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the guyyy
hey i just wanna thankyou soo much for the advice
and you were seriously soo right.
me and him were tlaking today and he still didnt seem like himself and when he goes out, theres like no service anywhere in his town. and i dont know why
so he just texted me back acouple minutes ago and he was like sorry i was in the forest and was like i saw the girl i liked sorry baby
and im like oh thats coool and hes like sorry babe. she was cute
and im like yeah its coool.
so i just found about her now. and im guessing thats his hint to like stop liking him
and im sure since he likes this girl thing wont be the same anymore :/
so you were seriously right about it.
and its kinda weird i get more attatched to the guys ive never met then they guys i have hooked up with in my own state. idk why that is haha
i just dont know how to get over him.
can you tell me how?
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Well... getting over guys is hard. I used to have a lot of LDRs (long distance relationships) when I was younger too, and I know what you mean about like the guys you've never met better than the ones you see. That happens for a few different reasons... you don't have to deal with them face to face, you can't see all their flaws because they're more like a dream than reality, and in general an LDR really blocks out the face to face "getting to know you" that really lets you decide if you do IN FACT like the guy. It's very similar with people you meet in a chatroom or something, or long distance family you only talk to on the phone.
Getting over any guy is hard, but because you never got the face to face filter he seems more perfect than if you'd see him in person (which makes the getting past him thing that much harder). The easiest, though not necessarily the most mentally healthy, thing to do is to find any guy that lives in your state and attach yourself to them like a leech. You focus all your feelings for LDR boy on him until you get over LDR guy. The issue with that is that when you do such a thing you either annoy the 2nd guy to death or end up with someone who's not going to let you go. Neither are really preferable, now are they?
The better thing to do is cut off all contact with LDR guy. Lose his number, don't respond to texts or calls or anything and focus on finding all the things you liked about LDR in a guy that's around. I know it seems like the guys in your state aren't good enough and they suck... and they do, I won't lie, but it'll probably be a number of years before you find one that truly doesn't. In the meantime go toy with some hearts and con some free dinners out of the saps.
It took me until I was 18 to find someone that didn't completely let me down... and more recently I left him because he still wasn't what I had wanted, really (that lasted 2 years). He was better but not right. Now I'm 20 and have my eyes set on someone else that is even closer to perfection. Don't know how that one will work out, but in the meantime there are tons of guys willing to buy me dinner and take me out... and of course I'm willing to take their money....
((JUST HAVE A GOOD TIME!!!! The right guy will come along soon enough and in the meantime you'll be having too much fun to worry about your out of state jerk. ^_^ Promise))
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