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how i feel about myself
hello. I know that how i see myself and think of myself is never great. I want to feel better about myself, because i feel like whatever i have on the inside isnt ever good enough. Why do i think like this?? How can i feel more confidant about who i am? Or feel better about myself? You get what i mean right? i think i have low self esteem or low confidence.. and i dont want to look in the mirror anymore and feel this anymore. I want to be a better person. i know that im not ugly, i know that im a pretty girl.. but its whos underneath thats all broken i think and just lost.
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Hi,
Everyone has times when they don't feel good about themselves. It happens to everyone, you just need to know how to make yourself feel better.
You said that you don't like looking in the mirror because it makes you feel worse. Stop looking in the mirror, or at least don't look at it for a long time. Don't give yourself a reason to make yourself feel worse.
Something that works for me is doing things that are hard for me. For example, I am really shy, so I try to talk to people or participate in class more. This helps me to feel better. Also, doing random acts of kindness also helps. One of the things I did was taping $1.00 to a soda machine with a note to take it and a smile card. (Smile cards are cards that you use when you do an act of kindness and you want the person who receives it to pass on the kindness.) You can get your own smile cards here:
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The following site is like the smile card website, only it has cards to honor a loved one who passed away. You do random acts of kindness in their honor.
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Here is some more information that might help you be more confident:
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I hope this helps you, and if you have anymore questions don't hesitate to ask!
-Hannah
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It's hard to say because there can be many reasons for feeling like this. Some reasons include: 1. you have too high standards or too high expectations of yourself 2. You have negative or overly critical people around you and you are internalizing some of what they say. 3. You have a history of physical / mental / emotional abuse. 4. You are just going through a transitional phase and trying to find your place, where you shine.
There are other reasons, but these are some of the most common. Ask yourself if any of these fit you. As I'm sure you know, it usually easier to solve the problem if you know the CAUSE. But you can still help yourself even if you don't know the cause.
One way is to treat yourself as you would someone else. Sometimes we are harder on ourselves then we are on others. What would you tell a friend who wrote you the same post that you're writing here? My guess is that you would be easier on them then you are on yourself. So treat yourself as you do others. In other words, learn to be a friend to YOURSELF.
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There is always a point where a person feels that way they feel as if they need to improve something but,aren't sure as to what has to be better.Maybe you should do something nice for others to make you feel good in the inside just as the outside,ask others opinion of what they think you should work on,trust me it will help out with this issue.
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