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Q: Ok,i like this boy but were friends and all.Really good friends.But like everytime we talk i get so into the conversation and just want 2 blurt out that i like him.Should I??

Signed NEED HELP FAST!

I was in that situation a few months ago.To make a long story short...as of September 1st it will be our two month anniversary.So if you haven't guessed,yeah,I told him.He felt the same way too.Sorry to get warped up in my story...if I was you I'd definately tell him.Go for it!And if the worst happens and he just wants to remain friends...try hard to accept that.All stories don't have fairy tale endings.And as I have said before a pint of Ben and Jerry's mends a broken heart.I wish you the best of luck.

Q: i have very thick lashes... but they are short... this sounds concited but i have very pretty brown eyes and i haven't found a mascara to make my lashes longer to give more attention to my eyes. any suggestions on a mascara or eye shadow to make my eyes look great?

I use Clinique's Naturally Glossy or High Impact.(Depending on the mood I'm in.)Both mascaras really help to lengthen my lashes.Just experiment with lots of different ones.

Q: hey i am like a punk kid. and i really dont like preps very much. but my mom is like anti-punk and loves preps. and she is really into the "preppy" clothes and attitude and all that good stuff. lol. ok well thats NOT me but how do i tell her without her freaking out. i mean i want to get my tongue pierced and my ears pierced a lot. but my mom is just not understanding for my personality. people tell me "Be yourself who cares what others think" but how can you be yourself when your mother is making you another. how do i try to show my mom that i am not like her?

I cannot stand people who label themselves or others.Have I been called a punk before?Yes.Goth?Yes.Do I consider myself either?NO!I just prefer Black to pink.It just really pisses me off when people say shit like that.Think about that the next time you label yourself.As for the advice part.It was kind of hard at first with my mom to except I rather wear A Gun's and Roses Tee with jeans that have holes in it and Chuck Taylors as opposed to a cute pink skirt with a clean,white tank top and stilettos.Do you get my point though? Give her time.Eventually she will accept your wardrobe and you.She'll still love you no matter what you wear.As for your piercings.Good luck with those.Once you turn 18 you can get how ever many you want.Who knows by then you might not even want them.But try for one at a time.And the toungue would not be a good place to start.

Q: ...im getting my teeth pulled..the 2 like first molars...i uess im getting laughing gas and a shot...umm what do they use and does it hurt can someone like tell me these things lol im sooo nervous and i just need to know whats going on....thanks sooo much =)

I am the pro of tooth extractions.I can't even count on my two hands of how many I've had pulled.Umm...it doesn't look like you'll be having an IV put in you so you don't have to worry too much.Laughing gas is kind of cool.You will feel spaced.Just don't get up to quickly when your done.The shots of novocane ,I'm not gonna lie, aren't fun.They shoot the shot around the entire tooth into your gums.I warn you though watch out for the sound of the tooth detaching itself from the root. Makes the grossest CRUNCH noise you have ever heard in your life, seriously.It shouldn't be that bad though.Don't get yourself all revved up before you go.Relax.Or else you will be a raving lunatic.After you are done you will have an excuse to eat a pint of Ben and Jerry's.Cause trust me you won't want to have any solid foods.

Q: my aunt has breast cancer. shes like my 2nd mom. i love her so much and im so scared! someone help me

I know 2 women that are in remission from breast cancer.So I know there are survivors.I also know a woman that is stuggling through it now.All I can say to you is make everyday like it's her last.Don't hold anything back.Keep her up beat and optimistic.Be brave and pray for her.Join a support group.Talk about your feelings about her illness with friends and family.I wish your aunt the best of luck with her recovery,and I will keep her in my prayers.

Q: Well there is this guy in my dance class ( I swear he's not gay) and I like him a lot and all my dance friends say he likes me and I like him too, and I've told my best friend about him and she said make a move but i don't know if it's right for a girl to make a move on a guy( I don't really think I'll be good at it), plus i think he has a girlfriend and another girl likes him in class(she's my friend too) what should i do...

Ok male dancers are hot!It's a known fact.But I would definately make a move.And soon.And depending on your age ask him casually if he'd like to go for a cup of coffee or a smoothie or something.But don't act like it's a date unless he clearly wants it to be.And if he says no just act unphased about it and say "Ok,maybe another time."

Q: ok..i really like this song and ive tried to search it but i dont really know what its called or who sings it...could u help me out please? the corus kinda goess:
shoo shoo shakin'...shoo shakin up
shoo shoo shakin'...shoo shakin up
and its pretty recent bc i saw it on MTV couple of months ago...please helppp! :)

"I'm Shakin'" sung by Rooney.One of my favorites....good choice!

Q: i have this boyfriend that loves me plus another girl what should i do?

Your boyfriend loves you and another girl?Well he really is following his pecker to greener pastures then huh?I'm kidding really.Ummmm....why not talk to him about it?But I mean did he tell you he liked this other girl?How did you find out about it?If he told you....that must have really hurt.Maybe he's trying to hint a break up?I honestly don't think he is "in love" with this other girl,but hey who am I to judge?

Q: does anyone know how to get bleach OUT of clothing? like if you get Clorox bleach on a dark blue tshirt or something?? thnx so much !!:)

You can't get bleach out of clothing.The best thing to do instead of getting rid of you dark blue T-shirt is either like bleach the rest of it for a "speckled look".Or try to find a dye that matches the dark blue and try to get it back to it's regular color.

Q: ok, this isn't really much of an advice thing, so it'll probably be deleted, but I hope to get sum answers in

We have to cover out books for a few classes, and like I don't want to do the whole newspaper, or brown back covers, because then you have to use tape, and I got a new book, like I'm the 1st to use it, so I don't want to have to pay
I'm in High School

I know that in middle school, they sold them to you, but I don't know where to get the Book Sox now (thats how you spell it, I'm POSITIVE)

if anybody knows, and if at wal-mart, would it be where all the regular school supplies are?

Michaels....Office Max....and drugstore CVS, Walgreens,et cetera.

Q: Okay my little brother is sooo picky when it comes to eating. he doesnt eat meat what so ever. he lives off of chips and captain cruch cerial! Oh and I cant forget about candy! My point being is he eats all this junk and hes not chubby for his age and height. I know hes only 7 years old but still how can u NOT be chubby and eat junk food everyday. Its not like he runs around cuz hes always in the house playing video games haha. Here I am busting my butt off trying to lose weight because im 16 yrs old weigh 115 lbs and im 5'4". How is this? Should I be a vegitarrian like him?

Going vegetarian is big deal.If you do decide to turn that way though make sure you continue to have plenty of protien in your diet by eating extra nuts,beans,et cetera.My sister is a vegetarian and she swears by it.I don't recommend going on your little brother's diet.It's not healthy.He's only getting away with it because of his age and quick metabolism.

Q: SODAS! I took up Mountain Dew and I put on alot of weight drinking it and I tried to stop it but its like going threw withdrawl. I get headaches and everything, I throw up and my stomach hurts and this always happens when I stop drinking it. I'm starting school soon and mountain dew wont be available as it will if I were home. What can I do?

It's a caffine headache.You got your body addicted to caffine so much now it craves it.The best you can do is slowly try to get yourself off of it.I don't know how many you drink a day but try to cut back each day until your body isn't so dependent on the caffine.

Q: ok, so i had this party at my house the other night and there was alot of like 21 year olds there. and i started talkin to this one guy, i talked to him for like 5 hours! hes awsome! hes 21 and im 13, and i know nothing seriouse coould ever happen but theres just something about him. i mean he works at ym dads work and everytime i go to my dads work i want to see him. i have a crush on him ya know, but is it ok to have a crush on someone 8 years older then you?

Of course it's ok.I have a crush on Tyson Ritter from AAR.Unfortunately for both of us it's never going to happen.Age and stardom in my case and well...just age in your case.As long as you just have a crush on him and know nothing can ever happen between you two it's ok.I mean you two are at different stages in your life.Him legally able to drink and almost ready to start a family and a new life.And you still dependent on your parents and the biggest decision of your day might be what shoes to wear with your new skirt.I don't say it to be mean really.I'm just tryng to get my point across.

Q: I've heard of a 'Brazilian Wax'. What exactly is it and does it hurt alot? I'm thinking about getting it done and I'm a little concerned. Also, where can I get it done?

A Brazilian Wax is when you get all you pubic hair waxed.So yeah it's gonna hurt.Big time.You can get it done at a salon.

Q: is it alright to wear a tampon during cheer practice?...are tampons supposed to stick out like 2 centimeters?...and well i was @ cheer practice, and we were doin jumping jacks..and after wards..i didnt fil it in me any more!..and i found out that i was juss layin in my panties!..can u help?!

-Yes,it's alright to wear a tampon anytime and that includes cheer practice.
-No,the tampon itself is't supposed to stick out at all.Only the string.
-And you mentioned you didn't FEEL it in you.When wearing a tampon you shouldn't feel it at all.
-Help wise just stick the tampon farther up.(Until you don't feel it.)Once you do that you shouldn't find it in your underwear.

Q: What color should i wear to bring out my blue eyes?? ... thanks!!

I have blue eyes too.So from experience I have found that the two best colors for clothing to bring out my eyes are surprising blue and red. But white I think brings them out too.Or maybe it's just the white part of the eye that helps.Very convenient for being patriotic I might add.Now for eyeshadow brown.It makes my eyes look extremely blue.But I really never wear brown eye makeup I go for more of the dark greys and silver hues.Dark grey will make your eyes a grey-blue. Shocker right?But ahhh....silver isn't a bad color for blue eyes either.For the most part though you can really can't go wrong to help bring the blue out in your eyes.

Q: it says that i've only been rated 5 times but i've been rated 12 times. how often does that thing change? its been like that for a couple days now..

I just read the help section.Every 30 days they apparently clean your slate.And the ones from the past 30 days and so on don't count.They are just on your feedback page.They change it every 24 hours.So don't worry it's not just you.

Q: Im 14 female
Ok there this guy I like, his name is "Andy", well Andy and I have known each other since the beginning of summer cause one of my friends introduced me to him. Well we talked a little, but I had never seen him in person or anything. Well one day I was have just a really shitty day and I told him all my problems, about thinking of running away and suicide and everything. and he really cared and listened. Now i talk to him about all my problems. And We have a class together at skewl and hes really hot, and i think i like him, hes just someone i can talk to, the only problem is...he has a girlfriend, but we talk about anything and everything together and i like him! Any ideas on what to do? Sorry so long but I NEED HELP!! oh and in our class i had a laughing fit and i could NOT stop laughing and he was setting there like smiling and laughing at me and my friend! HELP!!!

I've been there.And it's really tough.Andy seems like a really nice guy.But yeah he has a girlfriend.So in my opinion you have two options.Option #1-Tell him that you have feelings for him beyond friendship.Now how he responds will be the hard part.He could say "Yeah,I like you too ________ but not like that."Or he could say "I like you too ________ but I don't want to screw up the relationship I have with my girlfriend."Or you could be lucky and have the fairy tale ending and he breaks up with his girlfriend and you to live happily ever after.Do you get my point though?There could be alot of alternative endings.Ok.Now Option #2-Wait it out.High school relationships can last anywhere's from a few hours to a couple of years.Yeah most don't last past a few weeks though.So if your a patient person...wait 'till they break up.Of course then you risk a few things.Such as maybe by that time you won't be single.And if worse comes to worse and he doesn't feel the same way about you.Don't screw up the friendship.Meaning you two can still be friends.Even if he doesn't"like you" like you.If it was me I would go with option #1.And in case it doesn't work out...always remember that a pint of Ben and Jerry's can mend a broken heart.

Q: Ok right now im trying to start my own thing. So besides abercrombie, does anyone know where I can get some leg warmers? Thank ya..

xoxo

I have seen them at both Hollister and Target recently.I got mine at Wet Seal last year.Whether or not they still sell them there I have no idea.

Q: What is tss? Just Wondering...

Toxic Shock Syndrome.It's a very rare and fatal diesease of leaving your tampons in for too long.Where bacteria starts moving into your blood stream. There was about I think it was 156 cases last year.

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