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I've got random chin acne, it's ridiculous
My parents don't believe in medication for acne.
I know, weird.

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SO, does anyone have any home remedy's to get rid of stubborb zits?

any help is appreciated!!
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lemon juice and tooth paste usually work for me. try just usin a regular face cleanser that you should wash your face with anyways like a bar of soap. DONT pop them or touch them.
also, for some people puttin a little ice on a zit makes the redness go down.
good luck !


Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years and he really wants to make-out but i am not really sure how to. I don't want to tell him that so i just tell him that i am nervous and keep putting it off. I know people say it comes naturally but i don't want to embarrass myself.How do you make-out is my real question. (link)
a few rules:
-try to keep the saliva to a minimum
-dont jam your tongue far into his mouth
-keep your teeth out of it, unless you bite his lip
-its kind of like a circle, your tongues kind of go in circles with each other
-take it slooooww


youve been with your boyfriends for 2 YEARS ! you should be able to tell him that you dont really know how to make out, he'd be happy to help you. dont you wanna know how he likes it ? i think the way to embarrass yourself the least is to talk to him about it. if you guys have been together that long, you should be able to tell him anythin.

good luck !


what are some good/cheap ways to decorate for halloween? like my front yard, steps leading upstairs to my home, driveway even inside my home
and perhaps some good ideas for foods incase i have a party? thanks! (link)
the dollar store is LOADED with a ton of cheap things to decorate with like fake bats and eyeballs and stuff. also. fake spiderweb (which you spread out over bushes), switch your porch lights to orange bulbs, put fake blood on your garage door, the fake hand is a good idea VV.
for food , orange food dye is the best. make orange cookies, orange punch...etc. i think you get the idea.

good luck !
x sweeethoney


i'm only 12 girl(turning thirteen soon) and i've been cutting myself sence januarry (the month after my 12th birthay). I need help to stoping cutting i had for almost two months then i started again. i'm very insecure about myself. People say i'm a good, loveble, pretty person but i can't bring myself to beleive then. i need to stop because the cuts have been getting deeper and deeper and i'm afraid by the time i'm 14 or 15 i won't beable to stop or i'll be in one of those homes....how can i stop cutting? (link)
this is a hard thing to stop if you do it on your own, especially since youre so down on yourself. i really suggest that you tell a parent or an adult that you trust because you really need some help now before its too late. i know its a ahrd thing to do because you dont know what will happen, but if you want to be healthy by the time your 14 or 15 you need to tell somebody.

for now, try to list the beautiful things about yourself. if your really nice, if your pretty, if you help people, if you love animals, if you like art... pick out the things that you like about yourself, and start to add more and more to your list.

please seek some help/advice from an adult !
feel free to message me anytime
x sweeethoney


My sister is 15-years-old. We have had problems with her for years, she doesn't do anything anyone tells her, has screaming tantrums on a daily basis, steals from us and more recently has been kicked out of school.

Today I found out that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of six months. I am absolutely livid. This is my final year of school and I will be taking important exams around the time that the baby is due. It is also my 18th birthday next week, which is a pretty big deal as I live in the UK, and we were planning a big party with family and friends. Obviously this is now being completely overshadowed.

I know I'm being selfish for just thinking about myself but for years I have suffered as a result of her behaviour, baring the brunt of my parents' anger and finding it really difficult to stay at home as the constant noise and arguments are too much. This feels like the last straw. This year is so important for me and instead of fully supporting me, my parents are going to be preoccupied with this.

I know she might not even end up having the baby as it is very early days and she hasn't made any decisions yet, but I am furious with both her and my parents, who I partially blame for this. Ever since she got together with her boyfriend I told my parents I didn't think it was a good idea to let her stay at his house and that she wasn't using protection but no one listened to me. They are now angry with me for being upset. My sister and I had a bad relationship anyway but now I don't want her anywhere near me. As far as I'm concerned she has ruined what is going to be one of the most important years of my life.

What should I do? I honestly don't think I can bare being anywhere near her, let alone live with her, especially if she decides to keep the baby. I can hardly look at my parents because I'm so angry about their attitude and the way they're dealing with it. (link)
obviously your sister is a troubled person , my best friends little sister is the same way only shes 12... yeah its bad.

but look, your sisters bringin a baby in the world. you need to get over yourself and your problems with her because she probably needs you right now, just like you would need an older sister in this situation.

what are your parents goin to do ? she already had sex and shes already pregnant. its not like theyre goin to ground her. i got pregnant at 15, and my parents werent happy but they didnt act like that could do somethin about it because they knew there was no point.

when you turn 18, MOVE OUT. your parents arent goin to kick your 15 year old sister out because you cant stand her.

youre sister probably wants all the attention and thats the reason for her behavior. just kill her with kindness, meanin just act so nice to her that she cant be a bitch to you.

sorry about your sister, but its a situation thats not gonna go away so you need to find a way to make the best of it.

good luck.
x sweeethoney


do pot and cigarettes smell similar? in what way are they different scent-wise? (link)
pot smells more like a fresh smell, and cigarettes smell more burnt. they dont smell alike at all.


Can you please explain to me what back pain due to large breasts feels like? And also where in the back the pain is, and what brings it on? (like walking, running etc.)

Thanks so much!
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i have almost double d's, and my upper back hurts the most along with my neck and shoulders. when its due to breast, you dont have to do anythin - it just hurts anyway. it sucks, especially since i have kyphosis and scholiosis which make the pain twice as bad.

the best you can do for it is to wear a REALLY supportive bra and practice good posture

x sweeethoney


I was drinking last night and got really, really smashed. I know, I was being very stupid by drinking SO much. Anyway, I was at a party and I know this guy was really hitting on me and trying to get in my pants all night long. I was grinding on him some and we were making out. I'll admit that I remember him sliding his hand down my pants and fingered me for just like a few minutes, but I was really, really horny so I KNOW I totally let him do that to me because it feels good.
I'm a virgin though and I want to save myself for marriage and I kept telling him no to putting his penis in me but he kept trying to persuade me. Anyway, I ended up passing out sometime and woke up without most of my clothes on (I only had on my thong panties). It wouldn't have been a big deal but it was like someone had taken off my underwear and put them back on me? I can't be for sure.
Anyway, my loser friends weren't there to take care of me and now I'm worried that the guy succeeded and we did have sex. I called the loser "friends" and they told me crap about me screaming at them a lot to leave me alone with the guy. I know I didn't do that because I'm not that kind of person so they have to be making that up. They are probably too stupid to just tell me the truth that they don't care if I have sex or not. One of the loser friends told me that the last time she saw me I was with the guy and his pants were down and I was giving him head. I PROBABLY did do that because I usually give some really hott guy head at the parties I go to. This guy was WAY hott too. I don't remember that this time though.
Today I'm not bleeding or anything but I have before when I fingered myself and masturbated with things so I think I had already ripped my hymen out. How can I tell if I'm still a virgin? Do I need to see a doctor to find out? Is there actually a way? Should I find out the guy's name and take him to court because he totally took advantage of me last night?! I'm furious if he did have sex with me because I totally didn't say yes to that! (link)
if youre were so smashed, then youre 'loser' friends probably arent lyin, you prolly gave him head and had sex with him. you are in the wrong in this situation, not the guy you were teasin. YOU were makin out with him, YOU let him finger you, YOU most likely gave him head, YOU got super drunk... guess what happens next 99% of the time ?
you couldnt take him to court because you seem like you were down for it with all the stuff you were doin with him before. 'it doesnt pay to be drunk and horny.'
if you want to 'wait for marriage', DONT DO ALL THIS OTHER STUFF. youd seem like just as big as a slut if you were actually havin sex with the guys that you give head to and hook up with at parties.

i suggest you stop gettin drunk, stop hookin up with guys, and start bein smart. honestly, you can get mad at this answer and rate me a 1, but this is what you need to hear.

please start doin well for yourself.
x sweeethoney


18/f

Long story short, I am insecure, and I have dated my bf for about 2 years now. We even live together due to certain complications lol. But, I hate when I start a debate and end up finding out obvious things like the fact that he looks at other girls, especially areas quite uncomfortable. And all he says is "I try to look away, and distract myself, which I do, by finding some other guy who looks stupid staring at the girl". It really gets me jealous... I wish I weren't insecure and jealous, and I cant help it, can anyone try and help mee?

sincerely,
insecurely jealous. (link)
boys will be boys. men are the more.. should i say hornier gender of the two. im sure he doesnt mean anythin by it, but guys lookin at girls is jus a habit. i mean, that doesnt make it right but you have to give them some leeway because theyre so used to it. youve been with him for 2 years, which obviously shows that he wants to be with you over any other girl that hes checked out, so take that into consideration and try to work somethin out.
dont go out to places where there are a ton of girls to at. im sure that you check out other dudes, not lookin at their package or nothin, but you have to admit other guys are good lookin besides your man.
that doesnt mean that youre doin anythin bad, you just have to work on it together !
good luck :)
x sweeethoney


14-f

am i a slut??????????
1. i get wasted
2. im no where near being a virgin
3. i have let people take advantage of me
4. i am either going to be a playboy bunny or a stripper somewhere....

do these make me a slut??????????? bacause everyone thinks i amm...and i kind of dont want them to (link)
ive been there honey. i was stupid and thought it was cool to lose my virginity at a young age, do drugs, and do whatever people wanted me too. all at 14. thank GOD i got out of the stage because now i have true goals in life.

if you cant handle your sexual side while gettin wasted, dont get wasted. youre gonna be the girl everyone things has a disease or most likely to prostitute if you keep goin this way. you need to take care of yourself, not what people think of you. but if you DO take care of yourself, your image will change.

please do take care of yourself... girls get raped while theyre wasted and easily willin. ive gotten fully taken advantage of while i was on drugs and drinkin, and i really regret it more than anythin. WHEN i was 14.

you can also get diseases, get violently treated, get pregnant... you have to stop this now.

good luck, talk to me for whatever hun
x sweeethoney


I really need a guy to lean on right now, short term or long term relationship would be good for me :(
But I will probably never find a guy for years because I'm 15 and pregnant, what kind of guy wants to date a girl thats having a kid?
Guys please answer. Be completely honest. (link)
well im not a guy but i like girls plus im pregnant as well.

pregnant view:
honestly, its hard to find a serious relationship when youre JUST 15, not to mention bein pregnant. you have so much stress already on your life, why add a guy to that ? trust me, i know you want to run to someone, i feel the same. you have to get your priorities straight though. focus on you and your baby, not guys.

datin view:
if your 15, guys who would be mature enough to even handle a kid wouldnt go for a 15 year old (not in ALL cases, i was 15 when i concieved) . i know it hurts, but in all honesty it takes a real man to handle a baby bein born thats not over the age of 25... which hopefully you arent lookin for lol.


please just worry about you and your baby, it will benefit you in the end.

good luck
x sweeethoney


sorry iv asked a lot of questions bout this girl but i want things to work out. so like we have established that we like eachother in texts but how come in person she doesnt act like it at all? like is it because im like not out yet or something?
PS im a girll (link)
if you arent out she may not wanna act like it to blow your secret. or she might be nervous. the only way to know is to ask her ! lesbian relationships can be harder (trust me) because its not accepted by everyone. but you really need to ask her why in person she doesnt act like she likes you. good luck :)

x sweeethoney


I really want snakebite piercings (the lip peircing on both sides of your bottom lip). The problem is, I'm worried about how much it will hurt. I do have my ears, nose and belly button pierced, so it's not like I'm a piercing virgin. How is the pain compared to getting your nose/belly pierced? Is there anything I can do to make it less painful or maybe even afterwards, like tylenol to help? Also, how do you brush your teeth afterwards, like the bottom? Thanks! (link)
i think the nose and belly hurt way worse then my top lip and bottom lip. you can take ibuprofen to make it better. but i suggest gettin it done professionally rather than doin it yourself.and you brush your teeth the normal way.

good luck
x sweeethoney




I was thinking of getting a Ouija board, I have always wanted one for personal reasons but my mother never allowed me to have one growing up.

My question is, Do they really work? Has anyone ever had a weird exsperience with them? How do they make you feel? ..Do you think I should get one? (link)
okay, the answers alone COULD be true... but i believe that they are spirits/demons takin the chance to contact us since we're asking for it. trust me i have had a lot of personal experiences with ouija boards and ill share a few...

-a spirit on the ouija board spelled out that it worshipped tricia (thats me) and followed me everywhere

-we called up my friends moms brother who died in the 80s... he ran away from home and got into a motorcycle accident. the ouija board said 'im sorry i never said bye'. now one of my guy friends, whenever he sleeps over, sees a guy who he described to look just like my friends moms brother to walk up and down the hallways like protectin them.

-one time, it repeated over and over 'get out get out get out get out'

-we used to put candles around the ouija board and one of them blew out on its own.

-unexplainable noises and voices were in my friends house for a year until we annointed it with holy oil.

-i called up my dead grandfather that ive never met, and he said 'i know you smoke weed' (when i used to smoke) and 'you have your dads smile' which i never realized until then.

you can choose to believe what you want, but i believe that theyre real. after you start playin, you always want to play. some people say just cuz its fun, others say because the spirits call you in. you just have to be smart.

never leave the board open, or if you get up for a second turn the oracle (the movin piece) upside down.

my mom never let me have one as a kid either, and thats why i was so attracted to it. now i cant sleep with the light off lol

good luck :)
x sweeethoney


okay. so i'm a junior, i've been out for two years now. my school's very gay-friendly.
a freshman girl caught my eye. i really suspect she's bicurious but to the best of my knowledge she hasn't 'done anything' before. i have a class with her and we flirt pretty mercilessly. i intend to ask her to a movie or something with friends.
speaking of friends, in my information-gathering a few people told me she acts like a whore. this doesn't bother me much but is perhaps something to take into account.
so is it ethical for me to date someone two years younger?
and do you have any other advice? (link)
if shes not bicurious or bisexual, she might not even know shes flirtin. try to dig a little deeper and see if she is curious. if you cant really get that out of her, then ask her out ! but kind of observe her... so you dont get yourself in a situation that you like someone who likes everyone. i was in the same situation with a girl this year as well. you jus have to see it for yourself. i dont think its unethical to date someone two years younger.
good luckkk


Im 16 and im dating this 19 guy. How do i tell my mom?? (link)
i just went through the exact same thing, same age. just bring him around your house and introduce him as a person, and just hang out with your parents for a little bit so he can get to know them. thennn after he leaves, if your parents like him ofcourse, tell them they you guys like each other and that you guys are seein each other. 19 isnt really that old, especially when girls mature way faster than guys. just make sure no legal things get in the way, just be smart with who you tell.

good luck :)
x sweeethoney


ok so me and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months now and spend like 10 hours a day together and somehow still arent tired of each other and still love each other very much. our sex life is good and in all the time weve been together we've never fought. we;ve had some small dissagreements but its always something we get talk out and come to an agreement..
but okay heres whats up. we both do drink a bit and i've told her before that i dont mind if she drinks with her friends a little but as long as she doesnt get to drunk. and not to going to any guys houses with her friends to get drunk because im worried something might happen..
then last weekend i left to stay with my sister out of town and she said she was going to her friends for the weekend. but anyways.. sunday night her friend and her went to some guys house.. just my girlfriend her friend and 2 guys... they ended up getting drunk and things got out of hand and my girlfriend had sex with one of them. i found out monday when i saw a hickey on her neck. she promised me that all they did was kiss but i've already know when she lies and i could tell she was... she did regret it and she didnt want to but it still happend you know..
but the next day i looked at her phone and saw a text to the friend she went with telling her not to tell me anything else happened. so i confronted her and blah blah blah i was pissed she cried again and idk. but the problem is i love her way to much and even though i want to be mad i cant. i just cant be mad at her its only been a week and im already acting like nothing happend. im still hurt about it and theres not the trust like there was but i dont know what to do. she promises me it will never happen again and shes never going to drink again unless im there to but im still not sure..
what do you think i should do? (link)
when girls drink it either means two things;
-theyre ditzy and stupid, but they can control themselves
-they cant control themselves lol

obviously your girlfriend has made it quite clear that when she drinks she cannot control herself. you dont get hickeys from just 'kissin'... i suggest you break up with her. becuase if you dont show her that you take it seriously, she might just get drunk and do it again. if you dont want to break up with her then maybe you can make a compromise like she has to really stop drinking or youll break up with her.

its really not fair because i can tell you really have feelins for her and if she treats you like this then you need to give your loyalty and love to someone that will return it.

im super sorry :/ if you need someone to talk to ever im here !
x sweeethoney


I think that i might be a lesbian. I have had crushes on boys, I had a crush on a boy recently. but i still think i kind of like girls. Please dont tell me its ok to be lesbian because I know I would never EVER be happy with my self. Tell me how not be a lesbian any more! please please please! (link)
a lot of girls become curious about the same sex. its almost unavoidable. some girls experiment and like it or not, and some people never do.

i had the same curiousity and it ended up that i am indeed bisexual. theres no problem with it, and if they are true feelins there is nothin you can really do to get rid of them. you can try to hide them, but you wont be happy with yourself it you try to be someone youre not.

experimentin helps a lot. it can help you realize if you really like girls or not. if not, then youll just have to find another way to realize if you are or not. if you truely are, then i dunno what you can do to stop it.

good luck
sweeethoney


i don't understand why guys like girls with the natural look. one of my best guy friends is a very popular guy. he's captain of the football, hockey and baseball team at his school. now i'd think he'd go for some hot blonde who looks like a barbie but not at ALL. he goes for all these girls who don't wear make-up. i'm like so confused! when i don't wear make-up i look very tired! i wear liquid eyeliner on the top lid of my eyes, and mascara. i wear blush every now and then & a bronzer. i honestly think i look better with makeup but now i'm having different thoughts. is it really true that guys think girls with barely any/no makeup are more attractive? i just dont understand how that is! (link)
girls who look like they try too hard are unattractive in my point of view because it seems like they arent comfortable to be themselves, or theyre hidin somethin bad lol...

girls who are natural lookin makes them seem like that have way more confidence in themselves too because they dont need to try to look pretty to be comfortable with themselves.

i mean, if you look like crap (hair a MESS, wearin ripped and dirty clothes) then thats not attractive.

but you dont have to wear make up or dress up to be beautiful... thats kind of shallow.


So, my girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, and saw each other for the first time in a long time this weekend. We had sex, and usually I am very stern about wearing a condom, but we didn't have one, and we were both being stupid. Obviously I pulled out, but I know that is still not a great idea. This was this weekend (saturday night, sunday morning) and now it is monday, and we got into a fight. She said she is feeling all hormonal, and freaking out. I am trying to calm her down and tell her that its too early to be feeling anything due to pregnancy. Also, she is supposed to be getting her period soon, so it could be that as well. Either way, I just need reassurance for myself. (link)
please wear a condom for now on. me and my boyfriend used to do the whole 'pull out' trick... and guess what. IM PREGNANT lol.

but anyways, shes just freakin out. when someone gets worried that they are pregnant their body and mind tricks them into thinkin they are. she might even get her period late just because shes worryin about it! its waaaay too early. but if it goes to 3-4 weeks after her missed period, then start to worry.

you most likely have nothin to worry about :)
x sweeethoney




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