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Q: if u ask a question on advicentaors, will people know who's profile it came from?

ope it dosnt come up you can pck the name you ant to use,and you can give out whatever info you want
lots of love,lizzie

Q: my friend is in jail and i really want to go see him but i have no idea how...my parents would never let me go visit him but i have friends who are 18+. do i need someone to be 18 years or older to go with me? do i need to make an appointment? and how much trouble could i get in if i lied and told the officers i was his sister just to see him?

Ya im pretty sure you have to make an apintmnt,and you wouldnt get in any troble for it but you better make sure you say something like im his cousin or something.becaus ethey may have a list of name salready on the list.and if you think its to risky then you can allways call the jail and get the nmber for his cell and stuff then you can write backand forth to im .
lt me knw how it all works out
lots of love,lzzie

Q: Ok so everything was going well with me and my boyfriend. But then out of the blue he said it was over. I was so sad. He didn't even want to give me a reason. I am so depressed. We were together for 10 months. I really don't know what went wrong. Well anyway I need help to make him feel bad. I don't go to his same school. So that's a problem. I want him to feel bad the way he made me feel bad. I also want to find out if he still likes me or if he ever did. But I can't ask him that. Any ideas?. Please help. Aslo if it helps I'm 14 f. Thankyou so much!

well if you ask me this is a little immature but hey im here to help right ?
ok well you could try sending hi picturs of either you guys together or picturs of you cryng,with a letter attached about how sad he ade you.But there is something you have to remember,if hes not sorry on his own,thn leave him alone.I thik you can do better
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Hi well im having troubles,i really feel i love my ex boyfriend.We had a really intense relationship and it got to the point we actually said we LOVED eachother and meant it.He is a "player" he has had many girlfriends in his life and im the calm girl who only has had him.He did so many things for me,he went back to school...and my parents(specially my mom) didnt like him and he fought against them until he was given permission to be my boyfriend,NOT MANY GUYS ACTUALLY STAY WHEN PARENTS GIVE THEM A HARD TIME.The point is that it has been five months since we broke up,we have talked...and in our first conversation after we broke up he made it seem that he wanted to get back together but he hasnt done anything.He did do a lot,he lied to my parents and lied to me,Making up the lie that he got his ex girl pregnat which after he told me that he did it to "test" me.I feel that we broke up because he missed being single.I still love him and.But is he really worth fighting for?? or should i just forget about him and move on??Please help me

girl you better go fight for your man.if you love someone enough you wouldnt let him go .Theres olny one person in this world for everyone.So tak to hi ask him how he feelsabut getting back togethrYou sound like you care about him enough that you would fight.Neither one of you has hooked up with another person.And here is a bg helper that i wish i would of notices a year ago when this happened to me .when you love someone you never stop.its like they have a chain around your heart.but before you go on your battle make sure you REALLYlove him,and he TRULY loves you !!!!!
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I like to wear band tees but that looks rather plain. Is there any way to spice up an outfit while I'm wearing these tshirts? I really like supporting the bands but I dont want to look plain or boring.

yep uumm its rather simple ccully you can try some of these things
1.)add glitter
2.)put some band buttons on your shirt or outfit
4.put a necklace on or some kind of jewlery
let me knw how t all works out
lots of loe,lizzie

Q: Okay so my hair is extremely frizzy & puffy. & What makes it worse I have dandrift (SP) I wash my hair 3 times a week I use to only 2 but now i moved it to 3. But the problem is my hair gets to greasy. & I think its the dandrift thats doing it. & I also straighten my hair. So whats the problem? I usually use shampoo & condtioner that help my frizz & dry hair. Is it the dandrift that makes my hair so greasy feeling ? What can I do ? It feels fine the 1st day, then after the next day it feels all gross. What can I can do ? Would I be able to use a shampoo for frizzy/dry/puffy hair, then use a conditioner for dandrift? Would that help? Thanks for the help in advance

try not using conditonaer till you know exacially whats causing it to be so gressy.thats what i had to do.but make sure when yu use shampoo yo scrub it into your scalp.and avoid any gells or hairsprays.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: There's this guy that I've liked on and off.. for 2 yrs. I don't even know why I like him in the first place. He acts cool all the time but I know that deep inside he's all shit. He pretends to be very confident but actually he's not. I really don't know why I like him despite knowing all these. He gives me mixed signals, or maybe it's overthinking on my part.

These are the signs that shows he likes me
- he held my hand during rollerblading (erm, maybe it's because I don't know how to blade?)
- he playfully threw a dice into my pants when my back was turned
-he told me to go up to his room to change even though his toilet was just a few steps away.
- he smile whenever I go near him
-he avoids eye contact at times

These are the signs that shows he doesnt like me
-he doesn't call/msg/IM me at all
-he doesn't ask me how's life
-he doesn't tell me his personal things
-he doesn't really give a shit about my life

That's about it. So does he like me or not? I feel that he doesn't. So can someone help me to forget about him and move on?

Thanks
P.S : I don't mind long answers. In fact, I welcome long answers. =]

well i thik that he likes you but he dosnt really care about you.So basically what im saying is yes he likes you,but if you go out with him hes not gonna care about you,hell just lie you.Now if yor smar which jdging from your letter you are you will just find him as a boy that lies you but you dont like.trust me if you go out with him its not gona be what you exspected,and yu dont need that.do yourself a favor ad find yourself a real man !!!!!!!!hes out there.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: 16 female. The other night my best friend invited me to go to a party. There was alcohol at this party and i know i get very sexual when i drink, but usually I can control myself. The guy that my friend asked to prom was there and he was completly wasted. He came over and was talking to us and before i knew it i was telling him how hott he was and making out with him. My friend passed out, and this guy took me up to him room and we had sex. He is 3 years older then me-19) My friend is really mad at me and even though i appoligized and she knew i was drunk and didnt know what i was doing she is still mad. Now im precieved by alot of people as a slut. How can i make my friend not mad and change my "slut" image?

first of all you have to think if it was the other way round ad it was your friend that had sex with him would you be mad even though she was drunk as well ? if not then you just need to tell your fried loo i was not able to cntrol myself ad i didnt no what i was doing.if you cant se that then i dont need you.as for your slut image dontt worry about what people say xspecially if there stupid enough to not know that you were under he influence.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I've already asked a similar question to this one before, and recieved an answer. Just incase you haven't seen my previous question, here's my problem:There's this boy at my school who's always flirting with me and touching me affectionately. The problem is he has a girlfriend, yet he keeps flirting with me as if he doesn't. I really don't have time to be getting into any fights this year, so i try to show him that i'm not interested through body language. I know I should just tell him straight up that i don't want him, but i still kinda do. I just don't want to show him my feelings so he'll leave me alone and I won't have to deal with his girlfriend.(even though i would kick her ass!) Like i said before in my previous question, it's getting REALLY hard not to let him know that I like him, so PLEASE HELP!!!

*Angel*

Damn girl you got problems as bad as mine ! well f yu cant tell him that you dont wat him to just say ook,i really want you to do this too but you have a girlfriend so for as long as your going out with another girl,i dont want you touching me.then if he dsnt stop alk to his girlfriend try dsying

look i dont want to get in anyfights with you but your boyfriend keeps touching me and ive tryed to get him to stop but it just wont worki didnt want you to think that i was tryin to steal your man

let me know how it all works ut
lots of loe,lizzie

Q: I always like the guys who are nice to everyone. Which is great, but I can never tell if they're just being nice to me, or flirting with me. How can I tell if a nice guy is just being nice, or if he really likes me?

Check and see f he stumbes with his words when hes ice,or if it sounds like he plans ut what to say.also check how other people think of him,trust me its a god way to go
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: 13/f, a boy a year older than me reallly likes me ALOT. i like him too but we go to different schools like 45 min away.now he wants to hookup with me and stuff, but he said if i don't want to its fine, but i want to. i know he has hookuped tons of times and said he had a lot of girlfiends but 'doesn't like commitments'. i saw his myspace/facebook and he has a million friends that are girls and they all comment saying 'i love youu!' or 'the movies were so much fun' and like i think hes a player or a manwhore.
but i really like him, so what should i do? just let him go? is he worth it?

hey babe hate to brake it to ya ut hes too far away and hs a player.he may say he really likes you,but your just another girl to add to hs collection.plus long distance relatonships suck !!!!!!!!!trust me your better of wth someone who can settle down and love you.
lt me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: so yesterday i met this guy and he lives a good 20 mins away, so i have his sn and im talking to him on it...but idk what to talk about with him?
what are some good "getting to know you" questions and topics to talk about with him ?

thanks

some good ones are like find out hus hobies ,and his b-day and stuff and then tell him yours.trust me youll no if you two click.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: me and this guy have been talking for a long time and we're kinda friends with benifits but we're not the all the way benifits like i'm still a virgin and i mean i love him and sometimes i think he loves me but theres times when i think he's just after you know what how can i tell if a guy is true to me or not and how do i find out if he wants to be with me or not and not by just asking him becasue he says he wants to keep movin at the pase we're moving at now and see what happens......

signed dazed and confused

it takes two people to be in a relationship,and if he dosnt respect what your point of view is in the relatonship then hes just after sex.do what you gotta do girl !

Q: 13/f

right now i have covergirl clean makeup and i want another foundation because first of all it makes me look whiter than i really am (i bought it too pale) and second it doesn't even hide redness it just makes the skin around the acne or whatever look cakey.

so i was wondering what a good foundation was that goes on smooth because i uneven skin, and also some sort of base or whatever to smooth my skin before i put my makeup on.

first wash your face,and try to put eaither baby powder,or babyoil on it.Then,put your make-up on.Sometimes you can try mixing your foundation with some other kinds of make-up and it willl help.If you can you shouldnt wear cover-up bacuse it really takes a toll on your skin,but you should deffenitly try some of this advice.let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: i was in a relationship w/ this guy and we broke up becz i wanted him to kiss me should i move on or not?

move on girl if you want to be kissed you deserve a man that will give you exacly what you need.

lots of love,lizzie

Q: jackie, kelly and i are all good friends. jackie always follows kelly around at parties, like wherever she goes. it annoys me because then they leave me out of stuff sometimes, like all three of us could be talking and they'll randomly leave to go get a drink or go to the bathroom together and they leave me by myself. i have alot of other people i hang out with/can hang out with at parites and stuff but it's just times like that when they leave me that annoys me. advice?

try talking to them about it .If there really your true friends they will understand .just explain to them calmly !try saying something like "im not mad at you but i am feeling very left out"if they get mad then they werent friends that you need anyway.let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Does it help if you run in place like instead of running on a track u run in place for 30 minutes does that work?

yes it does and it works just as good.Sometimes you accully run more because you have it in your head that your not running far.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: MY BF of two weeks is coming over tommorow and i AM FREaKING OUT!!! I HAVE NO CLUE WHAT WERE GONNA DO. I need help from everybody! What are we gonna do? Im really really really nervous around him and clam up and am uncomfortable i need ideas on waht to do and what movies to watch (LONG MOVIES.ANY HElp on waht to do/ how to act/ ad how to relaz would be VERY MUCH APPRECIATED

i say watch the notebook together its very romantic ,and he should like it.play some games,and have conversations.let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: okay, well i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas.
he doesnt like sports, nor fishing etc..

he is more into music
and i would like to get him something more special then just concert tickets or somthing.
pllllease help with cute ideas
thank you!!

maybe you could get him some cds or sumthin .concert tickets are good,keychains,candy,clothes are all good.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love
lizzie

Q: There is this boy and he liked me for awhile and I liked him and he would text and suddenly he stopped and he was ignoring me and I asked him if he still liked me he said no he found someone else.
But This girl he wasn't even going out with he just liked her a lot and he would meet up with her after school.
Well she has a boyfriend and I guess he never knew about it and so he texts me again rigt after school and he's starting to want to talk to me more.
Well I don't want to be some girl whos just there for him and I'm definately not waiting.
So maybe he found out that she has a boyfriend and he stopped going after her so hes back to me.
I'm not sure if thats the reason but its what it seems like

And I just need some advice about this.
?
thanks.

i dont think that you care about him to much if you are so determind not to wait for him. if you think that you really like him then talk to him some more about it.let me know how it all works out.
lots of love,lizzie

bio

hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie