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A girl whos confused about guys!!
ok I like this one guy named Ben and he likes me also and weve been friends since the first day of school and Ive liked him since then well it slowly turned into love. And I still am in love with him. Sounds like nothings wrong right>> Problem I just got asked out by this guy named Ryan and I dont like him because most of my feelings are for Ben and Ben and Ryan are friends and Im going out with Ryan. Ryan is so much different from Ben. Ryan smokes pot, hes weird to hang around with, and im never happy around him
On the other hand Ben hes cute,funny, and Im happy when im around him, gives me hugs all the time!! And is such a sweetie. So this should be easy but its not!! I dumped Ryan yesterday (thursday) and got back together with him today OUT OF GUILT and then before 6th period I felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I was planning on telling Ryan that I dont want to be his girlfriend because I dont know him all that well and WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY O i dont want to go out with you because Im in love with your friend even though u say you love me Ok bye! what should I do and I would like guys to answer this but girls are fine TOO!1
please dont delete this I really really need help
LOVE Ash
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be blunt.. break things off with ryan *and shame on you for going back out with him for guilt.. lol dont worry you're human and you make mistakes*.. not the real issue is if Ryan would get really mad if you went out with his best freind or whatever and if Ben would take it offensively and take it as a reason not to go otu with you b/c you just dumped his good friend.. if yes is the answer.. then back off of them for a while.. both of them till things aren't so awkward with you and ryan and he'd be ok with you dating a friend of his. but to try to shorten the advice.. break up with ryan.. DONT go back out with him.. tell ben (when the time is right) how you feel about him and that you've liked him for a while now and that you think you two would be good together. see wat happens from there.. keep my posted!
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Brake up with Ryan. Just do it he's not good for you I can tell I dont even know you but he's not for you. Ben on the other hand seems like the one that you seem right for. Mayb you could ask him out after you dump Ryan and you will be happier!
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You really need to talk to him, going back out with Ryan b/c of guilt prolly wasn't the best thing to do. Tell him you really don't know him all that well& you don't share mutual feelings with him. It is gunna be really hard though when he eventually finds out you like his friend.:/ But you really can't help how you feel, so he will have to get over it. Just talk to them both, Ben seems like you'd have more of a relationship with him. Goodluck!
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Wow.Ok, you need to dump Ryan right now. DON'T wait. The longer you wait the deeper you will get yourself into this. TRUST ME, i was in the EXACT SAME situation. Then you tneed to tell Ben how in love with him you are. And see where it goes from there, the outcome should be pretty good, as long as you tell the truth. Good Luck girl
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you got yourself into this one deep. Wait three days or so.. dump him say its not working out.. and then in a week ask out ben.. i know its hard but u got to give it space or else it will seem like your a player... don't want that
Jess
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Ash,
Based on your personality descriptions of Ben and Ryan, I'm pretty sure you like Ben.
But you're going out with Ryan, who you don't like.
Really think about that one for a second...What you're doing is leading Ryan on. You're letting him think you like him back, and the feelings he has for you will undoubtedly get stronger. Since it'd be harder for you to break up with him if/when he really likes you more, I do suggest you break it off now.
Whatever you do, don't lie about the reason. That's meaner than telling the truth - I mean, if you end up with Ben and Ryan sees you two together, he'll probably feel very hurt. That would suck for their friendships more than if you told him the reason you were breaking up with him was because you liked Ben. You can't help who you like. There's a kind way to explain it to him. Don't brush it off, like "yeah, I'm breaking up with you because I like Ben." Calmly explain to him that you don't feel like it's right to date him when you don't entirely return his feelings. If he asks about who you like, then tell him. If not, just avoid it, I'd say.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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It would be kinder to break up with him now, instead of leading him on and having him develop stronger feelings for you. You can tell him you think you guys are to different(you say he smokes pot, I assume you don't) and he should be with a girl who has the same interests as him.
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hey! you shouldnt go out with ryan if you dont like him and like ben. just tell him that you've realized that you guys dont have much in common or something like that. you cant make yourself sad to make someone else happy, it may sound selfish, but life is short and you need to be as ahppy as possible. if you have a chance of being happy with ben, then go for it! i dont understand why you went out with ryan in the first place and why you went out with him again, its hard dumping people and its hard being dumped, but its a part of life, especially as teenagers. hopefully ryan will understand when you dump him if you do. if you want to talk mroe, my sn and e-mail are in my profile, hope i helped, good luck! peace and love!
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Hye hun sounds like U Gots a problem to deal with butI would tell RYAN that its not working out for you and you need sometime to find out what you want!! hope I helped love ye
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