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if she tells her friends that it will make her look better or something? What should I tell her to tell them instead? (link)
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It won't make her look better. It's more like, "I don't care if my mom went to jail, I have more freedom now"
It's not like it's really going to change anything, it just makes the family look bad.
I don't think there is anything you can tell her, because she will say what she wants to her friends. Just tell her to try to stay positive.
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I asked my daughter what she meant by saying it was "cool" her mom was in jail and was taking orders or something. She said she was just joking around, I think that is OK, maybe she is just trying to lighten things up, What do you think? (link)
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If she said she was joking, then that's ok. At least she didn't mean it. Lets just hope she doesn't go around saying that to all her friends at school.
She probably was just trying to lighten the mood up because I'm sure it's hard for her to have her mother away. Try being more optimistic with her so that she doesn't have to make jokes that make you question her.
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I broke up with someone who made me feel like he was ashamed of me.
After a year I never once met his work friends as he said they were not good enough for me to meet. He would never hold my hand or show any affection in public. And it was a struggle to get him to even go out for dinner.
Was he just using me the whole time?
How can I stop feeling the ashamed feeling?
Thanks
I'm 34 & female. (link)
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You shouldn't feel ashamed. You just need to realize he wasn't the right guy for you. You want someone who can do more for you. Since he couldn't do that for you, that's why you ended it. I don't see him as using you but you just have to realize you'll be happier without him and with someone who can give you the kind of love you want and need.
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Why do people say suicide is selfish? It's not selfish to end your OWN life, everyone else is going to rot in the ground just like their family before them and before them.
I want to die, and that is a choice just as is everything else in "life" what's the quickest, least painful way I can do this? (link)
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No one on this site is even allowed to tell you how to kill yourself.
People say suicide is self because there are people around you. You're not only affecting your life here. You affect the people around you.
It's usually because people are so consumed with depression and sadness. They are only thinking about themselves, they can't help it. They aren't thinking about the pain it brings to other people.
It's not the dead who suffer, it's the ones they leave behind.
You're no longer there for the people you love. It causes pain to friends, family, and the community.
Nobody knows what's going on in your life but you can help yourself and other people around you if you go try to get help.
You might not realize this, but suicide affects people forever. It scars them for the rest of their lives.
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follow up to this question you answered
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=611553
so I have heard many times to use visiting her mother in jail as a learning experience for my daughter? So what exactly is meant by "learning experience"? Does it mean that it shows that anyone can make mistakes and go to jail and not just the "Bad guys" in the movies? If so, I would say that is not a bad idea.
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Yes, pretty much. I do see it as a learning experience because when they go and see people there, they see people who have done wrong by making a stupid mistake.
It shows her that even though she is a very good person, she could still end up in jail if she makes one bad decision. Not only the people who do terrible, selfish things, but good people who just messed up.
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I was with this guy for about 6 years. We met when we were still kids, just 16 so of course it was all really intense - first love and all that. I thought it was like a fairy tale. We were completely obsessed with each other. It was a long-distance relationship so of course it's no surprise it didn't last. Anyway, he suddenly totally changed and broke up with me out of the blue, completely wrecking my heart and getting together with my ex-best friend just a few weeks later. Though they broke up a few months later, it was the worst thing ever I ever had to go through.
It took me about 1.5 years but now I felt like a different person and like I got over it.
A little while ago he suddenly messages me and asks me how I am, I tell him how terrible everything was but how I feel like I'm a stronger person now and I hope someday he'll become a better man. I thought it would end there but we started talking again. One thing lead to another and we video-chatted which lead to flirting. We both confessed we still think about each other in a sexual way and we've carried on that way ever since. It's been going on like this for a few weeks now.
I hate myself for it because I just have no idea what's going on anymore. All my family and friends hate him because of all the pain he caused me yet I don't seem to. I don't understand myself and I feel like I'm going nuts. I shouldn't still want him after what he did to me, should I? I feel like an idiot and a really weak person, like I haven't changed at all.
I don't even know whether I still love him, I don't think I do. Then why is this all happening? Do I still have feelings for him? Are we just falling back into a comfortable pattern because we don't have anyone else at the moment? I'm scared that it'll lead to me getting hurt again. Is there something wrong with me?
Please help, I can't talk about this with any of my family or friends, because I'm afraid they'll judge me and be really disappointed in me. (link)
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I don't think you still love him, you might still have feelings though. I do believe you two are just talking to each other because you don't have anybody else at the moment.
You have changed, but you don't need him and you know that. You don't have to be mean, you don't have to hate him like everyone else does. Your feelings for him will go away eventually, just give it time. You were with him for a long time, it's not strange at all that you're falling back into him again.
You're just not letting yourself get over him, so I'd suggest just stop talking to him. I'm sure you have better things to do and better people to meet.
But no, there is nothing wrong with you. You know he could possibly hurt you again and you're just not ready. He's no good for you and you deserve to be happy.
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Is it legal in england for a 13 year old girl to give a 14 year old boy a bj? (link)
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The age of consent is 16. So no, it's not legal.
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This year I met this guy,(we'll call him Alex) who's in my group. He told me he ended his relationship of a year after finding out she had cheated on him for the second time(he forgave her the first). He went to a party last night with me. Everyone thought we're together and they kept asking but we both avoided answering. He spends his mornings with me at school, just us two and I think he might like me. But last night he said, "This chick is always texting me. I'm just not ready for a relationship just yet, and she doesn't get that." So did he say that so I would get the drift? Or was he just saying he doesn't want anything with her? (link)
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I think he was just saying he didn't want anything with her. He's not ready for a relationship and that's understandable but that's not forever so it does seem like he's into you so just enjoy the time you're spending with him. When he is ready, it could possibly be you.
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I've been friends with these two girls for as long as I can remember, but in the past two years, we've drifted apart. We've all changed. All they seem to care about now is conforming. I'm a non-conformist and "proud nerd". In addition, I'm very analytical and philosophical; I don't accept values and morals before questioning them. My friends will accept any values thrown at them that seem "cool". This is what I believe is the cause of our separation; I could be wrong.
Anyway, they've become friends with my 11-year-old sister (henceforth referred to as R), and they're really bad influences on her. Since R has been friends with them, she's started failing all her classes, eating only candy, swearing, and acting really rude, hostile, and arrogant, especially towards my parents and I. (They do all of the aforementioned things. A lot.) My parents are concerned about R. Whenever I'm with the three of them, they either ignore everything I say (even if I try to have a conversation they're interested in) or dismiss my opinions and thoughts as stupid and dorky. They're really, really rude and obnoxious; they're so loud sometimes I feel like my hearing might be getting damaged. Whenever I tell R how I feel, they ask me why they should care about me. When I'm alone with the other girls (I'm going to call them K and A), they're not as rude to me as they are with R, but they're still kind of haughty. I'm tired of them acting like I don't matter.
There's this one guy at school who all the girls crush on. (Isn't there one at every school?) They talk about him 24/7. K practically stalks him. I feel bad for him, but don't know what to do. I feel like I can't tell them what I think.
My friends are still kind of fun sometimes. A few months ago, we went shopping together and had a pretty good time. (I don't hang out with them; I'm a pre-professional violist and practice several hours every day instead.) I have some online friends who I'm really close to and a large number of acquaintances whom I don't know well but like. I kind of still want to be friends with them. What should I do? (link)
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I see a big issue with your sister, because they obviously aren't a good influence. I'd talk to her, and talk to your parents. You sound like a good sister. You can't change her, you can only try to help and your parents, I'm sure are aware.
With your friends, they're not really your friends. They don't treat you like a friend. They may be fun sometimes, but in my opinion, they're not the friends you should have.
They're obviously influencing your sister, be a good example to your sister. If you're still hanging around people who are rude, hostile and arrogant, why shouldn't she?
So my opinion, be friendly but not friends. Find new friends and keep doing what you love.
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Hai I'm 14/f and lately I've been thinking a lot about smoking. Everyone in my family has smoked at least once and my mom is the only one who contunues to smoke. Also my best guy friend smokes as well and has offeres me mutiple times but Ive always turned him down. I really don't know I'm somewhat stressed due to school and slight family issues so I want to know what to do. I'm just so unsure of wht to do at the moment please help. (link)
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I'm sure you already know the health problems smoking can cause. Not only that, you start relying on it.
Just because everyone in your family has smoked and your friend smokes doesn't mean that you have to do it too.
When teenagers start smoking, it's considered cool. But it continues to be a habit until they are adults. And then adults are trying to quit because it's not cool anymore. It's bothering their life and their health.
You won't regret not doing it. You don't often meet people who are like, "I wished I had started smoking when I was younger." You'll most likely meet people who said, "I wished I had never started."
There are other ways to relieve stress than smoking.
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i love a guy who has a gril and i hve told him how i feel and he hasnt responded on it he still acts as my frnd ,wht should i do (link)
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He still acts like your friend because that's what he is. He has a girl so he's unavailable. You don't come between relationships, it's not right.
You should move on and find someone else who doesn't have a girl.
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Im a 13 year old girl is it legal for me to give a 14 yeal old a bj at 13? (link)
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It depends where you live.
Honestly, it's best for you to wait to do this kind of stuff since you are so young. Once you start doing these sexual acts, the boys don't want to stop and they will end up asking and begging for more. That is why a lot of girls end up pregnant because they don't know how to say no or the boy just goes too far.
Wait until you are older, then you won't have regrets.
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Im a 15 year old boy from ireland and the title pretty much sumd up everything.im very horny all the time like most teenage boys and masterbate a lot (1/2 times a day).i am always thinking about sexual encounters with girls i see or my teachers and am obsessed with the idea of getting action off girls like fingering them or getting blow jobs (so are my friends) but it seems like girls dont get as horny and arent as interested as much as guys and none of them masterbate aswell apparently.all im wondering is if girls get as horny as guys at 15? (link)
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Every girl is different. You will come across girls who are just as obsessed with sex but most, aren't as obsessed.
Girls mature faster than boys, so they look for more out of boys than boys look for out of girls. Girls want to feel loved, they want to feel wanted, they care less about physical things. While young boys, they want to touch, they want sex.
Some girls masturbate but more boys do than girls.
Most girls want relationships and most boys want action.
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Hey guys
My boyfriend just got his first car, its really nice too. Im happy for him but to be honest, im worried that this means it is easier for him to go hang out with other girls without me even knowing. This car allows him to be alot more free and mobile and i am not a needy possesive girlfriend but i have been cheated on many times by other guys so i have very bad trust issues.:( i want more than anything to trust him, but now that he has a car, he can pretty much get away with anything right? (link)
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Ok, it's understandable that you have trust issues. But you need to deal with that, being cheated on is in the past. He hasn't done it right?
You don't trust him, you want to but you don't. You need to deal with that yourself.
Most teenagers get cars, so plenty of relationships, someone has a car. Not every boy will cheat on their girlfriend.
Pretty much every adult relationship, they have cars. Lots of people have cars. It doesn't mean that they are all cheating on each other.
This is your own problem. You know that, you need to get past that. You can't compare your current relationship to the guys in your past. It will ruin your current relationship, it will ruin your future relationships.
So let this go, be happy for him and learn to trust him. If he hasn't cheated before, and if he is a good guy, then you need to learn to trust.
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I am a 16 year old girl. I fell in love with someone I met online!! Lame I know but I honestly do still love him. He has stopped talking to me and blocked me on Facebook. We were "together" for 8 months. Someone please tell me how I can get over this man! I feel like my heart is run over by a semi-truck (link)
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Well, you didn't know what he was really like since I assumed you never met him in real life?
You need to get back on track with your life, he obviously doesn't care much and it wasn't real. You will move on, it will take time, it might take longer than you want it to take but if you do believe that you'll get over him, you will. Don't start saying, "I'll never get over him." Because then you won't let yourself, and that will stop you.
Everything will get better, just try. Go out with friends, find new things to do, just try.
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Am 20years old, am form nigeria. How can i stop loving and caring for him without breaking with him (link)
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You won't be able to completely move on until you cut off contact with him.
You can be friends with him later, but do this for yourself. Let him go. He's married and loves someone else, it would be wrong to get in the way, you already know that.
Just go and enjoy your life, take your time to move on. It will take awhile but you can stop being in love with time. It will be ten times harder to move on from a man when you are still talking to him and hanging around him. Do the right thing for yourself and don't talk to him for awhile.
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My last period came at the end of March during the week of spring break at my college. A few days after my period came my boyfriend, who lives out of state, and I made love a few times. I started dating him two years ago, and we made the decision since the first one or two times the two of us became intimate to not use condoms which resulted in us using the withdrawal method. At 22 (I lost my virginity at 18 going on 19) and almost 24 (he lost his when at age 17) you would think we would make better choices when it comes to sex but sadly we don't.
The other day I experienced very abnormal symptoms for my body. I believe that I started spotting because the toilet paper started to tell me that faint traces of my blood came out of my uterus (too much information I know). At the time I thought it strange because my period never starts out light. My first days of menstruation always tend to be heavy and very bloody, I actually get nauseous if I do not take two naproxen sodium. However towards the end of my cycle, my period starts to thin out and becomes almost nonexistent.
Should I be concerned about this? Could it be a pregnancy symptom? I'm trying to tell myself that it's probably stress from the last few weeks of the semester. As a third semester college student trying to transfer from a community college to an ivy league school as an accounting major, I get anxious about the effects that my grades will have on my future. I took three tests this week, and found out that I will not be exempt from the statistics final because I got questions wrong that I knew the answers to resulting in a 170/200 (an 85%, otherwise known as a B). Next week I have four papers due, a performance and a creative writing assignment for my English class (both things are due on Tuesday), a one page summary on an article for my phys ed class (due on Friday), and a 6-10 page paper due for my Western Civ II class (on Thursday). None of which I worked on yet, since I was too concerned about my tests. I also want this semester to end with a 4.0 GPA that I really worked for. Due to the death of my paternal grandmother in February completing my work has been difficult for me I currently lack all motivation. However I drag myself through this semester because I know it's what she would want for me, she was so proud of my success in college. Not only that but I committed myself to completing college and earning a highest recognition honors associates degree and bachelors degree from a well-known university.
I really do not want to have a baby yet. Due to the goals we have set for ourselves, neither my boyfriend or myself are ready to have children. (link)
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You could possibly be pregnant because the pull out method isn't exactly a method. I don't really want to go into detail but just because he didn't ejaculate in you, doesn't mean that sperm did not go inside you. Every man has lubricant, and they don't feel it but it has sperm in it and that's why girls get pregnant because they don't realize that pulling out doesn't work.
Stress does affect your period though. I would just take a pregnancy test.
From now on, better start using birth control and condoms.
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I just can't take this anymore. My life is too harsh at my age. My dad tortures me mentally. I cannot resist. He always finds something to bully me about. I cannot focus on school because of all of the things in my life. He doesn't give a fuck about my education and future. I'm going to cheapest school here. One that i cannot have a future with. Unless being a maid or a toilet cleaner is considered as a good job. The. Yeah i do have a future. Everything he does he does on my moms money , and he also makes her buy him stuff.. My mom can't even think properly. Me? I'm done. I need ways to die that is not painful. I don't care who will miss me after this , maybe no one. When i think of him or see him or hear about him it drives me insane.. The only thing i feel is hate , anger , pain. I just need help with ways i can kill myself fast and non- painful . I will do it anyway , if i don't get ideas , i will even take a bullet in my heart. I don't care . Pleasee!!! Give me ideas of non-painful death. I made up my mind , not changing it. I'm 14 btw. And im a girl who just cant take it anymore. (link)
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A lot of people have gone through things similar to what you are going through. Just letting you know that you aren't alone.
No one on here can give you ideas on how to kill yourself. It would be wrong.
My advice is to go get the help you deserve. You don't deserve to die because your dad hurts you. You can get help and everything will get better from there.
Talk to a doctor, talk to a school counselor. Talk to someone and you will be helping yourself and getting the life you deserve.
You won't be stuck in this situation forever.
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Well ok, i'm best friends with a boy and a girl they have never met and now i'm dating him too but i have been told i have to choose one or the other and i can't. The girl is like a sisterto me and the boy is everything i wanted what can i do? i'm stuck plz help :( xx (link)
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If they are not getting along and that's why they want you to choose, then talk to them. Explain that you care about both of them.
It's not mature at all to make someone choose.
If your boyfriend is telling you to choose between him and your best friend then he doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend.
If your best friend is telling you to choose between her and your boyfriend, she doesn't sound like a very good friend.
What are their reasons to why they want you to choose? Does one of them think that you are spending more time with them than the other? Do they have their own personal problems against each other?
You didn't give too much detail but I tried to help as best as I can.
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I had an relationship wit a guy for year thn he ditched me ,after tat its almost two years times he calls mebut I rarely pick up ,a day I messaged him and his friend answer wit abuses ,actually I sent him I hate u asshole n his friend replies with abuses too ,shouldn't my ex should have taken his cell n replied n not let his friend tauk ? (link)
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Maybe his friend shouldn't have done that and maybe he shouldn't have let his friend talk but you can't control any of that.
I suggest that you just stop talking to your ex because I really don't see the point in it.
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