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ok, its really hard to explain this without going into detail on the last 8 years of my life, but ill try my hardest- 14/m
I have loved this girl my entire life and we have been great friends, and i asked her out and she said yes. Well that was about 7 or 8 months ago, and she turned out to be a SUPER freezer (for those of you who dont know, its a person who doesnt do ANY thing on dates). She wasnt at first and i thought we were goin pretty well, but then all the sudden she said she needs her space and she told me to back off a lil and slow down. and that was about 3 months ago, and then all the sudden i felt like she had broken up with me cause she didnt do ANYTHING. All the sudden i was getting to feel depressed and stuff (it wasnt only cause of her doin that, i had other stuff goin on too, and she wasnt there for me) and the last week ive called her like 6 times and she never called me back. well i swam over the summer, and i had a friend who i kinda liked last year, and so i was hangin with her, well i think i kinda love her now, and i was debating on breaking up with the first girl and goin with the second. Well, that wont work, because all the sudden the first girl is starting to show just enough that she really likes me and prolly loves me back. so now im stuck in a bind because half of me is sayin break up with her and get over her, and then go with the next girl, and half of me says stay with her and give her the chance. but i already told the second girl im breakin up with the first, so now all the sudden im just plain caught in the middle, and i have no idea what to do! please help! i rate high!!!! (link)
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Apolgize to girl #2 for leading her on, and tell her you need time to think. Tell girl #1 you may have met someone else, and you need time to think. Then stop, kick back, and look at the situation.
What do you like about the first girl? The second? Write it down and compare lists.
Are you over the first girl, or do you still like her?
Was the second girl just a rebound?
Looking at it when you aren't tangled in it may help.
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Last year I moved to a new (catholic) school, and last year at Homecoming I went with a group of the jv cheerleaders and I didn't really have anyone to dance with. This year I am a varsity cheerleader, and mostly all the girls in Varsity are in their own clicks,and I only have one very close friend on Varsity. No one is gonna have a party like they did last year, and I don't think any of the boys will ask me. Should I call this kid who asked me to go to the festival last year and ask him to go, should I wait and see of anyone asks me, what should i do?!!! (link)
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Ask the guy!
Or go stag! Being unattached can be fun. Grab a bunch of single friends, and go together. You can flirt with all the boys, dance with whoever you want, and not worry.
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my mom wont let me see my boyfriend at all. he doesnt have a computer so i cant e-mail him or IM him. and my mom has total control over the phone. i havent been on a date with him at all! ever!! and i've been going out with him for about a month and a half. i wont see him in school because we're in different parts. i miss him so much and i love him so much. what should i do? heeelllppp!!
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Ask your mom if you can invite him (and possibly his family) over for dinner or something. She may respond to that, because it gets her involved, and it would be non-threatening to her. Once she gets to know him, she'll probably trust you two more.
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I'm thinking about doing babysitting and I want to do it cheap because some of the parents that want to hire me told me that they would need a new babysitter 'cause it costs so much to find quality daycare... and I don't think I am quality if I'm just starting out... so should I like ask the lady for lessons or sumthin' or what tips do u have? I also need some advice on how much to charge. Thanks bunches. (link)
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It depends on age and experience how much you can charge. I'd say $5 average. Maybe go lower, if you think it too much.
Get CPR certification or take a babysitting class. It helps you feel better, and it makes the parents feel more secure. Plus you can charge a bit more, lol.
Ask the parents if the kids have any special needs, likes, dislikes, etc. Also ask the rules of the house. If you keep the rules mostly the same, it is easier on the kids.
As to caring for the kids:
Bring a goody bag with toys, books, movies, etc. Put new things in it every time, but keep any favorites the kids have. It gives them something to look forward to when you come.
Be their friend and playmate! Keep them out of trouble, but do things with them!
Crafts are fun, if you supervise carefully. Kids love to have something to show Mommy and Daddy.
If you need them to settle down, have them help you pick out a movie, and watch it together. Short movies are best. Semi-interactive ones are even better. The kids I sit for like Dora the Explorer, Veggie Tales, and Charlie and the Chocolate Factory (they dance during the opening credits... You know, chocolate everywhere...)Engage in discussions about the movie.
Playing pretend is always fun. Little girls like dressing up, pretending to be singers, princesses, etc. Boys like to pretend to be animals. But keep all options open. Try everything!
Making up stories can be fun with slightly older kids. Take turns making up parts, or collaborate, then write it all down. They'll have their own storybook that they can keep.
Hope the tips help!
~Vix
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well theres this guy that im kind of seeing (jack) but hes really getting on my nerves now. i mean hes alright at times but hes always calling me and txting me and wont leave me alone. if i dont reply then he gets paranoid that im md at him and rings me even more. weve been seeing each other for like two weeks now and hes already said that he loves me!! i mean how can he? well anyway then theresthis otherguy that likes me! (noah) well noah doesnt like jack and keeps dissing him to my face. i think thats why i dont like jack anymore butthe thing is noah doesnt know that im seeing jack and jack doesnt know that im seeing noah. i dont know who the best. jack is reliable, safe and sweet but is clingy and all i want is to have fun. noah is fun and outgoing and spontanious and just so fun to be around but i dont get the feelin he can be relied on! what should i do? who should i pick?
sorry this is so long
i'll rate high for a good answer!! (link)
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Tell Jack that he is being too clingy, and that you want to have fun. If he can't ease up, get another guy.
As to Noah, be his friend, not his girl. Unless you can see that you can rely on him, don't bother.
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i just saw a commercial on those clear braces taht you can take in and out and you get a new one like every 2 weeks or something and they like work in a year and stuff like that. but can anyone tell me if they really work well. how much do they cost (if u know, if not..its ok) do they work as good as normal braces?? cause i am almost 15 and going into high school and i have to get braces and i dont want to be in high school with braces. (link)
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Braces work better.
Invisalign is weaker, and may not be what you need. Talk to your othodontist about it. He/she can tell you what is best for you.
Hey, I'm 17 and I have braces. They are no big deal. Don't worry about them.
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okay. so i like this guy. he just happens to be my best friend. the other night, my friend ( ally ) got on my screen name ( i was there too ) and told him that i thought he was hott. and then she was like do you think im hott? *remember, she was pretending to be me and wouldnt let me say anything to him...* he responded by saying, i would go out with you. it was kind of a shocker. no, it was a shocker. because 01-hes my best friend. and 02-no guys ever want to go out with me. or even consider it. and so i was kind of dazed for a little while. and then, i told him that ally said all of it. but he seemed like dissapointed that it wasnt me. today i was going to tell him that i actually do like him & all, but i never got the chance. its just akward. but i dont want our friendship to be ruined by it if we date. so i just want to know other peoples points of view. please!! (link)
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I don't think it will ruin your friendship. In most cases like this, the breakuops aren't messy. If he's your best friend, he'll be more honest with you, and is WAY less likely to cheat on you, or pressure you to do things you don't want. Go for it! Tell him Ally said it because you didn't have the guts to, but you meant all of it.
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i know this is kinda stupid but how do i get closer friends ?? i want friends who i can trust and talk to and hang out like every day its just when i get friends they kick me to the curb i HAD these amazing friend((emma n iris)) and we hung out EVERY SiNLE DAY and i said lets never get into a fight i was us to be best friends forever and we did that secret box thing from crossroads((gay yeah i know rite lol)) well emma n iris one day hung out with this girl marissa and they became like BEST FRIENDS and i was just being left out and it happen like that i did not see it coming and then they started making fun of me and saying mean stuff to me and i said i wanted my stuff back from that secret box thing if your gonna keep doing this to me and they said that they through it out and i put my most favorite stuff in there...We are friends now but not that tight...how do i get REAL BEST friends? i will rate high for extremly good anweres (link)
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Try to find people with similar intrests. That can build a relationship.
Just watch the people around you! Many of my closest friends are the last ones I would have suspected! One yells at me half the time, another is extremely outgoing (whereas I am shy), one is very feminie (I am not)... The most important thing in a friend is that they will stick by you. A true best friend may not hang with you every day, but they will be there when you need it. Maybe you already have them! You just haven't noticed.
Maybe consider getting a pet? A pet will never judge you, and they always love to hang out with you. They can be good friends when you are feeling down. And they can support you in your search for good friends. Plus, I've met several of my best friends because my dog ran away, lol.
_Edit_ My dog runs away frequently. The friends I met found my dog and brought her to us.
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ok well my friend told me this:if your around alot of poeple who are on there periods, then your body reacts and thinks that its supose to be to and you have your period, even if its not the right time. is that true or what? (link)
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They begin to synch...
But it takes time. No major changes.
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Hi, I'm trying to get rid of my my unsociable, indifferent, freshman reputation, and hopefully make some close friends this upcoming year. I would like to know some ways I might be able to change people's perception of me. I guess I come off as withdrawn and slightly angry, so this may come off as a difficult question for those of you "popular people", who are able to make friends easily. My main purpose is to make friends in order actually look forward to going to school in the morning... For your information, I am 15 and male. (link)
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Try joining a club or a sport, perhaps? That way, you can meet people with similar interests. You can have conversations and such about it, and build a friendship from there.
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Okay there's this guy I like that I work with, and the fratnerization ploicy does not affect us because we work in different departments, ANYHOW, I like him alot, and my supervisor and co-workers think I should tell him but I don't know how. All of them told him that I liked him (WITHOUT MY CONSENT), and I guess he wants to hear it from me now. And I wanna tell him, I wanna get to know him more and become closer friends before I become anything else. Alot people say I can do better than him, but that's not what is important to me, I like him for who he is and he has a good heart, he knows how to make me feel good. So I wanted advice on ways to tell him I like him... thankz! (If it helps, or it's needed I'm 17 and he's 19) (link)
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younggrandma has a good idea.
A small, informal type date would probably be best. Invite him to lunch or to hang out during breaks! Get to know him better, then just tell him.
Good luck!
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i'm 14 and in 2 weeks im going to be starting high school. this summer i met this really great guy..my friend introduced us. the thing is ive onlk really talked to him on the internet and the phone(hes not one of those internet weirdos cause my friend knows him). we are going to the mall just to hang out on friday and i really like him but am so self-concsious. I know im pretty. I actually think that, but sometimes i just get really nervous. ive never been on an actually date. ive been asked out alot before, i just never accepted cause ive been busy, and ive just never really like the guys that ask me out. since im starting high school i want to start dating. is there anyway to get me out of the habit of being sooo nervous? (link)
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There is nothing wrong with being nervous! It is perfectly normal.
Just relax. You said you consider yourself pretty, remember that! Think of all you have going for you, and remember that a date isn't forever. It is just a date. Be yourself, and have fun!
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hey! i'm on a healthier diet because i know i have been eating too much crap! i had a good dinner around 8 oclock and haven't ate anything since, since i know it's bad for you! and it's now around midnight, and my stomach hurts really bad! why does it hurt? (link)
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You may not be used to the food.
Or you may just be hungry. On average, humans get hungry every four hours or so. So grab a healthy snack, like an apple or a handful of nuts, and drink some water, then go to sleep!
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no serously im male and like im bleeding like crazy when i take a crap is their something wrong with me or is it normal or something i ate i need to know it looks like my sisters peirod when she 4gets to flush its gross.... (link)
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Go to the doctor.
And try eating more fiber. Yeah, I know, sounds stupid. But it will help.
Or take a mild laxative.
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anyone know a good recipe for a low-fat fruit smoothie. not something you just got off google though. something yummmmy :D (link)
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Take a flavored light yogurt, pick fruits that go with it, throw it in a blender with some Ice, and you have a smoothie!
I personally like:
Keylime Pie Yogurt
Apple
Mango
Kiwi
Pinapple
But you should experiment!
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how much should i charge when i am babysitting?
i babysit 3 children ages, 9, 5, and 2 and i am 13 yrs old. i also babysit my cousins that are 4 and 1. how much i was thinking like 3$ an hr per kid but then i saw an episode of full house and DJ babysat and only charged 2.50 an hr and those shows are from like forever ago so now 3$ per hr per kid seems too low! help! i dont want to be rude to the kids parents and ask for too much *remember i am only 13*
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Charge $7-$10 an hour for the three.
Or ask what the parents think fair.
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my hair gets incredibly greasy easily cause i have oily skin. i was wondering what i could do to prevent this from happening cause i have camp for two weeks and it grosses me out (link)
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Buy clarifying shampoos.
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OK my cousin is pretty much a slut. she's 11. she wheres really tight shirts that go up past her bellybutton along with a really short skirt. She wears VERY thick padded bras so she uses a C cup. When someone calls her a slut she giggles and says "nuh uh..!" And I'm gettin sick of it because my friends are like "how does it feel to have an 11 yr old have bigger boobs than you" and honestly i really dont care because im not fake but no one realizes that. and on top or it, she brags about gettin slapped in the ass by other guys and she shaves which i dont think she should be doing when she's 11 even though its not my choice. What can do to help her without gettin her upset?? (link)
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Find friends that are good examples. Show her pictures of celebs in decent clothes. Go shopping for cute, covering clothing. And get her a bra that actually fits right.
Hopefully it is just a phase...
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i sweat alot in my armpits. im not doing any hard activity just relaxed. i would go to school or even talk on the fone and i would start sweating. this is reallllllllyyyyyyyy embarassing me. i use deordant and stuff. i cant wear normal clothes woithout them getting all sweaty. i need to know if theres anything out there that i can get from the drugstore.
~A.E~ (link)
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Go to your doctor and ask about it.
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i have curly brown hair naturally its pretty long like midback and I want a haircut or new style. right now i just have it growing out no specail way. do u have any ideas on wut new haircut or style i should do? i am willin to straighten it sumtiems but not ALL the time. any ideas (link)
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Sounds like mine!
I like to get my hair cut short, so it curls up to about the high part of the shoulder. Try layers too!
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