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Our homecoming was in October, and everyone was so great at grinding. Thats ALL it is! Now I couldn't grind. I literally looked like the biggest freaking idiot anyone has ever seen. I just want to be good at grinding! Because our winter formal is in only 20 days! Can someone PLEASE PLEASE help me!
Practice in the mirror alone in your room. Grinding is simply about the way you move your body, so all you need to do it figure out how to move your body in that way and then put a rhythm to it. Play songs that you think they would play at your dance to practice to. And make sure you do it in front of a mirror because then you will see yourself the way everyone else will be seeing you.
Good luck!
how can i deal with my strict mom?
*she wont let me talk on phone in my room (i have to be with her)and usually after I've talked for 10-20 minutes she has me hang up...and she doesn't even use the phone afterward!
*she wont let me buy earrings (she just says "oh well you just got some") yeah like 6 or more months ago (EVEN WITH MY OWN MONEY)
*she wont let me wear my hair how i want to (only in braids) AND she wont even let me do it myself
*when my friends are over she doesn't let us listen to music (on speakers ipod is fine though) even when u can barely hear it
what can i do?
*im female
*i cant say my age online so lets just say i'm a pre-teen
Wow, your mother does sound very strict. There are a few things that you can do to hopefully make her ease up on you.
First be a responsible and respectful young woman. Show your mom that you know right from wrong and that you have your head on right. Be respectful to her and any other elders you may be around and dont give her a hard time about things. Obey her rules.
Second, try getting her to let you do little things. For example, if you have a special event coming up, try getting her do let you wear your hair a different way than braids. For example if you have a school dance in a few weeks, tell her that you would really like it if she would consider letting you wear your hair a different way. Put the idea in her head a few weeks in advance so she has some time to think about it and if she says no, dont argue. But when you approach her with it, say it in a very nice and respectful manner.
Third, you can just come right out and talk to her about it. But make sure you pick the right time to do it and again be respectful. If you dont see her reasoning for not letting you do certain things, ask her. Try to see her point of view because you cant change her point of view until you understand it.
I hope I helped and good luck!
Is it embarrassing for a woman to wear maternity clothing when they are not pregnant? I've seen some really cute maternity clothing that I would love to wear but.. I am not pregnant.
Any advice would be awesome!
Go for it. Who is gonna know its maternity clothing??? And even if they do, who cares. As long as you feel good thats all that matters.
Sorry, this may be a bit long but I would REALLY appreciate someone's help. Preferrably a girl who has/had the same problem and found an effective way to deal with it, or a guy who is like my boyfriend.
Alright, so my boyfriend, let's call him Larry.
Well, me and larry have been together for about 8 months and he is seriously my first love. I haven't had very many boyfriends and if I have, they never lasted long at ALL. The most was like, 2 and a half months.
Me and Larry started out as best friends and it kinda naturally escalated into something more. So I figured it was fate? But now, I don't know. I love him with ALL of my heart. He's the only boy I ever want to be with, honestly. I'm 17, he's 18.
I lost my virginity to him about 6 months ago and ever since then, it seems like he changed. I don't think it's necessarily that "that's all he wanted from me" because I know most guys are like that, but honestly, I don't think that's it. I think it's more of a comfort issue. He stopped doing all the things he used to do to make me happy and now, it seems like I'm ALWAYS mad at him and arguing with him or I'm crying. And sometimes, it's over things that aren't even a big deal. I just don't know. I have so much anger because I want him to change back to the way he was when he was trying to impress me and I rlly liked him then. I still like him. I feel stronger about him than ever. I just want things to go back to how they used to be. Like, I know he won't be hesitant to kiss me like he used to be cause we're naturally past that in our relationship but even little stuff like writing me random text messages letting me know how important I am to him or kissing me like he used to. Everytime we kiss, he kisses me like one kisses their GRANDMA. It's quick and short. But 8 months ago, I got butterflies in my stomach and I felt like I was in a movie! It was great.
I just need to know what to do. I feel like he knows I won't ever break up with him. Like he HAS me and I'll never leave because everytime I say I'm gonna break up with him, I chicken out. I rlly don't want to. I just wanna teach him a lesson and make him want to change back. He says he's trying but I don't know if he rlly is. Oh, and I have a jealousy problem. Considering he was MY first but I was his 15th. It hurts me when he talks to those girls, and for the most part he doesn't but when he does, I get really upset and start bawling my eyes out. Even if nothing is going on. UGH. Please help me somebody. Thank you so much if you actually read through this whole thing. I appreciate your time and if you make an effort to answer all my questions, I'd be greatly appreciative.
Thanks.
I think alot of people experience this problem. It always seems like in the beginning of relationships everything is perfect and like a fairy tale. But one both people get comfortable things usually change. Chances are, things wont go back to the way they used to be. Its just the affect time has on a relationship.
I have been in my current relationship for 2 years now. And to this day, I still long for the way things were in the beginning. I want those butterflies and the feeling that you are the most important thing to that person and all of the excitement. My significant other and I have talked about it many times. And as hard as we try to make it go back to that, we just cant. You just get used to one another and actually start to take one another for granted.
The best advice I can give you is try your best to express your feelings to your boyfriend. If you dont feel like you could get it all out face to face, then write him a letter. But tell him exactly how your feeling and how you want things to be. Let him know that you understand that things cant be exactly the way they were in the beginning but you would like you would like to feel a little more love and chemistry. Also make sure you let him know how you feel about him and let him know that you are going to try as well. If I were you I would also tell him about your jealousy, because maybe he doesnt realize how it makes you feel. But whether your talking face to face or writing to him, do it with love. You cant make him feel like your coming at him or complaining.
If that doesnt work, then you have a decision to make. You can either settle for what you have with him, or if you are unhappy, break it off. Its not an easy decision to make but you just have to think about yourself and your own happiness and decide whats best for you.
I hope I helped and I wish you the best of luck.
Hi there
I'm going to start seeing a psyciatrist. In the past four months my life has been falling apart through multiple horrible ecvents. I don't want to get in detail about it, but basically I'm depressed. Ive started taking Xanax because my dad has them (he let's me don't worry)... They're the only way I can stop myself from crying at night and help me fall asleep. I also hurt physically all the time , like someones been punching me. For this, ive been taking oxycodeine. This I got from my friends, but I'm careful and only use whatsnecessary. So when I start going to see the psychiatrist, what should I say to him so that he'll give me a prescription to both? Please, don't say there are other ways bc I needthis help at this time in my life. Thanks
Be %100 honest with the psychiatrist. You shouldnt just say things so that he'll give you the prescriptions that you want because those prescriptions might not be what you need. There may be other prescriptions that would work better for you or suit your needs better. If your goal in going to a psychiatrist is to get help and feel better than you need to be honest with him and tell him how your feeling and everything so he can give you what you need to help you.
I'm 18/f and just started college. I made these great friends, but they kept talking to me about my bad habit of hooking up with guys a lot. They thought it was annoying when I would stress over a guy not talking to me the next day. I can't stop hooking up with guys and now they said that they can't be friends with me cause I act too slutty. I don't feel like I'm that slutty because I only had sex with a few of the guys, but how can I change my habit so that they will be friends with me again?
Maybe instead of changing who you are so your friends will like you, you should find new friends who like you for who you are.
Think about it. Dont you want friends who are there no matter what are stay by your side. Friends that will tell you that your a great person but will also tell you when your being stupid. Friends that accept you no matter what. Maybe its just me but I would rather that instead of trying to be who my friends want me to be so that they will remain friends with me.
Honestly, your habit of hooking is no reason for them not to be friends with you. Maybe they are worried you will ruin theyre reputation or make them look bad. But thats just selfish. Maybe they think that your hoooking up so much is a risk to you. But if that was the case, they would talk to you about it if they were real friends. They are not real friends. And every one deserves a few good true friends.
If you dont want to hook up anymore because YOU dont want to be like that, then good for you. But dont do it just because your friends wont be friends with you if you dont stop.
I'm doing a project for college on romantic relationships and their characteristics. As part of it, I'd like to ask the following question: Do you and your significent other have a song? If so, what is it and why is it important to you both?
Thank you so much, this will be really helpful.
I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years now and our song is Akon- Dont Matter. That song came out right around the time we started dating and it made both of us think about each other. It also applies to us because we are both females so it is a lesbian relationship and for me it kinda makes me think about that because the lyrics are "No body wanna see us together, but it dont matter, no... Cause I got you babe" and being that gay relationships are not totally accepted yet it kinda makes me feel like it applies to us even more.
i'm 16.
i've been dating this guy for almost 6 months and i know im in love with him. the thing is, i feel like i can't give him any pleasure without the chances of getting pregnant. if i were to get pregnant my life would pretty much be over. my parents are hardcore catholics and believe in pro-life (as do i) and if i asked for birth control they'd probably flip on me. i don't want to have sex for a long time down the road, but just things like hand job and fingering because im so afraid of getting pregnant...i know theres a really small chance, but its still a chance...is their anything at all i can do to make a 0% chance of pregnancy?
oh and btw: can you get pregnant dry humping? like can sperm swim through clothing? or wet clothing?
There are many things you can do with no chance of getting pregnant. For example, dry humping, oral sex, anal sex, hand jobs (to be on the safe side, dont touch your "area" until you have washed your hands), he can finger you (but again to be on the safe side, he shouldnt touch his penis before touching you). And really if would be very difficult to get pregnant by hand jobs or fingering but there is a very very slight possibility so Im telling you to use those precautions since you do not want any type of risk what so ever. Hope I helped!
My uncle always tires to feed my chihuahua table scraps. i TELL him over and over that it's bad for him because he is so small. Give me some scientific explanation as to why he should not feed my 12 week old puppy..... PLEASE also I already know that it rots their teeth, can make them overweight, and is an unbalanced diet. Is their any other reason why, and can I get a website that agrees (not required).
My dog got very sick from eating table scraps. We always gave him table food and when he was about 10 yrs old he got very sick and was in the hospial for days. The vet said it was from eating table food. It did something to his kidneys. Im sorry I cant remember exactly what it did to his kidneys but he still has kidney problems to this day. He canbarely hold his pee anymore. So I would definately not suggest giving a chihuahua table food. They are dogs theyre not meant to eat human food.
tips on getting this girl!
ok, first of all, I'm a girl too but you don't have to be gay to give me advice! anyone who knows anything about girls and flirting and all that please help me! So I'm a junior and there is a girl who I hang out with a lot lately who's a sophomore. She's a lesbian but has been single for a while. I'm not openly gay but I've always liked girls and been with a few, but NO one knows I'm gay. The other night we hung out at school alone for the first time and we just talked forever and now she knows I'm gay, and I really like this girl but I don't know if she likes me back? How can I tell?
She says that she had no idea I was gay, but before I came out to her she asked me all of these questions about whether I had a boyfriend and stuff. She kept giving me goofy looks after that and smiling whenever she saw me and she's also very touchy feely. Since we had that one long conversation she has linked arms with me all the time and wrapped her arms around my neck and then we were watching a school concert in the dark and there was no room on the bleachers and she asked if she could sit on my lap and I said sure and the whole time she would lean back on me or would spell out words on my arm while i spelled words on her back.
ok. am I reading way too much into this or might this girl like me? she is also beautiful by the way, I'm not ugly or anything, but I'm not gorgeous like her.
What should I do? now we're on winter break and I'm not going to see her for a while. should I try to talk to her over break or just wait for school?
help!
Ok so Im 20/ female and Im gay too and I came out a little over 2 yrs ago. I definately think that she is flirting with you. FLIRT BACK!!! Do the things that she does back to her. When you see her smile. But not like a smile that you would smile at a friend. A flirty smile. Be touchy feely with her. Your a girl too so think about what you like when someone if flirting with you. It sounds like shes really putting herself out there with asking to sit on your lap and writing words on your arms and everything. Put yourself out there too. And the writing words on each other thing would be a good way to put it out there that you like here. Next time you guys are doing it, tell her to figure out what your writing and keep writing it till she does. It would be really sweet if what you spelled out was your beautiful. Thats a way to flatter her and tell her you like her without just saying I like you. Just carry yourself with confidence and you will be fine. Good Luck with everything!!
I have this really good guy friend that I kind of like and he kind of likes me. We've dated before, when we went to the same school, but it was a little awkward. So, we've pretty much been on and off on the whole "liking each other" thing. Now he goes to a different school and we live like a town away, but it's not very far. He recently got texting and we've been texting for about a month or two. Well, we randomly stopped texting about two weeks ago. I'm not sure why, things just got really busy at school so I was unable to text him for a couple weeks. Now, this morning I wake up to a text to him that said "I love you". (I forgot to add, he doesn't take that phrase lightly). So I texted him back "what?" just in case he sent it to the wrong person. After a while, he sent back the same thing and, I swear, my heart jumped out of my chest. I didn't know what to say so I just said "really?" and he didn't reply for a LONG time. Finally, he said "Not in a serious way. But yeah". I have NO idea what he meant by that... eventually, we got off that topic, but later on in our conversation, I asked him why he sent it so randomly. Again, after a long time, he said "I don't know, I just wanted to talk to you." Then he said "I want to kiss you really bad for some reason". I am SO confused right now. Please decipher? Thanks so much! (I rate)
I am 20/female and this same kind of thing happened to me with my girlfriend before we started dating. Me and her talked and texted all the time and everything but I didnt wanna go out with her yet because I wasnt sure what I wanted. One day we were texting she she texted me and told me she lovedd me. I said really back just like you and she replied saying "I do love you. Im not like in love with you or anything like that but I love the person you are". That was kind of a let down for me because when someone texts you that they love you it makes your heart skip a beat ya know? But anyway a little while after we started going out and after we were together for a while we were talking about back then and everything and she confessed to me that she did really mean that she was in love with me but after she sent it she was afraid it would have creeped me out so that why she said that she loves the person I am but shes not in love with me. So maybe your guy did the same thing? Even if not him just texting that to you is a big step and he obviously has some pretty serious feelings for you. I say keep talking to him and getting closer with him if your into him. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 years together and now have an apartment together. Maybe the same will happen for you! Good Luck sweetie!
so i'm getting my nose pierced this friday (december 19th) and i was wondering on a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most painful, what is it? also, i have my ears, cartalidge, lower cartalidge and belly button done, if you have any of these pierced can you compare the pain to a nose piercing. thanks!
I have my ears, cartlidge, belly button, tongue, tragus, and nose pierced. And I do think that the nose was the worst to be honest. I think its just cause its such a sensitive area but once the needle goes the the pain automatically goes away. The healing process is a little long. It took 6 months for mine to heal and it wasnt even infected or anything. And it killlsss when you lik bump it or somehting and its not healed yet. Mine is healed now so its fine I can take it out and put it back in and it doesnt hurt a bit. But like I said i think its because its such a sensitive area. And my eyes teared a little when I got it done but the lady said that happens to pretty much everyone because of the area. Hope I helped.
P.S- I do think that it was the most painful out of all my piercings but it definately wasnt unbearable or anything. I would rate it a 6.
What do you think is the oldest a 16 year old could/should date?
No details, other than it would be legal. I just want to gain opinions on this.
I think 18 or at the absolute max 19.
By the way im 20/female.
I want to get a short quote by my hero Henry Rollins tattooed on me. He is my absolute idol and has been for 5+ years, so don't bash it. lol. I was thinking either "I Don't want to pass through life like a smooth plane ride", "When you start to doubt yourself, the real world will eat you alive", or "Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Learn from it and move on."
I'd like to find more super-short quotes by him...(hint!)
But, since I'm set on this, I need suggestions of where I should get this. I already have a tat across my upper back, by my shoulder blades, and I don't want a tramp stamp. Suggestions?!?
Thanks
I think that quote tattoos look good on the upper thigh. And you could either do it on the front of the thigh or the side. I also like the rib cage like the other girl said and you could do it going across or doing down your side. The foot is nice but I dont know those quotes seem a little to long to fit on your foot. Or you could even go kind of on your side where like love handles will be. Thats cute too.
I am 24 years old and a male and my Fiance is 24 yrs old and a female. December 6 at 10:45 pm my fiance and i were laying in bed about to go to sleep when her cousins came knocking on the door. Now to help you understand. Her family has been trying to get her to leave me for some time now and they pop up every now and then. Well i begged Erica (my Fiance) not to go out there and put me through this...knowing that it was only a matter of time before she would give into them. Well i was on my knees begging and she walked up to me gave me a hug and told me that she loved me and that they were just worried about her and to give her 5 or 10 min and she would be back inside. Well that wasnt the case. She ended up leaving me. And the next day when i tried to email her. She just read the email and then blocked and deleted me. She never even told me that it was over or goodbye...what should i do and expect...please help. I havent been able to sleep, eat or stop thinking about how this is all my fault.
I do not know the whole situation because Im not there but it seems to me that maybe her family sees you as a threat to her well being and they are worried about her safety.
Now I understand that you may not have been violent, and that is a good thing. But abuse isnt always violent. Now you say you have a temper and do not always say the nicest things. Do you just get irritable on occasion and say some things you dont mean? Or are you yelling over the smallest things very often and putting her down?? Just saying that you have a little bit of a temper and dont always say the nicest things doesnt give me enough information to tell you if its you or not.
But what I can tell you is if you can see that you have a temper and dont always say the nicest things, then do something about it. It is one of the worst feelings in the world to have someone yelling at you constantly and putting you down. I know from experience.
Loving someone more than the air you breathe isnt always enough. There also has to be respect, honesty, equality, etc. There are people in the world that love their significant others more than the air they breathe but also beat the crap out of them day in and day out. See what Im saying?
You need to make her feel respected. Make her feel like she is worth it. Show her that you would do anything in the world to keep her by your side. And obviously her family means something to her so it wouldnt be a bad idea to show them as well.
Now im not saying its your fault. Im just trying to be honest and give my opinion. Like I said Im not in your relationship so I dont know the whole story. But you sound like you really want her in your life. And if thats the case then take a good look in the mirror and think about your temper and the things that you say to her when your angry and think about how that might make her feel.
I wish you guys the best and I hope everything works out. Happy Holdays.
ok this might sound kinda odd, but im a little confused about my orientation.
like. im homophobic, and my friends are always kidding around and saying that im just "scared of what i really am" but i know they are just kidding around.
but the other day i started thinking and my boyfriend and i have sex and stuff but we always keep the covers over us, and i dont really wanna see his penis. ive never seen one and it just gives me a weird gut feeling if i see one. like, you know the feeling you get when you're nervous? well, a little like that, with a side of nausea.
i hate being like this because i really dont wanna be gay and lesbians scare me and i love my boyfriend to death but im just so confused!!
HELP!!!
I would just really like to know why lesbians scare you???
I am bisexual and I have been with my girlfriend for the past 2 yrs. Theres nothing wrong with being bi, gay or a lesbian so why do we scare you?
So today my boyfriend was saying something about only 2 girls have ever seen him naked, one of them being me. Is it safe to assume that he has only slept with one other person than? thanks
I wouldnt assume anything because of the fact that you dont have to be naked to have sex with someone and also it could be dark so even if you are naked that doesnt mean the other person will see you necessarily.
I would ask him if I were you. You should never make assumptions.
I am a married woman and i am also bisexual, my husband and I have a open relationship.
I met this woman a year ago I was so attracted to her and we started having sex shortly after. We used to meet at my home at least twice a month to have sex, every day she would send me messages saying have a wonderfull day or I miss you very much. I also spend money on her doing little things such as putting gas in her car paying her cell phone bill ect.
Now I noticed that she barely calls me and when I do call her she tells me some excuse like I am busy working perhaps next time.
What really bugs me is that she does not want to have a conversation as to what the problem is, she says she does not have to explain me anything.
It is very difficult to communicate with her. I told her that she is selffish and only thinks of herself and that she is only using me.
She became very angry and is now saying that she does not want to have sex anymore with me. I have tried to apoligize to her by calling her but she just does not care to listen I even went to her home to apologize and she would not let me in to talk about the situation. She just said go home and looked threw the window and said I don't want to see your face.
That really made me feel really bad and I went home.
I told my husband about the way she treated me. He said she was never your friend to start with she only wanted to have sex in exchange for something and made me believe that she is really me friend. I really liked her alot and I really thought that we could have sat down and talked about it but she does not communicate at all.
It seems to me that whatever you guys possible had is now over and you have no choice but to move on.
She may have been using you, she may not have been. But either way, the way she is treating you does not constitute as someone who cares about you or your feelings. I think that as much as it may hurt, you should cut your losses now.
Concentrate on the people that you have in your life that do love you. Your husband, your family, your friends. You do not need someone in your life that is taking your money by letting you pay for things, but then treating you like dirt.
so i heard this song awhile ago, i dont remember any of the words... but its this guy singing it and its a really relaxing song and then there's this girl moaning at the end.... if anyone knows what im talking about then please tell me what its called and who its by
thanks :)
My guess Meatloaf "Paradise By The Dashboard Light". Its the only 80's song I can think of with a girl moaning at the end. Hope I helped!
16/f
I've never even considered the thought of me being bisexual, much less making it a formal thing, but recently I've had a change of heart. I'm excited for college suddenly [which is in a couple of months], only because I have hopes that people will be more open there. I don't exactly know how I'm gonna go about it, but I wanna date a girl. I guess I got jealous when I saw how easily Lindsay Lohan just magically SWITCHED. I never knew it was that easy. I don't know why, but it completely caught me by surprise. For some reason, I want a sexy, Barbie doll, girly girl [like me =)] not a crossdresser or dike, or whatever they're called. I just think that looks better. I've always thought I should've been born a man; wished it actually... The thought of it excites me almost more than dating a guy, cause I guess that's something I've never had before. I wouldn't dare date anyone around here cause I don't really want anyone knowing. My question is, is there something wrong with me? Is it just a passing fantasy, or am I bisexual? Most importantly, how do I do it? I mean, I can't just go up to some random beautiful girl and ask if they're lesbian... Any inputs would be really appreciated [like, how you met YOUR girl, or one-time stuff] thanks in advance!
let me tell you my story. i am a 20 yr old female and my whole life i dated guys. i always wondered about girls and would take notice to the lesbians at school (some of them were my friends) and i would fantasize sometimes about being with them. i have been curious and kind of attracted to girls my whole life but i never really thought i would do anything about it. until one day this girl started at my job and i knew her but i hadnt talked to her in a long time. she was gay and she would flirt w/ me and we started hanging out. i fell for her and we went out for about a month. i have been with girls ever since then and i have been with my current girlfriend for the past 2 yrs.
i know its hard when none of your friends are bi or you dont want people in your town to know. especially if your not sure. my advice to you is if there are any bisexual girls or lesbians in your town try to become friends with them. once you become friends with one of them you meet so many more because its like a big circle. all of my friends are either bisexual or lesbians now and thats because my straight friends werent "comfortable" with me being with girls.
also if there is gay clubs anywhere near you, try going to one. there are 2 that i go to and i always have an amazing time. people always think that they are like flashy clubs where people are all half naked and theres drag queens running around everywhere. thats not how it is. its like a regular club. there is even some straight boyfriends and girlfriends there.
but just try to get out there and expirament. just because you wanna date a couple girls and try it out does not put a permanent lesbian sign on your forehead. i like girls and im with a girl but i might be with a guy again someday. the way i look at it is i will give anyone a chance. male or female. if you treat me right and make me happy i dont care what you are.
in your question you mentioned how people met their girls. i already said that my first girlfriend was a girl i was friends with before that started working with me. the next girl was actually the ex girlfriend of the girl in with now, who i have been friends with since my senior year of high school.
i hope i helped in someway and if you need anyone to talk to i can give you my email.
good luck!