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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..
1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.

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If a girl is recieving oral sex, what would be considerd bad smelling for a vagina? Should it smell like soap, or like nothing? Is it okay for it to smell like discharge? Can it smell like sweat? Should you use personal wipes before sex to freshen up or should can it be like natural, when you wake up in the morning? Is it okay to be hairy too? I know its a lot, but thanks!

To be hygeinic and to reduce the smell of discharge, just wipe your vagina, at the mouth, with a cotton ball that has been in lemon juice. It may sting at first but it'll be fine. :)

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hello .

me and my ex boyfriend broke up exactly a month ago today .

and yes, i am still NOT over him .
and i heard today from his best friend that he likes someone already .

and like i feel like my heart just got torn out .

there's a lot of guys that hit on me, and i always say no just because i'm always thiking about it .

and i dont want a new boyfriend because i don't want to get hurt again .


any help to make me feel better ?

Firstly, you have to get over your ex because he has moved on and YOU have to do the same too! And I'm sorry, but you can't protect yourself from heartbreak! So you have to just let it go and give a chance to someone else, who may NEVER ever break your heart because they really do love you. And how are you suppose to let that person in if you don't give them a chance?!

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so I'm supposed to be getting my period either this or thenext week, and me and my boyfriend messed around last week. Would this upcoming period prove I wasn't pregnant, or would I have to wait for the next one?

Yes, but to be even MORE sure, just take a pregnancy test.

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Why do most males feel superior? I want to get married but I'm afraid he will treat me differently. I know I want a child at a young age so that will make me the house wife.. but why do they feel like they have to boss you around and treat women like a slave? I want to leave my house because of this. My dad always yells and tells everyone else to do things, when he does nothing himself. If we get everything done and forget one small thing, he blows up and degrades us. Why are men like this? I've only met a few who don't act like this but who knows, they might change. I almost don't want to get married because I don't want him to treat me the way my dad does to my mom.

Firstly, you have to find a man that loves you for you and who WON'T treat you like your dad treats your mom. And those type or men DO exist, the type where they will share the work and will not think he's superior, and actually appreciate you.
And it is TOTALLY normal to feel the way you're feeling because you haven't really seen any other men treating a lady with respect and dignity, so don't take your dad's actions too seriously, everyone is different and all you need to do is find that one man that loves you and treats you the right way, the way you want to be treated! The choice is in your hands, I suggest you date the person you feel is the one or the one you would like to spend your life with, date him for a really long time, until you feel it IS time, because you know he can't and won't do anything you wouldn't like.

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I like this guy, and we've hung out a few times in groups and a few times alone. We mostly talk about school stuff, but I thought we flirted more too. I finally got up the nerve to text him and ask what the deal was. He said that he had thought about it, but it would be really hard because we're both going away to school after the summer. I still like him, so should I still try to hang out with him or just forget it? I don't want to become too invested if it will just turn into nothing. help?

Well he is being real and honest with you, so just think for yourself first, if you would not mind having a short summer relationship, but if you want more than just a short relationship, I suggest you continue to hang out with him, and become good friends, because soemtimes, after relationships things just get all awkward and that ruins a friendhsip that was beautiful before! And if you wouldn't mind a summer relationship then, ask him if he wants one too, before you put yourself out there. Helps if he decides no, he can't have a summer relationship. :P

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Hi guys,

I have a dilemma!!!
I am really interested in this guy...we have known each other for years and have been on and off for a long long time...
Just recently we have rekindled and things were going really well when on Saturday night he cancelled his plans to go to the footy to come into the city with his friends and my friends for my brothers bday.
Things were good i thought, laughing...kissing...chatting etc...We had organised a hotel room and everything!! :)
All of a sudden this group of girls rocked up which i assumed were friends with him and his mates as one girl in particular was all over his mate...
Later in the night the guy i like told me "sorry im being weird but that girl is my ex and i feel weird hooking u with you in front of her as it is recent and i dont want her to cause a scene"...i was taken back by it and didnt know ow to act?
Anyways, later on this girl took the guy into another room with her friends as she said she needed to talk to him....so after awhile and he still hadnt come back i went and found him dancing and mucking around with his ex and her friends.....i felt like an idiot so i decided to leave and not cause a scene...
His cousin messaged me saying sorry for his cousin and that he had left wth his ex and stayed at hers...i was sooooo devastated as i really like him!!!
i heard nothing from him until this morning (MONDAY) which he said sorry for say night and that the chick is obsessed and he had a massive fight with her once i left and he did NOT stay at hers!! He went on to sy he wanted to be with me soooo BAD!!!

Im not sure what to think or do in this situtaion!!!Please help ASAP????

Talk to him and see if he sounds trustable, find out behind his back if he stayed at his ex's house or not, and if he did then, thr answer is pretty clear, ignore him and move on. May be tough at first but it is all worth it!! :D But if he didn't stay at his ex's then, talk to him and tell him that you were hurt and annoyed that he LEFT you to go hang with his ex and now that he wants you, you feel hesitant! It is understandable, the way you feel, so just talk to him and NO one can blame you for the way you felt, it is totally natural!

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i know this is a common question.
i'm 5'7
and i bench over 130
so i, pretty strong
i weigh 220...
i dont understnad
yet i'm called little


when i eat, i compare what i eat to the person i'm with that day
and if i eat more than them- i punish myself by not eating the next day


im asking-
are people lying if they call me thin?
or do i look what i weigh?


mee:
http://img72.imageshack.us/my.php?image=rgforiogjrthm4.jpg




**ill be up, please help now [:

Just check you BMI (Body Mass Index), divide your weight (in kg), by the square of your height (in metres).
ie. Weight (kg)/[height (m)]2

Underweight =

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ok so me and my boyfriend broke-up only a month ago... i broke up with him.. but he already has a girlfriend...
its just irritating me and there like all over eachother at school. its annoying. i really truly dont have feeling for him, and like i dont want him back at all... but idk its just annoying and like i know 4 sure that theree bothe gonna have sex... and i dont know why it bothers me but it does... help?

You probably still have a little bit of feeling left for him, but don't worry, you can get rid of that EASILY! Just avoid him and the girl, avoid the places where they COULD be! Hang out with your friends, tell them you're sick of seeing the two groping each other. Don't talk to him though!! And he could be doing al this to make you jealous! Make it clear that you're NO where near jealousy and you really don't care! He probably still likes you!

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im engaged to a woman who just doesnt like my 9 year old son. she has told me she doesnt like him and shows very little affection towards him. what should i do?

Talk to her!! Tel her your son is the MOST important thing and so is she, make sure you make her feel like she is loved too, and you are not picking your son over her, because she will feel like you don't love her. Talk to her softly, like a heart-to-heart talk when you're alone. Tell her you love her and you REALLY want to be with her, but if she can't TRY and love your son then it won't be fair to the both of you, you and your fiancee. Let her understand the situation you're in. If she truly loves you, she willtry get along with your son, just for you! Just because you are worth it!

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so im 13
and this dude is 15
we've been talking for a while now (few months)
and he asked me out last saturday over text.
i can never tell if someones serious over text so...
i said i wasnt sure.
and he hasnt talked about it since.
did he take it as a no?
(hes not the shy type at all.. so he'll basically talk about ANYTHING ad EVERYTHING)

so please help
guys have never been this confusing to me before.

He probably took it more as a no, than a yes. And what you're feeling is TOTALLY normal, many girls feel that way, and what I usually do is, I tell them I'd like them to ask me out in person, than over texts because it feels more serious and real. Don't say it is because you don't know if HE is serious or not, he could take it the wrong way, like you don't trust him. Be open, since he is the open type. And bring it up when you see him, or whenever he texts.

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ok well this sucks i really want a girl to hang out with and enjoy myself just by talking seeing or hanging out with is that so bad cause it never happens to me cause im to nice and dont no what to do about it are you sure there is someone for everyone?

First, believe in yourself, I know that sounds SO cliche and stupid, but it is true. How is anone suppose to think your a socialite if you don't?! So, everyone DOES have a someone, you've either NOT found it yet, OR, the person that is your someone is just a little shy and with time she'll come out and hang with you. I'm sure you have some friends who are girls, classmates... Whatever, girls are girls, and they travel in packs, so if you become close friends with one and hang out with her alot, the rest will tag along. Ask one of your classmates if she'd like to hang out one day, just as friends, in case she gets her hopes up for something more! Or, ask a close guy friend to introduce you to some girls. Be friendly, outspoken and a pleasure to be with.

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ok well i really kinda like this girl but she just been my friends for a long time and all but i kinda want something more than friends she is cool is hell we hang out all the time and just tonight a 4 in the morning we went skinny dipping but i no she likes someone else what do i do?

I know this may sound crazy, but it is the only answer, which is proper and it is a solution. Tell her you like her, and say that you just wanted to tell her, but, NOT to make her like you back, but just for her to know. Girls work in a very weird way, once you tell her, she'll realise you care about her and most probably give up on the guy she wants and just come to you. Plus, good friends mean being able to talk to each other about anything, right?! If you are nervous or unsure then, ask her hypothetically, like "What would you say if I told you I liked you?!" and see her reaction. :)

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So when I told my best friend (Lara) that I have feelings for her and I am bisexual she said she doesn’t feel the same way because she is unsure of her sexuality. And she is just bi curious, she respects my sexuality and my feelings but she can be quite confusing. When I was at a party and met some guy (nothing happen) she got jealous and I ask her why. She said she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in high school and she felt afraid we won’t be close anymore if I get a boyfriend. Because she said she was being over protective. (That was last year) But the odd thing is that I been close to her when I was going out to my ex BF’s. I hang with my friends with my ex-boyfriends at the same time. She flirts with me too. She comes across my personal space, she smiles with a daring look in her eyes when I look at her, mimics my body movements sometimes, lightly touches me and leans on me. I thought to myself that I am thinking to much into it but when I told my best friend Mandy who is friends with Lara. She said that she see’s Lara flirting to me. I have the hugest crush on her for 7 years and her actions always been like this. I want to move on because when I ask her “do you like me more than a friend?” she replies “not as of now sorry I see you as a sister.”…..but why does she flirt? BTW I flirt back and get close but she never backs away or stops the teasing. I am 21.

If you two are as close as you say you are, why don't you talk to her about her flirting. Maybe she is doing it sub-consciously. So ask her about it and see what she says. If she carries on, I think you should just tell her straight up that you have feelings for her and the fact that she doesn't, you want to get over her and move on and remain as friends, don't forget to say remain as friends, it is vital, so if you come off as 'ignoring' or 'avoiding' her, she'll understand. Which is what I think you should do, avoid her, that usually helps when getting over someone.

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Okay, So there is this Guy who I totally like. And I want to know if he likes me back. Here is how he acts.

1. Im the first girl on his top, And Pretty far up, on myspace.
2. Whenever he is online, He i/ms Me
3. He insults me alot Then Smiles
4. He always looks me in the eyes
5. In gym one day, I was sitting down and he sat really close to me and we spent the whole period talking.
6. He playfully punches me. Or slaps in me in the stomach or something.
7. Once In enlgish, My friend put her backpack in the seat next to mine, and he moved it and Put his stuff there and sat.
8. Another time in English, He was sitting in the back and I sat in the front and he moved his Stuff and Sat next to me.
9. Once, in the hall i was talking to my friend Shane about how Shane cameover my house once and The kid I like was right there, and he was like "I have never been to your housee!"

So Does he like me? Also, It seems like he's kind of flirting. So when he is Doing all of this, what do I do back? Thankss(:

Firstly, he most definitely likes you! It is SO obvious it's cute!! :D
If you want to flirt back, you can! Just do whatever her does, to him. Smile a lot and a lot of eye-contact is a REALLY good thing! Brush up against him and smile, be yourself because that is who he TRULY likes, believe me! :)

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16/f
okay so.. in our youth group there's like 4 guys (it's a small youth group). but anyways, i've hooked up with one of the guys lets call him A. A liked me a lot i'm pretty sure and i kinda liked him back. then there's B. my best friend hooked up with B. they really liked each other and he wanted to ask her out but she didn't wanna go out with him. but anyways.. now B likes me. and he's gonna ask me out and he like got me this really pretty necklace and stuff (my friends told me this). my best friend says she doesn't care if i go out with him.. but he was her first hook up and i would feel bad. and also i don't really want to go out with him. but here's the question.. would it be wrong if i just hooked up with him? because he's a really great person and he's attractive and stuff but i just don't really want a relationship for the summer because there's a few other guys i'm interested in. but then again i don't know if i should because i don't want to be like the 'slut of the youth group' having hooked up with 2 of the guys. ya know? i'm mostly just worried about my best friend caring even though she says she doesn't. but here's the catch.. one of my other best friends has never made out before. so B told her he would hook up with her so she would get the experience. my other friend told her it was fine. so would it be ok if i hooked up with him too? she said it was but i still feel like she kinda likes him a little just because it was her first time and i dont know it just feels wrong.
THANKS

I TOTALLY understand your situation. I strongly feel you should NOT go out with B, the fact that you FEEL that your best friend still has a LITTLE bit of feeling left for him, and because he said he will hook up with your best friend to help her gain experience and many more.
You don't even like him and you don't want a relationship with him, so leave him and let someone esle, probably your best friend, who probably DOES have feelings for him! So let B be and focus on the ohers, and I agree with you, you don't want to feel like the 'slut of the group', sometimes it is better to NOT date 2 friends, it just ends up terribly... Most of the time! :)

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I sort of have a few questions in one here.

So i'm 17 years old, female, and i'm graduating high school next week. (i'm a young senior) Firstly, a ton of my friends drink, and i don't, so i haven't been hanging out with them lately, which is sad. Now my little brother (going to be a junior in hs next year) wants to start drinking. What do i do? I feel like i'm losing my friends and my brother because i'm not comfortable partying with them.

Also, This boy i liked forever is back from college for the summer and i want something to happen but i'm afaid of ruining a friendship. He told me recently he liked me back when i liked him two years ago... and now he's single again. We go for walks, watch movies together, and talk all the time. He always says the right things. I was really upset the other day, and was basically freaking out. And after a while i was like well, you probably want to get back to what you were doing or whatever. And this was his response:

him: hey hey hey
him: don't think you are ever inconveniencing me if you have to come to me with a problem
him: it's what i'm here for
him: whenever you need help dealing with something let me know
him: i don't care what i'm doing
him: i'm glad you feel you can talk to me when there is a problem
me: thanks. i really appreciate that.
him: try to relax and get some sleep

And i felt so much better. So how can i keep this bond we've got but make it something more? And is it worth it? We'll both be in college come september, on other ends of the country. (boston for him, savannah, GA for me.) I'm worried about starting something before college. oh and he isn't over his ex. that may pose a problem.

my last point. How do you meet the right guy? i got lucky with the boy i was talking about above, but when i get to school, how do i met new people, make new friends? I've wanted a boyfriend for some time now... but i want it to mean something.

i'm just so clueless.

Help?

Thanks.
Panda

I'll address your last point since the rest have been already. Firstly, if you ahven't had a boyfriend then, there is no harm in tryign out and experiencing, learning how the opposite sex works. So try it out, talk to a couple of guys, flirt with them very subtley and just see how things go. the one that means something to you will be VERY distinctive and meaningful, but remember it isn't if the guy doesn't feel the same. A relationship that lasts and means something take two people! :D

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Ok, so i'm a guy and i'm 16...
I've been talkin to this girl i know from school and we've been planing to hang out, but with both our schedules we're having some issues...but i really want to go out with her...
should i wait till we hang out again or just ask her out now?

Ask her out now and explain to her that you have a tight schedule, so you don't lead her into thinking you'll always be there and then NOT be there!! :)

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okay well me and this kid Frank have become VERY close during school. and i mean we pretty much have a little "thing" but we are both scared to admit our feelings to eachother. but you can tell its pretty obvious. anyways, im afraid that when summer starts we are NEVER going to talk to eachother. cause the only time i talk to him is ONLY in school, never out of school. He doesn't have a cell phone so i cant text him. he does come online and when he does we talk for a very long time. Im jsut scared cause last year the same exact thing happened to me except with this kid matt. We had a lil "thing" in school and then when this year started we acted like we didnt even know eachother because we didnt speak once over the summer. How should i stop this from happening with frank? helppp!

Talk to him! Tell him about Matt and that you found it not very nice that he just pretended to NOT know you. Guys do do that, it is really immature! If Frank cares about you, he'll understand where you're coming from and be there when school starts. Plus why don't you hang out with him AFTER school, or just make a chill session, where you and some friends hang out and talk and have fun! It's fun!
If you want to know how he feels, ask him! I know that sounds crazy and really blunt, but try it! You only live once and you'd rather do everything you've wanted, because regretting is not the best feeling in the world. So just try it out, ask him, "Do you like me more than a friend?". Main point, be straight forward. Girls like beatign round the bush because they're shy or something, guys don't. Talk to him and if you can ask him and he can tell you how he truly feels than, he is definitely worth you're time and most importantly, you.

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Hey, A guy I like wrote on my facebook wall and said that I "have an awesome movie taste", does anyone know of something clever and kind of flirty that I could write back to him? But not too much because I work with him. Thank You :)

Go for the teenage dirty sex movies. Those usually hit the right spot, don't mention any chick-flicks because some guys aren't into it, well most aren't. Something like Scary Movie and etc. The thing is, he LIKES what you like, so don't manke up things, be honest because that is what he REALLY likes! :P Being honest will do the trick!

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Please only people who know what they're talking about. i would just like to know what to do and what to not do when giving a guy head please dont judge im curious

Put it in our mouth, holding it at the base (closest part to his body). You gently suck while twirling your tongue round his penis. Do this slowly and gently. Eye contact is a really goo thing too, so try it! Lubrication is an ideal helper! It helps him feel really good! :D

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