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So you couldn't call me the most social active person. People actually call me quiet (even my friends) and its harder for me to talk to people I don't know really well and make new friends. Its even hard for me to have fun sometimes, I always seem to have my guard up. I'm not even sure if I want to be accepted by these people sometimes, but maybe it would be good to make some new friends. I, or at least I think, have progressed a lot over the years when it comes to talking, being comfortable with myself, and things like that, but when I'm away from a friend and with people I don't know that all goes down hill. Its almost like nothing has changed at all. I hardly know what to say and when I get attention from a boy or someone making a joking about me or someone making a sort of "rude" comment its like their looking down on me. These borders are hurting me and its taking me on a sort of emotional roller coaster. What do you think would help me talk to people and maybe make some new friends? :)

become bold go places without your friends because you may not wanna here this but i thin you ar using your friend as a crutch and thats just a means to hide from people you dont know so i think you should as i said earlier go places by yourself somtimes that maybe hard to do but do it before things get to bad

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How often should I exfoliate my face? I have a pretty mild exfoliating cleansing scrub, but I've heard that exfoliating too often can be too harsh for the skin.

in my own personal experience you should only do it once every ten days

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So there's this guy and he's really nice lets call him "Andrew".. but he doesn't talk much.. he only talks to his guy friends!

But thats not the questoin so Andrew told me that he liked me as a friend and I'm like thinking "Wow this shy guy likes me as a friend and he never likes any one as a friend thats a girl" So one of my other guy friends says that Andrew likes me and I like Andrew too!

But can't keep a conversation going.. well it mostly the guy that just stops talking... so what are things to say to start and keep it going if he stops talking?

ask him about his favorite football and/or baseball team and pretend to be interested

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I'm going to major in musical theater in college, and i just want to know what the difference between a university and a conservatory is.

And which ones would u reccomend for a really highly-reputable musical theater program?

(i already know uMish and boston conservatory, julliard, etc so don't say obvious ones please)

http://finearts.wichita.edu/performing/opera.asp
i recommend you go to this site it will really help you

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I used to do Jazz, and now I want to do it again. I started at 3 and I did Jazz,Balet, and Gymnastics. I quit balet at 8. I did Jazz and Gymnastics until my parents made me chose one at 10, I chose gymnastics. I did gymnastics until the age of 14 when my parents made me quit because of health issues. I got to level 7. After that I gained about 30 pounds, but I lost it within the year.

I'm 15 now. Do you think I'll be able to pick up Jazz again? I'm really flexible, I have all my splits, all my jumps, I don't really remember a lot about it but I'm a quick learner. I really do want to dance again, but I can only do it during the summer. My parents won't let me during the school year. So I was thinking I could start back up this summer, practice on my own during the school year and maybe start studio dancing when I'm 18. Do you think that's realsitic if I want to be a dancer?

i think you should if it makes you happy you should do it some universes offer jazz classes but not to many universities offer the classes so you wont have a long list of places to choose from and i think you should start again if it will make you happy as i said earlier

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i've grown up with my mother always nitpicking about everything, so when anything, no matter how tiny it is, bothers me...i complain about it, usually to or at my boyfriend.... if a girl comments him or comes down to his work places (a gas station and convient store) to talk to him, i wanna know EVERYTHING and when he doesn't tell me every lil detail, i get really suspicious, and when he finally gets a day off or some time off and i actually get him to come over, if he doesn't most the time with just me and doesn't stay awake, i complain. i really need to learn how to stop this. i mean i know i need to learn to understand and thats probably what you'll tell me. or to just shut up. but i need some REAL advice and insight on this. I want my boyfriend time back, and I want to not ruin it, and I want to be able to not argue with him because he doesn't seem to have enough time for me. convient only on weekends.

*~lonely girlfriend kid~*

i think you should learn trust because thats a key part of any relationship and as for the nitpicking. when ever somthing happens that causes you to nitpick just simply tell yourself that nitpicking is wrong and walk away

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Okay..I seem to quiff every time I have sex. Afterwards, I mean. It's really embarrassing even though no one comments about it. But is there any way to prevent it? Someone told me doggy style increases quiffing but then I don't know.

It's not that I do it once afterwards.. it's like 4 or 5 times.. and I'm pretty sure my boyfriend thinks I'm passing gas freely .. I don't even know if he knows what a quiff is!

it will pass in due time

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I want to get two of these, to add a bit of length to the front sections of my hair, in the color Persimmon.

Has anyone ever ordered from this site, or bought this actual product? I'm mainly curious about how closely the color matches the sample shown. Thank you in advance!

you should do it if makes you happy

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How do you get the songs necessary for the game. Do you download it off of the stepmania website? Or can you use your itunes songs?
xox Zonia

you'll have to go to the website and download the songs

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I just got a Black Macbook, and I've been trying to video chat with friends on iChat, but it won't work. It keeps saying there's a communication error. Audio works fine, by the way. I have a wireless router next to my desktop in a room down the hallway, and I have an excellent connection. But I don't know why I can't video! My camera and microphone (built-in) are enabled, but I don't get why it won't work. Help!!

maybe it's your wireless router thats jamming up your signal because i just got a toshiba laptop last month and my video and dvd player was'nt working so i called tech support and the guy said that it was a video codec download error so you'll have to get which ever company who sold you the computer to give you the computer download codec

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on the login page, does anyone have numbers in place of their email address for the login part?

not really

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ok, I've been looking everywhere for the deal with Slipknot and ICP. Do they hate each other, cause I was told that they did, and I can't find any proof. I was also told that ICP made a rap song dissing slipknot in it. are these just rumors, or is this true? and if it is, can I find it online and where? thanx to all that help me, I appreciate ANY information, and I will rate. thanx

i do know for a fact that there was an incident between ipc and slpp knot im just mot sure that there's anything online thats to specific telling what really happened sorry i could'nt be more help i hope you find what you are looking for

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i'm writing an essay on the french revolution. i started it & it's pretty good, but it needs to be longer, & i need more info. anyone know anything about when/where it began, main figures, how it ended, results of the revolution and why it was significant, or where i can get this information in a short, sweet & to -the-point way rather than a freaking 10-page wikipedia page, i'd really appreciate it=]

Although interpretive differences remain important, one can summarize the national history of the origins of the French Revolution with a chronology of several central events. On August 8, 1788, Louis XVI and his advisers decided to give in to pressures and summon the old medieval legislative body of the realm, the Estates General, which had not met since 1614. After a complicated and controversial procedure to select delegates, the Estates General opened at Versailles on May 5, 1789. To prepare for the meeting, men and women throughout the countryside drew up cahiers de doléances or lists of grievances they wanted their delegates to discuss. After considerable controversy, the Estates General included a double representation of the Third Estate of commoners so that it consisted of 300 First Estate or clerical representatives, 300 Second Estate or noble representatives, and 600 commoners. On June 17, 1789, after a conflict over whether or not deliberations should take place by Estate or as one common body and over whether or not votes should be cast by Estate or by each member individually, the Third Estate separated itself from the other two, declared itself the National Assembly, and invited members from the other estates to join it. Enough delegates did so to force the king to reluctantly declare the National Assembly a reality. thats what i know about it

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Does lancing hurt when they do that??

not really it feels mo worse than when you cut yourself all they have to do is just cut a little line in your foot to let off pressure but i dont think it will hurt

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I can't help what I do..
I'm tired of people telling me there problems, and acting like I have none. I'm always in the middle of everything. I lovee my friends I cant live without them but thry expect me to be perfect, and always be on the side and I can't.
It's multiple cases, couple break up, a fight happens over the weekend, people aren't friends anymore and they tell me. I say oo that sucks and give my opinion and say where this might've gone wrong.. and they expect me to be on there side.
I refuse to chose sides. And they get mad at me..
Soo I think last week I snapped! Call it PMS, call it me being bitchy but I couldn't help but tweakk on everyone who came to me with problems.
So people (friends) that I know mean wellstart asking questions. Questions I can't answer. And I know there trying to help, but I don't need them getting into the middle and trying to fight my battles. There trying but they wont succeed. I'm a lost coase. beyound help.
I don't know whats wrong with me.. one day ill be soooooo happy, flashing smiles to everyone and its contagious.. Next day you dont want to be around me. I can't handle peoples voices and bitch about everything. Weird this is i know I do it. and i try to nipp it in the butt and stop it from happening.. but it does anyway.
I've tried starting the day before again. Mimiking some of the things I did the day before.. make fun of me or not im desperate, Im moody...
I have my own problems.
I can't be on every side, I can't have my own opinion without someone being like WHAT!...
I cant be me.
I dont blame the people around me..
Hmm. My brother got in a car accident. Walked out scotch free. Day after get's a DWI and I frove him outa the house. I knew he was drinking, I knew it wasn't safe but i went on and On... he blamed me for my Dads heartattack.
I knew he did tat because he was drunk but i could just walk away. No. I threw every little think about him I hated.
Like him calling me Katie-Kat... It was cute when I was 7. Now just annoying.. But yesturday I wouldn've cared, you know. One day nothing can dent me.. you can't tear me down from them cloud that comes and goes. The next day when I hit the ground Ill point it out adn how it annoys the hell outa me.
I know its not PMS. I KNOW>>>>
Stevens come to me about Olivia.
Olivias come to me about Steven
Ariele come to me about how Steven and Olvia are going out.
Cole came to me about liking Ariele.
im tired of the stupid drama.. I dont say that to there faces... but when im in this distructive mood.. I cant garentee i wont haul of and beat someone..
how am I going to explain there moods. Or what I say to people. ill think oo shouldvent said that in my head but my mouths flying..

GRR HELP

what you should say to all of them is i know how you are felling i just dont care i have enough problems without having to deal with yours so please if you dont mind could we change the subject and if they cant accept that its their problem not you .peace and love the gaurdian

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Im 19 years old, my boyfriend and I bought a house last month, meaning so far we've only made one payment. My name is on the house only. Today during his lunch break he signed up for the Coast Guard at one of those booths they randomly place in areas. He signed a contract.. Meaning its un-doable. He didnt mention it to me until AFTER the fact. I cant move out of this house, Ive only made one payment, it will destroy my credit. He just expected me to up and leave my home one of month without ever even asking me. I wont go. So even if he can get out of doing this. What should I do? We plan on spending our lives together, getting married and having children, but this, today was unacceptable.

you should keep the the house because as you said earlier getting rid of the house was unexceptable and you should to let him know what he did was wrong because a relationship is built on trust and he violated that trust when he made that descions without you he paid attention to what would happen to you and the house if he was to leave for the coast gaurd and if you two were to have children what would happen to them if he was'nt around .because boys and girls need their daddies .i hope you can find some kind of way to forgive him for the sake of your future together and your futer kids and or life keep in mind what i said try to forgive him it might not be easy but try because i truely believe nothing is supposed to stand in the way of true love .love is infininte .peace and love the gaurdian

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Okay, well I've never used a tampon before, but I tried it the other day, and I wasn't sure how to insert it or where. I tried to stick it in, but it was really painful to get it in, to have it in, and to take it out. What am I doing wrong?

it should'nt be painful you should see a docter because it could be somthing in your vaginal area causing or it might just be sensitive to touch but either way o would go to a docter to make sure it's nothing serious .peace and love the gaurdian

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Yesterday evening my parents went out for a meal and me and my friend decided to drink a bottle of champagne we got very drunk and went out for a bit when we came home my parents friends were around along with my neighbours. Inever get to see the friends which had come down from somerset it was there last day staying with my nieghbours i just said hello to them and walked up the stairs i didnt want to go in the room because i was to drunk. When i was upstairs my parents were shouting emily come down and chat with us say hello i just shouted im trieed sorry and "no" I feel so bad my parents said i was really rude and i dont no what to say to my neighbours when i see them! ??? HELP

welll i would say im sorry and i would'nt do it again you should'nt make a habit out of it

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i wanna a plain white t-shirt but i want it tight and girly and with sleeves so it cuz im a girl and when i where plain t-shirts in public it makes me feel wierd so do you guys know where i can get a plain white shirt thats tight with sleeves that is cheep like under $10

yeah a store you could go to is steve and barrys

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Well there is this guy.
we were like best friends for a long time and i kinda fell in love with him.
i was sneaking around with him like 2 weeks ago and we always sneak around and fool around.

we had sex.

it just happened. we never hooked up after that and we just act as if nothing ever happened.
i love him and we are still good friends but im afraid that i was a bootycall or something.
before all of this happened, we talked on the phone for hours and he was saying how he had to lose his virginity before his birthday(sunday).
was i being used?
we just had sex and acted as if we never had sex.
its great that we have no awkward moments arond each other now.

so was i a bootycall?

i know you dont want to hear this but i have to say it i think you were

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