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Ok I started this advice site to help out others. My friends say I give good advice but they could just be saying that to be nice lol. Tell me what you think by rating me (1-5, 1 l worst, 5 best). Good or bad, your rate will be appreciated!! Thank you!!
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Basically I'm 13 and i love to draw, swim, play volleyball and soccer, dance, sing, and hang out with friends. i love collecting purses haha, i have this huge purse collection in the back of my closet, most of them i never even use lol. i also like the shop and travel. i make madprofiles and i LOVE movies haha. i pretty much like anything non-academic related lol..god i'm so glad summer's started. anyways that's pretty much all about me!!
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ok what i ment was what is masterbate i know boys can but what is it?? i know thats totally stupid to ask but i dont know what is it
thanks =]!! (link)
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first off, it's masturbate lol. it means to stimulate someone sexually, you know like what prostitues do. girls can masturbate too anyway. no it's not stupid but you could have just searched it up online anyway if you really really wanted to know. yeah hoped i helped lol...
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ok.. there is this guy ( lets call him brad ) and we dated for about 3 weeks and then he ended it because he said we didnt see each other enough, even though he could have come see me so many times he just made other plans with his friends and blew me off. but he did say he wanted to go back out when he gets his car back and that he still really likes me. but now there is this other guy ( lets call him mark ) who has been my best friend for like the past year. at first there wasnt anything between us but we've been getting closer and closer and now i really like him. i still really like brad but i dont know if i should keep waiting on him or go for mark. because mark always comes to see me and is always there for me and would never do anything to hurt me. please tell me who i should go for!
*torn* (link)
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think this to yourself, who do you like more, brad or mark? if you have an actual answer, then you know what to do then? if you chose brad, when he gets his car back then you can go out again and still be friends with mark. if you chose mark, then you know what to do. either way somebody will get hurt but if they love you, they'd understand.
if you don't have an answer to that question, the answer which is probably "i like them both the same!!!" then you COULD wait for brad, go out with him, and if he's not trustworthy or whatever and you break up with him, then go out with mark. that doesn't seem fair to mark though, it makes it seem as if he's your boyfriend only for until you get another one. make a list of all the reasons why you'd want to go out with brad and/or mark. put a rating of stars by each one about how good each reason is. then count up the stars and you've decided!! i know that's sort of mean, but you cannot go out with them both at the same time (that's just wrong, don't EVER do that) or you could not date either of them (which you obviously don't want lol). in my opinion, i'd choose mark since he seems really nice, a good friend, and more trustworthy than brad but it's up to youu :) good luckK!
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okay so im ashley and im dating this guy named gabriel...and hes a really sweet guy and i knew from day one he was something special!! But lately the *spark* has gone and ive been talking to other guys..not really romantically you know just talking. And gabriel supposedly cheated on me with this girl he used to like a long time before we started going out. I talked to him about it and he denies it of course and i dont know it just really hurt me and i just dont talk to him anymore and hes always asking whats wrong and i just dont want to be with him anymore!! But i'm scared because hes always telling his freinds how great i am and stuff and that he loves me more than anythnig and im scared to break up with him!!! Please please help!!
* In love and confused *
13/ female (link)
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well you obviously still love him since you got so hurt when you heard about him cheating on you. you're upset with him and the *spark* probably went away because of that. before you break up with him, you have to be absolutely positively sure he was actually cheating on someone (if you break up with him for that reason, that is). he even said all that stuff about how he loved you, so i don't think you should break up with him just yet. you don't really have any real reason to break up with him anyway...unless you didn't tell me something. stay with him a while longer and if things start to crumble up later, then you can call it quits, but i wouldn't recommend you do it just yet. good luck!! :)
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I was going out with this guy for two months, not that long but i fell in love. The way he held me was just perfect like a movie perfect, and we both said how it just felt so right. Well he goes to a different school than me so we dont get to talk as much as we like so we broke up. And the thing is i still cant get over him and i love him so much i just want to be his!.. so this weekend he told me he loved me too.. and even though both our feelings are laid out on the table.. hes not asking me to be his gf or anything. should i keep waiting? should i tell him i want to be his girlfriend? and how would i do that without sounding desperate? ahh help me!? (link)
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you should keep on being friends with him and you could ask him this on the phone "hey..i know we broke up and all, but i'm just wondering if you'd like to go out again, like it's perfectly alright if you don't want to, but i'm just asking because i still love you and you love me too. if not, it's fine we can still be friends" or something like that. if he says no, don't get bummed out in front of him and start getting mad or crying, that will sound VERY desperate lol. wait a few days and then ask him on the phone or in person. i hope i helped!! :)
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Ok, can you help me? Every boy that I've liked get takin`! And worst of all.. By cheerleaders. Just because they are cheerleader they get takin`. I'm in Track, currently in a musical, I dance for my school, and I've been riding horses since I was 2 years old. I don't understand why people go out with them. Like some of them are just so boring! Like a lot of them are my friends, but I can't seem to find anyone for me.. one of my friends said that I should wait until highschool.. But I don't want to! I really want someone now. I went out with some that's like 6 foot tall. Well, I'm a "Shortie". I weigh 75 lbs. and 4'10". I'm in the 7th grade, and I'm 13. Anyway, Like 4 days ago I went out with this guy named Cameron. About 6 foot tall. I met him at our musical practice. He sings 2 solos in it. (He's bad!) We went out and I found out i was his first girlfriend. How pethatic!!(sp?) Anyhow, He sat with me the day I decided I wanted to break up with him (By the way, he's in 8th grade). My friend that told me to wait until highschool said when I got up for him to sit by me, when I told her not too. It had me mad. So he was just sitting over there while I was talking to her. And I told her I had to talk to her, and out of nowhere she says, "I feel like he's being completely ignored!" And I gave her a look - and mouthed the words I DON'T LIKE HIM! Anyway, it was time for us to go to our places, and I told her to tell him I break up with him after the bell rings. So he was sad, I guess. But one of my cheerleader friends goes, "I hate you! Don't ever talk to me again! You were his first girlfriend!" She didn't really mean it.. And like everyone came up to me and said, "Ohh you broke up with Cameron?"
Was it wrong of me to do that? I mean, I think it would have been meaner to keep going out with him if I really didn't like him..
What can I do to get guys to like me? I mean, I know guys that like me, but I don't like them back!
*wOnDeRiNg*
P.S. Sorry so long!! Hope you don't mind.. :-D (link)
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oh no, it wasn't wrong of you to do that AT ALL! if you didn't even like him, you shouldn't have had to go out with him just to please everyone else. but i think you should have probably waited a few more days before breaking up though...just because it is his first girlfriend after all (btw it's *pathetic* lol)and you must have meant a lot more to him. a few days actually does make a difference.
and you shouldn't have told your friend to tell him you broke up, you should have broken up with him yourself. mainly because usually when girls have friends to tell the news instead, it means that they want to have NOTHING to do with the guy anymore. they want it so much that they can't even tell them to news instead. i know it's hard to break up with the guy in person, but it would have been better.
sorry it's too late to do all that now. try still being friends with the guy so the rumors might go down a bit. and that cheerleader friend of yours, even though she didn't "mean" it, still sounds pretty bitchy for doing that. get a new friend.
well you could become a cheerleader to get guys to like you (since obviously at your school, guys dig cheerleaders). being a cheerleader isn't that bad, it's pretty fun. but you shouldn't give in to peer pressure, but i don't know, all the guys who you like don't seem to like youu... plus i'd like to point out that that's really such a stereotype. all the athletic hot guy jocks go out with the gorgeous cheerleaders, ugh i hate THAT! my school isn't like that but it must be awful having guys who only like cheerleaders. maybe you could try liking guys who aren't so shallow? sorry...that was mean of me :( ... well good luck in finding the purrfect guy :)!! i'm sure you'll find him !!
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okay this is my problem.... okay so i like this kid alot lets call him marky and **marky** use to be totally in love with me till her found out that i kinda liked **jordyn** and that i went out with other guys after i broke up with him... **marky** is like super mad @ me now but were still good friends soo i tryed to hook him and my bestfriend up **michelle** who has loved **marky** for like ever! and me and her use to fight over him.... well ne ways i relized how much i love **marky** but im such a flirt that i d k what to do... i dont no how to get his trust back again and he doesnt like **michelle** in that way but i dont wanna hurt her i have no clue what to do help me please!!
**__________** = changed names
~~always, confused babe~~ (link)
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to get *marky's* trust back, i think you should stop being such a big flirt. like you should still flirt, but not as much. big flirters sometimes turns guys off, especially one's who don't even trust you that much. but prove to him that you're an honest and trustworthy person by acting more like one too, not just around him but everywhere, so maybe he can hear about you? and don't hang out with jordyn when you're around marky, that definitely will not help lol.
about *michelle*, you shouldn't let her stop you from doing what you want to do. just try to gain marky's trust again, but try not to make it so obvious. make it a bit sneaky, a bit less obvious. make it too noticable and michelle could get mad. if you and marky end up going out again, michelle might be upset and all but she'll get over it sooner or later, if she's a true friend at least. good luckk!
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okay.. my boyfriend wants me to come over but my dad wont let me.. what should i do? (link)
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well why won't your dad let you? maybe you could compromise with your dad that if he lets you go over, you could do something for him. or just don't go, go over to his house some other time. call him and let him know you can't come over. maybe he could go over to your place instead, under your dad's "watchful" eye lol. but don't sneak out, if your dad finds out he definitely won't let you go over to his place again. hope i helped :)
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well me and this kid nick have become very good friends in the middle of the school year. and he was going out with this girl ( jessica)and i was going out with one of my guy friends( zach ) . well one friday me and my friend kt were walking around the street and ran into clay and tyler who were hanging out with nick . well me and katie hung out with them like the whole night. and i really didnt like zach anymore , i felt that we were better friends but i didnt tell anyone that. well i was kinda flirting with nick my friend katie said and i didnt even know it. well then on sunday my best friend christina slept over and i decide to break up with zach . and then i was helping her out with her home work and i asked if nick was online idk why then shes like why do you like him n im like no okay maybe okay yah . so then on monday morning when i was getting ready for school she told nick i like him . so the whole day he was like fooling around. so then he dumped jessica that monday. well then on tuesday he called to see if i was going to the talent show so we sat by eachother and at the end of it we kissed and we hugged but we werent going out the same thing happened on wensday after school then on thursday he asked me out then friday night me n all my friends hung out with some boys . me n nick were like by each other the whole night. well then that next morning his best friend (well my x boyfriend ) said nick sayed its over . so god i was kinda sad .but then nick tells me he cant go out with me cause he thinks mike still likes me and i dont like mike . me and mike went out and im done with him. then i was on the fone with him and we were talking and then miek n him talked afte i hung up and mike i/med n said okay nick has a reason not to go out with u . and im kinda getting aggervated cause mike wont stay out of my life .. then he goes back out with jessica then dumps hers ! well i dont know what to do cause i like him soo much and i love him as a friend and i dont wanna ruin the relationship that i have with him but i wanna be more cause god i can tell him anything hes always there for me and im always there for him . and he keeps telling people he kinda likes me and kinda likes jessica, and mike keeps getting into my whole life like everything like in the middle of my friends and the boys i like.and me and nick joke around all the time . but i dont know how he feels cause sometimes he lies ! well thank you for your time . but what should i do ?
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wow that was really long lol...well basically that mike is just getting in the way of your life and is just trying to start trouble. i think you should just try to ignore him and get it into nick's head that you do not like him AT ALL. tell mike to just mind his own business
you and nick seem to have some trust issues with each other, right? well after you persuade him that you don't like mike, that's over with you but he's telling people that he likes both you and jessica. you have to ask him straight up which one of you two he likes more and if he still wants to be with you. does he seem trustworthy and loyal enough not to cheat on you with jessica? it's normal to like 2 people at the same time, even if you already have a girlfriend, but why's he spilling it to everyone?
it seems as if he's not really THAT interested in you anymore. he really sounded like he was at the very beginning but after those trust issues, nick sort of just got a bit suspicious i guess. but just hold on to the relationship, try to avoid any fights, and just be like you've always been around him. try not to get TOO jealous or angry at jessica, guys hate it when their girlfriends do it (trust me, i've had experience lol). well i say that's what you do. good luck!!
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ok.. to put it plain and simple, i love my best friend. hes just so perfect. omg i just love him soooo much. but hes going out with my best friendhe always says im beautiful, any guy would deserve me more than him, he has nothing to offer, but nothingto me.. is everything from him. i just love him so mmuch and i dont know what to do ne more, he knows i love him.. and i cant help to think he has different feelings for me..
signed,
i love my best friend..=/ (link)
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every girl has that same feeling sometime in her life. but the good thing is that he's your best friend, so at least he likes you as a friend. he doesn't really have a long way to go to start liking you as more than a friend. but you can't change his feelings, he may like you, he may not like you. or he might have mixed feelings at the moment. just keep on acting like yourself and just act like his best friend, normally. best friend relationships usually end up becoming more so you do have a good chance of him actually liking you. don't try too hard to get him, if you're that determined and that greedy, you get what you want, but that's not the same for love. if you keep following a guy around and bug him all the time, that won't get him to love you. yeah its complicated, well good luckK!!
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I like this bot but he doesn't know that I like him so how do I let him know
~i don't know what to do~
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well just flirt with him and send him signals, like winking or smiling at him whenever you see him. it's really easy to make a guy know you like him but the hard thing is getting a guy to like you back. just flirt, don't follow him around and make it TOO obvious *it could scare him off* and just be yourself and nicee... good luck!!
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come boys masterbate? and if they can what is it?? (link)
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what? sorry you didn't make your question very clear to me...yeah boys can masterbate. wtf sorry i don't understand what you're asking. sorry :(
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well my boyfriend is in 8th garde and i am in 7th grade so i dont really see what goes on in his classroom.... I hear from my friends cody and ben that he flirts with brianna...but then i ask my boyfriend and he says he doesn't he tells her to f*** off....who should i believe?? what should i do...break up with him?? (link)
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that's hard, either your bf is lying or your friends are lying. ask a mutual 8th grader who is in your bf's classes if he flirts with brianna if you really want to know. don't break up with him YET. and flirting isn't THAT bad, but if he does start to get a bit serious with brianna, you should probably call it quits. but make sure he's actually doing something serious with her first, you don't want to break up with him for something he didn't even do. good luck!!
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Ok..There are these 2 guys. Lets call them Bob and..Bill. Well Bob was my first love!! I wanted to be with him the first day I met him. Bill..is his best friend. Well, I told Bob I wanted to be with him, he had a girlfriend, and told me Bill liked me alot. So I gave Bill a chance. Ugh, best friends..remember that! Anyway! Bob broke up with his girlfriend bc he said he realized what he gave up. So I dumped Bill as soon as he said that. Well Bob and I dated for about 6 months..we broke up. I called him and he slept with another gurl! OMG! I was heartbroken for 2 weeks..no food..no sleep, nuthing but crying! Well..Bill started talkin to me becuz him and his girl just broke up..so we started dating and we are currently dating..2 years 2 months. Well..Bob and his girlfriend just broke up and hes callin me..and I think I still have feelings for him!! What do I do!..HELP!
*Really Confused*
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you should stay with bill. bob is obviously only using you until he gets another girlfriend. bill has never done that to you, and you should totally stay with him. you've been dating for 2 years 2 months, do you really want to give it up just for this guy who'll dump you as soon as he goes out with another girl?? and you don't want to get heartbroken again by bob, look waht happened the last time? do you really want to go through that again? i don't think you should go out with bob until you actually break up with bill (not for bob reasons, but for your actual relationship reasons) if you still want to and actually still trust him. but i think you should stay with bill. good luck!!
ps. i like the names. very creative :)
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hey, ok well one of my friends has COMPLETELY changed, and i dont know what to do to help her. Shes jumpin from guy to guy and even was goin out wit like 3 at one time .. and there all like 1 or 2 years younger then her and in lower grades. I mean shes like disgrateing herself to them and becoming a whore, but i know shes not one! me and another one of my close friends tried talking to us but she went all insane-o and was like OMG YOU CALLED ME A WHORE!!!! when we totaly didnt we were just trying to tell her she was gonna get herself in mayjor trouble. Can you plz just help me find a way to talk to her? thanx a bunch gorgeous (link)
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i know this may not be what you want to hear, but i think your friend is changing for attention. the fact that she's dating 5th and 6th graders really proves that. and dating 3 guys (especially elementary school kids) is just wrongg... and it's obvious that she isn't going to change.
you can't really change her without talking to her (i can't think of any other ways sorry) but don't call her a whore this time. say "ok what is going on with you?? you've completely changed and we want the old you back, the one who doesn't date guys constantly and cheats. the one who doesn't go out with little boys. why are you doing this? is it for attention? well you've obviously gotten our attention, so can you please stop now?" and invite her to go shopping or something with you later. if that doesn't work, give it some time. a week later, if she still doesn't change, ask me for advice again...if she does it for too long, who knows what she'll do.
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okso theres this dance on friday and the boy i like is gonna be there (we dont go to the same school) and he likes me to and this girl Nicole my friend lives by him and stuff and he always talks bout me (good stuff) and i dont kno if i should like hang out with him or i dont know what i should were to look cute for him?? thanks__ Nicole (link)
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i say you should definitely go out with him. you both like each other and he says good stuff about you all the time. yeah you don't go to the same school, and that could be bad, but it could still work out! i think you should just try it out.
is the dance casual or formal? if it's casual, wear sexy jeans and a tank top, or just whatever, the outfits are limitless! if it's formal, wear a nice miniskirt or skirt with a nice top and jewelry. if it's black-tie formal, you should probably wear a dress. please don't wear those frizzy bright pink princess dresses, they really turn off guys. good luck!!
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ok i need to know what first base and second base and third base is because like everythime someone asks me how fare did u ever go with a boy i dont know what to say im mean i never did like sex with a boy bc im only 13. please help me!!! thanks__ Nicole (link)
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first base is like kissing and making out. second base is like touching.., third base is oral sex and home base is all the way. are you sure you're 13 and old enough to know this lol? ok well here you go
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im 13 years oldand i wiegh 180 pounds ...when i come home i eat and eat .. and like ill be like that day okay im gonna go on a diet tommorow but i never can do it... a kid told me im gonna die when i get lyposuction =( im s0o sad latly .. but im wicked popualr so most people wont make fun of me but my friends tell me im not fat at all but i think they are just saying that !! ={
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i'm not trying to be mean but 180 pounds for a 13 year old is overweight. you need to go on a diet (if you want to lose weight, that is). you have to be determined, you have to think to yourself "i NEED to go on a diet RIGHT NOW!!!!" and do it no matter what. but here's a way to go on a diet without feeling like you're starving yourself...
first day of diet: eat a little less of something. lets say for a snack you eat cheetos, gushers, and 2 scoops of ice cream. eat one scoop less of ice cream. then 2nd day, eat no ice cream. 3rd day, half a pack of gushers. 4th day, no gushers. 5th day, half a bag of cheetos. 6th day NO SNACK! you can live without a snack, you won't die or starve or become anorexic, don't worry just DO THAT!!
also if you NEED to have a snack, eat fruits instead. fruits are good for you and aren't fatty. plus i personally love fruits lol.
and don't be like "i need to go on a diet tomorrow" go on one TODAY as in RIGHT NOW. i tell myself that all the time and it does seriously work, you just have to be determined enough and want it soooooo badly you have to do it!! ok i hoped i helped and after you finally go on a diet, you won't be so depressed anymore really. also try exercising too, 15 pushups every morning and night. good luck!!
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here is the thing.. there is this guy ryan.. and i love him more then anything.. he is my life.. all i ever think about and want to think about.. last thing i think about before i close my eyes.. and first when i open them.. well he loves me too.. and he is supposed to ask me out soon.. but the problem is.. there is this girl jamie. and she really is a great friend of mine.. but in this case.. i dont care about going out with ex boyfriends.. she new i loved him wen she went out with him.. so they went out and he liked her alot.. but he said he likes me more.. she was the worst girlfrend ever.. she got mad at him cuz he forgot to give her a flipping hug! and because he accidently hit her in the elbow! well ther relationship was very x10 confusing! so they broke up.. but no one knows ryan likes me. because i am a year younger.. and when they went on a field trip.. her friend danielle told ryan that jamie wanted to get back together.. ryan hates her, not for trying to get back together, for what she did! totally hates her! but he wud like to be friends.. he told everyone ( but his closest frends ) that he liked jamie.. and was maybe going to ask her.. but then i talked to him on the phone and he said he was going to ask me.. so now im waiting for him to ask me.. i meen i love him.. i cant wait for him forever.. i want him.. and all of his heart.. i just want to know if he really loves me and if he is going to ask me.. if not.. ill get over him... it will be hard.. but why waste time!
- love always -
lost on the inside
*lauren* (link)
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wow ryan is sending very mixed signals. either he is going to ask jamie out, you out, or neither one of you. he's probably still not over his and jamie's breakup yet (even if jamie was pretty bitchy in their relationship)and still likes jamie, but yet likes you at the same time. if that is the case, he will most likely ask you out, since things with jamie didn't work out the last time anyway. he likes you and even said that he'd ask you out. so all you have to do is just be yourself, be nice, don't act desperate, and just hope for the best :) good luck!
ps. if he doesn't ask you...then i'm really sorry :( you'll get over it but of course it'll be hard! make sure to tell me how it goess!
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well theres this boy and he tells me he likes he alomost everytime we talk and i like him to but the last time i talked to him was last weekend and now hes like blowing me off and i dont know if he still likes me or not should i call him or just wait around for him to call me??
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maybe there's a reason why he's blowing you off. he might be really busy with something such as school or whatever and doesn't have time to call you. or he might be grounded for doing something bad. it's been a week yeah, but i think you should wait maybe until tuesday and if he doesn't call by then, you should call him. try not to sound too desperate. and i think he probably still likes you, his life has probably gone really hectic lately. try not to think about him too much since all it'll do is worry you. ok good luck!!
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I loved this kid since like 3rd grade and now im in 6th and i finaly told him and now when i go to the park and she him his friends wave and i no he likes me but say no every time i ask him out wiut should i do to make him go out with me please help me thanx!! (link)
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maybe he just wants to be single. yeah he likes you but that doesn't always mean he wants to date you. sometimes boys just want to be left alone, that's all. maybe he's still recovering from a recent breakup and doesn't want to see any girls at the moment. or he thinks he isn't quite ready yet to be a good boyfriend. there are a lot of reasons why he may not want to go out with you, even though he likes you...
you can't FORCE him to go out with you. he has to actually want to. but just try being yourself around him, don't stalk him and keep on asking him to go out, that'll just annoy the hell out of him and you totally don't want that. and just act like friends around him, flirt but don't go overboard, and that's all. sooner or later, he'll want to go out with you, when the time is right :)
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