|
I got drunk last night and passed out..did I have sex and lose my virginity
I was drinking last night and got really, really smashed. I know, I was being very stupid by drinking SO much. Anyway, I was at a party and I know this guy was really hitting on me and trying to get in my pants all night long. I was grinding on him some and we were making out. I'll admit that I remember him sliding his hand down my pants and fingered me for just like a few minutes, but I was really, really horny so I KNOW I totally let him do that to me because it feels good.
I'm a virgin though and I want to save myself for marriage and I kept telling him no to putting his penis in me but he kept trying to persuade me. Anyway, I ended up passing out sometime and woke up without most of my clothes on (I only had on my thong panties). It wouldn't have been a big deal but it was like someone had taken off my underwear and put them back on me? I can't be for sure.
Anyway, my loser friends weren't there to take care of me and now I'm worried that the guy succeeded and we did have sex. I called the loser "friends" and they told me crap about me screaming at them a lot to leave me alone with the guy. I know I didn't do that because I'm not that kind of person so they have to be making that up. They are probably too stupid to just tell me the truth that they don't care if I have sex or not. One of the loser friends told me that the last time she saw me I was with the guy and his pants were down and I was giving him head. I PROBABLY did do that because I usually give some really hott guy head at the parties I go to. This guy was WAY hott too. I don't remember that this time though.
Today I'm not bleeding or anything but I have before when I fingered myself and masturbated with things so I think I had already ripped my hymen out. How can I tell if I'm still a virgin? Do I need to see a doctor to find out? Is there actually a way? Should I find out the guy's name and take him to court because he totally took advantage of me last night?! I'm furious if he did have sex with me because I totally didn't say yes to that!
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Sexual Health and Reproduction category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Virginity?
"They are not there to baby you or make sure you're okay. Yes, it'd be nice if they did but the world is dog eat dog. It's every man or woman for themselves so the sooner you realize that the better."
^ Please DON'T realize that. There's good people out there. You obviously expected your friends to do the right thing and watch out for you since they knew you were smashed because you would do that for them if you were in their place.
ANYWAY. You don't need lectures on the fact that you should stop drinking so much. You already stated that you know you were being very stupid by letting yourself drink so much. Be careful with the reputation you're giving yourself though.
Talk to everyone at the party. Ask them if they saw anything or know what happened. Ask around & find out the guy's name. Ask him if ya'll had sex or not. Don't be accusing or he may not tell you the truth. That's the only way to know for sure.
If he says yes or if you think he's lying, then it would still be hard to tell. Go get a rape kit if there's still even the slightest doubt in your mind.
If you wanna know more about what they are, here ya go: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
Good luck!
]
To start off with, you do realize that your whole argument here is completely invalid, correct?
You were drunk. You could've agreed to things (or not have agreed to things) and you'd never remember because drinking ruins your memory. That guy could've totally raped you, you could've also have given him permission but would you even remember? Probably not. You have no recollection of what happened after a certain point of the night, so how you're to know whether or not you said yes or no is beyond me.
You can't really take him to court for anything. You were drunk, don't remember much, and were giving him head at a party. What case do you think you have here? Sorry to say but your actions will work against you if you were to take this to court. And why are your friends losers? It is not their job to "take care of you." You are not their kid, and you're a big girl. You can make your own decisions & take care of yourself. They are not there to baby you or make sure you're okay. Yes, it'd be nice if they did but the world is dog eat dog. It's every man or woman for themselves so the sooner you realize that the better.
I highly suggest that you go get checked for STDs and pregnancy. If he took advantage of you, there's a pretty good chance he didn't use protection. Go get yourself checked out & next time stop drinking. Alcohol makes people throw their morals out the window & then play the blame/denial game. No thanks.
]
There shouldn't be a next time. Get better friends that will look out for you. Stop drinking so much, at least not to the point of being smashed. If there is, do not take a shower or change your clothes. Get a rape kit from the hospital. You should be prepared. Rape is serious. It's hard to say whether your virginity is still intact because yeah, you could have popped your cherry doing other activities like some of the things you mentioned. Either way, you should try to find out his name and all the details you can.
]
#1 is
Are you hurt
#2
If you feel any pain at all get medical attention
#3
Just because you were very excited (horny) and you made the wrong choice in putting yourself in that position does NOT Give anyone the right to rape you...I dont care what you did ...a prostitute can get raped..your not a prostitute and if you did get raped you need to get some help. You can go to a gynocologist for a pap smear test and ask if there is any evidence of forceful entry or if your hymen appears irritated yes its posible to tear it and not bleed but what you are trying to make sure is that your vaginal has not been penetraded. Second have a doctor look at your throa and get a culture sample and make sure you do not get a infection.
#4 please stop this life style..understand this when you are intoxicated heavily there can be a point when you have more alcohol than water ...your body survives off of water not liquor and you are not going to have control over your body when youve lost control of it. Just slow down and get help. and if you are hot then stay home do excersie, take warm bath and if need be masturbate itll be safer than what just happened to you. Hope this helps
]
if youre were so smashed, then youre 'loser' friends probably arent lyin, you prolly gave him head and had sex with him. you are in the wrong in this situation, not the guy you were teasin. YOU were makin out with him, YOU let him finger you, YOU most likely gave him head, YOU got super drunk... guess what happens next 99% of the time ?
you couldnt take him to court because you seem like you were down for it with all the stuff you were doin with him before. 'it doesnt pay to be drunk and horny.'
if you want to 'wait for marriage', DONT DO ALL THIS OTHER STUFF. youd seem like just as big as a slut if you were actually havin sex with the guys that you give head to and hook up with at parties.
i suggest you stop gettin drunk, stop hookin up with guys, and start bein smart. honestly, you can get mad at this answer and rate me a 1, but this is what you need to hear.
please start doin well for yourself.
x sweeethoney
]
Firstly, I don't think there is any way of telling for sure if you are still a virgin. However, I strongly suggest you get an STD test AND a pregnancy test because if you did have sex, it's unlikely you used protection.
Secondly, how do you know you didn't say yes? You admit that you can't remember giving him head but are pretty sure that you did, so how can you be sure that you said no? I doubt you'd have much of a case in court, if it even went to court, because you can't even remember what happened. Although you say you would never say yes as you're saving yourself until marriage, people's morals tend to go out of the window when they've been drinking.
The same goes for your 'loser' friends. They're probably telling the truth. I suggest you sit them down and talk to them sensibly and calmly about what happened, you might get some answers.
The moral of this story is to stop drinking this much. It is incredibly dangerous as you have illustrated perfectly. You say 'I usually give some really hott guy head at the parties I go to'. Is that really the type of girl you want to be? A reputation like that is hard to shift, and I can almost guarantee that you won't want to be like that forever. You can't have alot of self respect if you go around granting random guys sexual favours, yet you say you're saving yourself for marriage? Just something to think about.
]
More Questions: |