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this guy is gonna ask me out..
16/f
okay so.. in our youth group there's like 4 guys (it's a small youth group). but anyways, i've hooked up with one of the guys lets call him A. A liked me a lot i'm pretty sure and i kinda liked him back. then there's B. my best friend hooked up with B. they really liked each other and he wanted to ask her out but she didn't wanna go out with him. but anyways.. now B likes me. and he's gonna ask me out and he like got me this really pretty necklace and stuff (my friends told me this). my best friend says she doesn't care if i go out with him.. but he was her first hook up and i would feel bad. and also i don't really want to go out with him. but here's the question.. would it be wrong if i just hooked up with him? because he's a really great person and he's attractive and stuff but i just don't really want a relationship for the summer because there's a few other guys i'm interested in. but then again i don't know if i should because i don't want to be like the 'slut of the youth group' having hooked up with 2 of the guys. ya know? i'm mostly just worried about my best friend caring even though she says she doesn't. but here's the catch.. one of my other best friends has never made out before. so B told her he would hook up with her so she would get the experience. my other friend told her it was fine. so would it be ok if i hooked up with him too? she said it was but i still feel like she kinda likes him a little just because it was her first time and i dont know it just feels wrong.
THANKS <33 sorry it was so long.
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My god.
I really don't think that you should date one of your friends exes, especially as this 'B' would have been special to her being her first. You should be respectfull of her feelings if you're truely her friend. The only reason she's saying she's ok with it, is because she doesn't want to create tension between the two of you. You're her friend, and she wants you to be happy. You should realise that she's willing to be unhappy (to what extremes I don't know, as I'm not 100% aware of her feeling towards this), just for you, her friend, to be happy. That should show you just how much you mean to her. Are you willing to go with this guy knowing that could be a possibility? Because I definately wouldn't. It's happened to me, I know how it feels. You should take note that I never forgave the girl...
Friends before boys remember.
If you don't want a relationship with 'B' anyway, all you would achieve by going with him is something to brag about, while your friend is sitting heartbroken in the corner by your betrale, and give 'B' hopes of you becoming something more than the easy girl from the youth group that he got off with, when really, you're not interested. Nice.
Your other best friend should wait for somebody that she actually likes to have her first kiss with. Not somebody who offers, and is just up for an easy snog. My goodness, that's just fucking desperate.
Personally, all three of you girls should just forget about this 'B'. You, should focus on your friends rather than which bloke you're going to pull next. The girl who previously went out with B, who was her first, should learn to tell you her true feelings about situations, as she ought to trust you... and so, you must learn to be trustworthy. The girl longing for her first kiss, should focus on being happy, and stop looking for it to happen, just let it happen in time, no matter how long it takes and how frustrated she gets.
I'm sorry if some of this is harsh, but I truely wish you and your friends the best of luck.
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i say if you dont feel something 4 the guy dnt guys can be just as emotional as girls they have feelings 2 so if its just 4 good looks dnt because what if some other guy or 1 of teh 1s you like ask you out while your w/ him you brake up w/ him and hurt hes feelings and use him...so just dnt accept the neckles and say i just want 2 be friends is that ok?...and if the hes like yes he might say i still want you 2 keep it you can choose 2 keep it or not...i wouldnt he might get the wrong pic and think you kida like him...so yeah...hope i helped :]
xuya 14 girl...:]
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I TOTALLY understand your situation. I strongly feel you should NOT go out with B, the fact that you FEEL that your best friend still has a LITTLE bit of feeling left for him, and because he said he will hook up with your best friend to help her gain experience and many more.
You don't even like him and you don't want a relationship with him, so leave him and let someone esle, probably your best friend, who probably DOES have feelings for him! So let B be and focus on the ohers, and I agree with you, you don't want to feel like the 'slut of the group', sometimes it is better to NOT date 2 friends, it just ends up terribly... Most of the time! :)
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