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Life Changing Decision, without my decision..
Im 19 years old, my boyfriend and I bought a house last month, meaning so far we've only made one payment. My name is on the house only. Today during his lunch break he signed up for the Coast Guard at one of those booths they randomly place in areas. He signed a contract.. Meaning its un-doable. He didnt mention it to me until AFTER the fact. I cant move out of this house, Ive only made one payment, it will destroy my credit. He just expected me to up and leave my home one of month without ever even asking me. I wont go. So even if he can get out of doing this. What should I do? We plan on spending our lives together, getting married and having children, but this, today was unacceptable.
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you should keep the the house because as you said earlier getting rid of the house was unexceptable and you should to let him know what he did was wrong because a relationship is built on trust and he violated that trust when he made that descions without you he paid attention to what would happen to you and the house if he was to leave for the coast gaurd and if you two were to have children what would happen to them if he was'nt around .because boys and girls need their daddies .i hope you can find some kind of way to forgive him for the sake of your future together and your futer kids and or life keep in mind what i said try to forgive him it might not be easy but try because i truely believe nothing is supposed to stand in the way of true love .love is infininte .peace and love the gaurdian
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Well I fully agree with you. On a life changing decision such as this, it involves BOTH of your lives, so he should have given you the respect to discuss this with you before signing up.
The bright side is, he WILL be making money. He will probably get a sign-on bonus and the like. He needs to be sure to apply money towards the home so it isn't piled on only your shoulders.
You shouldn't be expected to move from your home. Nor should you be expected to take the fall for a foreclosure. You need to talk to him about this and let him know he best be DAMN sure to help you pay for this house with his money earned from the military.
You definitely need to sit down and talk to him about your feelings on this. He can't go on making such decisions without talking to you first. You can't have such things if you plan to have children. A part of a marriage or a committed relationship is that BOTH of you are involved in huge decisions.
He probably just wasn't thinking.
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