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Changed attitude
Ok, long story short, I fell in love with one of my best friend over the summer. Yes, I'm 13. Yes, I know you're about to tell me that this is mere infatuation rather than love. I'm just gonna spare you a 1 rating: It's not infatuation. I know love, and I know infatuation. And this is definitely love. I can feel it as right as 2+2 is 4. Anydangways, she knows very well how much I love her, but she still only likes me as a friend. Now that the school year's started again, our attitudes have sort of changed. We used to joke around all the time, but nowadays, we see each other in the halls, and either we just say "hi" or we stay silent or involved in our conversations. Personally, whenever I'm talking to my friends in the halls, and then I see her coming, I'm suddenly turn silent and I say something like "Yeah, I know, I'm weird." or "Yeah. That's it." Or something to end conversation and not embarass myself. Also, I've been hoping to see her: whenever I'm near where she lives and talking to someone about something, I think, "I'd better make this conversation a bit smarter in case she comes near. Just to be safe" or something like that. And I'm always trying to impress her. I don't know why, we're best friends, and she knows how much I love her. What's going on? Why do I just suddenly lose all my intelligence, self-respect, and logical reasoning, not to mention my will to do what I please, whenever I think about her? It's like in that manga D.N.Angel, whenever Daisuke thinks about Risa, he becomes Dark and loses control of his body. Sorry, I babble a lot. I'd better stop now. Please help me!
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you've answered your own question: you lose all your intelligence self-respect, etc., because you're in love. i'm not going to tell you that it isn't love because a lot of people think love is a stronger emotion than it really is. While some love is very strong, just because it is only moderate or you're only 13 doesn't mean that it isn't love. Also, it probably is because you know this girl really well.
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wow 13! those are the hard years. well take it from me (i am a girl) all girls like it when they are surrounded by boys! like flirt with her and make her like you! all girls like to be swept off their feet. well hope that helps you!
good luck!
xoxomadeline
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All that is going on here is you are behaving like a typical human being. Actually, if I may say so, you are behaving more like a typical 21 year-old human being then a 13 year-old one.
So I'll spare you the 13 year-olds don't know what love is bullshit, but I will say this:
You will feel this way again.
You'll lose yourself in another person again. You'll be in love again.
You'll probably look back in a few years and laugh at yourself for the way you are behaving now,
and then go out and do it all over again.
As love grows and develops with between two people who feel the same, you no longer loose yourself in the love. You find the confidence and security in their love for you and can be true to yourself and let everything, even the weakness and stupidity shine through.
Aint none of us perfect. But we are all loved.
The desire to impress is normal, but it shouldn’t be the hallmark of love. If the object of your affections has thoroughly turned you down, it’s time to relax, take the time to get over it as best you can and go back to being yourself, and see who the real you attracts.
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Lets start with this.
You're 13, I have no idea why people who are younger strive so hard for love. I'm not going to walk on eggshells when I say that any relationships you form with someone at that age are likely to be extremely unstable and will probably lead to heartache.
I have to say, you're probably the most mature male I've seen for your age. Not to mention that your grammar is absolutely stunning compared to a lot of poorly written things I see in the adivce column. So I'll give you some hints!
Win her heart. If you really care about this girl then you need to go out on a limb and prove it to her. Give her flowers or something. Don't try and change yourself and make yourself seem like you're someone you're not. That would be like trying to have her fall for an entirely different person.
If she really doesn't want to be with you there's not much you can do. I realize that not having someone you love hurts like hell, but you can't really force a person to like or love you.
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awe thats so cute...try to carry on a conversation with her that you would have had when you guys were still really close and before you told her how you felt and tell her that you still want to be her friend no matter how you feel about her
<3chelle
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ok thats really cute awww!! you are in love!! the only thing i can think of fer you acting that way is because you really like her and that feeling isnt going to go away overnight! maybe you can tell her how you feel maybe she feels the same way!!! i hope i helped! <3 stacey
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What you need to do is relax,when she saids hi then tell her something good that happened or something bad in the news or something funny,see her reaction,she will most likely continue the conversation.It's normal to start losing control when your near someone you like it happens to a lot of people.By the way you should also ask about her life like what is she interested in,her family or how is she doing in her classes so she see's that you are really into her.You could also ask your one of your friends to help you talk to her and even better if you too are alone to have a good talk without interruptions.You could also think of what you are going to say to her before you start a conversation.
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Hey sweety! Sounds like you are just nervous around the girl! Well we all know that its pretty much impossible to read a girls mind, so why not confront her? If allowing your emotions to come out in person scares you, there is always the alternative of note writing or even a decent phone call.Maybe she feels the same way. You guys could both just be nervous! Take a chance!Lifes too short! lol well I hope I helped even just a little! Have a great day!<3 Nicole
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