like i love you so much and i was like i love you too and he was like no i love you more...hes so sweet i cant believe this....what do i do?? IM GOING TO CALL HIM UP BUT IM SO UPSET IM CRYING AND WHAT DO I SAY...=( oh my god...hes the only good thing in my life....this is aweful PLEASE HELP

This is horrible...definately get all the crying out..and when your ready..call him! Dont hang up until you get the answer..dont just start yelling at him because who knows..rumors can definately be nasty. Confront him..and if he confesses..THEN you can let out your anger. Hopefully its just one big misunderstanding...but if it isnt..DONT STAY WITH A GUY WHO CHEATS ON U! Please dont..i kno too many ppl who crawl back to creeps who`ve cheated on them

best of luck,

melissa

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My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him?

I havent been in your situation before, but this type of question has shown up on "Talk Sex" a talk show on tv hosted by Sue Johanson , who is excellent! Well anyway im going to tell you what Sue Johanson said:

1) dont do ANYTHING your not comfortable with ever. Especially when you`ve been going out for two years. Im sure you two have been together for a reason. By now if you say straigght out you dont want to do anything..he should respect that

2) Now im not saying that this will happen..im just talking about the possibilites. Your boyfriend says this is a one time deal...but..sometime down the road after you have the 3 some...what will come next? He`ll might cook up another idea and mention it every once in a while and you might want to give in again. He`ll remember that you did it eventually...so he might think you`ll give in a second time.

please dont do anything your not comfortable with. This is a serious deal and you shouldnt do it unless your completely comfortable with it.

best of luck..drop me a line if you want to talk again

-Melissa

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i really like the alex but the promblem is that my friend lori likes or loves him too. my other friend cat told us that she talked to alex and he told her that he would end up dating lori. i really really like him, he so sweet.and i know well think he likes me to. but i know that my friend and him are going to be the "thing" by next week or so. so should i forget about him and move on plzzz help!!!

Hey..just about all friends go through something like this. I wouldnt risk a friendship over it..its not a good idea. You wouldnt want to lose your frioend would you?Maybe have another friend whos friends with this guy mention that you like him...and if he decides to chose you then great...if not..then i would wait it out. After ur friend and this guy break up..wait awhile and ask ur friend if its ok that u go for him. Good luck!
-meliss

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When you are a new mom, but are used to having tons of friends back in the high school days which aren't so long ago, and all your friends have all been gone for a year since the baby, and you have no way of locating old friends, how do you find new ones? My life consists of like the grociery store, and Wal-Mart, will I ever have a life again? I'm so confused, I used to have SO MANY friends, guys and girls, and they've all just fallen into the black hole in the earth. Can other moms relate, and even though I love time with my child, I can't help but remember and long for those days of talking to people my age, besides family. How can I befriend other moms my age without looking weird?

hey im not a mom..but i hope i can help out anyway. Does your child go to daycare? If so just spaark a convo with a mother (a young one who looks abbout your age) and who knows..after awhile u might hang out with her or bring ur kids to the park and play..theres a suggestion. Or at work are there young people there? Maybe make friends with them. Im 15..so im experiencing these "golden years" right now..i hang out with friends all weekend. Now that ur a mom and an adult..i dont think it can ever be that way again but im sure you`ll make a friend with another mom and go out to lunch or a movie once in awhile...that whati hope for bc im very social now. Its a hard transition i bet...going from a big crowd of friends to nothing..but u can regain it back!
hopei helped

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I'm 14, almost 15, and I'm a girl. I really like this guy and I thought he liked me too. He hasn't asked me out yet, but I know at one point he liked me because he told me..."I like you a lot but I don't want to go out right now." I've been waiting on him for I think almost a month now, and he's gotten me alone twice, both times he was kind of hinting for a kiss, but I thought I might have imagined it so I decided not to...twice, I kinda just said goodbye or see ya later and walked away. Now I think he's hurt by me doing that, and he hasn't asked me out, but I want to know what to do...he's confusing me. And along with that it was my ex-boyfriend who kinda hooked us up. He's the kinda guy who grinds with all the girls at our homecoming...do you think he's waiting unitl after that? do you think i hurt him by being afraid to kiss him? does he even like me anymore? what should i do?

if hes that type of guy...then i would think hes looking foward to "grinding with all the girls at homecoming". He has to understnd he cant just kiss u right away...so he shouldnt be hurt about that. When ur ready for it..thats when he`ll get it. You kno this guy better than i do..so use ur judgement..you seem ike a smart person. I think he stilll likes u...bc not lking some 1 just bc they wouldnt kiss u is childish...so dont give up yet. What i think u should do ...is make al ist possibly. List the good stuff about this guy and the bad stuff...if u feel u cxan handle the bad things about this person (we all have something bad about us) and if u feel u really like this guys qualitites...then go for him!
Telll him how u want the relationship to go...take command...dont let this guy be the grinder at homecoming..and then ur sweetheart the next minute..(unless ur cool with that)
good luck! and sorry for the typos lol
-melissa

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I was going out with this boy for almost 2 years but for the last year he had been breaking up with me and coming back and breaking up and so on. so i finally said f it. So a few summers ago i met this boy he lives in Venezuela and we have been talking alot and he just came back for like a month but i was with my ex when he was here, But when my ex broke up with me i realized how much i really like him. and we talk everyday.. but he thinks i am only using him to get over my ex what can i do to prove to him that i really like him a lot.
Far Away (17 female)

hey..i think as time goes on and you two get closer he`ll know you really like him and ur not just using him. for now.. i would tell him what it is exactly u like about him..tell him hes ur new beginning and the past is left behind. Talk sweet to him...and it seems like its a long distance relationship so i guess making a romantic dinner for him is out...but simply talking to him...concentrating on him...and dont talk about ur ex a lot...its a natural feeling for him to feel this way..but he`ll get over it soon...because soon you and him will be as close as u and ur ex were.
good luck hope all goes well
melissa

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okay so heres the deal i want to get a hooker for my 14th bday bash. im havin all my friends over n sum girls by the way im a guy so this hooker i need one the problem is that i dont noe where to get one. i live in a very perfect kind of town ( i know i know scary) so its hard to find one. i dont know maybe they have an ad in the paper?if not where can i like rent a hooker for my bday party?

hey..you should come to my school because at my school you`ll have a huge selection to chose from! lol na jp...well if ur serious then hang out at a strip club and ask the girls who work there ..lol but i know ur not serious..thanks for making me laugh though

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Well, I had this boyfriend for 4 months, and then he broke up with me for another girl....but 3 days later, came back to me and we were together for another month...then he broke up with me for another girl...thing is though, with this girl on his mind or not, hes been doing things with me, still seeing me...then recently, I told him that i didnt want to do the "friends with benefitss" anymore, and told him the only way i would is if i knew it was real, and if he really liked me...i didnt wanna feel cheap anymore...i also told him i had strong feelings for him and still wanted to be with him...NOW, he hasnt called me in over a week, avoids me, hides in his car so he wont havr to talk to me long...like he just got what he wanted and now pushed me aside...i feel so hurt, and so used, and i still really like him...but my questions are to you is,
1. Do you think he still has feelings for me but i scared him away?
2. Does it seem like he ever ad feelings for me to begin with?
3. WHAT SHOULD I DOOOOOO
if u can answer this SHIT that goes on in my life, i will be forever grateful...
thank you, so much...:-*

First off..im extremely sorry that it took me so long to answer..i had a crazy week. Well..you know the guy better..if he tends to run away from things and cant express his feelings..then yes its a possibility that maybe hes scared. BUT i also think he could be avoiding you because he wants to move on from you..and like u said..got wat he wanted. Im sorry you feel used...i know the feeling but i think its possible.Yes i think he had feelings for you to begin with...dont think he didnt because i think he did..but feelings change unfortunately..and now i think hes interested in this girl. I would (for closure) definately talk to him and find out whats going on..tell him that if he wants to end it just to be straight foward with you..and not to hide or run away. Tell him you want to know and you dont wanna be left in the dark. You never know...he could be confused and needs to figure out which on of u he wants..but make sure u tell him "its either me or her" dont let him toy with you. If he choses the other girl..dont feel bad..he`ll do the same thing to this new girl eventually and i know you`ll find someone so much better. i hope i helped... :) good luck
-melissa

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Hey, i dont know wat to do my ex-bf broke upwith me and this kid i know that likes me and i like him just got outta jail my ex already got a new girl should i wait 4 them to break up or go 4 the one dat just got outta jail.
Jason-17 just got outta jail
Justin- 15 new girl
HELP ME NOW PLEASE WAT SHALL I DO!!!!!!

think about why this guy went to jail? Hes 17 and already did time in jail? Thats not too good...
maybe make a list if you want. Think if hes really worth it..or if you think he straightened himself out. If you really love this guy, you see a future, and you feel confident that he wont screw up again...then ok wait for him. Personally.....this is only my opninion..but i would stay away from him. I dont know this guy..andu do ...so you`ll know best though.
As for the new guy....think to yourself : "would this guy ever get into trouble like the last one? what does this guy have that my ex doesnt have...what kind of future do i see with him...etc."
I think a fresh start is good....but like i said before i dont know these guys so once you really ask yourself all those questions..you`ll know who you want. Go with your heart. Hope i helped u!
-melissa

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out for one month. We havnt kissed yet and we never have kissed anyone before. So we were wondering what if he had gum in his mouth and we were gonna kiss.. What does he do with the gum? throw it out or what?

hey...ok if its your first time kissing anyone...then i would leave the gum out for the first kiss. As you get more expereinced in kissing you can leave the gum in his mouth if thats something you two want to do. When he has gum in his mouth and he kisses you ...he can pass the gum from his to yours, the two of u can keep passing it back and forth as you makeout, but who knows...it might just get in the way. I personally have never tried it while kissing but hey it might be something u guys like . good luck ! :)
-melissa

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umm..i like a cppl of ppl..and they all sOrTa act like they like me..but idk..should i tell ne of them? .. tell me if u want to tell me about them if u answer it..thankzz ;-)

hey...i would think about what guy i like the best..or which guy seems to like me more. Then...get to know them..hang out..etc. and maybe have a friend hook u up!

- melissa

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this is going to be long...

I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this??

Hey, dont say anything to your parents. I would leave that to my brother. When hes ready to come out, he`ll tell them. If you tell your mom who knows what could happen ..she could tell your dad ..or she could confront your brother herself, and i dont think thats the way your brother would want it. He may choose to never tell his parents..its all up to him and i think you should respect that and let him decide when the time is right. You could talk to your brother about it and let him know your here for him...but its up to you. He may not take it well...i wouldnt know because i dont know him. If you guys are kinda close and you want to confront him, then you can..he might be feeling confused at this point in his life. If he has support from you that could make a big difference. I also wouldnt spread it around school..if your brother finds out he would get mad..plus if someone mean finds out..they can make your brothers life a living hell by teasing him.
Hope i helped out a lil
-melissa :)

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Every day i go to school and i see all these couples walking around together. I'm really jealous because i want to be one of those guys that other people look at walking with their g/fs. The only problem is that there is nobody at my school that i can see myself goin out with right now. What can i do? (I'm a freshman)

hey listen,...if you dont see urself going out with anyone in the school...wait until someone comes along that you like. Dont go out with someone for the hell of it...its not fair to the girl or to you. Your time will come....hell, even mine did and im ugly as hell lol.
good luck... :)
elissa

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My Dad and Mom were going to divorce....my Dad has this friend he met playing games on the net...all appropriate.....no sex chat...just real friendship. my dad was depressed...he needed a friend.....she was there for him..she never even knew what my dad looked like. He and mom had this arrangement.ahem.private lives thingy going on..he met this lady and///i guess they got closer. My dad loves his kids,,,,,tried even to show mom a knew way to relate to him...took her out, flowers...but it seems to me he has my mom and this woman, She lives far away and I do not think he has seeen his friend in a year,,,,,,,,,giving mom a chance to strengthen their luv. I believe it now appears...confusion exists in Dads head....I think mom and him should love each other as friends....and maybe his new "'friend"" is the one for him.....I think he loves his kids sooo much he is afraid to leave...very difficult situation. i do not want a divorce....but hey My Dad deserves to be loved..help me..Sugar plum

i really dont know what to say...its not like ur in control of their relationship. You cant control what they do...your parents are adults and they have to straighten this out for themselves. Try not to pick sides because both parents love you...although i know its hard not to pick sies..
just my opinion...i guess be supportive of them...
bst of luck.

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I believe my problem lies......well....my wife painted the house in ""glow paint"""....at night the house is neon.....bad for well affection.....what shall I do??

what a weird color! well..how is it bad for affection? have fun with the new color..it sets a different kinda tone in the bedroom. Dont let something dumb like paint mess up bedroom action....good luck
:)

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My problem is simple....I seem to yell and scream when I come home from school..i abuse my oldest brother......verbally.I do not mean to be this way.its crazy.I play three sports at school..am nice and stuff......and talk disresptful to my dad and mom???,,,,,,,,,whats up with this psycho behavior

hey...i have three younger brothers myself , and i know how it feels to get s0oo0o pissed off at them. Sometimes i have to work on not yelling and screaming at them so much, but its hard. Maybe your taking anger out oon your brothers because ur mad at omething / someone else. I know thats what i do sometimes. Try ur best just to control yourself and think before you scream. When you wanna scream at them...stop yourself and maybe go in your room for quiet time.Clean, watch tv, do hw , or something until your anger dies down and ur brothers stop annoying you. I play 3 sports tooo so i understand the pressure and all that....but still...verbally abusing ur brother..whos gona be there for u for the rest of ur life...isnt good. Im trying to not yell as much also...so we`re in the same boat. Hope i helped?
-melissa :)

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ok i like this guy Ben. And he is mine and my friends ex boyfriend. Well he tells my friend he likes me and thinks im hot. Sometimes he says he is going to ask me out that day. But of course he never does. I realli like him (again) but i dunno if i should make the first move cuz if he is realli not into me im gonna feel stupid. I he shy? Wut should I do?

Hey..he wouldnt tell his friends that hes gonna ask you out just for the hell of it..lol. He obviously has some feelings for you and I think hes afraid of rejection as well. Hes just shy...I know you dont want to make the first move , but why not? If you dont, he might not either because he doesnt want to feel stupid either. Its not like your asking some random guy who you hardly know if he likes you...ur askin a guy who is likely to like you back. You dont have to go up to him and say..." i like u ..do u like me"
- ask him on AIM if you have it
-get a friend to hook you up
-get one of his friends to talk to him and say..."u know..she told me she likes u..so go for it"
Hope i helped and good luck!
-melissa :)

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