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Location: Brooklyn,New york
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Age: 17
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Ohkay so i have this friend hwo ive known ever since 4th grade. meaning 4years ive known her. And we've been the best of friends. She knows me the best and i know her the best. But she has these other two friends that they make there little group thing. And now she mostly hangs out with them. And or dicthes me sometimes for them. Shes those people who really doesnt care about anything, sometime or mostly can be selfish and spioled . But, shes my friend and i accept that. Theres alot of reasons that were friends. But yeah anyways , Ive called her everyday and she never, even once called me back. Nope. But she always has her phone with her . Im sick of it. She only picks it up for "j" which is one of her buddies in her little "group". She only makes time for J. UGH. yes i admit it i am jelous. And i think you would be too. Im the one who always have to ask her if she wants to hang out. I AM THE ONE WHO HAS TO DO EVERYTHING. But shes too dang selfish to understand that. I need help! What do i tell her!?
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You have to let her know it's bothering you that she only has time for some guy to talk to but not you,it really is selfish of her.She should make some time for you,that you have been holding this feeling of being left out all the time,you also tell her if she keeps on with her ways she is going to lose you,others because she is pushing you away,what you want is for your friendship with her to be saved it would mean a lot to you if she would change.
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So, I might have to move soon. I've living in my house my entire life and it's been in family since my grandmother got married. (She even left it to me in her will) There are so many memories and I'm not sure if I can handle all this pressure. I know, to you I sound rediculous, but my home is everything to me. We would still be living in the same state, but really really far from the city. The reason why we are moving is because the city we are living in is causing us a lot of problems. I mean it would be great to leave this city (I personaly hate it), but leaving this house behind is going to tear me in two. How am I supposed to deal with this situation? (link)
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I am going to move soon away from my home too because of problems I'm having so I also have memories in my home as well.I know it's such a painful thing to move away from a place you lived so many special moments that you will never forget you just have to tell yourself I have to leave it eventually one day I can't stay here forever you know,be able to adapt to another location for my own good,for my family ,I'm sure that you're grandma would understand that,that she would want you to be happy,see you grow into this great person,it's understandable that you feel this way,all these memories keep them in your heart,in your mind,spirit,don't be upset,you may one day look, back in the future,say it's good that I was able to be strong,to let go,accept to go somewhere safe,that I will always remember my loved ones,don't look at it as you're abandoning it but as starting a new,better life for you and your family.
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can you start to show signs of pregnancy 20 days after you have sex.. because i had unprotected sex with my ex and we recently broke up and the day after i had my period and it was 1 1/2 weeks early.. and lately ive been feeling really diffrent like i noticed one of my boobs looks diffrent from the other and ive been having to pee a lo.. ive been getting really bad headachs usually early in the morning and late at night and the other night i was looking on google for pregnancy symptoms and it said one of them was "having a feeling your pregnant" and i have that feeling but i cant buy a pregancy test.. i live in a real small town and i know people that work at our local pharmacy and they would tell my parents and im only 15..i really want to tell my ex that im scared and im affraid he will think that im just saying that to make him stay with me witch isnt true.. im just really scared.. should i tell him? what should i say? who should i tell? im not close to my mom at all..just help? (link)
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It's possible that signs can be shown.Don't let fear get in the way to let your ex know,sooner or later he has to know if you really are pregnant.Tell him that something has come up,you didn't do it on purpose,that it's very hard for you to tell him but, it could be possible that you may be pregnant,be ready for how he will react,who knows he may be supportive,try to help,tell him if he can do you the favor to get you a pregnancy test so you can find out,get over the doubt that is really bothering you,that you want things to turn out right,that you don't have any bad intentions,that if you are it's his,explain why but,you need to know if the results are positive,that you would like for him to support you on a very difficult situation like this,and it's urgent that you get his help,and that this has nothing to do with forcing him to stay with you.Best of luck!
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My face is beginning to break out and school starts Monday! My mom is getting me a dermatologist appointment but I doubt I can get it until after school starts that week. I really don't want to have acne on the first day at a new school. I just moved here so I don't know anyone and I wan't to have clear skin the first day.
Any tips? Will not wearing makeup for a few days help at all? Oh and my skin is reallllly sensitive if that helps any... (link)
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Yeah makeup could help if you know how to apply it well, or try clearasil because that helps great with acne,they guarantee clearer skin in just 2 or 3 days.
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i suck with guys
and im 15 female and i have a crush on this 17 year old. i never lead him on and i dont have his number or anything we just talk when i see him. and we hug and we talk alot. and i think im gunna see him again and i wass hookup (french kiss) with himm!!! what do i dooo!! and hes also quite popularrrrr!!!
hahah
but hes leaving next year!!!
what do i dooo (link)
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If you really like him go out with him but,be careful though,watch out for girls that want something with this guy you like,when you do let him know that you don't want lies,or guys that cheat so he's aware of it,also especially since he's leaving next year that at least you spend wonderful moments with him.But,if you think you won't be able to handle him leaving then you might as well then just be friends,go after another guy who will always be there for you.
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Okay.. I'm going to break up with my boyfriend of 1 year. He is probably going to cry etc. but i want to make at as painless as possible and just get it done and over with. How can i make it easy on the both of us? (link)
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Tell him in a place where there are no witnesses,you can offer him your friendship,tell him that you don't mean to hurt him but just be honest,not lead a relationship that you don't want to be in,you're really sorry,that you hope that he understands,and you wish him all the happiness in the world to him.
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how do i get people to want to talk to me? and be loved (as friends) and be interesting? ahh, any help! i'm desparate! thanks (link)
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Show them the good side of you,be generous,talk about a recnt movie you watched or show that was interesting or spread knowledge about stuff you know about it could be about cars,the army,animals,stuff you saw on the news or newspaper or crazy things you seen,important events in your life,after you do then ask them if they had similar things if not then ask them about stuff they experienced like hardships, embrassing moments or funny things,that how else can you learn from others then by hearing their problems, and that you like hearing about others,and be willing to help out.
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well okay a few weeks ago here on advicenators i asked if i should tell this guy that was in my driver's ed class that i like him but things got complicated. well he gave me his number & i told him that i called him & he said that he gave me the wrong number & he said sorry. HE ADMITTED IT! & then i told my friend & she went to go tell him to come talk to me & he was like i don't like her & that he already has a girlfriend and he said that infront of everyone. i was so upset i started crying. and my friends were trying to make me feel better but i just got even more upset. my friend had said that he told her that him & his girlfriend have been dating for like 3 years & i was suprised.. and when he weas walking back to his desk when we were at driver's ed class he told my friend that he felt bad but he didn't even apologized. he just walked past me & was looking at me. & that was my last day there & he knew it was because i told everyone that i was going on vacation & im home now from my vacation & driver's ed is over & i'll never get to see him thank god. but im still upset what should i do? i can't seem to get over him & why didn't he apologize to me if he felt bad? & how come he couldn't just tell me that he had a girlfriend instead giving me a fake number? can someone please help me? (link)
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Well this guy was obuviously not thinking clearly he thought that he didn't want to hurt you're feelings so instead he just thought that the easy way out of that sticky situation is to lie.Also he must of been terrfied of the thought of confronting you because of how you would react if he would of went,apologized but, he should of been a man enough to say he was sorry about it,not hurt you like that it's just so messed up he should have been honest with you,not lead you on.The way to get over it is to let it go,decide whether to forgive him or not,then move on with your life don't keep torturing yourself by thinking about it,when time passes by it won't hurt you no more,have any affect, that guy will pay for what he did soon the tables will turn on him,someone else will hurt him just as he did to you believe me there will be judgement day for him.
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Ok so next week august 28th I start highschool and I'm not going to lie I'M TERRIFIED I don't know what to do or how to act who to talk to what to say I don't know anything! And what's bad enough is that I have a lot of people at this highschool who I didn't get along with in middleschool and still don't get along with and the drama omg the drama I can't stand the whole "she said this about you" "she said that about you" I hate it! I want to learn how to stay away from alll the drama and all the people I don't get along with does anyone have any tips on how to make my first year in highschool a year where I don't have to worry about everything and everyone?? (link)
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I understand how you feel what you need to do is to associate with the right people,ignore bad comments,act like it doesn't affect you,eventually those who like to start trouble will go away because people like that want to see a reaction don't let them get to you.Sit away from people you don't get along with,don't make eye contact with them act as if they don't even exist so you stay away from all the drama.
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if i do twenty in the monring tenty in the afternoon/night
what would it do for my body?
seriously its the only excersize i'm starting to do.
also, what kind of excersizes can i do to lose weight? i want to weigh like 15 pounds less really badly.
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You can go jogging outside for 10_15 minutes then work up,go swimming for 40 minutes daily,eating the right nutrient vegetables,no sugar,pasta,a lot of H2O after you finish exercising,and throughout the day as well.
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this guy asked me togo see a movie and his like wayy older then me like aboout 3 years lets say and i dont if he means like a date or just to hnag out ??? cuz im 15 and his 18 so i dont he was all like so u wanna go to the movies and i dont if its date or not?? (link)
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Well does he like you?Do you see him flirting at you or any signs of it?If so it's a date.Or you could ask him straight up how if he see's you as a friend or something more than that.Another option would be is to have a friend ask him how he feels about you which would make it much easier.
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im 14/f my b.f and i broke up like a week ago and he got a g.f and i kinda got a b.f i dont no but w/e anyways im 14 as i said before and the guy that i might be going out wit is 17 so is that to old?? or like im tooo young ?? or is it ok ??? (link)
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As long as he makes you happy,is a good boyfriend that shouldn't matter so go after what is best for you so there is nothing to be too concerned about.
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I'm going to a new school. And the school I use to go to I went to my whole life. And the new school I don't know anyone there. I'm people have told me I'm shy. I know I'm shy,unless the people I'm hanging out with are friends,around my friends I'm like really LOUD. The promblem is that how do I make new friends at a new school. I'm going to be going into 9th grade,so I'm starting a new school at high school. Could anyone help me? Like give me tips on how to become not as shy and talk to people without being so shy about? If you understand what I'm asking,ha.
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What you need is to talk to others who sure aren't with company or that seem willing to want to talk which makes it easier,classmates even better so you don't get bored during classes.Like say hi my name is...what's your name,I am a freshman,what are you,then talk about what you think of the school so far and continue your conversation from there.
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okay, so i go to a private school and most the guys havent done anything more than just kissing. but ive done more and my friend likes to tell them stories about me. but i dont really mind cause honestly i like the attention. but does it make the guys not like me? is it better to keep it a secret? or do guys like to know that stuff? (link)
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Most guys I know like the fact to know very personnal stuff about girls they like or are interested in but there are some stuff you need to keep about yourself because it can cause a lot of gossip,others that envy people like to change things around,spread bad rumors about others to ruin their reputation so you decide whether you want to run that risk or not.Choose the correct decision wisely.
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for eight months. I was a freshman and he was a senior. My parents loved him until about a month ago, after he graduated. Now they are saying "he is an adult and you are still just a kid." How do I explain to my parents he is still the same person he was when he was still in high school? (link)
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Remind them of how they use to adore him,give them exact details of how he acts the same way towards you,that even years can pass by, still not have enough effect on changing the person you know their peronality,the way they view life,they will start to get that in their minds.
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I got my nails done about 5 weeks ago so they are looking uglyyy right now. my natural nail takes up half of the tip.
my questions are:
-should i trim them? then let the rest grow out?
-can i still get fill ins after they are already this grown out and get them shorter and have my nail the same length at the acrylic?
-should i just get them taken off?
thanks in advanced. (link)
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You should let the natural nail that takes up half of the tip grow.Also let the rest grow out. Or cut your nails shorter,have them the size as the acrylic so they can be even.If you're nails are getting more damaged then remove then,let them grow as long as you want them to be.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for a year. Recently we have been hanging out with this guy and I really like him a lot... i found out he likes me too. My boyfriend doesn't know that I have stayed up all night talking to him like hours and hours. I just really like him i can talk to him for forever we have a lot in common. I love my boyfriend and I dont want to hurt him or break up with him for this other guy but at the same time i want to. My bf hasnt been the best boyfriend but whatever. Like my bf tried to have sex with me or kiss me and i'm just completely turned off and i dont want to. Idk why what do you think? (link)
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Well this is hard because you love your boyfriend,the other guy you like him extremely a lot I'm afraid you're going to have to pick one of them because if you decide to be with both of them you'll land up losing both of them,you don't want that so ask yourself these questiions to help you make your decision for who you're going for:Who do I have stronger feelings for?Who has been there good,bad times?Who do I desire more?Who do I like to spend more time with?Think it out well.
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Ok, I love my boyfriend to death, but there's one thing that really drives me crazy. Every so often he gets on this big self-pity kick, whining about how hard his life is. How his dad is never home because of his job... how his mom can never do things for him because she has to work so hard to run the family... how his parents can't afford to buy him things... how school is so difficult for him and he has to try sooo hard... wah, wah, wah! Yes, I know his life isn't perfect, but whose is? And trust me, he's NOT that bad off.
I try to be really sweet and sympathetic when he gets like this, because I know he just wants sympathy. But then he brings me into it and tries to make me feel guilty. He'll say I can't possibly understand how he feels, because MY dad is always home; MY mom does everything for me; MY parents buy me whatever I want; MY grades are good because I'm so much smarter than him. And then he'll get mad at me for some random thing and we'll end up in a big fight.
I hate this! I really do love him, because besides this problem, he's really an awesome boyfriend. But this is so irritating and stressful. I know I can't change him... so how should I handle it when he gets like this? (link)
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You should let him know some things that aren't perfect in your life so he will see that you understand him,he'll be supportive with you as well.Try not to get into an arguement with him so then later on he starts to notice that you've been very patient with him,that he has not been nice with you about the whole family thing,and he will most likely change his ways with you.
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hello. I know that how i see myself and think of myself is never great. I want to feel better about myself, because i feel like whatever i have on the inside isnt ever good enough. Why do i think like this?? How can i feel more confidant about who i am? Or feel better about myself? You get what i mean right? i think i have low self esteem or low confidence.. and i dont want to look in the mirror anymore and feel this anymore. I want to be a better person. i know that im not ugly, i know that im a pretty girl.. but its whos underneath thats all broken i think and just lost. (link)
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There is always a point where a person feels that way they feel as if they need to improve something but,aren't sure as to what has to be better.Maybe you should do something nice for others to make you feel good in the inside just as the outside,ask others opinion of what they think you should work on,trust me it will help out with this issue.
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i think there's something wrong with my vagina. I see other girls in porn videos or on the computer, and their's is like, way prettier. when it comes down to foreplay with my boyfrined, i only want to please him because im too embarassed to get undressed....is it me, or is mine just not normal?? (link)
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It's totally normal to feel that way so it's alright to feel that way so it's just you,don't get yourself down I mean your guy should like you for what you are,I know you heard of that before,don't think that your private area is not normal you should think that you're better because that's a good thing.
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