My name is Jillian and if you've got a question, I'll answer it the best I can.
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Ok, well i just started liking this boy. He's only one year older than me (im 14/f. )and really cute. I can't help but notice the little things he does,and how funny he is! well anyways, i really want to get to know him more/notice me. (i'm not going to change for him or anything like that.) The problem is he's kind of in a different,well,clique? you could say. He's amazing,soo my question is,how to i get him to notice me?! how can i get to know him and joke around with him? (link)
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Guys love confidence. They love it when a girl just comes up to them and talks. He'll respect you for going out of your comfort zone and it could actually go somewhere. Just be yourself.
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I'm in the process of overcoming . . . eating issues. I'm not to the point where I can call it an eating disorder, although chances are, it is. But that's not important.
I'm increasing my calories slowly, and the higher I go, the more difficult it is. I'm still at a number well under the recommended minimum intake, yet it seems obscenely high to me. I have motivation; I want to be healthy because I want to eventually work as a psychologist and help others be healthy. The problem is remembering that goal when it comes time to actually eat the extra foods. Before I eat them, I'm pretty good at convincing myself that it's okay, even necessary. But after I eat, it's an entirely different matter. All I can think about is how sick I feel and how (irrationally) I'm destroying everything I worked for. I feel like I've totally lost control and that I'm going to regain the 100+ pounds I managed to lose over the last year.
But I want this . . . sort of. Any suggestions for reminding myself that no, increasing calories will not lead to out of control binging (I have a history of that, as well) and that it's for the sake of my health? I'd rather not have something as obvious as notes hanging around because frankly, it's not something I want my family particularly involved in.
Apologies for the length; if you've read this far, I appreciate it.
I'm 20, female, if it matters. (link)
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A good idea is to think of food as fuel. If you don't eat anything, then you will have to putter out on the side of the road. Healthy food is premium fuel and junk food is the cheap stuff. You need it, and you literally cannot live without it. I realize it's one of the hardest things you have to do, but whenever you "destroy everything you worked for" YOU ARE TAKING A STEP IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION!!!
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ok so im going to be a junior so i have two more years of highschool and my group of friends at my school i am beginning to hate more and more. i was really close with some of them like we were a group of five and claimed to be 'best friends' but its all bullshit. anyways its still summer and i met these girls from another school and completely clicked. i became best friends with one of them in a matter of weeks and we all started hanging out all the time. they are so real and so much more fun and i just fit better with them. anyways, when school starts im not going to see them as much and we'll probably drift. my old friends are kind of mad that i got a whole new group of friends so im kind of just in a depressing situation right now. so my question is have any of you ever like had a time in your life when you dont have many friends/are confused. or any ways of making new friends because youre old friends are even really friends. just anything thanks (link)
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friends come and go. people change. if you don't like your old friends as much as your new friends, you could make new ones. It's like a pair of shoes that you grew out of but are having a hard time shopping for new ones! ;-) try your hardest, and the more you are yourself, the more your new friends will click with you, because they will be associating with YOU and not the person you may pretend to be.
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Okay I have this friend Bria okay.And she's like really nice and stuff..to me anyway.My best friend Haley like hates her..and I don't want it to be like that.Because Haley thinks Bria is a poser and everything :/
How do I make them get along?
Or should I just leave them alone? (link)
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If Bria is your friend, and you guys are happy together, then Haley should respect that. If she doesn't then that's her problem. Maybe Haley will come to like Bria, the more time she spends with her. Give it time, and let Haley know how you feel about this situation.
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14/f Oka here is the problem i have a crush on one of my friends brother(and yea she knows i like him).Anyways her brother is one of thoses guys that flirt alot and i guess thats what made me like him in the first place.So anyways he found out that i liked him and well usually i would always go to my friend house and we would hang.So one day she ask me to come over and of course her brother was there and i didnt know how to act around him or when he sees me.So i was told to just play it cool and see if he makes the first move so i did,the first time i went over their he said hi to me which he never did before but he always say hi to people.And well when me and my friend was heading out the door i could of sworn i heard him say somthing to me like do you wanna go out with me but he said it all low and everything and i didnt know if he was just kidden around to just annoy me or if he was for real.So my point is the fact that i been playing cool and he dose still talk to me and still sometimes flirt (which he does that to everyone)but i dont know what to do next.Should i just go and ask him out or still play it cool and let him make the first move.
thank you so much! (link)
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I think you should make the first move, because he might be embarrased that he could be losing his "cool ladies man" image to you. He wants to stay cool just like you, and he doesnt want to seem to needy. or rejection. you never know until you take the risk.
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I met a guy that I really like and he really likes me but neither of us are looking for a full on boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. We hang out with his best friend and my best friend quite a bit but its keeping me from hanging out with my other friends. All we ever do when we hang out is make out but we really like eachother and he makes me so happy but I don't see where this is going... please give me some advice. (link)
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Well, if it's going nowhere, you're wasting your time that you could be meeting somebody that you COULD have a relationship that's going somewhere instead of nowhere. Talk to him. Find out if it's truly going nowhere, it's wasting your time.
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I really want to get a new hairstyle and I'm having a hard time finding pictures of hairstyles with sideswept bangs and medium length hair. can you post up any pics or websites? (link)
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oh i had this problem once. i got so frustrated that i just drew a picture of a head with exactly the hairstyle that i had in mind. and showed it to my hair stylist and she said "oh thanks i can do that" and ever since ive LOVEDDDDDDD my hair.
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Ok, I've only had my period like 5 times and Im almost 17. My mom took me to a doctor who gave me some supplements but Ive only had a period once in the past three months... (I havent had one this month) What do I do? (link)
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trust your doctor. OR ask a different doctor.
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I have a problem... I don't exercise enough. I am not fat by any means, but that's just because my metabolism is really fast. I just do not enjoy going to the gym, there are no team sports to play around here, and I don't know if yoga will be enough (i mostly stretch and breathe). any suggestions of something I can do to get motivated or a new kind of exercise I could try doing? I don't like to sweat if I don't like what I'm doing. Any help appreciated! (link)
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i love the exercises the seventeen magazine gives you. they're fun and make me feel good afterwards.
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do guys like it when girls are slightly perverted, or is it a turnoff? i'm kind of perverted hahaha but it's not like creepy, just basically kind of how a guy is except not that bad. does that seem like i'm more of a friend with guys, or if i'm slightly perverted when im flirting with them is that weird? (link)
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i think that if a guy meets a perverted girl, he might take advantage of her so just be careful.
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Ok well me and my bf have been together for 4 yrs. now and like at times he treats me really bad.. he yells at me and throws things. but then at times he can be the nicest person ever.. i am just so confused, he puts me down all the time and stuff like that. but then like 20 mins later he is all nice and lovey dovey with me. and i really dont no what to do. he says he love me but i really wounder sometimes, ive tried talking to him about it but when i do he gets mad.. what do you thihnk i should do?? (link)
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break up with him. he doesnt mean all the nice stufff, hes just covering up the bad stuff to make himself look good. you deserve better and there are guys out there that will treat you 100 percent better than this.
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How can I make rice taste more interesting?
I like to eat it with sugar on it, but I
know thats probably not very healthy! (link)
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ooo i love rice. you could buy spanish rice. or you could put like peas in it or chopped peppers. little stuff like that makes a big difference :D
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hi, everyone.
i'm trying to lose weight and i was wondering if you guys think this will help at all:
exercise:
monday/wednesday/friday-running at six in the morning. about the miles. only walking a little.
100 curlups, 60 pushups.
might go running at the beach, this week.
alot of swimming (like wading, doggie paddle, ect)
diet:
i havent had much of an appetite lately, but here goes, aha.
breakfast-honey bunches of oats with milk before running. sometimes skip breakfast.
lunch-varies. probably just a sandwhich. when i go to the beach, it will be pizza or a chicken sandwhich.
dinner-home cooked stuff. fairly fatty. like, 15+ grams of fat for the meal, i'm guessing..
snacks-i'm trying to cut out snacks, but once again, at the beach, i'll probably cheat alot. other than that, i eat fruit, ect.
drinks-trying to drink all water. orange juice.
so will this help me lose weight?
how many grams of fat should i allow at each meal?
also, SHOULD i lose weight. i'm 4'11 and 99 pounds.
thanks for help. i'll rate. (link)
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No No No. For that height you have the perfect weight :D So dont worry just keep eating healthy and you'll be just fine.
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my dad abuses me. mentally and emotionally, sometimes even beats me. i have asked this question before. i have gone to all the hotlines on the internet, but i am scared to tell anyone.
if it helps, my dad was beat and touched by his parents. it has been going on for....4 years maybe. well hes done it all my life, but not this bad. he makes fun of me all the time, so does my stepmom. i live with my dad, but im going to try to go to court to live with my mom. please help me. (link)
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You have to call 911or your mom or something. If he abuses you, the court will give your mom custodity to you in a snap, so don't worry. just do it. you deserve better.
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i have this really big bump on my forehead. its been there for like 8 days. its really enormous. i think i hit my head.. but i dont remember on what. but it also became noticable after i had sex for the first time NINE days ago. its turned every color in the rainbow, IN rainbow order! thats like .. roy g biv. :x what the hell is wrong with me?????!!!!!!!!!!?! (link)
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Go to the doctor! Just to make sure.
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14/f
Lately I've been stressing over everything in my life and its getting to the point where I'm starting to get depressed more often and moody. I'm stressing over trying to get into a top highschool where only a few get chosen......stressing over this boy who has a girlfriend but I just can't seem to get him out of my head no matter I do he's all I think about....stressing over issues in my home I feel like I can't go to anyone for help because I feel like they get bothered with my problems. I don't know what to do how do I handle my issues normally without depression or mood swings or stress? (link)
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Depression is hard. Really hard.
what helps me, as stupid as it sounds, is getting my ipod and a book and taking a bath. haha i know it sounds stupid but if you just sit in a bath, i usually do it with a bathing suit to feel more comfortable, and listen to calming music or read a book, it just relaxes me. or you could write your thoughts in a journal. that also helps. you could make a private xanga that nobody knows about and just type out all of your issues on there.
also ive noticed i feel more energized to deal with stress and happier if you eat more healthy food like a banana or something or just taking a walk and thinking.
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Is highschool scary? What's it like? What should I expect? (link)
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High school is the BEST. it's wayyyy better than middle school because everyone is getting out of their insecure awkward stages. it gives you a lot more independence and they dont beat you up or anything. you'll love it.
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My discharge smells disgusting. I'm not sexually active and my mom thinks nothing is wrong with me so she won't take me to the doctor. What can I do? (link)
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oh well this is a nasty subject but yeah maybe you aren't cleaning down there enough. so try getting a seperate scrubbie thingy for that particular place and wash it everyday. just keep an eye on it and see if it gets worse.
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and constantly compares you to another sibling, calls u stupid, fat, ugly (about every time she sees me)....like, everytime theres a TV ad for a skincare line or something she says, 'you should get that!' (cause i don't have such great skin) every 5 seconds ...she loves it.
always talking to me and staring at my acne and/or saying, "what is happening to your face?!". and shes always like, you look so ugly right now!
or she even tells me to shut up randomly, sometimes even wanting to get violent....or 'why don't you get your eyebrows done? (ur (my) sister) is so much prettier, why can't you look like her', etc.....'ur so dark (wtf?) and ugly'
she is bipolar, for real. i can't take it anymore.
she is so comforting to hug sometimes and talk to when I'm low or when my dad gives me stress (he is a resume/checklist, 'did u finish this, did you finish that'' type of dad!) not a great combo. But it's so weird because she gets into a nasty behavior randomly.
for example...i have concentration problems (add) and my dad helps me focus sometimes to do my schoolwork (i take medication, i'm 17)....and my mom imitates me and is like, "I'm so stupid, I'm going to just use my dad, he can do all my work for me, and mom cooks so I can use her too."
it's hard and really annoying because she digs into some of my deepest insecurities and just full on insults me. my sister doesn't talk to her anymore. but its harder for me because i still live in this house.
its lonely as ever, especially because as of now I don't have many friends since I moved and am going to a new school this fall. =/! (link)
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this is a particularly difficult thing because you live with your mom so your always around her. but, as hard as it sounds, you have to just ignore it :/ and when she says "you should try that for your skin" just say "i guess it wouldn't hurt trying it, can you buy it for me?" because maybe she's just trying to be helpful in those situations. but when she calls you ugly, just think on the inside "haha how sad. a mother thats calling her daughter ugly. when i have kids im not going to be like her." and just laugh it off. it'll put a smile on your face.
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Well, I am 5''3 and 13 years old and all my mom can ever talk about is my weight. In summer 06, she told me that i looked to heavy. I was 122 lbs, so i lost 20 pounds. then she complained that I looked to skinny. Right now I am 107 and she keeps bugging me that I look too skinny. She wants me to gain 5 lbs, but I dont want to. I like the way I look right now but my mom doesn't respect that. Whenever I wear a swimsuit, all she can comment on is, "you look too skinny". It's really annoying and I wish she would just let me stay at the weight I feel right at. I just don't want to listen to her complain anymore. What do i do? (link)
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eh don't listen to her. thats her opinion. and it's your body not hers. so whenever she comments your weight just say "ok thats nice" try not to say it rude though, because that could lead to a fight haha but yeah, don't worry about what she says, it's not her body.
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