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vaginal rugae
f/17 so i have bumps on the inside of my vagina. my doctor has told me its only redumnate skin and its normal but its very very painful for me to have intercourse and my mother doesnt want to take me to an obgyn cuz one she doesnt know im sexually active and two the only obgyn that accepts my insurance is over an hour away and she thinks its fine since my pediatric doctor says its fine im not asking what it is i just want it to stop hurting. ive tried using lubes and being very slow but its still very painful and im sick of it. how can i make it stop hurting? awnser from a doc or someone who know what theyre talking about please?
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So it is important to be really aroused before starting intercorse. otherwise it will be painful.
Also, there is something called vaginal rugae that is ridge-like and bumpy, like folds of skin, that is normal. Actual bumps are not. I completely agree that if you are concerned, you should thalk to YOuR doctor. start getting anual paps. You can chose your doctor, so make sure you like the way you are treated, if these seem cold and brush you off like youre an idiot (like my first doc did) they're no good and arn't going to help you.
But for sure make sure your man turns you on really good first, maybe even gives you an orgasm clitorally first(I know many say women can't have vaginal orgasms, but thats Bull). It will feel so much better!
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You should tell her that your family doctor told you that the problem was "normal" but if pain or discomfort persists to see a gynacologist and that you are extremely worried.
If this doesn't sway her to schedule an appointment you need to divulge the truth. never lie or hide any details that are detrimental to any part of your health from your parents.
Yes, it may be embarassing to let her know about you having sex and yes she may be upset but in the end it's better to die of embarrassment than to suffer in silence as it can get worse and may be a problem unrelated to recent sexual activity.
Also, because mom pays the insurance there is really no other way to get that appointment even though you can arrange it on your own and go see any doctor. You need to tell her the truth and trust me she was your age once and can probably relate to all of this. You might be surprised at her response.
Also,your family doctor doesn't sound at all competent or certain about what is happening hereand like the poster below indicated there's nothing that's in your vaginal walls that ain't supposed to be present. if something is present it's not meant to be there.
When he/she told you this what exactly did they do to come to that conclusion? If they didn't do a full pelvic exam and other tests than you need to see a gynacologist more than ever as it could be something serious than again maybe not but don't chance it.
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Edited Answer: I read your feed back and am surprised that your mother will not take you to the gynecologist. This leads me to believe that you are not hiding anything from her in regards to your being sexually active. I also get the feeling from your feed back that you may not be on any form of birth control pill as mom is tightly controlling when and what doctors you can see. (more on this in a bit)
I'm not comfortable with your family doctors diagnoses. I'm not a doctor so I choose that word specifically. I reviewed my Anatomy Books; in my house we all deal in the medical profession as firefighters, paramedics or in the mental health arena so we have medical books laying around. When I looked at the vagina I could not find anything that would or could be termed redundant tissue.
What bothers me is the position your mother has taken on this. With you family doctors diagnoses and my feeling that she is aware you are sexually active, don't underestimate your mothers power of observation. It is my believe she may want you to feel this way so you do not continue to have sex if this is the only time you will feel pain. Call it mom's form of birth control.
Your 17 and from a medical stand point she has no right to control what medical help you seek or receive. The HIPPA Law.
Alternatives you can try: Most County Health Departments run area free medical clinics where you can go for things such as STD checks and birth control. Many offer some types of medical help as well.
There are also Planned Parent Hood Centers. Most people think these are just abortion centers, they are not. They offer full service reproductive health care. I will include the URL for there home page so you can locate a center near you. They services are either free or at minimal cost.
My concern is that these bumps are something more harmful that left untreated could make it harder if not impossible for you to have children later in life. Am I thinking STD? Yes, no matter how well you know the person your having sex with an STD is possible. If your boyfriend has a cold sore and has oral sex with you he can transmit the Herpes virus to you. So you need to get and STD test.
You also need to get on some type of birth control (if you are not on any)that is right for you. And just to put all possibilities aside if you are using condoms, and you should be. See if they will test you for a latex allergy.
I don't like going behind your mothers back. I rarely recommend doing so. In your case I am only suggesting it because of your age and I don't like the idea of your mother withholding medical treatment.
As for being sexually active at 17; I think you are old enough to understand the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. You should have the ability to protect yourself. This too may be being withheld from you by your mother controlling when and what doctors you can see. I also believe that at 17 you should have had your first gynecological exam by now and by a gynecologist. Somehow I have the feeling your mom may not have seen to this either.
I can be very liberal when it comes to things such as sex. If you ask me a question you will get the right answer. I tell it like it is. I can also be very conservative. Right know I am in a very conservative frame of thought because I do not think your mother is doing her job as a mom by withholding medical treatment.
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