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Q: how do girls mastrubate?..im 14 and i know about guys but wat bout dah laydeesss

they're called dildos.. they're basically a penis just without the scrotum and guy attached ;). masterbation is just what/how the opposite does sex.. like the guy inerts (therefore yeah the jacking off serves as their way of masterbation..) and so for ladies we get something inserted in there.. a.k.a a dildo.

Q: can your cherry be popped by mastrubation or fingering?

well in general anything can pop it.. (if my term of cherry is correct).. sitting in a odd way or falling on your butt really hard can break it. so probablyt masterbation and fingering can break it.

Q: Okay..I'm not sure if anyone can awnser this question for me, but just incase someone can i'm gona ask. I recently did dxm..its also known as skittles. And i know thats really stupid. Now i'm regretting it. I'ts about a day after and I'm feeling really dizy still. Like i did when I was on it. I'm thinking i should probaly go see a docter but mabye everyone feels like this? I did it with my bf too and he doesnt feel it any more..so i'm starting to worry. I'm also on anti depresseants so i think that might have something to do with it. Plz dont delete this question. I need some opinons before i tell my friends or family. Plz help me! ..

-Scared

it's good that you informed us that you are also on anti-depressants.. that partially could be why.. i hope that you didn't take your anti-depressants anytime really before or after you took the skittles. those can cause a multiplyer effect and really screw things up.. leave yourself alone for maybe another day. it could be that just your body itself still hasn't gotten rid of the skittles or the depresants kinda helped it linger there for a longer after effect... but if the feeling still doesn't leave and it persists or gets worse then i'd talk to your parents right away about it because one way or another if you visit a doctor they'll know or have to know or end up fiding out (which isnt ever the BEST way for them to find out).. it's good that you've learned your lesson and even though it's really scary to even think about telling your parents you have to face up to this. goodluck!

Q: umm theres this guy that likes me alot and he is def. not my type...... but my friends tell him i lik him bc they feel bad for him... But i dont like him... Im going icekating on my birthday and soo is he.... he is giving me this real diamond ring and asking me out... what should i do?

turn him down politely.. it's bad enough the guy thinks that you like him than being totally embarassed or humiliated at your party.. so let him down gently and maybe secretly? like in a private place or something.. tell him that you just don't see him in that way and that you're really sorry if it ever seemed like you were sending a signal to him. and hope that you two can get past this and be friends.

Q: my poor jigaboo head =/ this shud be pg 13!!

ehhh? me confused haha.. you're such a dork stephanie. love ya! bffe =D

Q: me and my bf recently slept together and now i fink i mite be pregnant but im wondering can somebody under 16 have an abortion whitout their parents knowind thanx

nope.. i'm pretty sure you can't unless the doctors have your parent's consent (since their insurance is paying for it).

but make sure you really are pregnant before you go through this.. and secondly that you are really prepared for an abortion.

Q: ok my area 'down there' is kind of like swollen. im a girl and i noticed that the flaps are kind of stucking out. are they suppossed to be like that?

err.. check it out with a doctor or gyno. it's probably an infection.

Q: what is love? how do u know when u r in love? please help cause i have wanted to know for a long time

love is utterly indescribable... and although alot of kids say they're in it.. they most likely aren't. when you're in love nothing anyone does or says can affect how you feel about them. you just find yourself in class starring at him even if he's doing something stupid like fixing his jacket and you just smile. you're head ovre heels for them when you're on the phone with them and you coudl be having the stupidest conversation ever. when someone even says their name you just blush. but the part about love you can really tell about is the breakup.. if it takes you just about a billion years to get ovre them and you never really ever do.. then you know that you really loved them. you'll know when you're in love.. trust me.

Q: I love volleyball... but i fucking hate my coaches... they are such dush bags... should i quit or should i stick with it? if i quit i would def. play soccer... HELP!!

keep at it.. one of my best friends is really athletic and she loves volleyball more than track but her stupid coaches keep telling her shes like a piece of crap that is made for track not volleyball.. it's rough! but keep at it if you're good at love it. it's not for forever right? so just stick it with the season.. but if you really don't think you can handle their crap then play soccer. =] either way it's a win win situation.

Q: ok i was woundering doesnt the live strong thingz come in different colorz besides yellow ? cuz i saw dis guy in my class had a purple nd red. nd they have them anything nike ? thanks

i'm pretty sure they're only yellow.. that guy in your class probably had some other thing from another company.

Q: Well there's this song I'm pretty sure it's on a CD called Jimmy eat world or w/e and it's also on a NOW CD!! I wish I could give you some words- but I can't! So [if u can] please help me and tell me what its called/who its by! Thanx!

umm the only jimmy eat world songs i can think of right now are

"the middle" "the sweetness" and "hear you me" although they did just release some new one that they play on the radio alot.. if those two aren't the ones you're looking for then call into a station and ask them what the new jimmy eat world song they keep playing is called.. sorry if i ddint help much

Q: last year i gotinto this huge fight with my best friend in the whole world and its too long to explain but to fill you in the fight caused us to not be friends anymore. Now this year , out of the blue she apologizes and she confessed how she really feels and how she regrets how she stopped being my friend and stuff and i started to miss being friends with her. Should i be friends with her again...i mean theres always room to start over...right?

of course.. she is our best friend and life is too short for grudges..! =D

Q: ok i think i have a problem, i love sex so much i cant explain and me and my boyfriend only do it like once a week, and when we do he satisfies me alot in everyway but when we're done,10 minutes go by and im ready for another round, he'll give me like two good rounds but i always want more,and he'll be worn out. am i un normal or somethin cause i feel liek i need it all day everyday what is wrong with me.

lol you've just got a great sex drive.. more people are more aroused and have a stronger stamina than others. umm the only thing i can think of to try to get all that sexual feelings out is natural masterbation... great to know you sex life is going good! lol

Q: omg you gave me the best advice ive ever had b4.. n ive never sed that b4.. of all the questions ive asked.. that was the best response!!!

haha thanks ali? lol well then i guess i really helped you on your problem.. feel free to ever come to me with any other problems. =D

Q: ok I like this one guy named Ben and he likes me also and weve been friends since the first day of school and Ive liked him since then well it slowly turned into love. And I still am in love with him. Sounds like nothings wrong right>> Problem I just got asked out by this guy named Ryan and I dont like him because most of my feelings are for Ben and Ben and Ryan are friends and Im going out with Ryan. Ryan is so much different from Ben. Ryan smokes pot, hes weird to hang around with, and im never happy around him
On the other hand Ben hes cute,funny, and Im happy when im around him, gives me hugs all the time!! And is such a sweetie. So this should be easy but its not!! I dumped Ryan yesterday (thursday) and got back together with him today OUT OF GUILT and then before 6th period I felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I was planning on telling Ryan that I dont want to be his girlfriend because I dont know him all that well and WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY O i dont want to go out with you because Im in love with your friend even though u say you love me Ok bye! what should I do and I would like guys to answer this but girls are fine TOO!1
please dont delete this I really really need help
LOVE Ash

be blunt.. break things off with ryan *and shame on you for going back out with him for guilt.. lol dont worry you're human and you make mistakes*.. not the real issue is if Ryan would get really mad if you went out with his best freind or whatever and if Ben would take it offensively and take it as a reason not to go otu with you b/c you just dumped his good friend.. if yes is the answer.. then back off of them for a while.. both of them till things aren't so awkward with you and ryan and he'd be ok with you dating a friend of his. but to try to shorten the advice.. break up with ryan.. DONT go back out with him.. tell ben (when the time is right) how you feel about him and that you've liked him for a while now and that you think you two would be good together. see wat happens from there.. keep my posted!

Q: this kid i like b4 i met him seemed like this reeally nice kid really umm perfect...he still seems that way he just swears alot...dont get me wrong im notlik goodie tooshoes...but i didnt think he would so im kinda shaky about everything else unless hes changing to sound tough to impress me..idk..? help please

just jokingly tell him that he's such a dork for sewaring so mcuh and see if he takes it personally. or you can be like ooh __ that swearing sure turns me on and if he's like oh yeah.. really? then he like haha no way you dork. but if it really bothers you alot then tell him.. haha i know sometiems i go on a rampage for a week and i just go swearing crazy and it bugs some of my freinds and they're like vicki!! stop swearing or i'll hit you =P.

Q: i like this guy a lot...i have liked him for like 2 1/2 years and no1 knows that i like him except like 4 friends. every1 always tells me that he likes me, (which people think is a bad thing because he is sort of a dork in my grade). but there is this other girl who is REALLY popular (nice, pretty, funny) and when i am in classes with the guy i like but she isn't in them, he flirts with me. but when he is in a class with me and the really popular girl he flirts with her A LOT and like forgets me. he is moving away in a little while and i really need to know what i should do? any ideas? thanx

tell him how you feel... you've liked him for this long and you should give it a shot (especially since time is fading quikcly) one of my good friends liked this girl for like a year and she moved away and they started becoming really good friends (he's like the loser and she's like the hottie or w/e) and he recently discovered that she's liked him for alot of the time but he's not a long distance relationshipy kinda guy so he can't go out with her. but now that you have the chance tell him before he's gone for god knwos how long till you see him. forget the other girl.. if he likes you then that's great.. if he doesnt then atleast you've let your feelings out there for him to think about.

Q: ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...im suppose to go to the movies see him later today w/ one of our best friends..who goes to my school..who used lived down the street from him...so can u help me? -thx in advance *i rate*

instead of constantly telling him to just be himself.. give me specific details of things he can do.. like listen to a girl's stories and feelings and how to cheer a girl up and such.. then maybe after a while hopefully he'll get the hang of it..

Q:
Mkay.. im 13 and i am really falling in love with my boyfriend. Like i want to be with him for the rest of my life and ive never felt this way before. How do i know if this is really true love? Is it to eairly to have a serious relationship?

p.s. my aunt found her true love in Jr.High. they got married so maybe it will happen to me!

that's always a possibility but wait things out before you do something rash like have sex or move in together... and yeah it is possible.. i know a couple (both of them are like very good friends of mine) and they've been going out for like 2 years and 2 months.. they're so sweet and cute together and they've techincally gotten married.. like his next door neighbor is a minister and he married them.. it's cute lol.. but anyways... just remeber that guys CAN come and go.. so wait things out and see where things go between you two.. it's great if you've found your first love or your true love but just wait.

Q: on a minimum, how much are u supossed to drink daily?

im pretty sure your'e suppose to drink from 8-12 cups.. but don't go directly drinking all that.. b/c your body should be getting water from alot of other places.. like other food you eat... unless all you're eating is total junk food and such that is soaking up the water that you need.. but just in general 8 cups.

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this site has been down for a while but i'm starting it up again. i've been really busy with school work and other activities but now you can ask me questions again.

anyways about myself, i've gone through alot in my life and it's all made me stronger so i can relate to nearly any situation. i really love people. when i get older i do plan on doing something in this sort of field, maybe psychiatry. i'm currently a junior in highschool and i devote all of my time to either my friends, theatre, or school. yeah i'm sort of a nerd. if i can't get on here to reply to your questions and its urgent then you can always feel free to IM me on AIM and i'll try to help you on there. i'm basically always on.