I'm a twenty year old chick from Wisconsin. I could sit here and ramble on about my life, but I'm not going to. I'll spare you the boring details. God knows we've seen one too many profiles with "OMG, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND. AND A DOG. GOD I LOVE THEM BOTH, I CANT CHOOSE WHO I LOVE MORE. IM SO COOL. I LOVE MY FRIENDS. SHOUTOUTS LYKE THX!"
So lets cut to the chase, I'm only here becuase a friend reffered me and I have a knack of giving advice. I'm very blunt and in no way am I going to paint some pretty picture and tell you things that you want to hear.
Have fun kids.
Gender: Female
Age: 20
Member Since: September 21, 2005
Answers: 184
Last Update: December 20, 2005
Visitors: 8553
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okay well heres the deal
i use condoms sometimes... but you see theres this peice of skin in my vagina that goes over the tip of the tmpon and sometimes it gets stuck! and it really hurts to get it out. okay so my question is when you have sex i hear that you tear and piece of skin... so uhm wear exactly is it and how bad does it hurt? cuz if its the same thing i think it will hurt to much to have sex, and my boyfriend is getting anxious.
thanks ill rate (link)
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The piece of skin is called they hymen. This site may be helpful http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm
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hey there's this guy i really like, and he keeps asking me who i like. i really want to tell him that it's him, but i just don't know how to. please help me! i really don't know what to say!
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If he keeps asking you who you like chances are he's trying to pry it out of you. So the next time he asks you tell him straight up. Remember, be confident, keep eye contact. It's not always simple, but it is the best solution to just get out what you want to say.
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im a 16/f and i went on a tubing trip with my team this past weekend and i hung out with this really nice guy. we were together the whole time. we were constantly all over eachother and he held my hand and talked with me the whole time. well people who saw this misinterperted the situation and now everyone thinks i like him. well no ones paying any attention to what he does cause he has a gf...which i didnt know when we were together. he is a really sweet guy and he was so easy to talk to. the thing is that im starting to like him. i see him everyday at practice and he always grabs my waist and gives me small hugs. my best friend keeps telling me that there is no way that he doesnt have feelings for me since he held my hand the whole time and he kept asking me to get on his tube with him. is there anything i can do in this situation to get people off my back and is there any way that he likes me? (even if he has a g/f) (link)
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Well when a guy starts holding my hand and grabs me by my waist I'd assume he felt something for me. Or at least wanted just in my pants. When you're going along with the situation well knowing he has a girlfriend you're being what's called a... homewrecker.
Even if it's just LITTLE things like that. If that was your man and you caught wind of it would you be alright with it? Chances are you want to stomp this in the ground before she finds out or you're going to be knee deep in angry girl drama.
How do you get people off your back? Get him off yours. I don't think that what he's doing are just friendly and ordinary gestures. You really don't want a two woman man either so it's not wise to fall for that character. Just tell him to lighten up on you.
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last week me and the i was dating broke he said he doesnt love me anymore but i still love him and iwant him but we were in a long distance relationship and it made things hard for us i want to move on,but i also want him back should i tell him how i feel or should we just be friends like we said we would be? (link)
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Long distance relationships are HARD. I've been in a couple.
When a guy says he doesn't love you anymore, there isn't much you can do. You can state your feelings but it's likely that when he's trying to get away from you he could find you obsessive and may tend to stray even further away from you.
Just try to be friends for a while, it may work out that way for the best.
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so i really like this guy and i dont know how to get him to like me. what do you think i should do? have you ever liked a guy sooooooooooooo much that you start thinkin what his last name saounds like with yours? if do did it turn out well? i would really like to get advice. and o yeah one more thing. my parents think that im to young to go out with guys. im a girl about 13 years old. thanks for your help!
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First, have you talked to this guy or is it just some pretty face that you can't take your eyes off. I know it's not easy for anyone to get up and go talk to someone but... try talking to him? Hang out with him and see what happens from there.
Oh yeah, your parents are probably right. There's nothing wrong with dating at thirteen but you're just asking for drama and heartbrake. You should probably be focused on other things rather than a relationship. You'll have all the time in the world later on in life to date someone, and by that point in time the men will be slightly more mature, but probably not much.
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Are people on here as stupid as they appear, or is all just an act? (link)
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From what I've witnessed they ARE as stupid as they appear.
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Ok me and my ex broke up last tuesday. yesterday me and him got into a big arguement and now he hates me. but now I miss him a lot and i dont know what to do anymore.. I dont want to miss him but its hard not to because hes my next door neighbor.... and yeah, so im lost. he has a new gf and not to sound concided but he went from a girl (me) who is rated about a 9 to a girl who is about a 4 or 5 and I picked on him for that but im just really jealous and i have to walk home with him every day!! HELP ME!! what do i do?! we used to argue everyday because i used to say he doesnt care but i realized he does!! omg im really confused!! please help and what can i do to get him back?!
Signed,
i miss him. (link)
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For starters, I think you may be obsessed. Teasing his new girlfriend is probably not the best way to get back into his heart.
You never know what you had until it's gone has never been so true in your case.
There's not much you can do except to tell him how you feel. You really can't force him to be with you again, and laying it on thick could irratate him more to the point where he's just going to really hate you.
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the thing is, people are telling me my boyfriend is cheating on me ..he has been doing stuff with other people when he went out with other girls.. whenever i talk to him about him cheating on me he always walks away and doesnt talk to me.. i dont know what to do! he says he didnt cheat on me but he lies! what do i do.. i love him so much (link)
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At least you could find it in yourself to ask him. That is step one. If he feels the need to walk away from you then you need to walk away from him. I understand that you love him, but is this kind of stress worth it?
You need total trust in your relationship. If he can't tell you "No, I would never cheat on you." Then I'd have to say something's wrong.
If you were being obsessed about it he could find it annoying and that could be why he's walking away. Reguardless, us girls need some reassurance in our men. I say the next time you see him say "Look, give me an answer now or get out of my life." He owes that to you.
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well...me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over 2 months now.
we were really good friends before then, and i was totally crazy about him, and for about the first month we dated, i was still totally crazy about him. well, he lives about a half hour away from me, so its hard to see him, and we talk online everyday.
the problem is, it feels like my feelings for him are fading, but i know deep down i do love him. and i dont know what i should do. how can i get that feeling back?
i dont want to break up with him, because i know i'll regret it. but sometimes the more i think about him i find more and more things that really bug ne, just stupid little pet peeves.. and i dont know how to go about telling him that i want him to get a little bit more mature...help?
could i just be feeling this way cause we live kind of far, and i dont see him a lot?
i also have a constant mood swings, could this just be a result of an awkward mood swing?
sorry this is long, i just could use some help on what to do...ill rate and give feedback. ♥ (link)
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The love doctor is in.
In my opinion it's natural not to feel so attached to the person you love on some days. Then again, you could be just infactuated with him and you feel the need to love and be loved that you're in some kind of falsehood with yourself. Are you sure you love him?
I know that saying time apart seems silly seeing as how you've said you live a ways. Long distance relationships are hard to keep up with. It takes some work. My suggestion is to take a break from talking to him. Talking gets boring without some kind of physical action. Be it staring or touching.
Remember you can't change a person and no person in a relationship lives positively happy without any flaws they couldn't stand from the other person. Some flaws really draw you closer to a person and makes you love them more. But if they really are bothering you then the best thing is to be blunt with him. Tell him what bothers you, don't be demanding and say change it. Just let him know.
If you keep quiet about things that bother the hell out of you in a relationship then it's sure to go sour! You'll bother the hell out of eachother to the point where you just want to kick your S/O.
Constant mood swings? Hunny. You're a girl. I know that sounds like such a sexist thing to say but a lot of girls have constant mood swings =)
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i know you can't speed up time or anything but is there like a way to make the feek go by fast...well seems fast? I know it's kidna stupid but i'm just wonder? (link)
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Try doing something?
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Ok, long story short, I fell in love with one of my best friend over the summer. Yes, I'm 13. Yes, I know you're about to tell me that this is mere infatuation rather than love. I'm just gonna spare you a 1 rating: It's not infatuation. I know love, and I know infatuation. And this is definitely love. I can feel it as right as 2+2 is 4. Anydangways, she knows very well how much I love her, but she still only likes me as a friend. Now that the school year's started again, our attitudes have sort of changed. We used to joke around all the time, but nowadays, we see each other in the halls, and either we just say "hi" or we stay silent or involved in our conversations. Personally, whenever I'm talking to my friends in the halls, and then I see her coming, I'm suddenly turn silent and I say something like "Yeah, I know, I'm weird." or "Yeah. That's it." Or something to end conversation and not embarass myself. Also, I've been hoping to see her: whenever I'm near where she lives and talking to someone about something, I think, "I'd better make this conversation a bit smarter in case she comes near. Just to be safe" or something like that. And I'm always trying to impress her. I don't know why, we're best friends, and she knows how much I love her. What's going on? Why do I just suddenly lose all my intelligence, self-respect, and logical reasoning, not to mention my will to do what I please, whenever I think about her? It's like in that manga D.N.Angel, whenever Daisuke thinks about Risa, he becomes Dark and loses control of his body. Sorry, I babble a lot. I'd better stop now. Please help me! (link)
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Lets start with this.
You're 13, I have no idea why people who are younger strive so hard for love. I'm not going to walk on eggshells when I say that any relationships you form with someone at that age are likely to be extremely unstable and will probably lead to heartache.
I have to say, you're probably the most mature male I've seen for your age. Not to mention that your grammar is absolutely stunning compared to a lot of poorly written things I see in the adivce column. So I'll give you some hints!
Win her heart. If you really care about this girl then you need to go out on a limb and prove it to her. Give her flowers or something. Don't try and change yourself and make yourself seem like you're someone you're not. That would be like trying to have her fall for an entirely different person.
If she really doesn't want to be with you there's not much you can do. I realize that not having someone you love hurts like hell, but you can't really force a person to like or love you.
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I have this one friend and shes always like IMing me saying that I called her a bitch and a slut and a whore...and she always tells me that my best friend is always saying that.But I never call her those things.And she never believes me.And my best friend is always telling me that shes not saying that...but I dont know if I should believe her. (link)
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This is an instance where 'immaturity syndrome' seems to take a full run. Everyone just needs to grow up and talk things out.
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ok this boy i think he likes me i asked like 10 different people if he does and i told them what he does to me like smile and stare.but the past 3 days it wasnt that way he doesnt talk stare or make me laugh anymore....its like he hates me now or something...whats going on (link)
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Maybe he feels insecure now? Have you been responding positively to his body language or talking to him? He could feel that maybe you take no interest in him so he's given up.
Try talking to him, hang out with him. Then find out how he feels.
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Is it true that if u sre a smaller girl you dont get your period until ur like older and if you are a bigger girl you get yours sooner????is that true or is that just a lie... or doe sit have nothing to do with how big you are its just the was your body develpos (link)
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It just depends on when your body develops. I have no idea if you have to hit a certain weight or not.
I was 14 or 15.. a very late bloomer... when I got my first period and I was pretty chunky when friends of mine were a lot thinner and got theres as soon as 12 or 13.
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Okay guys! I've been dating a guy for 3 months and I love him more than anything in the world! He promised me he would never leave me and for once in my life, I BELIEVE A GUY.OKay well we're both virgins and I think he wants to boost it up a little.How do I prepare for all that? If anything happens anytime soon...I want to be ready and things to go really good.Help!
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First off, love is a fragile thing. I think you guys may be rushing your hearts, then again I'm not you.. but from expierence I've found I've often rushed myself into the game of love and ended up getting shit on in the end.
I don't really trust men as far as I can throw them, I'm extremely careful while dating. I'm not telling you to shut yourself but just be careful. Men fluctuate moods almost as much as women.
If you're really ready for sex I'd advise you find a contraceptive, plus condoms. You can never be too careful. Just make sure you're ready. Even if things have progressed to where you're both in the bed and ready to do the deed and you don't feel up to it just tell him to stop. That will be a true test of love there.
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I am often called evil for being an atheist. Why is it that christians who supposedly want to spread good will have no problem calling me an immoral godless person? (link)
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Becuase a lot of christian's are closed minded morons. I'm not going to apologize if that offends anyone. Some christians are awesome, others are just stuck on shoving their beliefs up one's rear and shutting out those who do not accept what they do.
It's called being a hypocrit.
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Ok well my best friend and her boyfriend have been going out for i think 4 months now....there relationship was going really well hes a nice guy and she really liked him and he liked her. well me and her went camping so we missed this huge party we were invited to but her boyfriend still went. that was totally ok with my friend cause she didnt think anything of it. well now school has started and they have been fighting more and everybody at the party keeps telling her that he was like all over this girl at the party and was like freak dancing with her and like making out with her. first she didnt believe it but then one of her good friends told her her the same thing. when she confronted her boyfriend about it he said he never cheated on her. she believes him now for the most part but there relationship is rough. i would support by best friend till the end and i have become friends with her boyfriend too and i dont want them to brake up because i know they still really like eachother but these rumors keep going around and it kinda looks like there going towards that. any advice i could give them? (link)
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They need to talk about this. Age really makes a difference in how people act and handle situations.
Rumors seem to be a big highschool thing, and they can make or break people. Rumors doesn't add up to hard evidence or the truth. But when you have a close friend telling you these things it's time to get with the program!! Your friend needs to tell her boyfriend straight out that she will not tolerate for being cheated on and if he wants her then he damn well better make it clear.
No one should have to strain themselves in a relationship. You say it's rough but they really like eachother? Maybe they wool is pulled over their eyes. I'd suggest time apart from one another to see what their true feelings are.
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okay soo.. school pictures are comming up.. and i need to do something with my hair! i straighten it down and everything but it juss doesnt seem to say the same through out the day! like it doesnt go poofy.. it just kinda looks bad in my opoion!! ahh if anyone can help i will rate 5's!!! oh and by the way.. hair spray can make your hair look greasy soo im goina have to pass on that ... (link)
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Try hair gel. Apply when your hair is damp - blow dry. It may work with you. The same with mouse or however it's spelt. Leave in conditioners help a little too.
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there were these kids today that were in my 4 th period class who were lookin at the picture of me and my boyfriend. to be honest he isnt the hottest thing out there but i really dont care i love my boyfriend to death. but they started diss him and sayin all this shit about him. they were sitting right behind me doin this and thought i was stupid and didnt noe what they were talkin about. can i turn that in for sexual harrassment? everything they said affended me and i got really sad and when i get sad i get quiet and that is what happened. i wanted to get up and hit ever single one of them and then show them what is so funny, but instead i thought it through and decided that they werent worth it so i ignored them and NOTHIN changed. they kept going and goin all period. (which was 30 mintuess left) here are my question:
1) could i turn them in for harrassment?
2) tomorrow if they start it again should i stand up and give them a piece of my mind?
3) do u think i should tell my boyfriend about this? (he doesnt go to my school)
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i am a 14/f and a freshman (link)
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1) You cannot turn them in for sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is more like "Hey, nice ass" and unplesant touching. They were teasing.
2) You can give them a piece of your mind, they may stop - then again they'll know it's bothering you so they may continue to bother you about it. The best thing to do is ignore them and maybe tell them to get a life and find something more valuable to do with thier time.
3)Why tell your boyfriend that someone was making fun of him? That doesn't seem exactly right.
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I bet yall are thinking "Oh great ? Another guy question" I`m sorry, lol but I had to ask. Me and Zack went out for 9 months. ( Lol, we were only in 6th grade, but we went out for a long time cus we had so much fun going to movies and stuff ) But then he broke up with me. I was heartbroken and cried for days. I got over it and we became best of friends and I`ve even had a few boyfriends since then. But all along I`ve still liked Zack. I`ve helped him hook up with some of my best friends and every time I do I can't take it. I`ve told him i liked him before but we usually go into the ackward state were we just sorta ignore each other till I tell him I like another guy. What should I do? Were finally BFFs again and I don't wanna ruin it again, but I still like him. Sorry for being so long, thnks again and I will definitly rate high. xox (link)
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If you've already told him you like him then he knows. You really don't want to pressure a guy into dating you, becuase BAM you'll be heartbroken again and back where you left off. Watch for his body language around you. Watch how he acts around other people.
You really have to wait for him. There's not much you can do other than tell him your feelings.. and never try laying it on thick. You may scare him ;)
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