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My Fiance let her family talk her into leaving me.
I am 24 years old and a male and my Fiance is 24 yrs old and a female. December 6 at 10:45 pm my fiance and i were laying in bed about to go to sleep when her cousins came knocking on the door. Now to help you understand. Her family has been trying to get her to leave me for some time now and they pop up every now and then. Well i begged Erica (my Fiance) not to go out there and put me through this...knowing that it was only a matter of time before she would give into them. Well i was on my knees begging and she walked up to me gave me a hug and told me that she loved me and that they were just worried about her and to give her 5 or 10 min and she would be back inside. Well that wasnt the case. She ended up leaving me. And the next day when i tried to email her. She just read the email and then blocked and deleted me. She never even told me that it was over or goodbye...what should i do and expect...please help. I havent been able to sleep, eat or stop thinking about how this is all my fault.
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well give her time, but you have to let her know that if her family continues persuading her into things you're not sticking around.
females tend to trust family members and are easily persuading into thinking whatever the person saying is right. Mind you, i am a female, so i know how these things work
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You certainly won't like my answer but
I hope you take it to heart.
Do not marry this girl. Not right now anyway.
My guess is she will not be back, but if she
does you need to think seriously about weather
or not you want to put up with this drama for
the rest of your life. Because this is what
you will probably be doing.
If a woman loves a man, parents, friends,
whoever, are not going to talk her into
leaving him for any reason. She doesn't
feel that way. She either has doubts or
she doesn't feel the same for you that
you feel for her.
I feel bad for you. I really do. But I
can't just give you a feel good answer.
Work on you temper, that can be a
relationship killer all by itself.
If at 24 you are looking for a life partner,
you may turn old waiting for this one. It
might be time to look for someone who loves
you like you love them. Everyone deserves that.
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I do not know the whole situation because Im not there but it seems to me that maybe her family sees you as a threat to her well being and they are worried about her safety.
Now I understand that you may not have been violent, and that is a good thing. But abuse isnt always violent. Now you say you have a temper and do not always say the nicest things. Do you just get irritable on occasion and say some things you dont mean? Or are you yelling over the smallest things very often and putting her down?? Just saying that you have a little bit of a temper and dont always say the nicest things doesnt give me enough information to tell you if its you or not.
But what I can tell you is if you can see that you have a temper and dont always say the nicest things, then do something about it. It is one of the worst feelings in the world to have someone yelling at you constantly and putting you down. I know from experience.
Loving someone more than the air you breathe isnt always enough. There also has to be respect, honesty, equality, etc. There are people in the world that love their significant others more than the air they breathe but also beat the crap out of them day in and day out. See what Im saying?
You need to make her feel respected. Make her feel like she is worth it. Show her that you would do anything in the world to keep her by your side. And obviously her family means something to her so it wouldnt be a bad idea to show them as well.
Now im not saying its your fault. Im just trying to be honest and give my opinion. Like I said Im not in your relationship so I dont know the whole story. But you sound like you really want her in your life. And if thats the case then take a good look in the mirror and think about your temper and the things that you say to her when your angry and think about how that might make her feel.
I wish you guys the best and I hope everything works out. Happy Holdays.
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I'm sorry to hear about that and i feel for you. I really doubt it's your fault considering it seems like you really love her, and she left you because her family put thoughts into her mind which wasn't true(if u didnt do anything). I understand how you're stressed out and i feel so bad, but i think if you wanna figure out what they said and why she left you, talk to a source. A mutual one, like a friend that liked both of you, or a friend from her work.
u obviously love her and if she could get persuaded like that so easily she shouldn't be worth it. but you're the judge of that.
hope you feel better and hope u find the right way out of this!
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I think you should try to either call one of close friends if you can't get in contact with you fiance, because they might be able to tell you why she left you. Your fiance's family might have told her something made up about you like you cheate on her or something so that could be why. Mabye you sould try talking to her family as well to see why they hate you so much and what they told her that made her leave you.
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