luvbug555's advice column

askluvbug555

advice column ask question view feedback favorite columnist advicenators

Q: 14/F
alright, I belive a woman should only have hair on her head. when I shave I can't get the whole place cause i'm terrified of cutting my vag. ligitimate fear though.
So I would like to wax, but I'm afraid it will hurt. And I don't know where to buy any waxing kits and what would be usable on my vagina.
So, can you tell me where I can get some. Over the counter please! Or tell me how to shave near the labia er whatever.
Please, I'm begging !

hi!

any wax you get at walgreens should work. just read the label. all you need is the same wax you would use on your legs/arms/underarms.

but i really would suggest getting it waxed. it hurts like HE11!!!! like, a lottt!!! and if its too painful for you to get it all off yourself, your stuck with wax down there! please get it done professionally. a lot quicker, a lot less painful. a lot less risk of infection.

Q: okay so i recently ran into this guy ian, me and him used to be great friends when we were little, it's been 7 years and now we both like eachother. we've been spending almost everyday togateher for the past two weeks and we're going out. but he suddenly stopped returning my texts and he's not calling when he says he will... so my question is why would he do this? we didn't get into a fight or anything and i don't think i did anything to piss him off and when i do talk to him he seems just as sweet and happy to talk to me as ever. so i don't know what's up, and i don't want to go to far out of my way trying to reach him because i don't want to seem clingy, my friend thinks that i haven't done enough to show him that i like him... i guess i haven't but i don't know what's going on... help?

the only way that youll know is if you ask him! just say it casually like "hey, i know youve been probly busy lately, did u get my last text?"
once he knows its bothering you, hell either stop or tell you why hes been doing it.

Q: Ok I'm 16/f and I play club volleyball. I have a new coach this year and at first I though he was a little odd. After a tournament yesterday coach was sitting us all down one by one and talking to us about our play. I said I had to keep control of my positive outlook on the game and he says and I quote. "You just have to watch what you give. There are only two things in life you can give: your integrity and your virginity." Now at first I let that go cause I thought he was joking but the look on his face said otherwise. He was using all these youthisms about sex at the same time I just couldn't shake it off as something else. Now my coach is maybe 36 so I REALLY think that's just down right creepy.. so is he just putting his foot in his mouth to be hip, or is he just a creep?

Sorry about the length of the question,
Thanks

hi,

i think that it could be either one, but either way its not good!
your coach isnt there to be your best friend.
is there anyone you can tell about this? principal? guidance counslor?
sombody needs to know. maybe if sombody just talks to him hell stop?

i would definately stay away from anybody who talks like that. keep it a coach : student relationship

Q: Ok so me and this guy met last summer and we bacame extremly good friends. We even dated for about a month and half but we had to end things because we never saw eachother. The thing is though I fell head over heels for this guy. Just looking at him leaves me breathless I have never felt so strongly about a person before. He has told me he loved me to but he was sorta drinking at the time he said that so I dont really beleive him.. Well now im moving down the street from him and I know we will be hanging out more and all that... Im just not sure if I should tell him how I feel but im really nervous because he is one of those who feels "too macho" to express feelings and stuff lol. SO im not sure if I should say anything or just see what happens... SO yea im confused. What do you think?

this is just my advice, so you dont need to listen.
but i think you should try very hard to get over this guy. if you start dating and he breaks your heart, your going to be seeing him every single day .

i think you should try to be friends.

Q: alright so here's the deal; my best friend and i have been best friend's for about two year's
i have two best friend's & she never minded until now; i mean we hang out ALOT! i'd say i hang out with them the same- anyways's she has this "NEW" friend who i may can't stand one bit :/ she's 12 year's old; & were 15, i dont know it's like she is changeing on me like she never call's me & when i call her she's like UGH CAN I CALL YOU BACK & she never calls me back & the other day i had a big prob & i wanted to run to her about & she was just like oh. dang- LIKE WTF? & it isnt like to with her "NEW" friend & i wanted to hang out with her on friday but she said she couldnt chill then come to find out her "NEW" friend spent the nite.. I DONT KNOW what the heck should i do; i dont wanna just like NOT care because i do care & i just cant act like i dont & i just dont wanna lose her... =/

any thin could help< --

hi,

i think people grow apart somtimes. and that happens.
but i definately think you should talk to her. say it calmly, and dont use words like "always" or "never". dont acuse her, just tell her, "when you do _____, it makes me feel like _____" . since youve been friends for so long, i think shell understand. maybe she has some problem she needs to talk about .

anyway, somtimes people change. you still have your other best friend right?

Q: okay so im kinda in a rut and i was just wondering, can you guys give me advice on why its important to be grateful for everything you have? also can you give me some examples of where youve personally had to believe that. also, people always say to me every experience has a silver lining. any thoughts? also...what do you really believe in? and why? like...i believe that you should always treat others the way you would like to be treated. what do you think? any thoughts would be appreciated. im going through a hard time right now and i just need some advice on beliefs and values. thank you for your time.

a book that has really helped me is called The Secret. i read it every night.
it basically says that you deserve everything good in the world, and that everything IS good. and if you look hard enought at somthing, it BECOMES good. it says if you are in a tough situation, think of 30 good things that came out of it/good things about it. that applies to people too.
then it says when you go to sleep, go over your entire day. and if there is any parts that you dont like, change them in your mind. repeat them until you believe the good thing happened. INBOX me if you ever want to talk. im here.

Q: I need a big, creative idea to do for my best friend's birthday.

For my birthday (it was also our 6th months cause we were dating) he filled my room with 180 balloons, one for each day we'd been together, and wrote something he loved about me on each one. When I came home and found them, he popped out from underneath them and surprised me. :) It was one of the sweetest things anyone had done for me.

I need something great to do for him now.

wow thats the sweetest thing ive ever heard!

you could set up like, a whole romantic night for the two of you somwhere. candles and music and make him dinner, the whole thing.

or you could rent a hummer limo and bring all his friends around the whole city, go out to dinner, etc.

Q: does leave in moisturizer weigh down hair?

some do. look for one that says it wont weigh down your hair.
and anyway, it dosent weigh your hair down too much,

Q: is it damaging to blow dry hair with cold air?

it is, but not as much.
the wind and sun is also damaging to your hair.
you might want to get a conditioner that will heal your hair afterwards, and then your hair wont get damaged.

Q: alright so me and this kid REALLY like each other. but we got to different schools so its hard to like each other. but we talk mostly every single day.

and so the other night i was at his best friends house with him and this other guy..me being the only girl..and so me and the guy i like (bob we will call him) made out for about 15 mins.. then he had to leave so it was just me and his best friend and my friend.

and i was just hanging out with them..but like i was all over his best friend like laying on him and stuff and i was about to hook up with him but i couldnt cause its his best friend and i really want to but idk if i like the kid..i can't do that to bob. its horrible.

and so me and my friend have been talking and we are gonna hook up ...and so idk whats going on with me..

what should i do!??!?!

follow your heart

Q: 19/f
i know it is long but pleeeease read it...Hi im Gery from Italy...i wrote about a month or so ago about my best friend whom i like and he was flirting with me and showing feelings at one time and acting as if there was nothing there the other time...anyhow after constantly flirting 4 months and having conversations about having a relationship withour talking directly about as (we where acting as if we where talking in generyl) he finaly kissed me 3 nights ago...after kissing me and hugging me the whole night i had 2 go back 2 italy 4 a few days so we didnt really talked about it...a few days before that happened a buddy of him asked me out and said that he liked me without him knowing...i told him yesterday per chat that he asked me out and asked him 4 an advice how 2 gently say no etc...(because we r best friends we used 2 talk about that stuff so i didnt give it much thought...)and he acted as if nothing happened between as and that i should go out with his friend because he really likes me and that would make him happy...and that hurt me and so i told me that he is worth nothing because he doesnt care who he hurts...and i dont know what 2 do..i really like him but it hurts me when he acts as if nothing happened...what do u suggest i do...i know the best thing is probably talking completely open with him and tell him that i like him etc but i cant...i just felt as if after he kissed me he just pushed me over 2 his friend...

im so sorry to tell you this, but i think this boy is a player. either that or he has amnesia.

in my opinion, you should stop messing with him, because hes just playing games.

Q: i have a chi strightner and when i curl my hair it turns out pretty nicley. but when i mess up it starts to mess my whole curl up, and it gets frizzy. how can i make it not get so frizzy, when i have to recurl a curl??
and also how can i make big curls??
and how can i make volumized curls??

about your first question, how to re-curl a curl...

comb it through with a comb. spray it with hairspray or gell or some kind of heat protector or even water and comb it out again. then let it rest for a few minutes, and then re-curl it. you cant rush it. goodluck!

Q: Ok well its my senior year in high school, you know that last year of high school when kids are supposed to go crazy and have the time of your life. Well anyway, this past summer my friends and I were talking and saying that were not going to care about anyone or anything this year, were just going to have fun. Well that didn't quite last long because now my friends ALL got boyfriends. Not one of my close friends is single. Now when I want to go out and have fun and party they tell me, "oh my boyfriend has to come" or "i cant go because hes gonna get mad at me" or "I have to talk to him on the phone for a million and a half hours before I go to sleep". Its, to say the least, really annoying. They all act like they're married, and I'm getting reeeallly sick of it. I mean I'm extremely happy for all of them, but it seems like they all just gave up and centered their whole life around their boyfriends, and meanwhile I'm bored as hell, and my weekends consist of everyone paired up except me. I don't even want a relationship, I just wanna have fun!

ugh help!

i say, find a a guy (well, a bunch of guys) and always bring one of them along.
you know, not a boyfriend but just a guy you can have fun with while all of your friends are being all romantic.
explain to your friends that being in a relationship is great, and that you respect that about them, but theyve really got to loosen up and have fun.
bring everyone out to see a hilarous movie
or invite them all over for a waterballoon fight
just be silly... have fun! u CAN do that in couples!

best of luck,

-L

Q: Hey! 15/f

In my highschool we have spirit week once a semester, which usually consists of theme day, crazy day, class color day, as well as 2 other random days. This year for theme day my class has Chicago, the musical. Does anywhere know where to get attire that the actresses wear? and what to get?

also, we have arch-nemesis (enemy) day. what are good examples of an arch-nemesis (obvious ones such as batman & joker and everyday examples can be included). Thanks!

Arch Nemesiss:::
Boys and Girls
goths and preps
barak obama and hilary clinton

Q: I'm SO picky on my prom dresses. I absolutely hate those big poofy neon colored gowns with slits up to here and front cuts down to there. I'm all about simplicty with a small embellishment. I love empire waists just because its forgiving and I hate spandex. My favorite colors for a prom dress would be either cream, black, or ruby/pink.

Any advice on websites or designers I would like would be very much appreciated!

BCBG!! they have this floor-length black dress (with an empire waist!) that you would probably love!
i wouldnt order online, you should probably go to the store. its a lot better experience, and you really find what fits you best. plus, the sales people help you so much! goodluck!

Q: I've known a guy for several years now (well, ever since the 3rd Grade) and I've never really paid attention to him. We tease each other and laugh at each other all the time. We've both had relationships come and go over the years, but our "friendship" hasn't broken yet.

Well, lately, I've been thinking about him more and more. And no, its not because we have EVERY SINGLE PERIOD together, its because he has a sweet smile, good sense of humor, etc.

Nobody knows about my little crush on him, even my closest friends. The problem is, we've been picking on each other for so long and I don't know how he'll react.

So, the question is:

1) Should I really be chasing after him? After all these years?
2) How can I show him I like him without him or anyone else making fun of me?

I wouldnt try making him like you because then hell only like you because you made him!

I think you should b yourself. Hes got to love you for who you are.

Just try flirting with him a little bit. If you catch him staring at you somtimes its a good sign.!

Best of luck,,,

Q: I watched this movie recently about aids, called girl,positive...And i was just wonering if a woman gets HIV/AIDS and she gets pregnant and has the baby, does the baby automatically get aids? Because i know you can get it from vaginal fluid, semen, breast milk and blood. But if you get pregnant is that an automatic disease for the baby? Thanks

An HIV positive woman can transmit the virus to her baby during pregnancy, labour and delivery, and through breastfeeding. If she takes no preventive drugs and breastfeeds then the chance of her baby becoming infected is around 20-45%.

Q: Can you help me out with flirting. Like i can flirt while texting and im'ing but not in person. Like i just go blank. I dont know what to say. I can smile back but how do i flirt? thanks :)

this is from http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt-with-a-Guy
There are multiple ways to act flirty, here are some of the best suggestions:

Compliments-Be sure to compliment them on things that are true. Sometimes people will make up compliments just to talk to someone, but that is the total wrong thing to do. You really should compliment on things you really like, so you sound more sincere naturally.

Intense Eye-The intense eye is a trick that models spend years perfecting. You must give your hottie an intense stare that is both sexy and mysterious at the same time. Also, try staring at the floor and slowly raising your eyes, looking directly at him. Once you have caught his attention, give him a sexy but subtle smile. You should try practicing the look in the mirror, and if completed correctly you should feel as sexy as a celeb.

Eyelash Batting- This trick is one of the oldest tricks known to man. It gives you a sweet and vulnerable factor, which guys love because it make themselves feel powerful. Remember to practice this if you intend to use this technique.

Hair Flip and Twirl- If you want to catch a guys attention, flip your hair casually over your shoulder, twist it and then untwist it, tuck it behind your ears, or run your hands through it.

Soft Giggle and Smile-According to polls, a laugh and a smile are the sexiest things a female can wear. If you perfect your smile and laugh to be seductive and sweet, you will find some great results. Practice forcing a natural smile and laugh, it can help through awkward situations.

Magic Touch- You can learn to brush a guy in such a way that you send tingles up and down his spine. Casually tap him while laughing, rest your head on his shoulder if you’re tired and hold his hand when you're nervous; it will give him a sense of manliness and you a touch sweetie-pie, no pun intended.

my favorite tricks! i texted them to my phone so theyr always on me haha

Q: I turned in some possible Science Fair ideas, and my teacher told me I needed to increase level of difficulty and I need some more ideas. Any ideas will work. Thank You!!!

try the glowing picle http://www.digg.com/mods/A_Pickle_Lightbulb

Q: How can you tell if a get-together with a guy was possibly intended to be a date? Assuming that there was no kiss or sexual stuff at the end. If you could give me some characteristics of a date (in your opinion), that'd be great.

Is this just hanging out or like, out to dinner?
If you went somplace and he pays for it id count it a date.

If your just hanging out at one of your houses, id say it depends on what hes wearing and what you do.

Watch him and his reactions to small things like you bumping into him or sitting really close. If he likes you, its a date.

bio

FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet

ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you