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ok ..im 14/f and one of my best friends is 14/m..he doesnt go to my school...although lives in the district and i seem him here and there...hes been askin me how to ask a girl out..and i kept telling him to be himself..he just wont listen to me on that part advice...and he kepts telling me to put myself in that position..and i said "no" then he said "well its not hard 4 u ur a girl" and i said "its hard 4 us as well..bc we have to turn down guys we dont like"..and i dk how to tell just to be himself..bc he wont listen to that...and he a few days ago he asked me "how do i ask a girl out and not get turned down??"..and im like idk its not something predictable...and he goes to a private school..and i go to public school..so i have no clue who this girl is..if i did ..i would have asked her if she liked him..but i dk ....so im pointless at this point...im suppose to go to the movies see him later today w/ one of our best friends..who goes to my school..who used lived down the street from him...so can u help me? -thx in advance *i rate*
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Ask him about the girl. If he says that he thinks she likes him, tell him, "ok then, if she really likes you, then shes gonna want you to be YOU."if that doesnt work, then id say give up. he seems like a pain in the butt.
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instead of constantly telling him to just be himself.. give me specific details of things he can do.. like listen to a girl's stories and feelings and how to cheer a girl up and such.. then maybe after a while hopefully he'll get the hang of it..
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hmm... well instead of just repeatedly telling him be yourself.. be more specific.. like tell him to listen to a girl's feelings and thoughts and be there for her phyically and mentally and etc etc ya know? like list specific things and examples (b/c most likely he'll ask you for examples of how and when to do that). eventually the guy will get the basic idea of who and what he should be like.. (which should omg.. ironically.. be himself! lol) hope i helped! and goodluck at the movies today.
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Well rather than telling him.."just be yourself"...try tellin him.."Girls love it when guys are themselves around them" ... that might get him to listen! lol....and tell him that girls dont like guys who "try" or "act" different than who they really are...it really is unattractive you know? every girl wants to be with a guy who is laid back and nice naturally... aite girl good luck
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just constantly tell him what ur tellin' him now just to be himself ... and if he keeps rejecting ur advice then just tell him to STOP askin' u for advice if he isn't going to take it!!
*BeSs*
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im not saying he does...but do u think maybe he might like you...i mean hes asking for your opinion he can ask anyone! and he seems to want to know your ideas...but im not sure so dnt hold me to this...wen ur at the movies just b like whos the girl you like? be simple and straight forward
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Well, you were giving him the right advice..to be himself. That's the best way. Have him drop a few hints to her that he likes her& then being a girl, she should get the idea. But he was very wrong about it being easier for us girls to ask a guy out& all..it's just as hard, if not harder. He should really just ask her how she feels about him. He asked you "how do I ask out a girl& not get turned down?" That's not the type of question he can just go& ask you b/c you're right..it's NOT something you can predict. He just needs to understand& realize that there's always going to be the chance of him getting turned down. It's life, shit happens. Hope I helped!
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OK, you need to tell him to do things that relate to his personality without telling him they relate to his personality. I know that sounds silly, but it's not. If he's aggressive he needs to just ask her straight up. If he's passive or sweet, tell him to pull her aside, share how he feels and asks her. All he has to do is take it slow, give her subtle hints that he likes her, don't tell him to do the friend asks a friend thing, the story will get changed around. He just needs to be sweet and give her hints,THEN he can either take her aside and let her know how he feels or just go for it. That was a hard one, i hope I helped sweetie!
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Well, since he doesn't want to be himself, maybe he should try to do something to impress her. If it works, then he should go talk to her, then try being himself. Because if he feels like he can't be himself around her, than it's not meant to be between the two of them.
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well since ur meeting him later, why not pluck up some courage, ask him who this gurl is? in the meantime, dont think so much about this gurl ur bestfriend likes. as a friend, maybe u should share with him. ditch that 'i dun care' thinking cause in the end u wouldnt get any results or answers from him. harhar hoped i helped a little. <3 good luck and hope everything goes well for ya!
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