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I have a problem with cutting myself
Last year arround this time I started cutting myself. I thought it was because I had problems in my life but then I realized I have a pretty good life. But then I had to transfer schools because mine closed and I feel really depressed here but I don't want to leave my friends. So now I'm back to cutting myself and only a couple of my friends know and they want me to stop but I feel like I can't. Now one of them wants to tell an adult about this but I'm afraid to. I don't know what to do but I really do want to stop I just feel I don't have the strength to. What should I do?
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What is happening to you, by cutting yourself is a sign of depression. There are many different types of depression and teenage depression is a very common form. Society today puts a lot of stress on teenagers. Stress is a major cause of depression. Life can be good or even great and still you can suffer from depression.
Depression is only a mental illness as it is general caused by 2 chemicals in the brain not being produced in sufficient quantities to help a person deal with whatever is causing the depression. Because it is a function of the brain the best doctor to deal with the medical side of this is a psychiatrist. This does not mean you are crazy. You are not. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who will write a prescription for drugs that will replace the missing chemicals, much like insulin does for diabetics. The doctor will then send you to a psychologist for talk therapy to find out just what the stressors are that is causing the depression and help you deal with it.
Okay, that is the most common causes and treatment of depression. Now to get help the best way is to tell your parents. Will they get upset, probably, but there is a difference between getting upset and being mad at you. They will be upset because you are hurting and hurting yourself and they didn't see it. Afraid to tell your parents: You could tell a teacher, guidance counselor or school principal . They are all trained to handle these situations and to get you help. Other ways to ask for help; pick up the phone and dial 911. If you pass a fire station on the way to or from school, go in and tell them you need help. Fire Stations across the country are safe havens for children. The firefighters will care for you and see that you are gotten the proper help. Last you can go to any hospital emergency room and ask for help. The doctors and nurse's there will see that help is given you.
You have taken the first and biggest step by recognizing you have a problem. The next step is easier, finding someone to help you. Help is out there you just have to ask for it.
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No adult will treat you with anger for a problem that isn't your making. It's a mental health issue meant for a psychiatrist to treat and like any illness needs proper treatment to stabilize.
It's hard to divulge something painful or that you are scared to but you must. Your parents might be upset because it's happening but won't treat you with anything other than support and will provide you with medical and other help.
You can tell them in a letter even if face-to-face seems difficult at first or tell a relative, teacher, counselor, friend's parents about wanting help and they can approach your family with you.
Either way you have to get this dealt with as well as the depression which also sounds as a mental health issue where in both cases you can't function well. Any time that happens see a doctor.
Remember when you were a kid and they taught you about icky secrets not to keep. Well, much like strangers in a sense icky medical secrets ruining your life need to come out no matter how difficult. The truth is the only way to get healing for this.
Your friends are concerned and have every single right to be and may approach adults as they should because you are harming yourself. It's a serious thing.
What you need to do is tell them that they are right and that you intend to tell your parents (do it tonight is best) and get help so it comes out on your own terms quietly and can be handled with dignity. You have to do it or others will.
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Tell an adult and speak with a counsler someone who you don't know who can help you talk out what is worrying you. I find giving advice is better when someone can relate to someone. I had a friend we were in 8th grade. We had several classes together. She cut her self alot. She hated her life, a little over weight wanted a boyfriend . She wasnt shy but she was inscure with herself. It took awhile every day of talking spending time together before I finally convinced her to seek some help. She didnt know where to turn to. So we talked some more and I sujested her mother. and surely she went to her mom and told her how she was feeling and showed her , her arms her mom couldnt tell me thank you enough everytime i seen her she was thanking me that i showed her daughter that someone does care about her and wants to help her. Cutting yourself can turn to permant damage and no one deserves to feel depressed ive been there. I have cut myself a couple times ive sat on a shower floor and just screamed and cried ive been there and its tough but there is always someone there to help. You just have to find that person. good luck.
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