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Last year arround this time I started cutting myself. I thought it was because I had problems in my life but then I realized I have a pretty good life. But then I had to transfer schools because mine closed and I feel really depressed here but I don't want to leave my friends. So now I'm back to cutting myself and only a couple of my friends know and they want me to stop but I feel like I can't. Now one of them wants to tell an adult about this but I'm afraid to. I don't know what to do but I really do want to stop I just feel I don't have the strength to. What should I do? (link)
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No adult will treat you with anger for a problem that isn't your making. It's a mental health issue meant for a psychiatrist to treat and like any illness needs proper treatment to stabilize.
It's hard to divulge something painful or that you are scared to but you must. Your parents might be upset because it's happening but won't treat you with anything other than support and will provide you with medical and other help.
You can tell them in a letter even if face-to-face seems difficult at first or tell a relative, teacher, counselor, friend's parents about wanting help and they can approach your family with you.
Either way you have to get this dealt with as well as the depression which also sounds as a mental health issue where in both cases you can't function well. Any time that happens see a doctor.
Remember when you were a kid and they taught you about icky secrets not to keep. Well, much like strangers in a sense icky medical secrets ruining your life need to come out no matter how difficult. The truth is the only way to get healing for this.
Your friends are concerned and have every single right to be and may approach adults as they should because you are harming yourself. It's a serious thing.
What you need to do is tell them that they are right and that you intend to tell your parents (do it tonight is best) and get help so it comes out on your own terms quietly and can be handled with dignity. You have to do it or others will.
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Hey, there is this site called rs2moneyvip.com that i want to shut down but cant find the host. i dont know much about shutting down this site but all they do is scam people money for this game called runescape. they even told me through a chat that that is all they do. please help somehow? my email is jahyroomalley@hotmail.com. thanks! (link)
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It's run out of China actually. The information as well as administrative contacts and who registered the site is public record and can be seen by going to the Easy Who Is site that lists domains that are taken, by whom, who hosts and all that jazz.
The information is not to be used in an illegal manner to either threaten or hack and we can't tell you how to shut them down in that regard but rather how to shut them down by writing to the host, telling others to do so and bring them down intelligently.
An intelligent letter to the host to tell them what's on their server and how they are ripping people off should work for you. If enough people write them they'll think twice about letting them use their services to host a site.
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I am on my Period but I have to go swimming for my school soon. I am only young so I dont use tampons. I need to give a note from my parents if I dont go swimming or my teacher gets REALLY mad. Hes a guy. What can I get my parents to write so I dont have to go swimming? (Im not telling them about my period either) (link)
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Having your period shouldn't be something to be embarrassed about. It's actually an amazing thing when you think of its function and human life. But, it's your business and you don't have to have to mention it to the teacher or others.
I think it would be helpful to tell your parents about it and that you are scared of this teacher and swimming and have bad cramps or other problems and are scared of tampons or don't know how to properly use them. You're old enough for them.
Maybe you could talk to your mother or a female you trust be it a sister, friend, parent, friend's mom etc. about tampons and what you need to know to be comfortable trying them. If you get on to them you can swim or do any sport you want without worrying. That would be a good solution.
You should have your parents write a note to this teacher telling him that you aren't well enough to participate in swimming this week and have a note from a doctor to back it up that tells him to call them if any problem but that doesn't tell this dope your business. He'll have to obey it.
Most teachers unless they are totally out to lunch know that female students have menstrual cramps, problems of that nature at around your age. If worse came to worse and he got annoyed about you not partaking just hand him a note that says "severe cramps" or "female issue" and he will completely back off and if he didn't go see admin and tell them he wouldn't let you sit out and you had "cramps" and leave it like that. Nothing embarrassing there as your friends and other female students deal with this.
Also scarleteen.com and other sites for teens such as Tampax for example have advice, fact-sheets and medical diagrams on proper tampon usage. Your mom, friends etc and or older female can also put fears or concerns to rest.
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im a young female my names sarah, im in middle school. And i have been going to theray for a couple months now..and nothing is changing..and i dont feel anything will ever change. I have literally been AT rock bottom. From being THE MOST funny and social butterfly to being a boring sad depressed girl. Im making some changes, but the cause of my depression and suicide thoughts will always stick with me. I just simply dont care about anyone or anything, and i dont care if i died right now. Dont get mistaken, i am NOT suicial now, i am depressed now, hoping to recover. But i feel like i never will. school, friends, sports, family that used to be a 10 now its a 0. serioulsy, i dont know what to do. those elements in my life have already gone down hill, i feel it would be a miracle if i got to the top again and stayed there, is there any hope at all? (link)
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Can you tell me what medication you are on if any? I can offer better advice if I knew. This doesn't mean you are crazy but don't see a therapist (they don't know shit about mental illness and treatment) when you need a psychiatrist and assessment from one immediately.
I'm happy to tell you that the depressed thoughts and suicidal ones will fade into nothingness eventually if you see a mental health professional who will put you on the right medication for you and offer the right treatment plan so you can function and enjoy life like you used to.
The therapy and medication if on something now isn't cutting it and you are in dire need of help. Seeing a therapist that doesn't have a medical degree or specialize in this is like trying to fix something without the right tools and parts.
How do I know your life will change? I'm manic depressive and was delusional and worse off in many ways than you and thought I would never have a normal life again. Happy to say my life is even better than the old one.
What I want you to do is go to an emergency room and tell them you can't function and what you told us and ask them to have you examined by the on call psychiatrist who will start treating you.
If they think you might kill yourself or could be harmed they hold you there for 72 hours to determine the course to take. It's not so bad and gives you time to rest and feel safe. You have to be totally honest with them so they can help you.
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my name is Rachel and iam 21 years ols and I go to a mental health center every day of the week but there's this guy that about 50 years old who goes there and he has rubbed me on the leg, touched me on the shoulder, and played footsie with me after my boyfriend threatned to slap him and I have constantly told him to stop but he still keeps doing it and won't stop. I think he thinks just becouse my boyfriend is in a wheel chair he can't back up what he says he's going to do but he can and he will becouse he is very protective over me and he loves me and he will do any thing to protect me but I don't want kenny my boyfriend to get hurt what should I do? (link)
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This must be part of his mental illness that either the center's directors know about or need to be alerted to by you.
What do you do? You tell anyone near by especially a representative of the center or program what has happened multiple times and have them deal with him and help press charges for inappropriate touching and threats.
If he touches you again tell him where to go and if he bothers you again you'll go to someone in authority and have him charged with harassing, uttering threats, and inappropriate touch. If the mental health center people learn about this they'll cart him off to get help that they don't make available to general people.
You can defend yourself by kicking or punching if grabbed.
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My head is toatally messed up and I am really considering suicicide. Being paranoid and not being able to engage in conversations with people has been the main to reasons for it. I went and seen a counsilor about a year ago for help and I had to just get up and walk out of the room because she laughed at me which really made me feel worse. I really don't want to be here and want to end this live, I hate living in fear and being so stupid, the only reson that I'm still here is because of my brothers and sisters and mother and father, I know it would kill them, but one day I don't think that will stop me and I will just be selfish and End this live that I'm meant to be living. Please help me if you can please. I'm male and 31 years old (link)
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Problems no matter how monumental they seem can be solved and usually fade from one's experience in time. Why kill yourself over something that will get resolved if you give it time?
What you NEED to do is go to any emergency room and tell them your life is miserable right now and that you are suicidal and need help. They'll find you a psychiatrist NOT a counselor trained to handle this type of crisis who can get you on medication and gradually back to enjoying life and resolving issues that have led to this.
Your problem is a mental health issue especially if paranoid on top and unable to function. That's why the counselor was an idiot because they weren't trained to handle what is a psychiatric issue. And believe me this is an emergency and needs to be seen in an emergency room by the on call psychiatrists pronto.
Life's worth living, all issues can be solved no matter how big so dying over them is stupid. You don't really want to die or you wouldn't have reached out to us anyway.
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I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. So the other night I was at a party (a little tipsy, definitely not drunk) a guy (junior, 17) kept trying to give me drinks but this guy has always been really creepy so I was avoiding him all night. Long story short, he wouldn't leave me alone, followed me to the bathroom and basically attacked me. Trying to kiss me and feel me up but I was able to get out of the bathroom and I ran outside. Almost everyone at the party was drinking so I called this guy I've kind of been dating (junior, 17) who wasn't feeling well and didn't go to the party. I told him I needed him to come get mr he asked why but I said I just needed him to come and he came to pick me up. Is it bad that I didn't tell him what happened?? I mean it's not like the other guy actually diddd anything. Well he did but I mean it's not like he got his hands into anything or that we made out, it lasted like five seconds and the guy that I'm kind of seeing and I are not actually official... I just dont want himto freak out cause I know he already hated the kid that tried to get on me. Should I tell him or is it really just better to leave it alone...? (link)
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Let's face it this guy is a grade A creep with a real problem. He probably wanted to ply you with drinks that may or may not be laced with something so he can take advantage.
If you said NO and pushed him off or tried to when he followed you into the bathroom it means nothing was with your consent. It's assault. I'm no law expert but I *think* he can be charged unless you hear differently for attacking you.
Tell your parents first as you have to get adults you trust to handle this as you can't do it alone. Tell your boyfriend how frightened you were and didn't know what to do and who to tell and if you should as it just happened. I know he will support you.
If he fights the other guy it's not your fault as you can't control what anyone else does including him. Regardless tell anyone who will listen from parents to teachers... Also, just because you were drinking doe not mean you consented to anyone or were looking for trouble like this. Assault is assault if this was unwanted or done without you being aware.
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I woke up around 40 minutes ago and have literally spent around 35 of those minutes face down in the toilet. I don't feel sick. No head cold, nothing. Other than the barring. There is nothing in my stomach, all I'm doing is throwing up stomach acid. Last night I ate a single slice of leftover pizza that I had the night before, which didn't get me sick the first night. So what the heck is wrong with me.? I throw up...feel fine, 2 minutes later I get icky feeling, throw up and the cycle repeats itself. Help!!! (link)
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I'm not a doctor nor is anyone else on our site. That's why we don't diagnose or give info that could be taken as medical fact.
The thing is you may have a virus or bug setting in or something else is amiss. I know from my own experience that if the vomiting is non-stop and won't subside with gravol or on its own you should visit an emergency room for treatment as there is a danger of dehydration.
This isn't something that is frequent or happened in the past due to stomach acid or seemingly nothing recently? One of the things they look into while at the hospital is anything gastrointestinal or gal bladder related and if they can't find the source of non-stop vomiting they may out a scope down in extreme instances to diagnose the issue.
That happened in my case and they also topped me up with medication on an IV and fluids to regain what I lost. Definitely head to a hospital and have it checked out if it doesn't subside within a reasonable time. If it's been 24 hours or all damn day now you've got to get it looked into to stop first of all.
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Hi,
Im 21 and 5'4". I currently weigh around 160. in my past i was aneroxic and had to fight not to go to the hospital, but i was HAPPY with my image. i ate what i needed to keep energy and after high school, i gained 30 lbs. its not like i dont work out, I DO, 2 times a week. and I do eat healthy. im just becoming angry at myself and about to drop the food and everything else because i cannot handle it anymore. any advise or word to from the wise? (link)
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I will be blunt as that is what you need. It sounds as though that negative inner soundtrack that is associated with your previous anorexia is trying to convince you to stop eating again. You and I both know where dropping food lands you.
You NEED professional help and I hope you will seek it and tell people you know what is happening too as something is very wrong if you are back to this way of thinking. If you can't handle life nor function correctly it's signs of a dire issue and potential crisis. See someone.
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so i want to know, i was in one of my classes. and one of my guy friends just randomly got closer to mean and then touched my face, i was so confused and shocked. what does this mean?? does he like me?? (link)
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Unless you had hair in your face or on it this is a sign of affection. I would have to say he looks interested. Give things some time and see what else develops with him though.
If he's really interested he will up the ante with more flirting. If you are bold you can tell him that you didn't know what to make of it and where you stood with him as far as a friend or possibly more. You have a right to ask as it sent a signal but you're unsure how to interpret it.
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18/F
My boyfriend has been very depressed for a while. It's mostly because of the way his parents treat him. They're constantly pressuring him to go into the military (even though he doesn't want to) and they're always calling him a failure, an idiot, dumb, etc.
The other day I talked to his mom about how they can stop pressuring him so much and to stop with the name calling.
Well, last night my boyfriend and his dad got into a physical fight and his parents kicked him out.
What are some things I can do to help my boyfriend feel complete, happy, and worthy?
Thank you! (link)
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Reassure him that this issue isn't his problem or something that he caused. His father is volatile and violent despite all that. They have issues but he's the victim of that abuse.
What else can you do? Well, you can tell your parents exactly what is happening to your boyfriend and ask for assistance. They can give him support and likely find a safe place for him to stay which may or may not be with you.
At the same time you can tell a teacher or guidance counselor but odds are they will want to consult outside agencies and police over the physical altercation. Definitely talk to your folks about what they think can be done and let the adults take over to resolve this.
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I love acting.
I was just wondering if I'll have to pay to join an Acting Agency or any other agencies around.
I live in England. (link)
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Run from anyone asking for money up front or making promises they can't keep. You only pay an agent when they get you work. At no other time should you pay for anything including photos as you don't need a portfolio rather snapshots.
The only way they can charge you and the unions agree on it is a $100 yearly fee for agencies that deal strictly with kids. Why? kids tend to bail when they learn it's hours and hours of hard work. Subsequently, agents for extras who also tend to bail easily can charge the same $100 yearly fee.
I'm not in England but can tell you that you should never sign with anyone who isn't on the list of reputable agents with the union in your nation. If unsure how to find said list try ACTRA in Canada and SAG in America and ask what union is for England and contact them for the list.
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Before I explain the story, I just want to note: WE DID NOT STEAL A THING.
My friend and I were at Walmart today in the make-up section and I noticed a man who was looking at us in the aisle next to ours. Clearly this was odd because most middle-aged men don't wear makeup... so as my friend and I are walking I notice this guy run and hide behind these two board game boxes and peeking through them to watch us, then he peeked his head out and made eye-contact with me. Then we turned a corner and AGAIN he's looking at us through the fitness section. Clearly he thought we were shoplifting.
I DID NOT have any intention on taking anything, nor did I attempt to. My friend however, put lipstick in her bag. The second I saw this man following us, I informed my friend to remove anything she may have put in her bag, she did, and we continued walking. As we were walking to go pay for my item, I saw him again follow us to the registers. [Nothing was stolen!]
As we were walking out, the man was standing at the exit with a woman, and watched us walk out. He didn't say a word to us or ask to check our bags, as we got in my car and proceeded to back out and drive off, I saw him in my rear-view mirror at the entrance to the store with a walky-talky in his hand.
BASICALLY, I have NO idea if this man took my plate #, I didn't do ANYTHING, and my friend put everything she had planned on taking back. They hadn't asked to search our bags, so I have no idea why he'd have followed us outside and he was clearly looking at my car cause he was at the end of the aisle my car was in.
Any idea what this man was doing? He had no right to take my plate # if that's what he did, I didn't do anything nor did he catch us doing anything or with anything on our person.
I'm pretty positive he was an employee, I've heard employees have to actually see you place items in your bag before they pull you over, so I'm assuming that's why he stalked us. (link)
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All of this is assumption and not fact. I wouldn't freak out about this until you are actually formally accused of stealing which you may not be.
The fact of the matter was that your friend intended to pocket lipstick and something else that she put in her person and later removed. That's intent to shoplift and if anyone sees her doing so you can be charged.
This individual you mentioned could be anybody or an employee or civilian who saw what your friend did and noticed sneaking around which is bizarre behavior.
Also, you better believe that the store has you both on security video putting things in her bag and then removing, hiding etc. etc. And just because they didn't physically grab you for it they can still have the police charge you with theft.
Anyone has the right to jot down any plate number they want if they suspect you of something be it impaired driving, dangerous driving, suspicious activity and can later report it regardless of what you may or may not have done.
In theft cases they can put a car and a security video together to lead police to later charge you. Until such a thing ever happens I would just relax about it.
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My teacher is 27 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing thats important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me alot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Please answer, thankyouuu!
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I would tell your parents what you told us and even go so far as to print it out and tell them you wrote it. Let them know that his behavior creeps you out and you want it to stop.
It's beyond inappropriate as most teachers know heck most adults know that acting like this with kids isn't right whether it's joking around or not in their eyes. If it makes you feel icky and it does--tell your parents and have them speak to the appropriate administrator on your behalf. They deal with this tactfully and your name won't be mentioned to him. The guy either has a problem or severely bad judgment to be doing this.
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I knew this guy for a year, we talked everyday. Over the summer we stopped talking a bit the most we would go without talking would be 3 days and we stopped telling each other every little thing that happened. High school then started for us and we were sent to different ones(regretting that so much) After a month of high school I heard 4 different people tell me he likes me , i was happy with this but i didn't really believe it. During September to December we stopped talking even more then the summer time , about 2 or 3 days a week. Then sadly December came along and he stopped saying hi like usual and for a month we didnt talk. I thought we would never talk again. I sent him a invite on the last day of december for a website and he answered me and we started talking that day until he had to go. It was an amazing chat , just like how we use to be so tight ,but the next day proved differently and it was like the summer all over again. That night i sent him a message saying that i've liked him for a while and im waiting on a response. What do I do ? help please . (link)
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If you sent me that e-mail I would have fallen off my seat. It's a shocker and must have been for him. He probably has no idea how to react to it.
If he likes you he eventually will say something to you about it. In the event he doesn't feel the same way I think he's going to act like he never received it or carry on as usual.
He might not like you back and this may be the reason he's been mute. Then again, maybe he hasn't read it. When it comes to teenagers and admissions of liking/loving someone else don't do it over text, e-mail, IM as you never know who those details get shared with or if people will taunt you.
I doubt he's like that but I'm just saying sending the e-mail was a mistake regardless of outcome. I recommend you wait a good 2-3 weeks and then approach him yourself. Be brave.
Tell him that you wrote him an e-mail expressing thoughts and feelings that you really wish you never sent. I'm sure he'll relate. Tell him you feel very vulnerable as a result and want to know where things stand and or could go.
That way you get closure to this. Who knows, maybe it will turn out well but brace for both and if he's a creep any kind of crap storm if what you sent him ever goes into circulation in rumor mill.
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16/F
I am really worried right now. I'm talking to a friend of my sister's and he seemed like a happy go lucky guy, making jokes. He's a little overweight, really funny, he stutters, but he's still awesome to be around. Well, I've been talking to him privately on facebook and he's talking about killing himself, saying he can't get the girl of his dream, he can't talk right, he's hated, he's reached everything he's capable of and whatnot. He's about 14 or 15. I'm getting worried because he keeps saying he's gonna do it and he's trying to decide which way to do it. I want to tell his mother, someone, ANYONE, but I think I'm the only one he's told and I don't want him to hate me for trying to help. I'm trying to contact his mother. Is this the best thing to do? (link)
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When you know someone has been threatening to kill themselves them hating you for telling others is the least of concerns for you both. Remember when you were little and you were told there are some things we don't keep secret?
This is one of those situations. What you need to do is archive all the conversations from Facebook and don't delete them. Show your parents what he has been saying TONIGHT and let them deal with it for you. You can also do the same thing with a school teacher or counselor.
Either way, squawk like a canary and get him help. If he gets upset over it at least you knew you did the right thing by acting on it. It sounds as though he has some serious mental health and other issues to work through and is in crisis and actually a danger to himself in that state of mind.
The only thing you can do and the right thing to do is A) express how much he is valued B) Don't respond directly after that C) Show your parents everything he wrote D) Let an adult handle it and E)Know that you did the right thing with the information.
Don't delete a thing he sends either as those helping him need to know where his head was at and the core issues he's dealing with. It's a tough thing to handle but you need to show this level of concern no matter whether you think he'll hurt himself or not.
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where can i go to find out my high school g.p.a? (link)
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Try your guidance office. The counsellors there can pull up your school record in a flash. They'll tell you how to calculate it. They do this all the time when they mail out transcripts and help with college applications. Either them or any administrator.
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I am 23 years old and Me and my boyfriend were together about a month when i found out i was pregnant(with my first)I am now 12 weeeks along and things are not looking good. We have been arguing and i catch him in little lies about stupid things. Which makes me wonder if he lies about other bigger things. I dont think i am in love with him but i am afraid to break up cause i don't want my kid to not have a father.. I only say this because he has a daughter already that he never goes and sees of make an effort to be a good father. Is staying with someone for a baby a bad thing or am i stressing about nothing?? (link)
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This seems to be how he operates. His ex-girlfriend who has a child by him went through the exact same crap. If he's not interested in being involved with that child you can bet he won't with yours.
Hon, if you are absolutely miserable with this guy and constantly in fights END IT. It will be difficult to do so but you must for the welfare of yourself and the baby.
There's no reason your baby can't have a father. He can always have an arrangement for seeing his child and that's good enough. That's what sounds best for all.
Also, if you end up with another man which you undoubtedly will that person can be more of a father figure than this guy ever could. Think positive and move on from him.
I know your family will support that and that all will work out fine but he is indeed dead weight and an inconsiderate lout that won't change as it's a pattern with him from girl to girl. You shouldn't and can't put up with his crap.
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I really love penguins. They're so cute and sweet. I decided that I really want one as a pet. I know they would take a lot of care and I would have to buy a lot of fish to feed one but I think I can do it. My mom just laughed when I asked here where I can buy one so I don't think she believes I'm serious. So, like, where can you get a pet penguin at? Obviously not traditional pet stores or shops but, like, is there a place where animals like this are available to people to buy? Like an exotic animal shop maybe? (link)
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Penguins may seem cute and cuddly but there are a multitude of reasons they are classified as wild and in some cases endangered animals. Trust me, you don't want one as a pet in your swimming pool or bathtub any time soon.
There is a reason why they are kept in zoos and attended to by marine biologists and scientists that know them intimately. They need the environment they are in to survive and cannot outside of it.
Even if an exotic underground store sold them it's illegal to do so and to own one. The best thing you can do if you love penguins is call the zoo and World Wildlife Fund to find out how to volunteer time and or donations to specifically help penguins and get more info on them.
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Ok so im 13 and everyone and i mean everyone that i kno that has an xbox does its stupid because they let us watch rated r movies and crap with them and even my one friend thats a girl has it its soo anoying when im playing some t game while everyone else in the party im talking to is playing black ops i hate it plz help!!!! (link)
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Ask them to rent the game first and watch as you play it and talk to them about their objections and reservations.
Maybe, if they see someone playing the actual game they might see that it's not as bad as they think it is. That's a way for both of you to reach some kind of compromise.
Fact is the game is for older perhaps more mature players. They have a legitimate concern over it being a one-player shooting game with crossbows, grenades and various firearms in it against enemies.
They know in the past that movies and sometimes games like this have inspired tragic real-life events and may think the whole idea of the game is a bad one. They need to see the product and read up on it to make a decision.
But.. if they already have like the poster said below it's a hard-sell that has to be made calmly and with maturity, not constant pressure from you.
Also, just because your friends may own the game doesn't mean it's right for you to own it or that you're mature enough. Your parents care and have reasons and perhaps their parents don't check out what they are buying or think about this.
Find out what they think is so bad about the game especially when you can watch R-rated films and far more graphic stuff. As far as I can see as long as you aren't disturbed and can separate reality from fantasy and know the situations in the game are a game and not to be imitated I can't see the justification.
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