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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 1 and a half year and we care and love each other very much but soemtimes when we argue, he says,'it worries him, that we are so different'. what does he exactly mean? does he want to break up or something else? because i'm quite moody and he's stubborn but at the end of the day, we forget everything and act normal. the good thing is he doesn't hold a grudge. so, if a boyfriend wants to break up does he talk like that or is he scared of loosing me or breaking up? please help. thanks everyone for your answers.
Sounds to me like he is just worried about losing you. He cares about you nad wants to be with you but he is afraid your differences are going to drive you apart. Try not to argue so much and let him know that eveything is going to be okay :)
To start off it was in my room, and I never experienced anything like this before.. I never figured anything like this would happen..it was just random.( This happened a few months ago)
I was sleeping and I was awaken by this odd chewing sound in my ear, it made me jump..and look over.. nothing was there. So I though, "It was nothing." I went back to sleep..than the next
night..when I woke up.. my door started to slowly move..I jumped up and ran to the door..and I caught the doorknob...it was still moving and I stopped it. After that, I became really.. spooked..
I told my father about this..and he told me..it could be my great great grandmother, apparently she believed in voodoo and stuff like that...she had a thing for the women in the family...and she liked to be around them..and what not..she he believed it could have been her. Also, the house I was living in..it was there house.. my grandmother..and her lived in there to..but my room was built on..and it's new..so I don't know whats going on.
After that happened, I put a rosary around my door knob and I asked the spirit (if there as one) to please go away and thank you.. All of that stopped bust still now..I hear like little taps.. every other night.. like a pencil on a piece of paper..or little bug's crawling..i look out everywhere..no bugs.. I thought it was my fan making the papers on my wall do that..but no..
I also woke up one day..and this porcelain doll I have sitting on a shelve...in front of my bed..it looked like it was crying..lt looked shiny on the outside of it's nose.. and I was like.. "Oh, it's probably the sun coming in from the window making a glare." ..The next few days..it never happened again..
So could you please help out with this? I'm not really scared anymore..but still I'd liked to know.
If it is paranormal activity, I advise you not to talk to it. If you try to communicate you can make it worse or let in other things you dont want. It doesnt seem like it is hurting you or scaring you so it should be fine but if it gets worse let your father know .. good luck
What should I do if my rat keeps on sneezing
take him to the vet maybe he has a cold
We had a stupid fight because i sprayed his cologne. We argued and carried attitude for about 30 minutes until he called me a worthless ***** then i asked him why would he get mad just because I sprayed his cologne. He told me to say it again and as i said it he punched me right in the mouth and busted my bottom lip. He said he was angry and didn't mean it. We have been together for since freshman year in high school and this has never happened before. what do you think?
Trust me I have been in a relationship like this. Please dont be like me. He said he was sorry and he would never do It again and I believed him... every time he did it.
This was the first time but it wont be the last.. He will say that every time he hits you.. I love you I am sorry, I will never do it again, I didnt mean it, Please dont get angry. He might even baby you after it happens.. But this only last for a while. Someday he wont even care.
My Aunt was murdered by her husband who at one point said the same thing I didnt mean to I was just upset Im sorry... Leave him now before it gets worse, before its too late good luck
I'm 15 and my bf who I've been dating for a while..I just found out that hes cheating on me with some pretty blonde girl who knows I am dating him. How should I tell him or get back at him? and what should I say when I break up with him?
Dont try to get im back thats just putting yourself on his level and you are better than him just call him up or go see his and say you know what I dont want you we are over I am better than this and I am not about to be cheated on by you and then hang up and never talk to him it will drive him crazy
Where could I work as a thirteen year old boy?
You can get a paper route
I have two small tares in my vaginal lining just above the opening to my vagina, I noticed some irriatation after having sex with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, but over the last week the pain has gotten worse,and unbearable and it burns when I urinate, I decided to get a mirror and check down there and found the two tares... I have no medical insurance so going to the doctors is out.. Is there anyone who can tell me what I can use to heal the tares and to stop the pain, I am at wits end please help
After I gave birth to my babies they gave me witch hazel for that area. It helps so much and I have used it for small tears and irritations since then its awesome
There's this guy I know, he's a year older than me, but we're going into the same grade (I'm twelve, he's almost thirteen). I'm going to get this out right now: I have a HUGE crush on him. Last year, he always paid me special attention, like making sure I was the first to sign his yearbook and sitting down next to me or near me every day in class. I'm really shy and unpopular ( I am what most would call a genius with a high IQ), and there's this other popular girl who likes him too. What can I do next year so we can be more than friends? Thank you :) I'll feel a lot better when I get a reply.
Well talk to him I know it sounds hard and scary but you just have to get over that feeling and just go for it. Talk to him, sit by him, compliment him, and then maybe you guys will become more than just friends good luck
Hi, im Gracie and I'm 13 and my dad's finally letting me get another pet and I really, really, really want a kitten. My dads not a big fan of cats; he said that they scratch up everything and climb all over the place. I don't really care about the climbing, but how do you stop them from scratching up everything? Would it help to just keep their nails trimmed? How do I convince my dad to let me get a kitten? We have a leather couch, can a kitten scratch through leather? And I have a 2 yr old golden retriever, Sly, he's super sweet, will they get along?
Cats do like to claw things. Get your new kitty a scratching post... and get a waterbottle if she scratches anywhere other than the post give her a little spray to tell her no she will learn have fun with your kitty
Me n him have been together for 5 months now, he told me about his kid who is 8years but now when I call him at night there is a baby cry or he doesn't take my calls at night. He keep his promises and he hardly tells me how much he loves me or even say I love you. Calling oh shame too bad for he hardly calls. I love him and really wanna be with but I think I'm wasting my time. What should I do? How do I talk to him about these? Plz help
It sounds to me like he may have a family. If he told you about his 8yr old son and you hear a crying baby he may also have a baby and maybe he doesnt take your calls because he is with his girlfriend or wife sit down with him and ask him whats going on if he does have a family, leave him
Basically, I have had a facebook stalker for a good 4 months. This person would send me flirty messages, and bother me. Finally, last night they are on chat. I begin mind fucking them into telling me who it is. Things like, im so excited to know, etc. He says -
Me:do you like me or whats going on
9 hours agoPete Psa i do like you but dont wnt a relationship im more for friendly encounters i thought maybe you would want to have some fun online thought maybe you get bored sometimes
9 hours ago ME wow thats not thinking very highly of me
thats just a tiny fragment.
It continues until I find out just who it is. It is my best friend's boyfriend of three years/ one of my very good friends/ my ex's best friend. I asked him how long he has felt like this, he said he cant put a number on it. Long story short, I already lost one of our homies after he came on to me in the backseat of the car my boy at the time was driving, so I told "pete" that im not interested, and if he thinks so highly of me he should have a little respect and say something instead of jump to the busisness. I told him I am not trash, and am not sure if I will be keeping this from my bestfriend.
i have known him much longer than his girlfriend, but i am very great friends with her. ive already lied for him once. she has helped me through SO much in the passed year, i mean really this has been a very rough time lately and she is ALWAYS there. she is the only person i can count on, and i dont think i can look at her again if i keep this secret.
but i also really would rather not hurt her, they are like a married couple and have been together for 3 years and he really is the perfect guy in a sense. i just dont know whats more important, her being happy with him or her knowing how he feels about me.
I honestly think that you need to tell her, show her the message so she doesnt think you are lying... If it were me I would want to know. If he is doing this with you he may be doing it with other people... tell her or when she finds out you know you will lose her
How do I stop my mother-in-law from trying to control how I raise my son?
Well you need to sit down with her and tell her that this is your son not hers and she needs to stop trying to get in the middle of raising him. She already raised her kids now she is done. This one is yours and she needs to back off. Let her know or she will keep on trying good luck
What are some good songs/quotes about a guy playing you and you knowing it and he thinks you have no idea?
Leave (get out) -jojo
hey guys! ok so yesterday i hit my sister cuz she was pissin me off (im 13 and shes almost 12) so my mom screamed really loud 4 us 2 come dowstairs. and from what i remember, (my mind has accumulated a habit of forgetting the nasty things my mom says and does 2 me. its actually a good thing so that way im not so sad) my mom told us 2 sit down and she started tellingmy sister and i how it was all our fault and then she went on to start criticizing us us like she always does. so i looked @ the ground and rolled my eyes thinking and hoping she did not see. but she did. before i could process what was happening, my body had instinctively curled up into a tight ball. as my mother was screaming and hitting and pulling my hair so hard i was positive it would rip out of my scalp. i was so scared i was crying uncontrollably and she didnt care. she kept yelling at me and my sis. and then she told me to look at her while she was talking. so i did. and before i knew it, she charged at me again and began screaming and pulling my hair and hitting me. she screamed "don't f***ing glare at me b**ch! how does it feel to be hitby someone bigger than you?" is this abuse? or merely dicipline? explain. thanks in advance. kisses!
Yes sweetheart this is abuse and I am so sorry that you have been put through this.. You and your sister do not deserve this and I know its scary but you need to call someone and get out of there. If you dont it can get worse. Here is a link to child help
please visit this website and call CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. If you just want advice thats fine call them they wont know who you are unless you tell them
http://www.childhelp.org/pages/help-for-kids
good luck and please call that number
i cant say i have fully "lost my first love" but im experiencing my first love right now.
me and him have broken up 4 times.... except we always seemed to come back to each other cause we cant fall out of love. im currently in a relationship with him. and i will do anything for him. i understand though because i am COMPLETELY and utterly scared of loosing him. i feel like if i do i will feel alone and die. thats how much i care and love him. i feel like there is no one else out there for me.
Also he was my first. first boyfriend. first kiss. first anything sexual. and we both lost our virginity to each other. (during the time i have kissed other people during the month period that we broke up one time) but it was just NOT THE SAME..... never felt right. actually made me feel gross. and just made me want HIM more. same happend with him... and then we ended up back together. BUT he is moving :( i can drive in 2months or so..... but im scared until then we will grow apart or something will happen and im just really scared of loosing him. he is my first love and i am experiencing it. and it takes over your life completely. HE controls my emotions. if me and him are good. im in a good mood. if me and him are fighting i feel dead and become anti social. i havent realized it was a mistake. i dont think it is since it is both our first love and first alot of things with each other. and i can just say i cant picture myself with anyone else.
the odds are we either stay on and off or together and end up marrying each other.
or something happens and we will loose each other ... but i am so afraid of that cause i cant picture my life without him or anyone else.
sometimes i wonder though by his words and actions if he loves me as much as i love him............... thats the only wondering i regret. (putting my hear out if he isnt loving me as much as i am)
actual i know for a fact that i show my love in a different way than he does and i am more emotional and like to talk and am very open with my feelings. yet when he hurts me i close up and makeit hard to let people in.
think im crazy or not but im feeling all this at age 16. im a 16 year old girl and please dont say im to young or dont know what love is cause i do..... i know this is love. but im just not sure wether or not i will be okay throughout this whole thing.
i reallly needed to vent and finally say this out loud.
i would really appreciate peoples opinion on what i just wrote.
First let me tell you that it will be okay. When he moves you two need to keep a lot of communication, call, text, email, letters.. Do as much as you can to keep in touch.. It will be hard but if it is meant to be it will be... If its not you will just slowly drift away and thats okay... thee will be others in your life.. when it happens at first it may be hard but you will get over it and it will be okay.... but its not happening yet so dont worry. Just focus on keeping your relationship alive and everything will be okay good luck
18/f
So my boyfriend was being mean to me today and I asked him why. He told me that he had a very visual dream about me. My guess was that I was having sex with another guy... Since that's all I knew and he didn't want to get into descriptions about it since he didn't want to think about it. So I was trying to hug him and I told him, "it was just a dream.. And I'm here with you." And he pushed me away and told me not to touch him or anything. He's usually not like that, and I said that as well.. And his response was, "well this was one of the clearest dreams I've ever had. It scarred me. I remember everything including the sounds... I can't see you the same.
So for the rest of the day, he wouldn't hug me, kiss me, and he didn't seem very happy to hold my hand. So what am I supposed to do? He didn't want to talk about it. He won't let me touch him. So do I just give him some space to get over it?? And do you think he had that dream because he has some sort of insecurities??
Sometimes we just have scary dreams... I had the same problem as your boyfriend once... I was pregnant when I had this dream though. In my dream my husband cut open my belly and took my baby.. so when I woke up he tried to comfort me but I was afraid... its not easy to be comforted by the bad guy... I knew he wasnt going to do that but the dream freaked me out... but I just got over it.. it took about two days before it was back to normal but he was there and showed me he wasnt going to hurt me and he loved me... he will be okay dont worry
22/F
Ever since middle school, I have always made up friends. I always thought it was normal. I just wanted to show people that I had friends out of school. Then, I start creating fake Facebook and myspace pages for them. I know it's weird but it made me feel better. I would post things on my account, and with the fake accounts I would reply to myself. I am aware that this is really weird, but everytime I reply to myself I feel a lot better. I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and PTSD... So it's like I get comfort Through true fake accounts even though I know itself. Not only that, but I talk to myself. A lot. And many times I feel like I'm talking to another person, but I know it's myself.
Could I be schizophrenic? Or what is this? I am really tired of it all.
I dont really think that this is a mentalillness I just thnk that you want to have friends and you think that you will look cool if you made some up and pretended you were popular... Also I think every one in some way talks to themselves but as long as you dont believ you are talking to someone and you dont hear voices its fine,... you may want to go see a councelor and ask for his/her opinion I am not a doctor this is just my opinion
I'm 14. I'm supposed to be having the time of my life at school, but my life is anything but fun. I've never had a best friend.. and I'm far from popular. I used to be friends with a gang of girls but when I got close with one of them all of them were really mean to me and started ignoring me. They're the popular ones now. So I kinda became friends with these other bunch of girls but they ditch me all the time and I can tell they don't really care. I just started a new year of school, and I've been nice to everyone I know. And the popular girls talk with me like friends but they just start planning on hanging out even when I'm around but don't invite me. And today I was standing with the only girls who talk with me and the popular girls just called all of them and invited them to go to a movie in front of me but left me out. Like, WTF?! What did I do to make them go out of the way to make me cry? 'Cause I cry everyday and I have NO FRIENDS. Should I just die?
No you should not kill yourself.. You are a nice caring person and if they cant see that oh well... The song Mean by talor swift reminds me of you... they hurt you now but someday you are going to be better off then them... they are just jelous of you because they know that you are wonderful and you are going to do great things and their lives will always suck and all they are ever going to be is mean... good luck best wishes
my boyfriend for 2 years just cheated on me. a part of me wants to forgive him because i love him so much, but the other part just wants to give up, although it seems to easy to give up. ive tried moving on and it just doesnt feel right.i cant stand him with this other girl. its slowly breaking me, he told me he will always love me but that is only making it worse, but at the same time, im happy to hear him say he loves me.. Should i forgive the man i love for sleeping with another girl?
No, Once a cheater always a cheater if you forgive him he will think its okay to do it again you deserve better and there is better out there its time to move on good luck and best wishes
I am dating my besfriend, the love of my life and the man I will marry! Unfortunately he lives across the country and we only see each other a few times a year. I won't get to see him till next spring, and I am so upset. I feel so lonely here, I mean I Love my family and friends but it doesn't help. Even in a crowd I feel alone. I miss him, and I don't know what to do. HOW DO I COPE WITH THIS BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A TRAIN WRECK!
It is going to be hard. Long distance relationships are not easy.. Make sure you have a lot of communication. Calls, text, emails, handwritten letters, you are going to need it. And you cope by knowing that someday you are going to be together and its going to be okay you are going to be happy. If it is meant to be it will be! Good luck