One word-Comunication
Tell her how you feel, if she doesn't understand, use a little more force...not as in punch her or something, but kind of yell or something like that. The first time you talk to her, though, say it nicely, don't like scream. Explain what you just explained on here. She should understand if she is your friend. Even though you spend a lot of time with her, she probably thinks that if she doesn't do that that you won't hang with her as much. Ask her why she does that, then once she tells you, compromise with her and dicide with something that both of you can do together every other weekend or something, and then your boyfriend gets the other weekend, or something like that... I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks.

You know, you are doing the oposite of what you should be doing...you should be asking what's wrong with all of the boys. Nothing is wrong with you. You are who you are, and if they don't like it they can stuff it. You shouldn't need to change to suit someone else's thoughts and feelings. Be yourself, and that Mr.Right will find you when the time is right. Don't ever think that anything is wrong. Besides, maybe a lot of the guys do like you and are just too scared to ask you out, ever thought of that? Don't let it get to your head. I hope that I helped and remember,my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks

Well, for one...you broke up with him, you still love him, he still loves you, and he said that you will be together soon...What is the question? It sounds like you have this one all under controll. If you are worried about the looking at other guys thing, don't. It is a reflex that will not go away. No matter who you are with. All girls (or guys) look at someone else when they are in a relationship, it isn't like you are cheating on him by looking at them! Don't let your conceince get too full of itself. Don't worry, if you two are ment for eachother, it will all work out! I hope I helped (with whatever problem you had) and if I didn't tell me! You should remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

Okay, there sounds like there is a problem here. Not just the one you are asking about but something else...why do you still love him...just wondering. I mean he lied to you, left you for someone else, not to mension she was your friend...anyway. I think that you shouldn't go after him. Your heart is telling you that you still love him, but chances are that you really don't. Your heart is in shock, and I mean it litteraly. You don't know what to do, so your heart thinks that maybe if you get back together with him that everything will be okay, but your heart is leying! You need to take some time to think about this. He just wants to be friends;1 strike, He lies to you; strike 2, and then he goes for your friend; strike #3, I say he's out! He lost the game, gall. He doesn't deserve another chance on the plate, he isn't a very good player. Strike that, he is a player!Ha! Just give it a little time, and then move on. You will find another guy, but don't let him break your heart again, trust me! I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks.

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Your heart is just week from the shock, let it heal before you go and get it torn up again. Your heart won't make you wait forever, but give it some slack, it is the most important organ in your body! Ha!

Perinoia runs my family...so you are being pariniod, but everyone gets pariniod. I am pariniod about things too. Like any room I go into I close the door. I can't help it, I freak when the door isn't closed, and the wierd thing is...I'm closterphobic, so it sucks. When I sleep, the door to my room has to be closed. I get pariniod about the same things you do. I used to have a stalker though, so...ya. But, I don't think that it is anything that you should worry about.But if you want to, talk to someone about it, like your parents or something..I wouldn't worry about it, but that is me. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks.

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If you think you are pariniod, you haven't seen my grandma. The other day she made my mom go to the store for a little cap for the tire of her car. You know the thing that you put the air in the tire? Ya! The whole reason was because she was afraid that someone would walk by and let the air out of her tire. Ya, she is waked...anyway, just thought that I would show you that you aren't crazy!

I have been through that like twice. I think that I have found that it is just easyer to stay with the "joe". My "Joe" turned out okay. If you dump Joe and go for "Bob" then you will have to get over Joe (wich is like almost imposible) and then you have to get into being with Bob. Not only that but there is the dumping and the asking out, and then a lot of other things. This way, you stay with Joe and you don't break his heart, but instead of just saying no to Bob, tell him that you are in a relasionship right now, but if he wants to wait that you two could try it if you and Joe breaks up...that is what I should have done...but I made the wrong decision the first time. I did what I just told you not too. It didn't work too well...anyway...I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

You know, it isn't that uncommon for people to be a little stage fright. I was, but now I am in a musical. I used to be afraid. I think that one of the reasons that you are afraid (and this is just a guess)is that you don't know if they will like you. Well, that aint true! If you like how you sing, then they will too. But one tip is to not try too hard. Try hard, definately, but if you try to hard your vice will crack, or you will go off tune, or forgett the words or something. All I'm saying is take your time. they will see in time that you are a great singer. Believe in yourself, that is all that matters. Ya, it helps when there are others there behind you, but who needs them? If you are as great as you say you are, keep trying, and maybe sing to yourself in front of the mirror. Sing into the brush every once and a while. maybe turn the radio on high and sing with it. It doesn't matter. Just keep trying, and i can almost garentee that they will love ya! good luck!
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I have the same problem. Let's see if I can think of how to help you.... Why don't you E-mail me and then we can talk about it more openly...if you don't want to then just ask the question again with more details. My E-mail is on my advice clumn page. E-mail me please! I would really like to talk to you about this!

I think that you should tell him that he is really starting to bug you and that you don't like it anymore. If he doesn't listen then tell his girlfriend (if you know eachother) and get her to talk to him. You could try avioding him or screaming at him. Other then that, I don't know what to tell you, you didn't really give me much detail. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

There is a series called Love Stories and they are really good. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

You're in love. sorry, but that is the truth. I don't know what else to tell you, but you are in love and your heart wants him back. I think that you should just get over him, he went to jail! You can find someone that is better! I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Why don't you talk to your brother about it? He should understand, tell him that you don't want to look like a dork, but you don't have anything to do. Ask him if you can hang out with his friends, or just ignore them, besides, who cares what they think. He probably just said that to het your atention or your bro's. But if you really don't want to be there, go for a walk, or hang at the park. I wouldn't want to be alone, but hey, if you don't want to hang with your bro, and his friends, it is your choice. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

No, you should never give up, please don't, because if you do, then you won't be happy, but don't nesisairly persue it either. Just stay where you are...

either, you let him love her and you get over it, or you try and never succeed. I hate to sound mean, but you can't make a guy like you! I wish you could, Heck, every girl wishes you could, but it just doesn't work that way! If you don't get over it then you will suffer and lose a lot of chances with other guys. Also, if you do try to get him to like you, 1 it pretty much won't work and 2 it will probably make him more stand offish. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but you can if you want to! Thanks!

You could play videogames, excercise, go for a jog, take a shower. Anything that gets your sences in action. You might not want to read or do something like that because that could just make you more tired. If you keep moving, you will wake up. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

You should talk to your parents and give them the details and let them decide what to do about it...you don't need to be freaking over it, it is there kind of "grown up" thing! I hope that I helped, and remember that my inox is always open. You don't have to rate, but you can if you want to. Thanks!

There is two things that you can do. First, you can become his friend, and hang out with him, but he won't necicarilly think that that is a good idea. So, you could tell him that he was smothering you and that you miss him, but that if he changed, maybe you could try it again. He might not think that is a good Idea either, but it is worth a try. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice! Thanks~

Who do you love the most? When in doubt, follow your heart! I would go for the one that didn't lie to you , but you don't even have to pick one of them. I can't tell you what to do. I hope that I helped and remember that my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice!Thanks!

1. tell the truth, if they don't like it, they can get over it. Like at my dad's funeral, I just said "I miss him, but I'm fine." with a smile on my face...like a huge grin. that was the truth. I never really cried.
2. just nod and smile and then quickly retreat, unsuspiciosly of coarse!
3.What you need to understand is that it is okay to cry and that if you don't it is okay also. There is no reason to feel sorry or guilty for acting any different way from anyone else. Everyone reacts in their own way, it isn't a crime to smile at a funeral.
4.Since you didn't really know them as like seeing them everyday, just remember what you can, and leave if you can't stand the sitting around.(I just mean like at the after get-togethers, and I don't mean like leave imedeately, I mean like stay for like a little while and talk to a few people and then leave if you are able to.)
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I would try to get the proof for yourself. Some people that are jeleous or just really want the boy, or just hate him would say that. Like if your friend like secretly likes him then they would say that maybe to get him, but I kind of would like skip that option if they are like your best friends. Maybe they actually know something, you never know! But if they don't have true proof, then don't dump him quite yet...but don't like scream at your friends for even saying that because if it turns out that they are right, you will feel horibble! If he has done it before that is already a clue that he might be cheating on you or that there is a posibility. He might have changed, so give him a chance. You should ask him, he will give you the excuse that it isn't true and that you shouldn't believe what they say, but you should tell him that you need to know, and that you have been hearing it from your friends. If he gets angrey at you then there is a clue that it is one of the extremes. That means that either he is cheating on you big time or he deffinately isn't and he is very offended that you would even ask that question. Also talk to his friends (try the ones you know well, so that it isn't awkward) and talk to them about it. You could even,(if you don't feel weird about going behind his back, or if it is getting desperate.)three-way your boyfriend without his knowing and have his friend(s) talk to him about it on the phone. If your boyfriend is a showoff then he should brag about it or you!haha! Remember that he "supposedly" loves you so give him some slack unless you find some evidance. If you do find something that pionts toward the fact that he is cheating on you, then ask him about it and give him a chance to explain. Don't explode on him, becuase you could be wrong. I hope that I helped, and remeber that my inbox is always open.

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sorry that this is so long! haha!

Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!

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