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Q: ok there is two boys i like and they both have a gf. one of them is my ex and the other said that he loves me. i wanna go wit my ex and him and his gf dont look like theyr doin good but then i want to go wit the other one but hes goin wit dis hoe and he had no clue bout it. i really love my ex though cause when we broke up i went home cryin and i still havent got over him and its been like 2 months. wat should i do im 13 too and a female

Well, since they both have girlfriends you cant really do anything about it until they break up with their girlfriends. I dont think the second guy really loves you, I mean cmon he's not even going out with you yet. I think you should try your ex, but talk to your ex first and see if he likes you still. If yeah, go from there!

Q: I need someone to ask and I already tried my mom. What's it like to have your period,what if I have it at school and who should I tell first.It's almost time for me to start so I came to you, I hope you can help me!

Its different for all girls actually. You have your period once a month, for about 3-7 days. I have it for 4. When you have it you probably will have pain, but take 2 tylenol or advil for that. It doesnt hurt that bad for me, but for other people it could hurt really bad. But dont worry cuz the medicine takes care of that. You should tell your mom first-so she could help you out with what to do. Whether you want to use tampons/pads its up to you. At school, dont worry about it! Just make sure you change your tampon/pad in the morning and bring an extra tampon or pad to change it in the bathroom during lunch or something. Also bring some body spray and spray yourself throughout the day so you smell good! I was scared when I got my period at first, but really its no big deal! Just make sure to tell your mom when you get it so she helps you out.

Q: Does anyone know a really great reasonably priced shopping website?

www.kohls.com

Q: ive got this friend..and we're pretty good friends..but she is such a flirt that it gets on my nerves every once in awhile..mainly when shes flirtin with guys i like..she flirted so much with my home-coming date that he changed his mind and they went together..and any guy i like she flirts with them..in 5th period..the guy i like sits 1 seat away frum me..hers is in the middle..she didnt use to sit there tho...she just now decided she wanted to sit back over by us..how can i get used to her flirting or what can i do?!?!

Tell her to stop and find her own people to flirt with. tahts all you can do, and if she doesnt stop just ignore her:)

Q: i have 2 really close friends. Ones a guy and one's a girl, if that really matters. And they say they love me all the time, but i just dont feel it. i just dont feel loved, i feel upset all the time. Does anyone kno y i feel this way? i think it's b/c i'm so lonely, i dont have a bf and never have. Anyone have sum tips?

I dont feel loved either, and I dont have a boyfriend. Your just lonely..and want boyfriend love. Not friendship love..you know? Your time will come to get a boyfriend. You just need to wait, and be patient. I know it sucks to wait but just flirt with guys(lol) and try to meet new people.. and sooner or later you'll have a bf! :)

Q: Okay, There's This Kid Named Jacob That I Really Really Like. Problem Is, I Live In Pennsylvania And He Lives In Florida! I Didn't Meet Him In A Chat Or Anything, My Friend From School Moved From Florida And Knew Him. He Visits Pennsylvania A Couple Times A Year To Visit His Friend!! And He Said He Really Likes Me And He's Just All Confused Cuz He Really Wants To Date Me And Stuff! I Like Him Alot.. And I'd Be Able To Meet Him Eventually. And I Don't Mind Long Distance Relationships, Do You Think This Is Okay??

Yeah, since you didnt meet this guy through a chat-room you know he's not a pediphile. Has he seen you, do you know what he looks like? If you like him, go for it. But from my personal experience, you miss him because you like him so much it just sucks to not see him all the time. And, you both have to have a lot of trust in eachother.

Q: Okay well like guy..and he has a girlfriend..but he flirts with me..but when hes with his friends..hell like barely talk to me..or when hes with his girlfriend..he like say hey but then he just ignore me! i mean EVERYONE in my class that knos that i like him..thinks he likes me..but i dont think so..because sometimes he can be mean..but other times he so sweet. i could tell him anything..and i really like him..but i dont think he likes me! do you kno why flirts with me when its just us..and then when hes with his friends hell ignore me?! thanks!

.KMUL.

Yep, he likes you..but He doesnt want his friends knowing he likes you. Because his friends might tell his gf. So he might like you but not enough to where he'll break up with his gf for you. Just wait till they break up (and they eventually will) and see what happens.

Q: i get depressed like really easly.. like today at school i was really hyper and happy and all that but now im really up set and want to cry over nothing. i just randomly melt down.. is there anyway to stop this or is there a reason im like this?

Are you a teen-age girl? Yeah its normal and every girl does that. I cry for no reason sometimes! Its normal..

Q: k, i'm 5'4", 116 pounds, long brown hair to the bottom of my back, greenish eyes, long legs, and i'm wondering what would be some make up/fashion styles be for me. i have really fair skin if that helps any, i'd just like some tips to look cuter/hotter/whatever

please and thank you

Black eyeliner, black mascara to bring out your green eyes. That would look soo cute! I suggest going to a M.A.C store for tips and stuff..their expensive but they'll make you look hott! www.maccosmetics.com

Q: that's the thing, I didn't do anything at all. Yeah I knwo it was a bit confusing..maybe to make it a bit clearer the aquarena is the place where i was swimming, an dpwc is my school. maybe that will clear it up a little bit. I'm staying at a friends and i think i will write her a letter. thanks.

Wow, you sure rumors arent floating around about you at school? think about anything else that might make her mad. If your not doing anything, your mom is probably having problems with her work or anything else and is taking it out on you. I hope everything works out! if you need more help, ask me!!

Q: Well, awhile ago I offered to take this kid that used to go to our school to our dance so he could see he former classmates. I didn't mean it as a "date" type thing, but that's the way he took it. And now I don't really want to take him because I feel like I'll be leading him on if I do. :/ But there's more! I was single at the time, but (still am now) I'm really into this kid, and I really wanted to bring him to our dance. I'm really confused and frustrated! What should I do/ tell one of them?! Please and thank you!!

Tell the guy that wants to see his friends, that you will go to the dance with him but he needs to know that there is nothing between you two. And how about at the dance, dance with the other guy a few times(make sure the other guy knows before the dance that you might dance with other guys) hope I helped!

Q: I've been having a lot of problems at home and everything in the last forever long. Last night something got to me really bad and I ended up taking off. I was swimming and after that my mom literally almost dragged me to my school, told me to clean out my locker and that I wouldn't be going back to school there anymore. after swim practice, mom walked into the aquarena and started to scream at me right in front of my friends. he litterally dragged me over to pwc, where she made me clean my locker out, telling me i was never coming back to school here again. once we got outside i just dropped my books and started walking back towards the pool. mom followed me and we actually started to fight. now mom's smaller then me, and i didn't want to hurt her so i just shoved her off and ran for it. lachlan lives like a 5 min walk from the pool.. but it ended up taking me like 20 mins to get there because i had to hide. mom was driving around looking for me. went to lachlans, snuck around back and walked into their kitchen. neil (his dad) just smiled at me and said 'your mom dropped by here about 10 mins ago looking for you. i thought you'd turn up eventually.' and he offered me food. i just decided to sit out on their back deck for like 30 mins thinkning... mom came by while i was there, neil covered for me and said they hadn't heard from me. they promised not to give me away. anyways, fio (his mom) came home and we talked outside for awhile, then lachlan came home and we talked.. i called kids help phone and then went inside his house. my hair was wet from the pool and i was outside for over 2 hours so i was freezing! didn't eat like a thing. figured out that i'd be spending the night at their place. then we went and picked up jamie, went to the village mall where i left a msg at home saying i was okay and i was staying at a friends house...when i came home today she flipped out at me so bad. I'm at the point where I can't stay at my house anymore but I feel really bad for not staying there. Has anyone ever done this, or anything similar? And how can I get help or be able to stay there? =\

That was confusing. But I think I got the point. What did you do that made your mom so angry at you? I think you should write a letter to your mom, and let it all out. Tell her everything you need to let her know. And put it in the mailbox or on her desk. Stay at a friends house for a while if you want..just so you both think about things and stuff.

Q: does anbody know how to put sound in your advice column cuz i was looking a persons column and they had music its soo cool plz help me
thx
*Mr.NeWyOrK*

Music not allowed, really..I was banned for it.

Q: Hey. What are crunches? I was thinking crunches were sit-ups, but they must be something different. Thanks =)

Crucnhes are like small sit-ups. Instead of going all the way up to your knees you go half way and then u go down

Q: well the other day my mate said that i speared a rumer that she had had sex with my boyfriend
i told her i didnt and she got hold of my neck and said if i ever speard another rumer she would kill me so then another rumer came out about her saying she was pregnant and that my boyfriend gave her crabs
wat the time she was at my house she pushed me on the bed and took a knife to my chest but i was so freeked out id never seen her like this
but nothing happened my mum came in the room
and she said i will kill you at the weekend i need help!
elly mason

Shouldent you tell the police about this? She is threatening you..you could get a restraining order or something. Or just ignore her...

Q: I was wondering how to make the letters move in your advice column cuz i looked at sum peoples advice column and it had letters moving can any1 help me thx

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?x=safe&u=html+.+help (Click Marquees) and then copy paste the html into your profile settings where you put everything about you. Make sure you scroll down a lot to get to the marquee section!

Q: Hey, im 5'4" and 130ish, I'd like to loose some weight. Any special excersize that works really well?
thanks

Running a mile. Pilates (Get the video at walmart or target or wherever). Thats all i can think of but really you dont need to lose weight..your average!

Q: Ok.. this guy... i like him so much, hes the reason i wanna get up for school everyday. I want to show him i like him, but im not sure he likes me. He did at the begining of the year but then he said he stopped. I dont wanna ruin our friendship over this, but i dont know if it could turn into something better by somehow showing him i like him a bunch. He always looks at me in class and smiles FORever and we flirt alot but what guy dosnt do that? what do you think?

Go up to him, and tell him how you feel. That way he'll know for sure and he can think about if he likes you or not. I think he does like you..so you should just ask him. Whats there to loose? I'mm sure he wont be like ewww get away from me. you know?

Q: Okay so I have this friend and she has a boyfriend and I am his friend a little bit like he talks to me and stuff and he gives me money but I asked him if I could have a sip of his Powerade and he said yes so I took a sip and my friend saw me and she got all mad at me and said that I have been flirting with her boyfriend, and that I like him even though I have my own boyfriend....I sent her a text message saying sorry and I even tried calling her but she won't answer. I need help what should I do

Wow your friend is on crack. Try text messaging her saying "I just wanted a drink.." or have her boyfriend help you out and explain to her that its nothing. If she still is mad, I think shes too immature to be your friend anyway. I mean cmon who freaks out over a drink?

Q: I cut myself. I've been cutting for about half a year. I've never had a problem hiding it or anything. Just recently I've been trying to stop. I know its bad. My problem is that I have P.E. starting 2nd semester (in January) and I don't know how to hide the scars (I'm going to have it 2nd period if it helps). My parents don't know, and I don't want them to know either. We have to wear uniforms so I don't know how I'm gonna pull this off. Also, bracelets and jewelry aren't allowed. Any ideas? Thank you.

Well if you dont stop before January you can use those wrist bands that are long and stuff..I dont know how to explain it but I have a site to show em http://c28.com/shopping/productlistings2.asp?category1=accessories&category2=allbrands&category3=wristbands ..those are christian ones but its just an example ha