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boyfriend that i love but hes acting strange
me and my boyfriend have been going out for 10 months and his mom found notes about us having sex and both of us are really christain and love eachother so much.. otherwise we wouldnt had done that ... and his mom n dad freaked and he was away and i was here and then i went away and i didnt see him for 10 days... he picked me up frome the airport and everything seemed ok that night.. then that morning he seemed weird... and now i feel like hes avoiding me and doesnt love me anymore... he never calls me or acts like he cares... we have almost been togather for a year and i cant imagine my life without him. hes my bestfriend and boyfriend.. and i couldnt lose both.. but now both of his parents think im a slut and dont like me. i think they are getting to him. i was soposed to hang out with him tmmr and have a talk with his parents so that they will let him come over again... but then he said he couldnt because he had a birthday party to go to. im torn. i love him so much. i dont know what to do about him. or what to do if his parents are mean to me... i know i should stand up for myself. but im scared and dont know what to do.
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Clearly your boyfriend has been brainwashed. You'll need to reprogram him by sexing him long and hard. If he resists, your relationship is doomed.
Good luck!
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anonymous -
He could be possibly be acting strange because he's being cautious around you for the fear of his parents finding out something else about the relationship to badger him about. Just reassure him that you love him, and although he respects his parents, that doesn't mean he should shut you out of his life.
Bottom line is his parents do not understand your relationship. They can't understand why you had sex so early on (my honest opinion, I don't think it's that bad), and they're just keeping a keen eye on you.
What is good to do is to have you and your boyfriend sit down and talk with his parents about the whole ordeal. This clarifies your situation, and helps them better understand the bond that you two share. Although it'll be pretty hard to approach his parents cuz you know that they don't like you, but it's almost guaranteed that they will gradually begin to think higher of you if you approach them. Why because it shows that you respect them and you are able to express the love you have for their son.
During this discussion you can also ask them how they feel about you and then begin to defend yourself. Remember to not let anyone (including yourself) jump to conclusions or point fingers let alone insult. Make it clear why you did what you did, and why you two are in love. This shows respect that you take their views into consideration and it justifies your morals in having sex out of love, not lust.
If you get scared, remember that your boyfriend is right next to you to offer comfort and to come in for your defense.
Just help them to better understand the situation, and in due time they will grow to accept it.
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You need to speak up for yourself. You have been with this guy for almost a year, if he is your bestfriend as well as your boyfriend, then you should be able to talk to him about any and everything. Talk to him privately one day, away from everyone else, and ask him what is wrong with him. Tell him that you have noticed that he has been acting differently around you every since his parents have found out that you and him have had sex. Let him know that you are confused as to why he won't talk to you when something is bothering you. If he cares at all about you, he will tell you the reason as to why he has been acting strange. It could be because of his parents, and their knowledge of ya'lls private life. Maybe he is getting some negative attention from them because of that. Communication is the key. Talk to him and work through ya'lls problem as soon as possible before you and him drift apart.
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He's probably embarrassesed that his parents found the notes.He's probably embarrassed that his parents want to discuss it with you.
If his parents think you're a slut they must think he's one too.So, that probably isn't the case.You might get a lecture but if you want to see him again it is something you are gonna have to put up with. Just be as honest as you can with the parents and hope they allow you to see each other.
Next time you talk to him ask if he has any idea what they are gonna say so you'll be prepared.
Good luck to you both:}
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