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17 F
I just started going out with this guy today. His birthday is tomorrow. Should I do anything special?

We've liked each other since january.
He missed my birthday Friday because he wasn't at school.

I would wish him a happy birthday and maybe get him some candy or chocolate (hey, guys like chocolate too!)

Nothing special, but something that says that you know its his birthday. If he has that look on his face like "that's all?!" simply explain to him that this relationship is just starting out, and if he still isn't understanding point out to him that he didn't do anything for your birthday which should shut him up about his greediness.

~Maria, 17

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i need to get my mom a present for mother's day but i have NO IDEA what to get her!!

HELP?!

Make her her favorite desert. (if you're a bad baker, just follow the recipe closely, it really isn't that hard). Get her flowers (if you can) and most definitely a card (preferably make one rather than buy one).

Also, do her chores. Like cleaning, dishes, laundry, etc.

~Maria, 17

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i have clear braces and i brush my teeth after EVERY time i eat and i don't even get food in my teeth. i can never miss brushing my teeth i bring my toothbrush and toothpaste everywhere but yet my teeth are still yellow. WHAT SHOULD I DO!? it's impossible for me to brush them more than i already do and i don't know what else to do!

You can try brushing them with baking soda (just sprinkle some over your toothpaste). Also, make sure you're using whitening toothpaste, and you can even get a mouthwash that whitens your teeth as well. Also, avoid consuming foods that stain your teeth. For example, if you like coffee, add some milk or cream to it so it doesn't stain your teeth as much, or eliminate it from your diet completely (its bad for you, anyways!).

Here's a link to foods you should avoid:

http://www.mamashealth.com/dental/stain.asp

~Maria, 17

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what is anything a teenagers could make and sell? i really want a hobby and i love making and seeling things. i love trying/learning new things and im really looking for something new to learn and try. so anything really and if you could supply some websites about how to make whatever you suggest that would be soo much more helpful! my mom always says im such an entrepreneur and the garage sale on my street is coming up so its perfect!! thanks :) and i already know how to make choker neclaces and bracelets so not something like that. and no knitting please. and i already know how to crochet but not very well (at all lol)

How about picture frames? Like decorating them and selling them online (you can start off with ebay).

Also, you can try decorating cell phones using glitter, nail polish, charms, sparkles, etc. You can put up a bulletin at school and have people bring you their cell phones and you decorate them. You can practice on you own or old ones.

~Maria, 17

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I am 13 and really upset all the girls think im sexually frustrated and now none of them will go out with me. what should i do?

Masturbate and don't talk about sex.

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Im 13 and ive been having erections every day scince i was 10, well not every single day I even get erections over unfit girls in my class. I know the basic science stuff to do with hormones but should I worry?

Nope, you shouldn't worry at all, all guys go through this. Just practice hiding them to avoid embarrassing situations!

~Maria, 17

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My bf and I were having protected sex with a condom and we kept goin after he cummed and he was still pretty hard but if the condom begins to slip off like the ring is an inch higher off the shaft but the condom is still on for the main part is there a chance of pregnancy? or is that not so much a big deal. I dont want lectures just wondering what happens if it comes off about an inch. After it started slippin off we stopped. I think were still safe and all but Im just wanting some advice from anyone who would know or has experienced this. thanks!

I don't think anyone can answer that question. It just depends where the condom was to begin with. If you did keep going after he ejaculated, then there are some chances that the semen was pushed out towards the sides of the condom and out through the opening and into your vagina. The chances are slim and I wouldn't worry too much about you being pregnant. However, do take a pregnancy test if you miss your period.

Also, if the condom was sliding off, it could have been because it was too big. I don't know much about condom sizes, but if it was too loose at the base chances are that condom is too big. Condoms shouldn't be sliding off. Also, some guys tend to buy condoms that are really big because they are embarrassed of their true size. If you think this is the case here, you buy condoms from now on.

Since condoms aren't 100% effective, I would suggest going on birth control to minimize chances of pregnancy.

~Maria, 17

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so im not going to tell everyone the whole story. just cut to the chase. When I lost my virginity, I bled. just like everyone told me i would. but then that guy broke up with me. he got what he wanted so yeah. but I had sex with my new boyfriend after a year of dating. then we broke up for a week to just take a break. well...he got a new gf and I was so devistated I went to my best friends house and we were in this broken down trailor just listening to music and dirnking a little. but I had a little too much, and made a move on him... we ended up having sex.. I bled again. what does that mean? BTW my bf realized he needed me and we got back together. me and my best friend are still best friends. but seriously, is something wrong with me? he texted me when I got home and told me that there was blood... if I bled the first time, why did I bleed again? I had had sex with my boyfriend plenty of times and never bled with him.. i know I sound like a whore but I need to know... [all the 3 guys i have slept with were virgins so I know I dont have an STD or something]

The first time you bled was because your hymen (a piece of skin covering the entrance of your vagina) tore. The hymen is usually still there until after you give birth vaginally.

The second time you bled was probably because his penis was larger, or he entered from a different angle, causing some more of the hymen to tear. This is completely normal and nothing to worry about, just make sure you practice safe sex if you're going to have sex at all.

~Maria, 17

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I'm really in a huge trouble.

A week ago I just found myself falling in love with an 11 or 12 year-old boy(he won't tell me his age)

I'm 14.

I've been against having younger bf.

I donno what I should do.

How to deal with the situation.

We are quite close. his class is right next to mine.

And I really wanna know if he likes me too.

How do I do that?

I would really appreciate all your advises.

Well, I guess its alright that you like him, nothing wrong with that, but he is a bit young to feel the same thing for you. At that age (and especially because he's a boy) he really has no idea what girls are... yet.

At best he'll have one of those "crushes" on you, which really aren't crushes, it just means he knows you exist or he thinks you're pretty, but there's really no deeper emotional attachment then that.

I would just make friends with him for now, and see if you still like him when he is in 8th grade, where he might actually be capable of returning those feelings back to you.

~Maria, 17

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Has anyone ever been scared of leaving school? After senior year, well i am scared. Because school is cool and i actually have a blast with all my friends and such. Im so scared of graduating, i feel like im going to get hurt.
does anyone know what im saying? or am i just overeacting?
thanks.

Well, I'm a senior in high school and I take classes at the local junior college (I have since 9th grade). And honestly, college is so much better than high school (in my opinion).
Everyone is super nice, you don't have to fear being judged, and its easy to make friends.

In college is usually when you make friends for life, meet your future spouse, develop into an adult. You'll have a blast. Keep in touch with your friends from high school.

Just remember to do your homework, STUDY, and be careful with boys. Make sure you know them as friends first before you actually start dating them. (lots of players in college, but they're usually in the party scene, so stay away from them).


Don't worry about it. College will be one of the greatest experiences of your life.

~Maria, 17


EDIT:

Well, although there's really nothing wrong with not going to college, you do have a better chance of getting a job and getting higher pay than not going to college. If you want to go into Hollywood, I'll be honest with you, it will be VERY difficult succeeding in that industry. You will have a much higher chance of succeeding if you major in something like movie production, or something related. (And trust me, there's a lot of majors out there!)

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year-round, i wear simple black eyeliner on the rims of my eyes, but lately, due to my allergies, it has been smudging off underneath my eye (near my lashline). this is because i tear up when the wind blows or especially when i'm in contact with pollen.

typically, i would be okay with that because i can live without my eyeliner... EXCEPT when i have my allergies. because of them, the rims of my eyes are pink / red, and without my eyeliner, i look sickly as if though i have bloodshot eyes (which i do most of the time).

i reapply my eyeliner before 8th period (i have 9 periods) (my crush is in my 8th period class) and it looks fine again, but i was wondering...

question: are there any tricks that exist to prevent eye liner from smudging off of the RIMS of your eyes?

please do not tell me to just "apply the eyeliner along your lashline" because that's not what i want. i need my eyeliner on the rims of my eyes because they turn pink / red only because of my allergies. & don't tell me to go without eyeliner because it's "bad" for my eyes. it's not.

You can try putting a white eyeliner on rims of your eyes. That way if you eyes get watery and the eyeliner smudges, it won't be very noticeable, and the white eyeliner will still hide the redness (in fact will make your eyes appear bigger).

If you still want the black eyeliner look, you can get a waterproof eyeliner, except I wouldn't recommend wearing it on the rims of your eyes because its waterproof and might actually irritate them. So what you can do is put white eyeliner on your rims, and black waterproof liner on the lashline.

~Maria, 17

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i recently started a birth control pill called lutera, 3 weeks in im starting to get my period [which i didnt think i would get?] and its all like small brown blood clots, like sticky little things. is this normal?

Your body is just starting to adjust to the birth control. It takes about 3 months for your body to fully adjust to such amounts of hormone, so for now your body will be acting pretty weird. If these blood clots are going on for longer than 10 or so days I would call they doctor that prescribed you the birth control.

But I wouldn't be too worried. Its normal to have a clotty period (it just means you have a super light flow so it has time to "dry" a bit in your vagina and blood clots really easily and turns brown after a while).

~Maria, 17

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Hey, I'm 16 F as well as my friend. I think she has an eating disorder. Today, we went running, and after she was like "that Chiness really filled me up" Which may I add in, was around 12, and she said thats all she ate today. Shes lost a lot of weight, and she doesn't eat really anything at lunch. A PB&J, banana, and some kind of health bar. Ahd she said she eats for breakfast is a bagle(spelling)I don't know if she eats after school, she says she does. Now the funny thing is, shes losing all this weight, but isn't doing anything to burn calories. Like running or anything. Today was the first day she ran in a looooong time. And me and her other friends always "get on her" about what she;s eating. And yesterday she was talking about how much she weigh and I was like " you know its really not healthy to talk about your weight all the time" and shes like "I'm not I was just saying". Then today, she was said "I feel fat" about 5 times. And before we started running she said" I want to be really skinny" then I looked at her and she was like "not really skinny, but built" and I rolled my eyes. She use to weigh the same as me, 150ish, but she was "fat" and I have an athletic body, I play sports. Back around I say Jan-Febish, she was about 150. Shes now 129 or less. I'm scared, and I really dont know what to do.

I wouldn't be surprised if your friend does have an eating disorder, she has some very common symptoms of having one.

Eating disorders are serious and complicated, and can only be treated by professionals.

I would talk to her parents about your suspicions so they can encourage her to get help. Don't try to help her yourself, but be there for her and encourage her. (by telling her to eat, for example, you're really doing her more harm than good.)

Also, I wouldn't tell her that you told her parents. She will be angry and will feel betrayed. But, it is important to know that by telling her parents you are really helping her, and in the end, she will thank you, because really, you will be saving her life.

Good luck to both of you.

~Maria, 17

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so, my sister is about to have a baby, and she cant think of ANYTHING to name the baby if its a girl! she already has two boy names picked out, Chandler Brady, and Noah Luke( so cute!:]). so, could anyone suggest any names that they like for a girl? anything will do. thanks so much!

Reese. Absolutely in love with that name.

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two years after nose job. would a person be able to snort things if neccessary without causing any damage?

Nose job or not, you'll cause damage snorting things anyway.

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What all can be recycled?

Is it just aluminum and paper?

(I'm going to start recycling, and we're going to go and get that little blue recycling box thing tomorrow.)

Plastic bags are NOT recyclable. Workers actually spend 20% of their time removing bags from the machines because they get jammed in there. So no plastic bags. Otherwise, the girl below gave a pretty complete list, I have nothing to add to it =)

~Maria, 17

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How do you know if you are ready for sex?

When you can answer "yes" to all of the following:

- You are at the age of consent in your state or country

- You are financially, mentally, and educationally ready to support a child

- You will have protected sex (condoms AND the pill... if you're too embarrassed or unable to buy birth control than you are no way ready to have sex, because the reason for sex is to reproduce, and how can you care for a child if you can't even get birth control)

- You are with a person whom you love

- The person whom you're with loves you

- The person whom you're with can answer yes to all of the questions listed above (sex involves two people and I don't see why one person can get away with not being financially ready for a child, for example).


~Maria, 17

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okay so i've been sick since the first week of february and it's now march fourth. i have an awful cough and i feel the constant need to cough like deep in my lungs. i've been to the doctor three times and i took zithromax for walking pnemonia but i still have this stupid cough and i'm starting to get nervous. i'm only fourteen and i know i'm probably instigating it because i've recently picked up smoking but i only smoke like once every other day. and i've been sick longer then i've been smoking. it's starting to scare me, what should i do? is this normal?

What should you do? Quit smoking. Having all that cigarette crap in your lungs isn't helping your cough, I guarantee it. I also don't know how smoking effects your medication, but I would definitely read up on it/talk to your doctor. (They need to know things like whether you smoke or not, because often it will change their choice of what medication to prescribe).

~Maria, 17

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Okay so me and my boyfriend broke up last year..we were going out for a month and two weeks..and broke up because my friend kept putting drama in between us. Its been a while sense we broke up and i think i still love him? I had fallen for him sense i first met him and yea. My friends still ask me if i like him and i say no, but i do. Everyone thought we made a good couple when we were going out, and now he's going out with this other girl and he says he doesnt like me anymore..so..i really need some help in thiss.

Right down every negative thing that you can think of about him. Anything from the clothes he wore, his personality quirks, that disgusting zit on his face, the fact that he doesn't like a great girl like you. Everything and anything. The more the better.

Every time you think of him, read that list. Again if you have to. Make copies of it and put them on your mirror, on your ceiling, everywhere. It should help.

~Maria, 17

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for spanish were doing a cooking project and i need a really good recipe thats authentic hispanic food. help please!

Spanish rice is my favorite:

http://www.elise.com/recipes/archives/000040spanish_rice.php

For a simpler dish you can do mango salsa:

http://www.elise.com/recipes/archives/000473mango_salsa.php

Or for a more dessert dish you can do cinnamon tortilla chips:

http://www.cdkitchen.com/recipes/recs/146/Cinnamon_Tortilla_Crisps60881.shtml



~Maria, 17

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