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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive? (link)
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Someone would miss you if you were dead. If nothing else they'd miss ridiculing you. I had this guy that I hated kill himself. I miss him. I never wanted him dead. So this whole death kick you're on is stupid. You never know who it's going to effect.
That said, I went through this stuff in high school. You can't blame God for it. He didn't do it. You need to stand up for yourself. Scream in their faces if that's what it takes for them to listen to you about it. I had to do it to my mom and my friends more than once. Once I got the message across that I wasn't going to take it anymore (and make enough social situations uncomfortable to to put in a 13 year sitcom) they took me seriously.
The point is, you need to stand up for yourself. No one else is going to do it.
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I have 2 bumps on my vagina and I'm worried as what they could be. I'm not sexually active I just want to know how to get rid of them?! Please don't tell me to see a doctor that's out of the question.
What are these bumps on my vagina?
Thanks! (link)
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The thing is, honey, that we don't know what they are. They could be anything from parent to child herpes transfer that's been dormant since your birth (which you can't get rid of), or cysts (which could possibly be gotten rid of by a medical professional), or just ingrown hair (which you can treat as a zit, basically).
If this actually bugs you you'll see a doctor, but nobody on this site is going to be able to tell you what to do since we don't know what it is...
That's fact.
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i got my belly button pierced a couple of months ago and i didnt take care of it properly i guess so i took em out and now there are dark spots at where the piecring started and ended its sooo ugly and its been out of my belly for about a month now is there anything i can do or put on it to meak it my skin color again or somehow i can treat it...its soo hideous i hate looking at it (link)
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Get a bleaching kit (like for your hair) and apply it to the area. Don't leave it on if it hurts a lot though (more than likely it's going to be a bit burny in general though).
That will lighten it up. Repeat as necessary, but be carfeul you're not burning your skin OFF.
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I recently had sex with the guy I've been dating for a while, and I'm not a virgin and have had a few sexual partners. It was the first time we had sex though and it hurt terribly. I was cringing and tensing up and it was just a painful experience. He said I seemed really tight and I'm starting to think it's because I have not had sex in more than a year. What could be the problem? Could it be that I was not turned on enough to relax and enjoy it? (21/F) (link)
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There are a couple reasons this could happen.
If you go a while without sex your vagina WILL return to the non-stretched version of itself (unless you have had a kid...) so that could it.
Also there's the possiblity that he's just really terrible in bed/he doesn't angle correctly with your vagina/he's too big (or even not big enough can poke you badly and make it hurt).
Last option is you weren't lubed enough. Maybe he didn't turn you on enough, or maybe you just weren't producing enough... who knows...
Advice, try more lube and if it's still unpleasant do a different position... If it's still unpleasant... well that sucks... vibrators can keep you a little looser.
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When I hear thunder...where is it coming from? And where is lightning coming from? It can't just appear out of no where. I've noticed that right after it thunders, the rain gets a little heavier. Does the thunder have something to do with how much rain is let down? (link)
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The quick version of this, without getting into all the molecular stuff, is that thunder is the sound of lightning (light travels faster than sound) and lightning is what happens when molecules in clouds bump into each other... some molecules are positive, some are negative and electricity it what happens when they try to balance themselves (same thing with static electricity, actually)
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i got my tongue pierced saturday night & now it's wednesday. it's still kinda swollen and sore, but i've noticed when i drink orange juice it burns sooo bad! is it because my tongue is still healing and i guess the acid from the oranges is bothering it? the guy said stay away from spicy foods for a while, but he didn't say anything about juice. will this go away soon? (link)
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It's the citric acid in the orange juice getting to the still raw wound. It's the same stuff that makes lemons hurt too.
Avoid citrus until it heals up, along with spicy food and massive amounts of salt. You'll be fine in like another week and a half.
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Ok umm..
I like this guy(how original :P). We haven't talked much, but he knows I exist :P. We only say hi once in a while and little stuff like that. The problem is whenever I see him I feel totally tongue-tied and sort of stupid so I don't say much and I talk weirdly :P:P:P (or that's what it seems like to me - haha). There have been a few things here and there both from my side and from his that could maaaaaaaayyyybe be considered something like flirting but nothing very obvious or certain. I guess my question is how can I get myself to talk to him, then what can I talk about, and how could I show him that I like him? I'm 16 and I have never had a real relationship-only silly text message stuff in middle school...
I don't really know how one would "get into" a relationship..?
Anyway, so please give me any advice you have and thanks! (link)
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I have 2 answers for you.
The first is to go about this the adult way (how I would go about it now that I'm 20). Ask him to coffee/dinner/movie/whatever as a "hang out" sort of thing. Then you can flirt while hanging out and possibly turn it INTO a date. Which is very smooth if you can pull it off. With musicians you should talk about music... it doesn't even have to be music THEY like, just music. Whatever you listen to, talk about it and why you like it and ask them what they listen to. Ask for them to burn you a mix CD of some of their faves and offer to do the same for them.
Then there's the way I would have handled this as a 16 yr old... I would have done some recon and figured out what he listens to, where he likes to hang out and basically stalk him for a like a week. Then, based on what I had found out I would "accidently" run into him some where and act like I go there all the time, along with magically be listening to music he likes and whatnot. It would be a relationship based on stalking and lies, but it can work... Lol.
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18/f
Is there anyway that someone without a highschool education can get a job?? I've applied everywhere and its like no one wants to hire me..I understand not having an education or highschool diploma lowers my chances in working anywhere but I'm in need of a job I dropped out in 8th grade and I have no education what so ever ..and when applyingg what could I say to have them atleast look at my application? (link)
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Well... No place very good is going to hire you. Fast food places maybe, but where I work we won't even hire non-high school grads for the lowest position. That's just the nature of the market at this place. No place wants someone uneducated.
Advice? Get your GED. It doesn't take long and really it only tests to like an 8th grade education anyway. Then at least you have your Good Enough Degree and can get slightly better job.
More advice. Get some student loans after you get your GED and get an associate's degree in something, anything, at like a community college. It doesn't really matter what your degree is in so long as you have one and people think about giving you more money.
Seriously, a GED minimum is the only way you're going to be able to do anything except flip burgers and McD's for the rest of your life.
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My gf and i are thinking about having sex both our first time both 16 im really nervous ive got a small penis and my gf did reassure me that she ok with my size i may be worrying to much but i afraid i wont be any good or i wont satisfy her
can you still please a girl with a small penis? (link)
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You can please a girl with a small penis... sometimes... I mean... it depends on how her vagina sits and all sorts of biology things that I won't get into. For the most part, a small penis can work just fine (the US Nat'l Average is only 4" by the way) and actually I'd prefer a smaller one than a 10" 6" around thing that looks like it could kill my dog.
The first time is going to suck. Just so you know. It's going to hurt her, and you're not going to be good at it. That's just the nature of the first time. She's not going to know if you're good or not, so that will help, but you won't be and she's going to hurt and bleed...
First times suck.
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Okay hello, im melinda & i've been having boyfriend problems & i dont know what to do.! But when i found out that a guy i really* liked & we dated for 8 months , he cheated.... & i dont know excatly why. all my friends ever say is dont worry just get over him & i do but its just i still ,love him a little what should i do?
Sincerly
Out of her mind . (link)
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That's hard, and your friends aren't going to understand that you still love a cheater. I've been there, and I know that it's a crappy place to be.
Here's the thing: this isn't clean cut, black and white. It's pretty grey, actually. If this guy you love cheated on you, everyone is going to say drop him and move on, and that's a decent piece of advice if you feel that he'd do it again and isn't sorry. The thing is that sometimes they can turn around. Sometimes you can repair the relationship.
If you still love him, think about if he loves you back. If he does and you're willing to forgive, then you can try it.
If you think he's bat sh!t crazy and you're mad and hurt and think that he's going to do it again, focus on that fact and let him go.
Love is a tricky thing. You have to kinda of bend it to make it work, so long as you don't bend so much it breaks (or you do).
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I am a 17 year old girl about to start my senior yearvin high school. The past year has been a bit stressful and an emotional rollarcoaster and I have gained almost 20 pounds. I am 5'4" and not comfortable with my current weight of 158 lbs. My entire family has hasd some sort or weight problem for as long as I can remember and I guess they don't want me to turn out like them so they go around callingbme fat and talking to each other about my weight gain. I have always played a sport but this yeAr I have to focus on college and my future goals, so I plan on coach ing my school jv teAm.. But I won't be gettiguch excerise and I won't have time to go to the gym between AP courses, theater, work and hockey. I really want to lose work but I can't seem to get up and go because I am so tired. All that I am doing is the cut back version.
Help? I have tried to just work on my diet but I am just going in so many different directions it is hard enough to eat, let alone eat healthfully. I just don't knowbhowbto conquor this.
I would love to lose about 15 pounds before my senior pictures in 4 weeks and maybe 25 before school starts in 6 weeks. I don't think I will have a problem maintianing but just getting there is a challenge..
Any help?
Peace and love :)
~Kate (link)
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Things that will help...
Lose soda... as in drink nothing but water. It'll carry out all the waste and you'll drop weight even if that's all you're doing (maybe a lb or two, but it's a start).
Walk where you can. It's just a little change, but if you can walk there, do it. It's just a little more exercise and it shouldn't take that much time out of your busy schedule. I wish I worked close enough I could walk... or that I could walk to my college...
Don't eat after 7PM. Your metabolism slows around that time.
Try to grab as much veggie as possible instead of meat. If you're eating fast food, only eat half your meal. Save the rest and eat it later. The calories in fast food are killer.
If you can cut your calories back to about 1500 you'll lose weight consistently, and going back to your normal diet won't be that hard... Calorie tracking can be a little tedious, but if you just kinda carry a notebook and jot it down that's the fastest and easiest way. You won't even have to exercise.
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I need advice quick I am not to skinny but then I'm not fat either I just wanna get tonned up so what are exercises I can do to lose the little extra I have in my thighs and buns I want them to be tight and really firm? (link)
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Do squats for your buns and thighs... Sounds stupid but it works, man. Lunges work well for your buns as well... and running or walking or hiking is grand for your thighs.
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okay...umm... im not sure if i even started it but when i used the bathroom my under wear had brown on it this is the second day this happened is it normal? (link)
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That would be called spotting. It's normal.
You've started. It might get heavier it might not. Depends on your body.
Bleach or oxyclean will get that brown outta your undies.
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I'm 24 and female and I lost my virginity to a guy that I fancy the pants off! It wasn't at all what i expected and I was drunk and so was he and it was just...well, not that great.
I saw him last night and had to speak to him beacuse I just don't know how to feel about the whole thing and his words went a little something like this: "Well I had fun it was a laugh" and I was like "pardon and what now?"...He actually doesn't give a shit about me and I can't believe I waited that long to lose my virginity and it ended up being with an absolute CUNT! I've cried constantly for the whole entire day and I can't eat cos I feel sick. How long does it take to get over this? I hate him. He's ruined everything :(
Thanks
xxx (link)
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Drunk sex is never that great...
And to be completely honest a lot of sex you'll have in your life won't be that spectacular either. I've been having sex for... -quick math- about six years now and I can name 3 partners (out of a number above 30) that I actually, genuinely enjoyed myself with.
Anyway, getting you over your virginity loss... that's a hard one. I had other things to get over when I lost my virginity, but I know how ridiculously bad it feels to be you right about now. My advice to someone 4 years my elder is to call up your friends... ANY friends... girl friends, guy friends, gay friends, and go out on the town. I'm not saying get trashed (because that's really how we got here) but I'm saying go out and have a good time and forget that creep. I'm sure he's been having sex since he 12 or some bullsh!t story like that that he tells to his buddies.
Mourn your virginity not this creep. Not all sex will be this upsetting... in fact it can a hell of a lot of fun, but the first time is always crappy, and the first guy is always a jerk. That's just how it goes...
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Me and my gurlfriend had unprotected sex on friday, well durin 2 times durin intercourse i felt like somethin came out, as if i had came but i wasn't even ready to. Well yesterday my gurlfriend took th home pregnancy test and she turned out negative. Is the test effective since it was done 5 days after intercourse? Do u think that somethin really came out or was it just a feelin and if so can my gurlfriend get pregnant from it? (link)
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You won't know if you've gotten her pregnant until she misses a period... it takes about 2-4 weeks for you to be able to take a test and have an accurate reading.
And the coming without cumming feeling was probably precum... which can still get your girl pregnant, sadly.
Always use a condom... abortions cost a lot more than a box of condoms I assure you... so does child support... or legal fees depending how old you and she are.
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im 16 and my bf and are thinking about having sex
both our first time im nervous i hear it can hurt a lot a friend told me it doesnt hurt as much if the guy has a small penis is that true? my boyfiends penis is about average. (link)
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Couple things...
A. The National Average for penis length is like 4". If you're boyfriend is larger than this you can tell him with a smile... ^_^
B. It hurts. Unless ya'll find some new awesome position that won't break your hymen it's going to hurt, and there will be blood and ripping and it's just going to hurt... It took, I think 3 times of having sex before it DIDN'T hurt for about 2 days after, for me. Until the hymen is gone and healed over it's going to hurt... a lot, usually... unless you've managed to break it some other way, like vibrators or gymnast accidents (I've seen it happen!)
C. Think real carefully about this, because when you lose your virginity you're going to form a connection to this boy for a good many years, if not the rest of your life. That's just something psychological that tends to happen. If and when you two break up it's going to be harder because you lost your virginity to him...
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my boyfriend broke up with me because he feels like i don't trust him cause i don't know how to like express what i'm thinking i guess ...i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though and i told him that...what are some ways i can prove it to him? (link)
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Well...
In general... you can't. If he has already up and broken it off with you and it wasn't a long drawn out process that people tend to include when asking for advice about it, he's not really leaving you because of a trust issue. He's using the trust issue to cover up another reason he's leaving you... such as, but not limited to another girl, you're clingy, or even that he's gay. I'm not saying any of those are true, I'm just telling you what I've seen before.
Anyway, ways to prove to someone you trust them... That tends to vary from person to person. There's not really a correct formula to it, especially if he's boken it off with you... but if you find a chance to talk to him outright, you need to sit down with him and tell him that you trust him... Something like "i don't really know how to put what i'm thinking into words cause i only trust him and my dad so i don't really know how to open up =/ i do trust him so much though"
You've already said it the only way that you can say it. If he's not willing to listen to that, then you need to seriously consider if someone that doesn't listen to you is really someone you want to run after. If you do... well I know tons of ways to get people back...
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Hey im 18/f and ive decided that i need to lose some weight and get into shape. The only problem is that i have NO! motivation at all i say im going to do stuff but never do. Im not fat but i have some extra "chubby" on my thighs and i've been starting to notice on my stomach. I also drink a lot of pop. Im 5'6 and 145lb. I know i need to stop eating junk food and drink water and not pop. What are some things though that i should look for on a nutritional label? Im comletely new at this so any advice would really help! Also can anybody give me some things i could try to motive myself? Thanks a bunch! (link)
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So I'm 5'7" and currently 194... that sounds awful, I know, but really it's been an improvement since I started about 41 lbs heavier this year. I've really been trying to trim down (to about your weight, actually).
Anyways, some tips on the food... If you can, drop soda. Diet soda can actually make you gain weight because of all the sodium... and the fake sugar isn't good for you since it can make the body think it needs to try and hold on to any and all REAL sugar... there's biology there to explain it, but I doubt you wanna know the chemical formula for sugar (C12H22O11)...
Look for high fiber things, low fat, low sodium and low calories. Your caloric intake (including what you drink) shouldn't drop below about 1500 cals since you're only 18 (stays true until you're 21). Raw veggies are something you can eat a lot of and still lose weight eating... low cal content, along with rice cakes and things.
Your stoamch os roughly the size of your fist... you shouldn't REALLY eat more than that in one sitting.
If you split your meals from 3 to 6 throughout the day (half sized, meals of course) it keeps the metabolism up and you'll lose...
In general, though, you're at a normal weight for your height. If you're just worried about a little chub, then I suggest just hitting the gym. You'll get rid of fat and gain some muscle, which burns more fat. If you hit the gym you should realize that you'll gain muscle weight though. That's because if (o) is a lb of muscle ((((O)))) is a pound of fat. Fat takes up more room.
I recommend just hitting the gym... or running.
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14/f
I love listening to Metallica, Pink Floyd, Guns n Roses, Nirvana, and Smashing Pumpkins. Do you know any more bands that sound similar to them? Any suggestions would help thank you. (link)
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I listen to these guys too... and there are some bands I could name... especially for the Smashing Pumpkins. She Wants Revenge is one of my favorites, Elefant or Interpol... there are tons.
I have a better idea though. Pandora.com is internet radio, but what you do is put in bands you like the system pulls up bands that sound similar. So you put in Interpol and more than likely you'll end up with Smashing Pumpkins and She Wants Revenge. You put in Nirvana you'll get probably some Puddle of Mudd and grungy type music. Same thing with the others. It's really a neat device and it's faster than waiting for responses on here.
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hey i just wanna thankyou soo much for the advice
and you were seriously soo right.
me and him were tlaking today and he still didnt seem like himself and when he goes out, theres like no service anywhere in his town. and i dont know why
so he just texted me back acouple minutes ago and he was like sorry i was in the forest and was like i saw the girl i liked sorry baby
and im like oh thats coool and hes like sorry babe. she was cute
and im like yeah its coool.
so i just found about her now. and im guessing thats his hint to like stop liking him
and im sure since he likes this girl thing wont be the same anymore :/
so you were seriously right about it.
and its kinda weird i get more attatched to the guys ive never met then they guys i have hooked up with in my own state. idk why that is haha
i just dont know how to get over him.
can you tell me how? (link)
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Well... getting over guys is hard. I used to have a lot of LDRs (long distance relationships) when I was younger too, and I know what you mean about like the guys you've never met better than the ones you see. That happens for a few different reasons... you don't have to deal with them face to face, you can't see all their flaws because they're more like a dream than reality, and in general an LDR really blocks out the face to face "getting to know you" that really lets you decide if you do IN FACT like the guy. It's very similar with people you meet in a chatroom or something, or long distance family you only talk to on the phone.
Getting over any guy is hard, but because you never got the face to face filter he seems more perfect than if you'd see him in person (which makes the getting past him thing that much harder). The easiest, though not necessarily the most mentally healthy, thing to do is to find any guy that lives in your state and attach yourself to them like a leech. You focus all your feelings for LDR boy on him until you get over LDR guy. The issue with that is that when you do such a thing you either annoy the 2nd guy to death or end up with someone who's not going to let you go. Neither are really preferable, now are they?
The better thing to do is cut off all contact with LDR guy. Lose his number, don't respond to texts or calls or anything and focus on finding all the things you liked about LDR in a guy that's around. I know it seems like the guys in your state aren't good enough and they suck... and they do, I won't lie, but it'll probably be a number of years before you find one that truly doesn't. In the meantime go toy with some hearts and con some free dinners out of the saps.
It took me until I was 18 to find someone that didn't completely let me down... and more recently I left him because he still wasn't what I had wanted, really (that lasted 2 years). He was better but not right. Now I'm 20 and have my eyes set on someone else that is even closer to perfection. Don't know how that one will work out, but in the meantime there are tons of guys willing to buy me dinner and take me out... and of course I'm willing to take their money....
((JUST HAVE A GOOD TIME!!!! The right guy will come along soon enough and in the meantime you'll be having too much fun to worry about your out of state jerk. ^_^ Promise))
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