i've been going out with my boyfriend for eight months and he recently found out that i cheated on him i know that was wrong and i feel really bad about it but he forgave me for it and were together but now it's like he can't trust me and he said we should forget about it but everytime we have a fight he brings this up how do i get him to trust me again and prove to him that i love him?
i'm 17/f and he's 19/m
thanks guys
if you want to stay with him, be prepared to put up with it, or say something about it. I've been in a similar situation just recently. found out she was playing me while I was in Afghanistan, worst thing was that I'd found out from the other guy. I did what I never thought I'd be capable of- I forgave her. probably because I love her and I couldn't stand the thought of being without her... but at the end of that day, she ended up kicking me to the curb. I assume because she didn't want to have the elephant that you are now dealing with in the room. Relationships in which one person holds something over the other are not functional. given the chance, I'd take her back in a heartbeat. relationships are about caring for somebody, even through their fuckups. lording over the person you supposedly care about is not a relationship- its blackmail.
good luck, and learn from your mistake.
-Gunner
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Just curious for people's thoughts.
Yes. I believe that there is somebody out there for everyone. though finding a girl capable of putting up with me is proving to be challenging.
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I need help with
-is it a good idea
-is it original
-is it interesting
Please read these plots and tell me
1- a zombie goes on an epic journey to find his cookie after it is stollen by a bird and goes through many hardships but in the end dies after he gets the cookie
2- a child gets a computer for her birthday but it is possessed by the spirit of a pedophile, her parents don't notice it's trying to suck her in, she breaks it
Sorry they're not specific :) thank you
sorry kid, both themes have been done before.
why would a zombie be going after a cookie anyways? they like brains. I have yet to see a zombie flick in which the zombie moans "coooookkiieess..." though I'd imagine the cookie monster as a zombie may do that.
good luck back at the drawing board
-Gunner
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okay so I'm in love with two guys !!!!
I'm 17/ female.
I went out with this guy named James last year and me and him mess around a little bit .. after we broke up i met this amazing guy named Daniel
to me, its pretty damn simple. probably because I've been in Daniel's shoes before. about eleven times. here's my two cents: James already has a girlfriend. daniel still cares for you, and its obviously mutual. James put you through hell. your only problem with daniel is that he moved. using something so rare among young women it might as well be a bloody superpower- logic, I can take the above statements and say, with utmost confidence, that you should choose daniel. However, like all of my wonderful girlfriends, I know for a fact that you will not listen to logic. "Dump the great guy in favor for the douchebag that'll treat you like shit" seems to be a recurring theme with every girl I have had the ultimate displeasure of courting. so... do yourself a favor- prove me wrong. prove to me that there is at least one sane woman on this godforsaken planet by doing the right thing and having nothing further to do with this James.
good luck.
-Gunner
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i heard that you can sign up online and get a pen pal who's in the miliary to write too and email and stuff. do they still do that? where do i sign up? i've tried looking online, but i couldnt find any websites.
you're welcome to try, however, I must warn you that soldiers don't really have time to write back. I did my best to respond to all of the people who wrote to me on my first deployment, but in the end it just got overwhelming and I'd just wind up feeling guilty for not writing back. I just told people to not send me things when my second deployment rolled around. there's several organizations that deal with that, the USO and Soldier's angels being the two prominent ones. you're welcome to try, its always nice to know people back home give a fuck, but don't expect too much out of a dude that just got back from a 72 hour patrol. we like to sleep after things like that.
good luck
-Gunner
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no love for me ever. heartbroken too many times. you told similar man to take 10 beers 40 percoset and 100 xanax. i am afraid that i will either vomit out such quantities but more that it wont work. i will be paralyzed drooling piss and crap in pants always,blind, and be aware of all this.
yes. you would vomit from all of that shit. besides, thats a pretty fucking cowardly way to kill yourself. I've had every single one of my last eleven girlfriends cheat on me. I've watched my friends die on the battlefield. I've been blown up, broken, and cast aside in service of my country. Do you see me giving up? Fuck no. so Ranger the fuck up, Pick your sorry ass off the ground and refuse to fucking die for once.
-Gunner
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24/F
I'll make this as quick as I can. But I figure some initial information may help in answering the question, so please forgive me if it seems long.
I've been in a relationship with my mate for 3 years, it's been wonderful. He is a 30 year old healthy male, his diet and overall routine has not changed. Our "love" life however has not been what it use to be. I'll be lucky anymore if we make love once a month. When we do make love it doesn't last long anymore. It use to last at least 30+ minutes, now I'll be lucky if it lasts for 5 minutes. There are days I've been "in the mood" and he'll say he isn't. Then the following day, I'll see in the website history that he had looked at adult videos and photos after I've fallen asleep. This is beginning to get to me. Nothing else has gotten bad. He's still caring and loving towards me. Just not in that department. I would like advice. Any helpful advice honestly would be greatly appreciated.
-Thank you for your time, cooperation and patience.
my guess is he's gotten bored. perhaps you should try to spice things up. of course, it takes two, so I'd suggest an upfront conversation about it.
-Gunner
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s just wondering if any of you had experienced with being plural wives
Judging by the demographics on this site... I don't think you'll be getting many answers from people with experience in this case. perhaps you should ask yourself why you want to be a wife in a plural marriage. I personally wouldn't want to have several wives. thats a lot of time and energy to keep them happy, and I can barely manage keeping one happy at any given time. I can't even imagine the flipside of that coin...
as long as you're okay with the implications of this lifestyle, and the subsequent flak you'll take for being in a plural marriage, go for it. But do your homework first.
good luck
-Gunner
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Whats something i can say to a girl that is in love with me, but i dont feel the same? And how do i say it right after we had drunk sex?
"hey look, I didn't mean for last night(or whatever appropriate day) to happen... I see you as a friend, and I just don't have those kind of feelings toward you. I'm sorry that I lead you to believe so."
that might work out well for you.
good luck
-Gunner
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Hey! So I was reading through stuff and saw you knew a lot about like health stuff! Well, here's the thing. Im a girl; sophomore in highschool and I've always been really small (short, thin, just all around little). At the moment I'm aaalmost 5'5, 100lbs. And I can prolly bench about as much as a four year old. It gets really old getting called "little girl" and man handled on a regular basis. But mostly I get a lot of crap for being so weak. I'm a cheerleader and I cheer year round on a state squad but I'm a flyer (the girl in the air) so I've never done much arm strength wise. Cause of cheerleading I'm pretty happy abs and legs wise but no matter what I do my arms never seem to get any stronger than what they are... Which isn't strong at all. I don't have weights at home and it's just downright embarrassing to weight lift around other people at out school gym and stuff. I take yoga and cardio boxing but I'm not happy. Can you help me? Maybe if you know certiant things I can do at home to get stronger?? And if you really suggest weight lifting then help with that too cause I don't ben know where to start? Haha or maybe just a way to get people to lay off my strength cause you sound kinda bad ass, not gonna lie. It's just really disheartening, getting made fun of, picked up, tossed around and messed with cause you're little. I mean it's mostly stupid (high school) guys who think they're hot shit and yeah people say its "flirting" but there's nothing flattering about feeling weak and helpless all the time but I don't know what else I can do at this point... Help?
uh, thanks, but I'm not a badass. I just spent six years surrounded by weightlifters and health nuts, so some of their knowledge rubbed off. the way that I started my journey from fatass to fit was through cardio, but once I shattered my leg jumping out of airplane(if you ever get the chance, go skydiving, its fun), I couldn't run anymore. so, I started working on upper body strength to compensate for the whole "walking with a cane" thing.
I started out with twenty pound weights, doing two sets of ten reps for each muscle group. every week, I'd move up in weight. I started in december 09, and by may or so, I was using 75 pound weights, albeit with a changed rep plan( 2 sets of 6 reps at 75 lbs, and 1 set of 4 reps at 85 lbs). I didn't bulk up much during the process, just got a lot stronger. something similar might work out for you. you might want to start out with ten pound weights, seeing as how you're half my size... but if you keep working at it every night, you'll see some results.
have fun, and put up with their bullshit for now, because its really fun to surprise the hell out of the haters after a few months.
-Gunner
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I'M NOT SUICIDAL, i'm just bored and wondering how you can kill yourself with the least pain possible?
huh. well if you had wanted better answers you should have gone with "what is the least painful way to get killed?". sure, there would be some garbage answers, but you could filter them out easily. I was a big fan of the "drop a penny in front of the japanese stock exchange" method. it was quite amusing considering the financial condition of japan back in the 90s. if you're this bored, might I suggest taking up a hobby? working on vehicles is fun. so is mountain climbing. and both include the random chance of getting killed in a spectacular manner. or you could watch this awesome television program from back in the day called "mystery science theater 3000". oh boy, that show is a hoot! there's millions of non-morbid things upon which you can ponder. suicide is boring, and stupid. the world is too cool a place to do something that ends the show. besides, when flipping through the obituary, who remembers the little emo kid that jumped in front of a train when there was a dude who spent his life cheating death only to encounter the grim reaper by way of tragic break-dancing accident? aside from emo kid's family of course.. but thats beside the point. I suggest you focus on cool shit to do to while staying alive, like skydiving. there's nothing like the adrenaline rush of falling at 120 miles an hour!
good luck, and wear a helmet!
-Gunner
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Those who wrote about not killing themselves have never faced financial ruin caused by economics.
Money is the breath and soul of life. Those who do not discuss money are hiding it.
Wouldn't you kill yourself if you lost everything as I have? I will find a painless way to kill myself,,, I will.
no, i wouldn't. I'd do what I've always done, pick up the pieces and try to make shit better. chill the fuck out, get ahold of some fortitude, and man the fuck up.
you're not going to kill yourself. because if you really wanted to, it would have already happened. so face the facts, this is a cry for help. consider it answered, people on the internet actually care enough about another human life to write page-long responses to people like you. do these answers make you feel loved or something? they shouldn't. They should make you think about what a stupid fucking Idea it is to fucking kill yourself.
so now that we've cleaned that up, go get some psychiatric help for your depression.
-Gunner
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Ok so I was just wondering how you get an older guy to like you, anywere from 1 to 5 years older. Please don't give answers like you don't need anyone that much older, I am just wondering how you get someone older to like you? please help and don't say like be yourself because I know that haha(: Thanks(:
express your interest. thats all it really takes. do you understand the male psyche at all? If presented with the opportunity to date a younger chick(say for example 24 y/o male-19 y/o female), that dude would be on her like white on rice. just ring the dinner bell
-Gunner
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i am 21 and my boyfriend is 22. we have been together for 3 years almost. the first two years we were on and off and had a lot of issues. we broke up for 4-6 months and saw other people and completly stopped talking to each other. we got back together and things are going great, we have learned a lot.
i recently moved in with him 3 weeks ago. i knew he watched porn before and i didnt mind if he did. if i was away for a week id expect him to because im not around. now im around every day because we live together. we still have sex regularly. sometimes (more now to me it seems) he hasnt been ejaculating (which makes me feel like im not good enough) he use to comment everytime the sex was great or good. we use to speak "dirty" to each other before too. he still comments on my body and how much he loves it.
for example we had sex last night and this morning and then i catch him a couple hours ago just watching porn but not touching himself.
the problem is i feel like he watches a lot of porn. i dont know how to talk to him because i dont want us to have a outrageous fight and i have no clue how to express myself to him. i dont feel like im as good as i use to be. i feel like he wants other females. i dont like this feeling and i just need to know how to handle it. Thank You
perhaps he's just watching porn out of habit. either way, that is kind of fucked up. Ask him what the deal is with his little hobby. if you really want to fuck with a dude's head and get him to stop doing something, start the conversation by asking him why he watches porn. what does it do for him? then, using his responses to provide further ammunition, explain how fucking wierded out you are by his behavior. I dunno what else to say, if I had sex twice within the 12 hour period as you've described, porn would be the last thing on my mind for at least 24 hours. Perhaps your boyfriend is off in some fantasy world with all of his favorite pornstars, and whenever you guys get down, he's just disappointed that the sex doesn't live up to the lofty standards that have built up in his head. getting wrapped up in shit like that happens. If he's out in La-La land, the only way to reel him back in is to take away the negative stimulus.
just tell him all of the points you've already brought up in your question, and if he really gives a fuck about you, he'll cut the shit.
good luck
-Gunner
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i am tired of life. i get no respect from my family althought i am the family head. my wife, she doesn't want to hold my hand anymore. i take her out, nothing works. she's been exercising and losing weight. me, i'm gaining & i've been told if you arew trying to lost weight you are just trying to get a girlfriend. i do have a grand daughter and i feel she is the one that have kept me alive so long. i love her.
dude, if anything, hang around for your granddaughter's sake. the hell with the rest of them, if they want to be douchebags, fine, write them all out of the will. take her fishing, or buy her a pony, but don't fuck up her life by ending yours.
-Gunner
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I'm interested in having anal sex, what are some good douching methods? I really don't want to embarass myself in front of the guy that I'm interested in and plan on having anal sex with. I'm also currently on my period right now, should I wait until I'm off my period to douche or can I start douching now?
its called an enema, and drugstores sell them. follow the instructions on the box, and you're good to go.
-Gunner
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Okay im 19/f , 5'6 1/2 & i weight 186. I wanna lost 25 to 30 pounds before July, is it possible to so this even if i don't exercise everyday & i eat fast food a few times a week ? I'm not really big its jus really my stomach i wanna loss! Any advice & or technique that could help me reach my goal? Thanks in advance
yeah. cut out the fast food. now. you're asking the impossible if you want to keep eating that nasty trash. drink lots of water, cut out the garbage food, and you may be able to reasonably drop that much weight by july. and don't try that fad diet crap, you'll put the wieght right back on once you stop. your goal is to drop a pound or two a week. no more.
good luck
-Gunner
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I have adjusted my diet to be hopefully more nutritious as I exercise. I also started consuming small portions of African Mengos since I had heard they help you burn body fat. My problem is, I am still sore two to three days after a workout. I consume about 80 grams of protein everyday. Is the consumption of Mengo and protein counter-productive?
I concur with the dude below. when you're working out, assign certain days to specific muscle groups, ie: monday-arms &chest tuesday- cardio wednesday- Back thursday- cardio friday-shoulders &legs. your abs recover quickly, so you can work them nearly every day.
You need to increase the amount of protein you're eating every day. I dunno how big you are, but when I was working out, I'd eat about 750g of meat/fish a day, and drink a two-scoop protein shake after every workout(I'm 6'1" 185 lbs.). Start looking at your food as fuel and construction materials for your body, cut the fatty nasty garbage out, and start plussing up on proteins, fruits, and veggies.
good luck
-Gunner
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I'm a 15 year old girl and people at school have started to call me a lesbian even though I'm NOT just because I've never dated anyone and have few guy friends. It's hurtful and I don't know what to do. HELP!
grow some thicker skin. people are going to be assholes like that for the forseeable future. discover the wonderful world of witty comebacks, like "you have more three letter abbreviations on your medical record than the united states army has in its vocabulary" (in case you can't figure it out, thats saying the person in question has a lot of STDs)
good luck kiddo.
-Gunner
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31/F ptsd borderline pers, bipolar subst abuse trust abandonment mania agoraphobia panick anxiety hypertension rigors my bf/43 military vet with PTSD anger/paranoria i feel like ill die witout him or he cant manage without me, n i want/seek andresearch friends n therapy counsel advice coping how do we make one another understand our point communicate better be honest n stop fighting,bein devensive and finding ourselves happiness trust respect guilt please jus tell me how we stop crazy drama pain fear hopelessness n change our life in good ways
your boyfriend has access to a lot of resources, namely, the department of veteran's affairs. go to www.va.gov, you can get all kinds of help from the VA. though bear in mind, there may be a waiting list, as there are a lot of vets that need the same kind of help right now, including me. relationship counselling is among the services provided.
good luck
-Gunner
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