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So I recently had protected sex with my boyfriend. Condom and all. I'm not on birth control. I have a feeling that there was a hole in the condom but we didn't notice. I may just be paranoid but I'm not quite sure. We had sex two days after my period ended. Although strangely enough, my last period almost lasted two weeks. It's been 8 days since then. Should I be concerned? Should I take a pregnancy test? If so, when?

Thank you!

you should be alright but i would take one just incase. its better to be 100% sure that you're not.

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i feel me and my bf just have a physical reletionship and nothing more.. i dont think either of us find the other physically attractive either .. i dont get it.
but he is a great bf.. we just have nothing to talk about.

its not really healthy for the relationship if its only physical. what makes you have nothing to talk about? you need to be able to talk to each other if you want the relationship to go anywhere.

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my boyfriend wants to get in a bed with me what do i say/

say what you think?

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my bf touches bites on and kisses my ears..and i reallllllly like it. normal or weird? anyone else have like it too?

its super common, not really a fetish. i have it too.

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Yes, I know, I'm a facebook stalker. I usually stalk one guy in particular though...I feel kind of guilty about it because I know all this unnecessary information about him and we aren't exactly close. Also, I don't know how this will affect any future friendship/relationship that we may have. Sometimes I actually talk to him on facebook, but I stalk him more often than I talk to him. I heard him say that people have better things to do than stalk him (in a different context in no way directed towards me) and that just made me think "crap.I'm pathetic?"

Should I be feeling badly about this. DO YOU facebook stalk? Exactly how common is this phenomena?

haha yes you're not the only one. people don't like to admit it though obviously because they don't want to come off as a creepy and stalker. but honestly it's not really stalking because people are aware that what they're putting on facebook is public.

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

wow that's really degrading. tell him that you found out from a friend that he made this group. make him show you the page and delete it and if he doesn't then leave him because he is an asshole.

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alright i am a 16 year old girl turning 17 next month going into my senior year, i feel like everyone in my grade has had sex, i feel a lot of girls feel so nonchalant about it all. I have had a boyfriend and i personally don't think i am ugly, i have never had sex before and i haven't met the right guy i feel i could do that with but i feel kind of insecure i feel that i should of had sex already considering im almost going to college i feel kind of like a loser i don't know i just wanna hear your thoughts on this & what i should do? please no hateful comments :)

i'm 18 in college already and i'm still a virgin. there's no need to be in a rush to give it away to someone that doesn't even deserve it.

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I've been called a "whore" around my neighborhood and I know some people who think "oh she gets around". But I don't act that way... People who don't know me think I'm all innocent.
I'm 15 and I've had sex with 5 people(and multiple times), given oral to 6 or 7 including those 5, and I lost my virginity when I was 14.
At this point I'm having sex with my boyfriend a few times a week.
Is this bad? .. Like, have I done too much for my age? What do you think..?

it isn't bad unless you think its bad. as long as you're not being stupid about it and getting pregnant or diseases. i know a 16 year old whos had 47 different partners. now thats kind of slutty.

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20F.

So before things start getting all hot and heavy with a guy, I'd thought I'd be nice and warn them that I'm a virgin. Well ..no guy ever believes me! They're all like ..yeah right your lying! I don't believe that one bit.

It's not like I come off as a slut, I carry myself well but I think it's because how I look. I'm a pretty girl, I know guys are interested in me which probably doesn't do me well. I don't know how to feel about this, should I be pissed that no guy believes I'm a virgin? I don't know what to do about the situation I guess.

people don't believe me either, its kinda annoying but whatever cause you know you are and thats all that matters right? if they don't believe you thats their problem.

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20F. I'm warning you that this will be long, but I will definitely return the favor to anyone who can give advice!

So I recently met this guy whose 19, he's so adorable!! We both have mutual friends so he's not a complete stranger. Well a few nights ago me and my friend went to this little get together we were at, we were both drinking a little. He wanted to go in the hot tub and I said i'd go with him. So he had a swimsuit but I didn't know there was a hot tub so I just went in my bra and underwear, no big deal to me. So it was just me and him in there and we just started talking. I could tell he wanted me by how he was acting aha so I eventually sat in his lap in the hot tub and we started making out, then he started fingering me. Well then we got out and kept making out and he kept fingering me. Well then I was like I don't think I can do this, I can't trust you..you probably hook up with girls like this every night. He said to be honest ..I haven't hooked up with a girl in about 5 weeks. I said ..okay well just to let you know i'm still a virgin and then I asked him how many girls he's slept with and he said 3, two were his girlfriends of a long time and one was a drunken mistake he claimed. He said I'll even give you my moms number to prove to you that you can trust me and if i turn out to be an asshole you can call my mom and tell her. I could go on and on about the things he was doing to prove that I could trust him. Well then my friend and one of his friends come downstairs and he said grant will you tell her i'm a good guy and that she can trust me? and then my friend butts in and says..i heard you just hooked up with a girl last weekend!! well then he just got pissed at me for not being able to trust him. He calmed down after a bit and then we just cuddled. I just can't tell if he just wanted to get some from me or if he was being sincere??

What do you think??

i wouldn't trust him. if you just want a hookup then go for it but if you actually want more from this guy you should make him work for it. don't let him get what he wants until he proves it to you that he's a good guy and doesn't just say it.

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Can you get in the ocean with you period?

if you're wearing a tampon then yes.

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Alright, I am having my Sweet Sixteen next month. I am not the kind of person that goes to parties a lot nor has them, haha, I'm in the marching band.. yea.. geek. So this is why I am stressing, I want my party to be spectacular. I am planning to put a chocolate fountain on the table with the food and the blender to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. I also want to have a paint fight. I will tell everyone to bring something white, an old shirt or something and we're gonna fill up water balloons with paint and just go wild. If you ever had a paint fight before, PLEASE tell me how it went! I'm also gonna bring out my Ipod and speakers and blare my music. Also, at around 10ish pm we are going to play manhunt.

My question is, would you come to my party, if you know, you were invited? Does it seem fun to you? If it doesn't sound fun to you, what can I do to make it more fun and interesting? Thanks for your input!

i would come. sounds fun :)

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Is it normal to not get sparks or feel anything at all when I kiss my boyfriend? When we first kissed I felt something but that was it. Anyone else know what I mean??

when you first go into a relationship the feelings are strong and you feel the "sparks" cause everything is new and you're not used to it.

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I am a 14/m and I have been talking to this really hot girl this summer I met at a pool party of my friend's. We talk on the phone a lot. She even texts me. Last night she said she was really horny and we were talking and I got horny too. We thought to maybe have phone sex or something but then she said something I got confused about. She said, "You're making me so wet," and I didn't know what that meant so I asked her and she said her panties. What does that mean though? What comes out of a girl when she gets wet or whatever you call it? It must not be the same stuff that comes out of guys because I KNOW they don't have sperm and cum or whatever. Is it like egg something? What is it?

its like a girl version of a boner basically.

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how do u know if a girl want to kiss u

you'll know. she'll flirt and find any excuse to touch you. a trick that i've always done is just smiling and staring at their eyes. its usually pretty obvious.

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This morning my phone fell in the toilet...it happened before too and I had to get a whole new one. Luckily, this time my phone still works. However, the screens to my Env3 looks like they still have water in them. The front screen even has the color fadding in at the bottum. I was just wondering if the water will either dry up and go away or this is permanent damage?

hahaha i've done this before. try putting it in the oven on low for like a minute and then soaking it in rice.

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I had braces on for about 1 1/2 years. So, now that they're off for about 8 months, I want whiter teeth. I've tried so many different tooth pastes that say they will whiten your teeth in like 2 weeks...of course, didn't happen. I'm almost 15 and I would really like white teeth like some other teens have. I've never smoked but someone in my family does but not in the house. I know that there has to be somehow to make them look nicer. Please give me some tips to whiter teeth that you know really does work or a really good tooth brush or tooth paste! Thank you so much, you would really help! (Make sure that it is also healthy and nothing harmful).

crest 3d white (toothpaste)
nite white (whitening)
i got the nite white from my dentist so you'll have to ask about that one but it works so good.

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I've had two abortions previously and they have been very expensive $$$. I just found out that I'm pregnant again and I don't want the baby and so my first thought was to have another abortion right away. I called the clinic and they gave me the same estimate as the previous time and I really don't have that kind of money right now and don't know how I can come up with the money. Is there a way I can get a cheap abortion or something really low-cost? I just turned 18 a couple of weeks back so I don't think my parents insurance would cover it or anything either so that's kind of out of the question I think. I don't think I can ask my parents for money for the abortion this time because they already paid for the first one I had.

I'm up for any ideas you guys might have.

Thanxxx

how about you stop being irresponsible and use condoms. stop destroying lives for your satisfaction.

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how do u know when a guy is ready to kiss you?

guy leans in 90% girl leans in 10%. its the rules.

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Hello i have a question. I have started growing as of you know and I am about turn 13 i havent got my period yet alot of my friends say thats unnormal is that true??? And I dont like talking to my mom about it it makes me feel un comfertable so i need help thanks alot

nope not at all. one of my good friends didn't get it until she was 15.

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