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Friend having an eating disorder?
Hey, I'm 16 F as well as my friend. I think she has an eating disorder. Today, we went running, and after she was like "that Chiness really filled me up" Which may I add in, was around 12, and she said thats all she ate today. Shes lost a lot of weight, and she doesn't eat really anything at lunch. A PB&J, banana, and some kind of health bar. Ahd she said she eats for breakfast is a bagle(spelling)I don't know if she eats after school, she says she does. Now the funny thing is, shes losing all this weight, but isn't doing anything to burn calories. Like running or anything. Today was the first day she ran in a looooong time. And me and her other friends always "get on her" about what she;s eating. And yesterday she was talking about how much she weigh and I was like " you know its really not healthy to talk about your weight all the time" and shes like "I'm not I was just saying". Then today, she was said "I feel fat" about 5 times. And before we started running she said" I want to be really skinny" then I looked at her and she was like "not really skinny, but built" and I rolled my eyes. She use to weigh the same as me, 150ish, but she was "fat" and I have an athletic body, I play sports. Back around I say Jan-Febish, she was about 150. Shes now 129 or less. I'm scared, and I really dont know what to do.
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Her weight loss was healthy. Don't worry about that.
I don't think she has an eating disorder, I think she lost weight by improving her eating habits. How do you know that she hasn't been doing anything to burn calories? You can't possibly be there for every second of her life. Plus, you said that she's been eating less. Which, if a person is overweight, is something they have to do. I lost thirty pounds mainly by eating less and controlling portions.
Peanut butter and jelly, a banana, and a health bar IS actually a fair amount to eat at lunch. I think your friend is fine, she just has a negative body image. The same thing happened to me when I lost weight, I kept thinking I was still fat and could do better. Unless she stops eating completely you most likely don't have anything to worry about.
-LM
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she's does not have an eating disorder because losing 20 lbs in 5 months is completely and totally healthy. Also, eatinga bagel for breakfast is fine as well as eating a sandwhich, fruit, and a bar. All of these things are just eating rationally. It's okay if she loses weight healthily, which it seems as though she is doing. None of these things point to an eating disorder. Is she hiding food? Does she had mood swings? Is she lying about what she eats? None of the things you listed point to an eating disorder they just show that she doesn't like ehr body and wants to lose weight, which is perfectly find because being 150 lbs is unhealthy and if she wants to become healthy then i applaud her. I lost 30 lbs in 6 months, so what she has lost is perfectly healthy. Don't worry, shes fine.
and I doubt you're one of the skinniest girls at your school considering there are girls out there who are 100 lbs and there is no way that you are skinnier than them and unless you're like 5'11 then 150 is unhealthy. face it!
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I wouldn't be surprised if your friend does have an eating disorder, she has some very common symptoms of having one.
Eating disorders are serious and complicated, and can only be treated by professionals.
I would talk to her parents about your suspicions so they can encourage her to get help. Don't try to help her yourself, but be there for her and encourage her. (by telling her to eat, for example, you're really doing her more harm than good.)
Also, I wouldn't tell her that you told her parents. She will be angry and will feel betrayed. But, it is important to know that by telling her parents you are really helping her, and in the end, she will thank you, because really, you will be saving her life.
Good luck to both of you.
~Maria, 17
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