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I met a guy a short time ago and we ended up making out and exchanging numbers. I found out later that he is my friends ex and that she still likes him.
He came to my house for a party and tried to hook up with me again but I said no because my friend would be angry with me. We ended up hugging/cuddling the whole night.
My friend saw us hugging and got angry. I talked to her later and she told me that I should go for it and that she didn't want to get in the way of anything. I could tell she was still angry though. She was not acting angry and our conversation was normal. She did add in that she wouldn't hang out with me and the guy together ever again though. She would with just me or just him only not together.
She also told me that he likes me and that I shouldn't hurt him or break his heart. I am undecided if I like him as a person or just the idea of having him as a boyfriend.
Should I go for it? (link)
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I'm thinking you shouldn't. It's about loyalty, her feelings and what relationship came first. Your friendship always has to outlast anything else.
She may say she's okay with it but it's clear she's not telling the truth. after all, she was annoyed at first and still has feelings for him. Until you know how deep those feelings may or may not still run back off.
It's a bad idea to get with a friend's former lover period. Maybe you should reat him as hands off. Ask how you would feel if it were vice-versa.
If you do go for it this means that almost all social events that would involve him being around as your boyfriend would mean she wouldn't be in your life--perhaps period if you run in same circles. Worth losing her over someone you just met?
If you go for it you have to know this can and likely will happen with her as it's too difficult for her no matter what she says.
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Hello there..
To start off I use the site Teen Ink and I'm so happy I found that site because I get to publish things I want to speak up on, and I get to publish my story's for comments and good criticism. Well I'm not very good with that, the comments I get are "It's a good story, I really like it but theirs so many spelling errors and grammatical errors, but I should finish it." Okay, I want to because I love the story I'm writing but I get to the point where I don't believe I'm good enough to write a good story.
I'm good in English class, I'm planning taking advanced English next year, but ugh I want to be a good writer I don't know what I should do ..
Any advice? Thanks for reading.. (link)
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You have persistence and that's a fundamental quality that you need. What you have to do is become patient. Take the time to learn spelling, proper grammar, structure and that will make you better.
I'm not knocking you by saying this but your reader needs the correct spelling and grammar or your ideas are lost because they've given up with it being too hard to read. All you have to do is work on that and it's real simple.
Also, edit your work and keep going back to it to polish it and then post it when you are really satisfied. Don't tell yourself "I can't" write because every writer has to learn these skills to succeed.
It would be in your best interest to buy or special order the following book: The Lively Art Of Writing by Lucille Vaughan Payne" this book will teach you how to write well, and you'll learn structure, grammar and tons of tricks that will benefit you in school. It's like the bible for writers and those who have trouble with essays, stories etc. Get it and stick with it because it's a writer's best friend and I've used it a lot for over 18 years.
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Yesterday a nude of this girl in my school went around and I got it sent to my phone. I told two of my friends about it and they both asked me to send it to them, both of which deleted it right after. Now apparently this girl was seen with her mom and the cops in school today. And now I'm terrified.
Could I get in any sort of trouble? I'm 99% sure I know who got the picture in the first place and sent it around. I'm 16 and this nude or the girl is 16. Is there anyway I could get out of trouble if I get questioned or something? (link)
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People forwarding it back and forth and you having it could and is considered as posession o child pornography because of her age. This is why the police are involved as they have to figure out how the whole thing started and where it ended up.
I don't know what it means for you receiving it when never suspecting and then deleting it. tell your parents where it was sent from and that you deleted it and know the cops came to school about it. They will know what needs to be done if anything and I would suspect the cops if they ever spoke to you would know that you had zero to do with it and that someone else sent it. I'm not a law expert though but tell your parents about it for sure.
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im 12 years old and im pretty sure my mom hates me. i get in trouble for the stupidist things and she always gets in my face smacks me and once gave me a bloody nose.. my younger sis and older brother get watever they want can do anything and never get in trouble. wenever i talk to her bout it i get yelled at and smacked. if i talk to anyone else shell find out some how. im tired of crying my self to sleep at night and trying to run away and wanting to die sometimes i dont know wut to do (link)
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TELL! You absolutely must tell an adult you trust be it a teacher, guidance counselor, principal, friend's parents, relatives etc. It doesn't matter who but you have to tell. It will only increase in violence until she gets help. She's got a problem and it's likely a mental health one to be doing this and not seeing how wrong it is.
It's against the law and will not get better until these adults confront her and believe me once they get your story she will never be able to hit you again and your family will get the help they need and that you need. That's what happens when you tell nobody would you back with her if they knew how afraid of telling you are.
Be sure to tell and it's probably best to do it at school because they'll take immediate steps to deal with it and keep you safe. Even if she found out there's no way in heck she could touch you without action taken against her.
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What is the best way to give my boyfriend a hard boner that lasts a while?
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It's likely nerves and you can bet he's more upset and embarassed than you are. It has nothing to do with anything you have been doing. In fact inability to stay this way could be due to medication side-effects or a valve in his penis that is supposed to trap blood not doing its job.
I don't know how old you are but adult novelty stores have solutions that are inepensive that will trap the blood long enough so you can engage in sexual activity with zero complications. Perhaps it's something to consider they're rings that trap the blood and are safe to use.
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I think my mom is bipolar. She has pills for depression, and her dad has depression too. i am worried about her. I want to ask her to go see a doctor, but I dont want her to go off on me.
How do you think I should bring up the subject without her getting really depressed?? (link)
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Does your mother talk really fast, can't connect one thought to another, has grandiose ideas, visions or delusions? Does she have this ontop of rapid cycling mood swings from depressed back to normal and then a massive high? If none of these things are happening than she likely isn't bipolar.
Unless she's in crisis this likely won't come up with her doctor unless she sees it is a problem and there's not much you can do until a doctor comes to that conclusion when they see her next.
If you think she might go off on you it's worth it to help her understand what others are seeing as a red flag. When you do it do it with your father siblings and people she trusts so she can see there's something to this as remember those who have issues with bipolar won't see the same reality as you do when they are in trouble. I can say that as a survivor of this disease.
Stage a sit down conversation with those who love her and ask her to get checked out at an emergency room if her psychiatrist is hard to reach and have this put to bed and or treated as the case may be by someone who knows for sure.
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Hey you guys im 13/f well I used to be really outgoing and flirty but then I lost my bestfriend that brought out the flirty popular side of me and well lets just say I went down on the popularity firtyness chain. Hahaha and I don't want any answers saying 1. you dont have to be popular 2. your to young worry about it later. I just want to know how to show a guy I like him/ flirt and get guys to like me thats easy for a shy person. The guys that still are my friends are popular and stuff but like we dont talk that much anymore sinse you know im kinda shy now and they r the people I like and I know I have it in me to do this I just need help. Thats easy PLEASE HELP ME(: (link)
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Treat the guy like you would one of your girlfriends and talk to him as if he were already your friend, parent, sibling etc and you will find that over time you become a natural and forget shyness. Be who you are goofy, flirty, outgoing and forget about a reaction. You can only defeat shyness by doing that.
Talking to them is no different than anyone else you talk to except you may wind up with a date from it. That's the key. Practice makes perfect but don't do it with anyone you really aren't interested in as you don't want to be seen as someone who teases guys and lets them go when they show interest back. I know that's not you but just saying for others.
Guys are just as scared of you and flirting as you are of doing it with them. They will admire you whether interested or not for grabbing the bull by the horns and just going after what you want. Don't hold yourself back go for it and don't think. Problem is you over-analyze something that is really not as frightening as you believe. Trust me you'll be okay.
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i don't know if this is the right place to ask, because its a relationship and a mental health question. i'll make it quick.
my girlfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and i love her and i want to be with her til the day i die. she has been going to counseling seeking the right help and found it. she has schizophrenic paranoia, and high levels of anxiety (though it only "activates" with other people, shes never had any bad outbursts or anything with me) they started her on seroquel (i believe that's what the medication is called) to help stabilize her. the problem is, its the only medication that helps her, but the medicine makes it to wear she can't work to hard (so pretty much she can't get a job) or else she'll be hospitalized. it is hard for me to support us both with how much i barely make, and she can't work because of her medication. i was wondering if there are organizations or some kind of mental health help where she does not have to work and can get money or something because of her mental illness? please help, i do not want to have to lose her because i can't support us very well. i want to continue living with her without financial worries. (link)
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There absolutely are government and other organizations that have funding for mentally ill people who just can't work.
You have to have her doctor (she should be seeing a psychiatrist not a therapist) declare the illness a permanent disability and ask him or her to help with obtaining funding so she can have an income. Funding I know of in Canada at least may even pay for the drugs she is on.
I'm on Seroquel for something different and can attest to the fact that it takes a very long time to tell if it's working, makes you too tired and mind fuzzy but once they iron out the proper dosages she will be better than she ever was before. But, she needs to tell the doctor what she's experiencing during this time or they can't fine tune it.
Talk to the doctor because they know of programs and funding that the average person wouldn't know about and can get permanent disability status and perhaps government programs. That's your best step.
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Well, I'm M/15. Recently I've been having trouble trying to clear up my face. A few months ago it was pretty clear. My forehead is the place being hit by ugliness, my cheeks are fine. I have about three dark spots from old pimples that are gone, and a few tiny pimples as well. It looks clear from a distance but if you're talking with me, you'll see a few bumps. Is there any way I can clear up my face pretty well? I've tried different products and I think that those cleansers never work because if they did, they'd be bought less often and have a higher price, it only makes sense. I also don't want to put chemicals all over my face anymore. Are there any types of procedures that actually work? Weather it includes household items, liquid mixtures, and/or types of foods to eat or not eat. I'm sure there's a way. If you can tell me, that'd be good. (link)
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See a family doctor about this. they may have sample tubes of prescription based cream that eats away at what causes the acne, unclogs your pores and eventually clears your face up. If they think the issue is too severe a dermaologist will see you and give treatment.
Household remedies and creams without prescription strength medication will fail against anything other than a mild amount of acne. People shouldn't put any stock in them as most of the time it's pouring cash down the drain into something that can't do the job.
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My mom wants to get a tatto on her back shoulder blade, of some sort, either a quote or probably a picture. She just went through a divorce and shes really spiritual. And i really want her to get it soon! Something that represents being free, and strong, and perserverance and loving. What are some symbols or words to use? thanks (link)
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What means something to us won't to your mother. she needs to figure out exactly what represents getting through a difficult time such as divorce to her. After all whatever she tattoos on her is there for life and she has to feel 100% on it.
Don't pressure her to make a snap decision either. Continue talking and looking at things you both think would work. Asking here is okay but you have to choose on your own based on what these images mean spiritually to her and not anyone else.
You might want to go with an animal maybe an eagle, a lion or something that represents strenghth and bravery or a bird such as the pheonix which rises from the ashes.
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I'm ten, female, and I kinda want a boyfriend. I don't know if I should do it, or how to do it. And if I do it how do I yell my parents? (link)
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I would wait. Don't rush it. It's all about maturity rather than age. Right now you don't know whether you should, how to go about it etc. which signals you aren't ready yet.
Right now your hormones are kicking in and you're starting to just notice boys. If I were you I would become friends with boys you like first and when older look at relationships. Right now you're still pretty young to attempt handling one.
Also, your parents need to know and should know and will undoubtedly know especially if you're spending a lot of time with someone.
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Well me and this guy plan to have sexx in the summer time and i trust him and all and he even says he loves me more than anything but we are both virgins i was just wondering is it good or bad to to have your first time with a virgin?
Because many of my friends tld me its a bad idea.
So can you help me out? (link)
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Subject to individual opinions. You will get a hundred different points of view from this question.
The important part is not one's prior experience but one's readiness, trust in their partner above all. Even if one or both partner's are experienced it can still come off just as bad if both were non-experienced or just as good. In a way it might be better if both aren't as there's no unrealistic pressure.
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I just got a new Boxer puppy. Shes 3 and a half months old, and she used to live with her two parents and 5 other dogs which she got to play with everyday. So I know it's hard for her to not always have someone to play with. Today, (Sunday) I spent the day with her and she was mostly outside with me or sleeping on my lap inside. The only issue is that my mom doesn't want her walking around inside the house (but when she's not home, I let her) because she can't deal with the puppy peeing and pooping all over. So, sometimes, we put her crate in the garage which is heated (we don't keep cars in there.)She also sleeps in there at night. I put her in there and tied her leash to her cage so she could move around a few feet surrounding her cage. I also put toys and a bowl of water. 15 minutes passed, and she was still howling and barking. It really bothers me, and as much as I'd like to let her keep sleeping on my lap, I'm incredibly tired, and I'm in high school, so I have work to do. I don't know if she's barking because I'm teaching her wrong, or if she misses her puppy friends. I have no idea how to make her okay with being in her crate. The first two days that we had her, she was fine in her crate and slept after whimpering a little bit, but now she is full out barking and howling for much longer than normal. Help???? (link)
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Keeping her in the garage in a crate or tied to anything is wrong. That dog will grow fearful of you and submissive.
The proper thing to do is go to any petstore (a big box one is best)and buy a pen that you can snap together and allow her to move about comfortably inside your house. This pen is slightly bigger than a child's playpen with room to move about.
She'll get used to all the noises and to your family better that way. All you need to do is put newspaper down when you aren't around and she will go on that. Trust me, everyone will be a lot happier.
The barking and howling will subside eventually but you should read some training guides about that or use a product other than a bark collar to assist you. Ask your vet for what to do.
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So, on Tuesday I got my rook pierced. All very clean, professional, they used a hollow needle, I've been there before, blah blah blah. But on Wednesday, the bottom ball of my barbell fell off. I couldn't screw it back on because a) the rook is in a really awkward place and b) it was tender from JUST being pierced. I ended up going back to the piercers' the same day so they could fix it. My piercer screwed the ball back on but in the process had to twist my ear super painfully to get it tight and to make sure that it would stay on. Since that day (it is now Sunday)my ear has been red, puffy, and extremely tender. I'm terrified that I've gotten an infection. I'm doing all the recommended sea salt soaks and cleaning it. I've never seen any pus, nor has it bled. I just have the normal "crusties" that are light yellow. But it hurts worse than any piercing I've had. I would go back to my piercer and ask him to take a look at it, but the place is REALLY far away and sort of an inconvenience to drive to. So, do you guys think the piercer just irritated it (maybe tore it a bit)? Or could it be infected? :( (link)
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Instead of going back there go see a doctor at a walk in clinic and let them look at your ear to see if it's infected or really bad and then do what they suggest. This shouldn't happen with normal piercings and your thinking there is a problem probably means there is.
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I have a compaq and it seriously sucks. The battery lasts twenty minutes and it doesn't even go til zero, it dies at 15 percent. When it dies, I have to take the battery out, plug it in first and then put the battery in. Then when it turns on, I have to reconnect to the internet everytime. I want to get a mac for 999.99 but my dad says I don't need it. What do I do? ): (link)
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You need a new laptop that's for sure. While your father has an opinion it all boils down to it being your cash and your investment not his. You can't go wrong with a Macintosh.
They don't get viruses, are really fast and the best thing going for a creative person especially if they are in to design and photography and anything produced on them can be changed into Windows files.
How long have you had your laptop? If it's under an extended warranty they will repair it for you and give you a new battery at least. If it's up that get the Macintosh but don't buy it without the 3 year Apple Care warranty as that protects you and gives tons of technical support.
I have had my Mac since 2006 and it still works as fast as it did the day I took it out of the box. It's a smart move to make. Also, buy online from apple.com or go to the Apple Store to avoid being sold anything refurbished by people who don't know shit about Macs as believe me there's a lot of sales people who don't. The product will last longer than a PC and be free of spyware, viruses and a lot of Windows issues.
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f/17 so i have bumps on the inside of my vagina. my doctor has told me its only redumnate skin and its normal but its very very painful for me to have intercourse and my mother doesnt want to take me to an obgyn cuz one she doesnt know im sexually active and two the only obgyn that accepts my insurance is over an hour away and she thinks its fine since my pediatric doctor says its fine im not asking what it is i just want it to stop hurting. ive tried using lubes and being very slow but its still very painful and im sick of it. how can i make it stop hurting? awnser from a doc or someone who know what theyre talking about please? (link)
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You should tell her that your family doctor told you that the problem was "normal" but if pain or discomfort persists to see a gynacologist and that you are extremely worried.
If this doesn't sway her to schedule an appointment you need to divulge the truth. never lie or hide any details that are detrimental to any part of your health from your parents.
Yes, it may be embarassing to let her know about you having sex and yes she may be upset but in the end it's better to die of embarrassment than to suffer in silence as it can get worse and may be a problem unrelated to recent sexual activity.
Also, because mom pays the insurance there is really no other way to get that appointment even though you can arrange it on your own and go see any doctor. You need to tell her the truth and trust me she was your age once and can probably relate to all of this. You might be surprised at her response.
Also,your family doctor doesn't sound at all competent or certain about what is happening hereand like the poster below indicated there's nothing that's in your vaginal walls that ain't supposed to be present. if something is present it's not meant to be there.
When he/she told you this what exactly did they do to come to that conclusion? If they didn't do a full pelvic exam and other tests than you need to see a gynacologist more than ever as it could be something serious than again maybe not but don't chance it.
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I am a man and for the last 3 or 4 months when i get ready to cum i get a pain on my side and it hurts so bad i can;t finish cumming. Can you help me? (link)
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See a urologist they deal with how the male reproductive system works and what pain could mean. It's not normal.
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I have very low self-esteem. People tell me I'm smart and nice, but I don't believe it at all. It started with my sister putting me down for years and I never quite recovered from it. I even applied to a university that is much below my capability just because I don't think I'm smart. I let guys use me and the only guys who I had relationships with, had just of a low self-confidence as me. I also have incredible social anxiety problems. I get depressed frequently. Do I need professional help? What can I do to better my situation? (link)
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Anxiety is ruling your life and controlling how you function. That's the short answer to your question. If it's caused you to think you're dumb and not to apply to a better school, affects your relationships to the point you let others betray or use you and you have ZERO confidence it's a life-altering issue.
This is why you should visit an emergency room and tell them that anxiety and depressed thoughts are ruining your life and you want treatment. A psychiatrist will meet with you and come up with the right way to treat you and put most of this behind you.
You just need to do that as you cannot fix this disease and that's what an anxiety disorder and depression is on your own. It's a severe medical issue because it has total and complete rule and control over you. Time to kick it to the curb and get professional help. You need it and no it doesn't mean you are crazy for needing a shrink either. Lots of well-known people in your boat including several world leaders.
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whatdo i put on special training? (link)
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Put down any skills you can do or talents that may not relate directly to the position but can be put in action. Also list volunteerism if it taught you something others don't possess.
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I am pregnant again for this man.I told him I was pegnant like last time and basicly receive the same reception.He was very vacant and all of a sudden I can't come at his house because the neighbour's ask his wife if they had out of towners staying there.Yes he is married and so I'm I.I paid for the termination last time.
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You would think you would have learned from the first awful expierience and termination. It's not right that you continued the affair and did the same things over again that led to this situation.
Your spouse deserves nothing less than the truth of what occured in both instances and how long the affair was going on so he can move on or you can or perhaps repair things. You owe him that.
What you do with the pregnancy is your choice but you have to walk that path alone and be 100% sure you can bear the weight of any decision especially termination as it's a life altering thing.
I would consider raising this child as your own and consider it a gift with or without a partner in a loving setting as something magnificent may come of this if you did. Start with telling the truth to your spouse and getting counselling and permanently cutting off the other man.
He's a coward for ducking responsibility and using you for a long time just for physical things. Sad that he can't man up and is trying to have you abort for the second time. Pretty bad.
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