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hey, my name is delaney. i'm 18 years old, a senior, and loving life. my interests include xc, skiing, tennis, sailing, and lax. i love to help other people, so go ahead, make my day and give me your problems... i'll do the best i can to help you out. peace.
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this is me:
http://i16.tinypic.com/29ejf9g.jpg

i want something different
as in;
hair styles, hair colors, new makeup, anything.
i just want something new.

13&f (link)
your hair is perfect! i definitley wouldn't do anything to it, the style is cute and the color is gorgeousss. for styles, half-up would look really good, as well as culring random sections with a curling iron. i would also use maybe a lenghting mascara, a deep plum/brown eyeshadow, and a dark lip TINT (not color). burts bees makes good lip tints! but yeah, overall i wouldn't worry about your appearence, you're really pretty! hope this helps!


So its like 3/4s thru the basketball season and my shoes SMELL TERRRRRIBLE.

I tried putting little air fresheners in them...ive tried stuffing them with newspaper(read it in a magazine) and NOTHING works.

Im afraid to put them thru the washer because before it screwed up my last pair.

Anyone have ANY way to make them smell better???

Thanks!!! (link)
try putting them in the freezer in a big ziploc or something. i know it sounds crazy, but it works since the cold temperatures kill the bacteria. i heard this from one of my coaches in middle school. you could also try scrubbing the inside with baking soda. hope this works!


okay. so i have a bunch of friends..well its more like a clique at my school that im in right? so 3 people in the clique are like reallllllly close to me and the others are my fRIENDS but we're not that close.

Well today i just found out that the clique of friends im in, hung out last friday and are having a MOVIE FRIDAY thing.

When i found out this had happened, i began to ask myself "Do they like me?" "Am i Mean" "What am i doing wrong?"..and this is really driving me crazy bc i feel reallllllly left out. and the times where i try to hang out with the 3 people im close to, they're busy with the rest of the people in the clique.

I cant like move on, bc we've all been friends for so long. you know? & besides the rest of the cliques are filled with wierd nerds hahaha(no offense)

what do i do?
omg please help me (link)
definitly confront them about it. if they're really your friends, they'll be nice about and you'll get invited to the next one. if they're not, stay friends with the 3 closer ones and find a different clique, or better yet, don't be in one. its stupid anyways.


is a chi really worth it? i straighten my hair basically everyday. how long do they last? is there any other straightener equally as good or almost for about $50-60 max? and please dont say ebay. (link)
if you straighten your hair every day, a chi is definitley worth it. with other cheap hair straighteners, long term use can really damage your hair, and it takes FOREVER to recover (grow back healthy) plus chis take less time. and they're less likely to break! so yeah i would definitley save up for one :)


What are your opinions on Gauchos (the pants) ? (link)
they were cute at one point, but now whenever i see them i just think that the person is trying too hard to be trendy. i think they're kind of over. but i don't know, if you're looking for comfort and you mix them with a cute tank top and a pretty necklace (long) and cute flipflops.. it could be alright. but i personally steer clear of them ;)


What are some cute clothing stores that sell clothes kinda like Forever 21 and Wetseal? Anything you say will help. Thanks a bunch! =) (link)
delia's, new york and company, express, urban outfitters, charlotte russe are kind of the same style as the store you mentioned. hope this helped!


wat trends are in style now? Also, how do you pull of the belt on the waist? I dont kno how to do it... (link)
i would say the classic 'preppy' is in right now. this DOES NOT mean a&f, hollister etc.!

in order to pull of this look you should have:
-colorful polos (ralph lauren, vineyard vines, lacoste)
-ribbon belts
-hair ribbons
-khaki pants
-peacoats
-grosgrain flipflops
-cute headbands
-things patterned with designs like whales, saiboats, pineapples, flipflops, cocktails, lobsters, etc)
-monogrammed jewelry
-argyle sweaters
-madras (plaid patchwork)shorts/skirts
-ballet flats in neutral colors
-northface/patagonia fleeces
-colorful scarves/mittens
-tote bags (llbean)
-any pearls
-any small diamonds
-colorful glass bead jewelry

basically, the style of jcrew, polo ralph lauren, vineyard vines, lily pulitzer, lacoste, etc. this look was big in the 80s and now is coming back.

hope i helped!


ok,well im going for a hair cut tomarrow at 2,and i know i want a cut with layers,and angles and trim the side bangs. like you know,the cut thats "in" right now. but i dont know how do say the layers part. not the really choppy,not to little. Just layers,but where to people usually have there layers start? the person thats cutting it has a tendency to be really safe. so im kinda scared. also my hair is a little under my chest,so you think i should cut it above my chest[so it lays just above it]? If you got this cut,what did you say? another thing,(totaly random but...) where can i get cute headbands that are cheap? thanks! (link)
side bangs usually end right below your eyes when brushed down straight, so they won't be in your eyes when pushed to the side. layers usually start around the chin area, if your cut is the one i'm thinking of. and i would keep your hair the length it is, just because i personally have a preference for long hair, but do what you want. as for headbands, there's delia's, claire's and macy's for cheap ones.. but i would reccomend spending a little extra money and buying some from jcrew... they're so cute, but around $18 each. hope this helped!


... and no matter how silly it might sound to you it's serious enough for me.

I'm 16, male.
I started being good friends with this 11 year old girl about august last year. Before that, we used to see each other maybe once in every few months and we were no more than acquaintances, but when I saw her for my birthday in august it was as though my whole point of view changed and I realized I wouldn't be able to wait to see her again.

Although there's five years of difference between us we do make a perfect (friendly) match as we both somehow stand out from the others and appreciate true values of life, if you know what I mean. (We ought to thank to our parents for that)! She acts according to her age and sometimes impresses me with her thoughts about the world. I'd say she's just about mature enough for her age. She likes to spend time with me just as much as I like to spend time with her, and she even made me know that a few weeks ago, but here's the problem: I don't get to see her often! In fact we see each other once in every few weeks which somehow just doesn't seem enough! It all depends on our parents and I'm not sure if I should push my mum into inviting them over every weekend as it might make her (my mum) think that I'm in love with her or something. But I SO wish to see her and I don't know how to do that!

Recently, I've been given an idea to invite her to the cinema or simply pick one whole day to spend with her. But how do I do that?! How do I make my parents know? Should I initiate the whole thing just because I'm "the male" or wait for her to grow and do something first? I hope just because she didn't get this idea first it doesn't mean she wouldn't be interested if I suggested it... ???

All in all, I really wanna spend more time with this girl but since it doesn't directly depend on me I'm not sure how it could be done without me embarrassing myself in front of my parents or anybody else. And does me being the male make any difference???

Sorry for the length and please help me if you can.
Thanks in advance!

Marko







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sorry but a SIXTEEN year old with an ELEVEN year old is NOT going to work. maybe in about 10 years, the age difference will be acceptable but for now this to me seems perverted.. i mean this girl is in ELEMENTARY school... you are 2 years away from college. if you want to be friends with her thats fine, i guess, but even that is pushing it. i can guarantee it will be looked down upon by everyone, unless your acting like a sort of older brother figure to her... i'm sorry to be so harsh, but it's for your own good that you know what you're getting yourself into. even if the girl likes you, she can't really comprehend the age difference.. its like a little girl having a crush on a celebrity or something.. cute, but totally unrealistic.


Im under the age to drink alcohol but I drink sometimes drink..I think my best friend and a guy friend are hanging out this weekend and I want to drink with themm but I dont know WHERE to do it. they want to do it in the woods *all our parents are going to be home/care. Any other ideas on where to drink that we wont get caught? (link)
yeah the ouside is good... you could put in like nalgenes or something too so it doesn't look that obvious. just have fun and be careful... its gonna suck if you pass out far away from the house lol.


what was the period in time when alcohol was illegal, like entirely. THIS IS NOT a homework question. we were just discussing it in class and i was just wondering if anyone knew when it was or anything about it. thank you. (link)
i believe there was an alcohol ban in effect sometime in the 1920's. it didn't really work out though because people still made their own alcohols and sold them for a greater profit so it was removed shortly after.


is it normal for your stomache to still be hurting the day after you drank alcohol? (link)
yeah, thats the unfortunate side effect. it can last up to three days (sucky) and there's basically nothing you can do except drink lots of water and sleep. hope you feel better :) also next time before you drink, make sure to eat something and drink a lot of water as you're drinking... this reduces hangovers. anddd lighter colored alcohols NOT mixed with sugary liquids (soda) will give you less of a hangover too.


so0 me and this kid went out.. and we relle liked each 0ther.. and u can say we l0ved each 0ther..and all his friends ( girls ) hatedd me s0 they made him break up with me.. first the girls yelled at him and pushed him into lockers and threatend to punch him in the face if he went out with me but he just stayed with me and tryed to ingore it.. but in a cuple days they continued to hurt him and shit so he br0ke up wit me cusz 0f them.. he still likes me alot but kant take them anymore.. ii relle like him and i dunno wat to do ! (link)
if he deserves you, he should be a good enough boyfriend to ditch all of his other "friends" and go out with you... if he can't do that for you, you deserve better sweetie! hope this helped!


I hadd horrrible acne at the beginging of this year from stress and this pill i was put on, and now i have none at all but a lot of scars from it.. is there any way or any things that people have found to work to help get rid of thiss? besides going to the dermotoligistt

thanks=] (link)
proactiv is probably the best proven prescription-free acne treatment out there. worth the money. just make sure that you aren't allergic to benezol-peroxide, like me!


I want to loose 15 lbs.

Any techniques?

i dont care what i have to do! (link)
drink tons of water, it'll fill you up... also eat small low-cal snacks thoughout the day, like carrots and dip, yogurt, etc. long, slow distance runs are also really good for burning calories... and NEVER skip meals, it slows down your metabolism tons! hope this helped!


what is a cervical shot?
because its manditory for my state.. and i do not want it. (link)
i would say its the new hpv shot, which prevents girls from getting the human papaloma virus (that commericial on tv, "tell someone" ... ring a bell) i'm pretty sure it goes into your upper arm and it hurts a little afterward, like a tetnus shot... but yeah it prevents certain types of a virus that can lead to cancer, so what would you rather have.. a life-threatening illness, or a shot? i think i know what i would go for.. lol


I want to do different hairstyles on my hair everyday like for school. So does anyone have any hair ideas on what to do with my long straight thick hair with layers and no bangs? Thanks. (link)
so far i can think of..

scrunched
french braids
low side ponytail
high ponytail
side part
curly (with curling iron)
half up.. this looks cute with a ribbon
messy bun
loose ponytail, but still high (kind like you make it look messy but its still cute)
french twist
low pigtails
down with a cute headband
twisted back in a clip
half up.. but with a bun instead of a half-ponytail

hope this helped!



15/f
ok i need help deciding what sport to play in the spring, sports are required at my school and i can't decide whether to play softball or lacrosse, I've never played either. I'm pretty fast, a good athlete. The softball team has really cool people on it, like my bestfriend and other people i like, plus the coach is really good, he wants me to play. LAcrosse seems more of a sport for me because it's a lot of running rather than strategy but i can't decide! also, lacrosse i don't like the people on the team as much, but i do have some friends on it, and there is one girl who plays who is such a self absorbed ball hog and that frustrates me.
I can't decide, I want to do something that would be fun, not boring, and a good sport for me. HELP PLEASE

I need some advice from people who have played either or both, thanks, i'll rate you 5 even if i don't agree with your advice, please i just need some insight (link)
i would try lacrosse this year and see if you like it, even if you don't like the people on the team now you never know how they would act in a different situation.. i alot of snobby girls really let themselves go and are a lot nicer when playing sports. you would probably also be on varsity since you already know you're fast... and that would look good for college apps. plus, if you don't like it, then you can always do softball next year. hope this helped!


i'm doing my science homework right now, and, as my subject says, it's about writing ionic formulas. i get it, but i got stuck in one of them. what element is cyanide? is it cesium? (link)
cyanide is am ionic compound of carbon and nitrogen, so the formula for it is CN (with a negative one charge). i know this because i take honors chem ;) hope i helped!


ok, so i'm 15/f and i have never gone out on a date, been asked out, kissed, asked to dance, anything. I'm pretty -sort of, not extremely outgoing, but not totally shy either, i can be a bitch sometimes but overall i'm nice, i'm kinda crazy acting though, anyways I think my problem is confidence, i think that the only way anyone would ever like me is if i were amazingly beautiful and skinny, is this true? i think it's hurting my self-esteem because everytime i like someone i think, well they can't possibly like me back because i'm not as pretty as so-and-so.
what should i do? (link)
first of all, i would say don't worry about the age thing, i know plenty of 15 year olds in the same situation as you, and there's nothing wrong with them... in order to get more guys interested in you; start conversations by asking them about homework or for a pencil or something... and that will probably progress on too friendship, same as girls.. only with boys friendship can lead to love.. obviouslyyy. and just act the same around your guy friends as you do around girls, don't be shy or too goody or anything, because then they'll think of you as two-faced when really you aren't. hope this helped




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