What do you do when people tell you that you've changed, because i've been involved in alot and i've lost two of my really close friends because of that. What should I do? I don't even think I changed. I'm just being myself =]
xox !MaDiSoN! xox
Madison -
To tell you the honest truth you did change. Everybody changes; change is inevitable.
If you want to better understand why you lost their friendship, just ask them. Ask them to explain and clarify how you changed, and see if their responses are reasonable. If not, defend yourself. It could all be just a big misunderstanding.
If you value their friendship, talk to them.
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a lot of people keep coming up to me and asking me if i'm anorexic. i'm starting to thing i am now. people always tell me how skinny i am, but i think i'm fat. and i'm obsessive over what i eat, and i always weigh myself.
it's my stomach i don't like. when i stand up and squeeze my stomach there's like 2 inches of fat! is that normal?! =(.. i feel so fat. i want to try to have NO fat there. does anyone know any good exercises to get rid of that fat?
so i have 3 questions:
-do you think i might be anorexic?
-is all that fat normal? you can compare me to a normalish stomach or whatever, i don't care.
-what are some good exercises to get rid of that fat?
anonymous -
1. You're only anorexic if you continuously starve yourself depriving yourself of the nutrients your body needs. If you are eating very little (and I mean VERY little) everyday, then yes, you are anorexic.
If this applies, you need to eat to burn fat. When you starve yourself, it slows down your metabolism making it easier to gain weight. So gradually increase your intake of calories and exercise to get that metabolism back on track.
2. Yes that fat is normal. I weigh approximately 115 lbs and I pinch my tummy and I get the same amount of fat. It's completely normal, especially for us women to have a layer of fat in our abdominal area. That's why you don't see a lot of women out there with six packs.
3. To rid that fat you have to combine cardio with toning exercises. Cardio is any exercise to get your heart rate up like running, jogging, jumping jacks, tai bo, etc. After you do cardio, your heart is still at a good pace and your body continues to burn calories in cardio mode even after you stop. If you combine toning and weight training exercises immediately after your cardio, you will lose the fat. Do circut training like 15 mins of cardio, 15 mins of toning, then back to cardio, then back to toning.
It works, trust me. I've been doing it for about two months now and I definitely noticed a difference. I only go to the gym two days a week due to my busy schedule, eat regularly, and work out for two hour sessions mixing up cardio and weights. Already I've lost 6 pounds and my tummy is definitely gaining tone. Also for another metabolism boost, drink green tea. It tastes good too (with sugar or splenda)!
Good luck and hope this helps you!
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ok me and my bf broke up because he found that i was talking to another boy but that boy really dont mean nothing to me i love my bf so much. anyway he took me back but i no he dont trust me! what can i say to him to get him to belive me? plese help me im so sorry i didnt mean for none of this tohappen
shaiina
shaiina -
You really did nothing wrong so you don't have to feel bad for anything. My boyfriend gets the same way sometimes because he's afraid that if I talk to other guys there is a possibility that they will take me away from him. I'm guessing that your boyfriend is the same.
Just talk to him and reassure him that you want to be with him and nobody else. Clarify that just because you talk to other guys, doesn't mean that you're cheating or have feelings for him. Come to a compromise where you both can be happy, say if you're talking to another guy to tell him about it (but don't ask for permission, there's a difference).
Also if he's stubborn and still doesn't trust you, tell him that trust is one of the basic foundations of a good relationship, and if he can't trust you then there really isn't anything to build up on. Also by him being possessive, tell him that it's actually driving you away from him instead of keeping you closer. Both partners need space sometimes and need to live their own lives other than just the relationship. Make sure he gets that.
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I think there should be a requirement on this website saying "PEOPLE SHOULD BE FAMILIAR WITH A TOPIC BEFORE SUBMITTING THEIR PERSONAL OPINIONS". Frankly, I feel this is a helpful and useful site. But far to often, people are excercising their "freedom of speech" rights, and disguising their opinions as bonifide advice.
What set me off was a question asked by a friend of a gay male teen. A large majority of the answers were hateful diatribes delivered by self-righteous homophobes. From the advice you would of thought that her friend had leaprosy. Life is too short to HATE.
I had a good friend in high school that was the son of a youth pastor. The son, my friend, was gay. He chose to kill himself rather than live a life hating himself because he was gay. I did not know he was gay until after he died. I have so many woulda-coulda-shoulda's. Much of my advice on this website is given to those that are gay or know someone who is gay. To me, this is common sense. How can someone who is not gay, does not associate with anyone who is gay, has never associated with anyone who is gay, HOW CAN THEY give advice on a subject dealing with being GAY. I cannot give advice to someone about what it is like to give birth to a baby!! I cannot even attempt anything as such for I do not understand what mothers go through. Its silly. Now imagine if I was trained by others to believe that giving birth to a baby is disgusting and I hated mothers. This analogy is outlandish, but this is how I feel about the "advice" many people give.
Now throughout this "STATEMENT" I do have a question. What do you think? Help me to understand. Am I judging the judgemental, making me just as bad? Or do I have a point? This is the one time that I'd like to hear the opinions.
anonymous -
I agree with you for the most part, but to better understand a situation, you must listen to those opinions that differ most from yours. Although you may not accept their views and oppose it with a passion, you learn most from those most different from you.
Like the topic of gays, yes it is frustrating to hear heartless opinions from homophobes, but have you ever thought of why they felt that way? Have you thought of how it's like to be in their shoes? I'm not against gays whatsoever, but those who are feel that way for a reason. If they make asses of themselves for being arrogant and ignorant, then good for them. But who are we to criticize? People are who they are, and we'll be damned if we are able to change the way they think. The only thing we can do is respect their opinion and try to understand where their coming from.
Also, there are a lot of questions asked on advicenators regarding sexual favors by teeny-boppers which I highly disapprove of, but who am I to tell them what they can and cannot do? The way I see it, people find their own ways of realizing things whether it's from insecurity, regret, or otherwise. For those youngins, they'll most likely regret acting upon their raging hormones when they end up pregnant, contracting an std, and vice versa. For homophobes, they are just narrow-minded which is just a part of who they are. As for if they'll learn anything or broaden their views on gays, unfortunately it's not likely to happen because of their hardheadedness. All it is is a matter of misunderstanding.
Sorry if I babbled on, but to conclude my response, yes it's wrong for people to talk about things that they have little knowledge of, but in doing that they make asses of themselves anyways so there isn't any need for us to confront or judge them for what they think. It all evens out, ya know?
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Hey There!
I don't exactly pluck my eyebrows at all, but they aren't "bushy". Is there any tips to help me shape my eyebrows? Where do I pluck, and where do I not. I don't want my eyebrows to get too crazy, you know?
anonymous -
Usually the tweezing method is the best thing because it looks more natural. When you pluck you go along the shape of your eye. Remember not to overdo it and make it too thin though! And also, it's the in thing nowadays to have thicker (but well groomed) eyebrows. Take Brooke Shields for example.
Good luck!
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I waas wondering if anyone knew where there would be cheap and cute/hot clothes cheapp like shirt:25-30$ etc. thanks website is what i mostly need because we don't have any great stores here. thanks
anonymous -
www.forever21.com
www.alloy.com
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Is it safe to have sex in a hot tub? I heard that the water can get up in you and cause infections or something. Also, is there a greater chance the condom will slip?
anonymous -
It's dangerous to have sex in a hot tub. The water can enter your fallopian tubes and could cause something very life threatening.
"The concern would be if you are squirting water into your vagina. Hot tubs always have chemicals, such as chlorine, in the water. If this water enters the vagina under pressure, it could go up into the fallopian tubes, where it becomes lodged. The chemicals can be an irritant, and could cause irritation and potential scarring. This can lead to endometriosis. So, the bottom line is - no pressurized water going up the vagina, including intercourse underwater, since the penis acts as a 'pump' pushing water up into the interior."
-courtesy of Talk Sex With Sue Johansson website
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Do I have the right to be offended..this girl considers me her BEST FRIEND [we are good friends but not BEST BEST friends]. When we leave a class, she never waits for me, unless her little other friend is absent. When that girl isn't around, she waits for me and she talks to me. I mean, I have other friends I walk with, I just find this, weird.. and awkward you know. And at lunch, whatever I say, it's usually the opposite. I don't really care, but am I wrong to be a bit.. you know.. offended?
anonymous -
Yes you have the right to be offended and by the looks of this girl, she doesn't seem "real" to me. From the information you provided, it looks like this girl has you there for "backup" if you get my drift. If you'd like extra advice on how to deal, drop a note in my inbox.
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Hey, I might be going to meet Nicky Hilton tommorrow [if you don't believe me don't bother commenting because I will not rate you highly]. What should I wear? I was going to wear my THAT'S HOT tshirt with a Juicy sweatsuit set, but I thought it might be cheesy, considering Paris says that! Thanks ♥
anonymous -
Depending on where the setting will be, choose your outfit accordingly.
Like if it's in a casual setting, say, a mall, wear something casual like jeans, a trendy camisole, and top off with some casual stilletto heels.
If it's in more of a formal setting, wear something nice like pinstripe pants with a lacey draped top or a nice asymmetrical dress.
Whatever floats your boat!
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A friend of mine is having trouble finding a date to the prom. She has even asked most of her guy friends. All of them are either taken or dead-set against going. I suggested to her kidnapping and blackmail already so please do not inform me of those options. My question is, what should she do?
anonymous -
Has she considered going with a bunch of friends? That way it's fun and you can dance and mingle with a lot of guys without worrying about what your date would think!
If not, see if you have a guy cousin or friend who's willing to go as her date.
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okay, so there is this guy that won't leave me alone. i mean i wanna be friends with him, but he wants to be my girlfriend. I am really starting to hate him. i was talking to him in aim and he kept saying things like "i love you," or "okay, see ya girlfriend". i kept telling him to stop, but he WON'T! arrggggggggggggggg!
please help me b4 i kill him!
anonymous -
Kick him in the balls and say, "Hey, this is what a girlfriend does, right?"
But if you still want to be friends with him, I'm not sure how well that option would work!
Just tell him straight up you don't like him like that. If need be, be mean and rude about it. Sometimes that's the only way to get to people. If that doesn't work, try Plan A above...:)
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I feel bad about myself sometimes because I'm skinny yet I don't look all that great. I want to feel better about myself and also look better. How is it possible?
anonymous -
Here are a couple of tips that I hope will help:
-go out and buy some clothes that flatter your figure. this way you'll look great which will in turn make you feel great.
-i don't know if you're into makeup, but freshen up your face a little bit using little additions like subtle eyeshadows, brown mascara, and lip gloss.
-go out and get a new haircut that flatters your face shape. get something new and trendy and style it to your liking. page through magazines and find one you like and ask your hairstylist for their expert opinion.
I hope this will help!
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well i want to go and laser hair removal and i was wonderin how old do you have to be? i am 14 but my mom will be taken me. how much does it cost? i want to go and get and get hair removed under my chin. how often do have to go and get it done? plz and thank u!
anonymous -
Depending on how much hair you want removed will change how much it will cost. Since the costs vary, I would suggest you go get a consultation (rough estimate of how much it will cost) at a laser clinic near you. I don't think there is an age limit, but since you're a minor, you will need your parent's permission.
Hope I helped!
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I'm really into fashion and stuff but i don't know what stores have the hottest clothes!! Fill me in!!
anonymous -
Well the lines of fashion now really vary depending on the person's style. Like if you look at runway looks, the styles are pretty unusual.
I can't really tell you what kind of stores have the latest fashion cuz I don't know what style you're into, but I'm into classy looks so here are a couple of stores I'd recommend.
-Forever 21 (reasonable prices)
-Charlotte Russe (reasonable to pricey)
-Victoria's Secret (pricey and yes, they sell clothes too)
-Express (pricey)
-Guess (pricey)
-Armani Exchange (pricey)
-Any department store (they have a variety of different styles and the prices range from reasonable to pricey; some good stores are Nordstrom, Neiman Marcus, Dillards, JcPenney, etc.)
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Anyone know were/how I can make a *FREE* website on my own..Like I can have links to other pages like one link could be my pictures (but on the same site not linked to a site where they are) and another link could be ramblings..its not exactly a journal but idk exactly what it is either..can someone please help me! I love making sites taht have already been made for me,but I want to make my own! ** I rate high **
anonymous -
www.geocities.com
www.bravenet.com
www.virtue.nu
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ok im 13 female and i started cutting because family and friend problems and i stopped 4 like 2 weeks and then i got so mad and deprest i cut again and now i want to really bad but i promised myself i wouldnt do it again because im scared someones going to find out about it and send me to a mental home or something beause of it and i have thought about killing myself one or twice but i havent gone threw with it yet but i trie to hide it from my mom and my teachers so i dont wear shorts or anything and i wear a jacket most the time so that no one see the scares but i really need help and i was going to tell someone about it but im to scared so can anyone give me advise because i could really use some right now??? please help
anonymous -
First, as hard as it is, try to resist. One eye opener for me is the same as yours, the fear of someone finding out. I hated having to wear long sleeved shirts a lot and worrying about covering myself.
If you don't want anyone to find out, DON'T DO IT.
As for being depressed, what do you have to be depressed for? Look at it this way, you have a roof over your head compared to the homeless, you actually have parents compared to orphans who don't, you have clothes on your back compared to those who cannot afford new clothes, you're healthy and breathing compared to others your age who are dying. You're very fortunate hun, why are you throwing all of it away on cutting? Realize how good you got it, a lot of people (and I'm not talking about third world countries but teens in the U.S) have it worse off than you.
Although you complain of so much in your life, some teens would be grateful to have what you have.
Hope it makes you think about things, it sure worked for me.
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Is it okay to fall for someone if they complement you and make you feel amazing when ever your feeling down and make you laugh all the time?
What if they were 6 years older than you?
Please help...
anonymous -
It's not wrong to fall for them at all. Dating might be a different story. Not because he's older, but there are some other aspects you need to take into consideration.
Keep in mind his personality, his flaws, his relationship past, etc. If it's a little shady, I suggest you find someone else cuz he could possibly be playing you for a fool. But if he is nice, his girlfriend history checks out and is pretty reasonable, go for it.
Also remember that if he's over 18 and your an underage minor (17 and below), if he has sex with you, it would be considered illegal.
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when you shave down there, what are the pros and cons..and what are ingrown hairs?
anonymous -
Pros:
-area is easier to clean
-looks cleaner
Cons:
-more susceptible for possible infection
-razor burn
-rash
-itching
-ingrown hairs
The cons outnumber the pros because the sole purpose of your pubic hairs is to keep foreign objects and bacteria out of the vaginal area. Translation: pubic hairs are there to keep you "sanitary".
Ingrown hairs are hairs that stay and grow underneath the skin and never really reach the surface so you can shave it. You end up with black bumps (which is the hair follicle unable to break the skin surface).
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 10 months and his mom found notes about us having sex and both of us are really christain and love eachother so much.. otherwise we wouldnt had done that ... and his mom n dad freaked and he was away and i was here and then i went away and i didnt see him for 10 days... he picked me up frome the airport and everything seemed ok that night.. then that morning he seemed weird... and now i feel like hes avoiding me and doesnt love me anymore... he never calls me or acts like he cares... we have almost been togather for a year and i cant imagine my life without him. hes my bestfriend and boyfriend.. and i couldnt lose both.. but now both of his parents think im a slut and dont like me. i think they are getting to him. i was soposed to hang out with him tmmr and have a talk with his parents so that they will let him come over again... but then he said he couldnt because he had a birthday party to go to. im torn. i love him so much. i dont know what to do about him. or what to do if his parents are mean to me... i know i should stand up for myself. but im scared and dont know what to do.
anonymous -
He could be possibly be acting strange because he's being cautious around you for the fear of his parents finding out something else about the relationship to badger him about. Just reassure him that you love him, and although he respects his parents, that doesn't mean he should shut you out of his life.
Bottom line is his parents do not understand your relationship. They can't understand why you had sex so early on (my honest opinion, I don't think it's that bad), and they're just keeping a keen eye on you.
What is good to do is to have you and your boyfriend sit down and talk with his parents about the whole ordeal. This clarifies your situation, and helps them better understand the bond that you two share. Although it'll be pretty hard to approach his parents cuz you know that they don't like you, but it's almost guaranteed that they will gradually begin to think higher of you if you approach them. Why because it shows that you respect them and you are able to express the love you have for their son.
During this discussion you can also ask them how they feel about you and then begin to defend yourself. Remember to not let anyone (including yourself) jump to conclusions or point fingers let alone insult. Make it clear why you did what you did, and why you two are in love. This shows respect that you take their views into consideration and it justifies your morals in having sex out of love, not lust.
If you get scared, remember that your boyfriend is right next to you to offer comfort and to come in for your defense.
Just help them to better understand the situation, and in due time they will grow to accept it.
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Whats a disk defragmenter? My computer is very slow and my cousin suggested that I use the disk defragmenter and I've tired, but it doesn't seem to be working, I'm not even sure how it works. Can anyone explain this for me? Thank You.
anonymous -
Disk defragmenter is a program on the computer which rearranges your files and compresses the empty space to help your computer run faster and more efficient.
What I'd suggest is delete old or unnecessary files off of your computer and remove unused programs. To remove unused programs push the start button and go under settings and Control Panel. You should see an icon that says Add/Remove Programs. Click on it and uninstall the programs that you don't use.
To remove files, you can do disk cleanup. To make it more thorough, go under basic folders such as My Documents and delete selected files that you don't use or don't want.
However, don't delete any files if you don't know its purpose or function. Otherwise it may affect how certain programs work and run.
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