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was she ever my friend?
I am a married woman and i am also bisexual, my husband and I have a open relationship.
I met this woman a year ago I was so attracted to her and we started having sex shortly after. We used to meet at my home at least twice a month to have sex, every day she would send me messages saying have a wonderfull day or I miss you very much. I also spend money on her doing little things such as putting gas in her car paying her cell phone bill ect.
Now I noticed that she barely calls me and when I do call her she tells me some excuse like I am busy working perhaps next time.
What really bugs me is that she does not want to have a conversation as to what the problem is, she says she does not have to explain me anything.
It is very difficult to communicate with her. I told her that she is selffish and only thinks of herself and that she is only using me.
She became very angry and is now saying that she does not want to have sex anymore with me. I have tried to apoligize to her by calling her but she just does not care to listen I even went to her home to apologize and she would not let me in to talk about the situation. She just said go home and looked threw the window and said I don't want to see your face.
That really made me feel really bad and I went home.
I told my husband about the way she treated me. He said she was never your friend to start with she only wanted to have sex in exchange for something and made me believe that she is really me friend. I really liked her alot and I really thought that we could have sat down and talked about it but she does not communicate at all.
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It seems to me that whatever you guys possible had is now over and you have no choice but to move on.
She may have been using you, she may not have been. But either way, the way she is treating you does not constitute as someone who cares about you or your feelings. I think that as much as it may hurt, you should cut your losses now.
Concentrate on the people that you have in your life that do love you. Your husband, your family, your friends. You do not need someone in your life that is taking your money by letting you pay for things, but then treating you like dirt.
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I don't think she was ever your friend she used you. I think I'm Bi How were you sure you were by what are the signs. My mom has things against bi people and if im bi she kick me out but how'd you no
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To assume she was never your friend, or that she simply wanted something from you is not very fair.
Unforcunately, I'm inclined to agree with this woman: She doesn't owe you an explination, and she doesn't need to communicate if she doesn't want too. She's made herself very clear. Whatever the arrangement between you two was, it stopped working for her. Now she is upset and angry. Maybe she would be less upset if the two of you talked it out, but if she doesn't want too, then she doesn't want too.
That is part of the trouble with 'secondary' relationships in an open relationship: your partner might not realize it's a relationship at all, so they don't feel the same obligations to communicate or explain that they might otherwise feel.
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