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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.
People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.
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I've been friends with these two girls for as long as I can remember, but in the past two years, we've drifted apart. We've all changed. All they seem to care about now is conforming. I'm a non-conformist and "proud nerd". In addition, I'm very analytical and philosophical; I don't accept values and morals before questioning them. My friends will accept any values thrown at them that seem "cool". This is what I believe is the cause of our separation; I could be wrong.
Anyway, they've become friends with my 11-year-old sister (henceforth referred to as R), and they're really bad influences on her. Since R has been friends with them, she's started failing all her classes, eating only candy, swearing, and acting really rude, hostile, and arrogant, especially towards my parents and I. (They do all of the aforementioned things. A lot.) My parents are concerned about R. Whenever I'm with the three of them, they either ignore everything I say (even if I try to have a conversation they're interested in) or dismiss my opinions and thoughts as stupid and dorky. They're really, really rude and obnoxious; they're so loud sometimes I feel like my hearing might be getting damaged. Whenever I tell R how I feel, they ask me why they should care about me. When I'm alone with the other girls (I'm going to call them K and A), they're not as rude to me as they are with R, but they're still kind of haughty. I'm tired of them acting like I don't matter.
There's this one guy at school who all the girls crush on. (Isn't there one at every school?) They talk about him 24/7. K practically stalks him. I feel bad for him, but don't know what to do. I feel like I can't tell them what I think.
My friends are still kind of fun sometimes. A few months ago, we went shopping together and had a pretty good time. (I don't hang out with them; I'm a pre-professional violist and practice several hours every day instead.) I have some online friends who I'm really close to and a large number of acquaintances whom I don't know well but like. I kind of still want to be friends with them. What should I do?
I agree with Venesaw's answer above.
You should be yourself and dont let anyone have too much influence over you.
Being a nerd is fine, because --hey, maybe you'll be a famous violinist, and earn tons more money, get a wonderful husband and have smarter kids than them in the future?
Okay, I know that sounds shallow, but its so true-hard work pays off. And if you still know them in that future, they wont dismiss you as much!!
If they ignore you again, ask them why. If theyre truly your friends they will feel bad and apologize.
But seriously, if theyre alright with what you say, and still fun, do stay friends with them.
But with girls like that I would recommend talking to those other aqaintances and making more friends. So if these shallow girls let you down, at least you'll have some other people to turn to, and you wont feel so lonely!
Same applies to your sister. At least warn her.
I feel like i'm in a prison made of my own limited abilities. I have difficulty remembering anything. I'm a very poor speller and my grammar is shockingly bad. I have extreme difficulty remembering basic mathamatical principals. I am truely inept at everything I do. There are so many things out there to learn and to do. I have recently started to study at a local college but found they had nothing to teach me. The only course that I felt had any merit is their math program which I'm currently enrolled in. The more I am exposed to people the more I realise how far behind I really am. Are there any modes of study that wil increase my memory? What about my spatial reasoning? My ability to work things out in a logical way?
I'm currently taking a basic math course at a local college and I am also slowly increase the quantity of books I'm reading. As well as increasing the quatity of books I'm reading a much more diverse range of books with different subjects and themes etc. What else can I do.
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I would reccommend playing mind games, like solving riddles, doing the MASSIVE crosswords and sudokus >start off with the small ones< and playing memory games.
They all help to excersise the brain.
Search online- theres probably is a site for this.
I'm a 14 year old female. And this guy has a crush on me...Of course I know it's a crush, but...i think I like him too now. He's nice and caring. I know it's just infatuation, but what should I do? Thanks.
Ooooh Go on a date.
Hang out with each other- thats what people do when they like each other!
If it doesnt last, you can probably stay friends.
If it does, you could become his girlfriend.
I don't want to do or say the wrong thing to the person who commented on my instagram account after me thanking them by doing this * * but the mouth higher up and a longer line he Is a guy and
- I am a girl what does he mean?
I'm sorry, but this question makes no sense!
Try using some puncutation and type it again... and maybe someone might be able to help better :)
Where to start, em well in September a new boy joined my school he was 19 at the time and i was 15, we got to know each other from saying hi and had some mutual friends, after 2 months his friends told me that he liked me. This was a big joke throughout the school b/c i was 15 and he was 19, but i really liked him and only my best friend knew this. I never told him this went on for 5 months and i got to know him a bit better he was really nice to me and never brought up the subject of us liking each other. In march on a night out we ended going home together in the same car (with mutual friends) and he told me he liked me and we kissed (IT WAS AMAZING) everyone found out in school and made a joke of it and he got embarrassed and started to avoid me which was very easy as we were in different parts of the school all the time, we stopped talking. I never stopped thinking about him and wondered what i done to push him away. I never stopped liking him since it all started. Recently i have been seeing him around a lot more and he has kind of started talking to me again, but everyone keeps teasing us (calling us each others names etc). Anyways i really need someone to talk to about my situation as i never really confided in anyone about this because i don't want people to know i really him, b/c that would just make it worse. Also what is worse this is his last year in school and after June i will probably never see him ever again and i have never felt like this about someone ever before in my life and i don't know how to tell him all this and have my dreams come true in such a short period of time. I have never felt like this before every time i think about this i feel a bit sick b/c i know the times getting closer until he leaves forever and i will never tell him about how i feel about him. Every time i see him my tummy ties up and i feel nearly light headed no matter where i see him or even hear his name. What do i do? P.S(I'm now 16 and he's still 19. I am a Pisces and he is a Virgo.)
Right then- Stop hanging around the internet and go tell him how you feel! Thats your only solution! GO NOW! oh wait.. no read the rest...
Youre 16 now- thats the age of consent, so its not illegal or anything. In fact, as you get older, the age gap becomes less noticable.
You should not care what everyone else in school thinks. Years below you are just jealous and years above will look for any excuse to joke with someone. >Although, that Age gap IS unusual I admit, but who am I to judge? Theres 18 year olds with 30 year olds right? And He might be the hottest guy ever for all I know xD <
Tell him quick before he leaves. You dont know what his response will be but thats just life. If he has moved on and doesnt like you, he will say so, but thats a risk youve got to take-- if you think he's worth it.
You can go~ Now~~~~
I'm a 13 year old girl. My natural hair color is brown but I got sandy blonde highlights, I have very pale skin, light blue eyes, and an oval face. I would like a hairstyle that is easy to fix and really cute. I just want something different. What kind of haircut should I get?
I recommend buying a hairstyle magazine- theyre quite cheap yknow!
Have a flick through- I hear those micro-fringes are in at the moment.
Find a hairstyle you like, and ask a hairdresser what she thinks. Just describe to them what you have written here and trust them, theyre a proffessional and will come up with something to suit you.
If you want to be daring, get a completley different haircut altogether- get a sharp bob or something. If you dont like it, ehhhhh YOLO! It'll grow back and youre young so you can pull it off.
now i am going to arrange marriage but i am not virgin because i had sex with a boy few months ago,if my would be husband understand it that i am not virgin?
This is a tricky one. But I want to give you help.
Im no expert on arranged marriages, but... if your husband is a decent guy, he will understand.
If anything, doesnt that make you more experienced, and therefore you'll know what to do?
;) wink, wink, nudge nudge?
If he's not an understanding person, and he gets angry, well... its an arranged marriage. Its not like you cheated whilst already together. If he gets too mean or angry, dont marry him. You wouldnt want to spend the rest of your life with that! if its not your choice, then fight for it!
Hi I am a straight teenage girl and my boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year. The other night he mentioned to me that he had a nude dream. He was nude infront of our school and I was in it, and he said this was a reoccuring dream. Could his dream mean something? What does it mean?
Im no proper dream interpeter buuttt....
Nudity~ Being naked in a dream signifies a fear of being found out or exposed for something.
School~ To dream of standing in front of a school or college means youre going through social changes.
GirlFriend~ To see his girlfriend in a dream obviously means he's thinking about the relationship.
Recurring dreams often mean there is an underlying message trying to get through.
Thats what these things mean. Youre a smart kid, im sure if you put them together and talk to him you guys can figure it out.
Go to http://www.dreammoods.com/
its kinda cool.
Is it illegal to sell a pair of concert tickets online for much more money than you bought them?
Say you bought them for $100, would it be illegal to sell them for $250 if the concert is sold out and they're in high demand?
Nope- thats called making one great profit!
...well, where I come from anyway. Listen to adivceman, he's right, there may different laws in different places, so check that first.
Well I've Been Dating My Boyfriend For A Year && He's Only Brought Up The Subject Of Sex Twice && I Feel As If I Need To Lose My Virginity To Him Just To Make Him Happy But I'm Not Ready He's 18 && I'm 15 What Should I Say To Him To ?
If you think youre not ready, Youre not ready!
Leave it at that!
You do not HAVE to lose your virginity to him just to make him happy. If thats all thats going to make him happy, ever, then ditch him- youre better than that!
AND tobehonest, if he's 18 and you are not yet 16, technically its illeagal, cus the age of consent is 16.
Technically, he can go to jail for child abuse as you are still a kid and he's legally an adult.
Thats what you can tell him.
what should i do as i have my hair stuck wrapped around a comb?
Pull it out gently.
If that doesnt work, run it under a tap and then try again.
If that doesnt work, get some scissors and cut it out...
I need help for a mystery story and its due tommorow if someone could please give me an idea, the story has to be 1-1.5 pages long so its a short one! Please helppp :)
Simple-
Its only a short story, so describe one or two scenes.
The old cliche idea would be to describe a detective looking over a dead body in a dark house and picking up evidence, like fingerprints, hair and DNA. He goes through their phone and looks at who they recently contacted... maybe its set in a small town where everyone knows each other.
The clues are there but they point in different directions. Question is... whodunnit?!
Of course there are plenty of other ideas, but since it's due in tommorrow, I think you should hurry up and write, write, write!
Okay so I'm 13 and a girl and a model. I've been sexually abused by my brother in law(its been reported) my family always calls me a bitch,slut whore,ugly,fat ect.. I've took a OD a few times it never worked obviously since I'm alive. I cut myself. So lately I've been hearing voices in my head telling me I'm a bitch,no one loves me,I must starve to be thin,I'm a whore, everythings my fault,I must kill myself,the only way to end the pain is through cutting and suicide. The voices are killing me!! My bestFriend knows about them and says I might be depressed. I can't tell my parents or any relitive or anyone at school pls keep that in mind. Pls just help me I really need help. My family can't find out though.
You need to talk to someone.
I would call 911... or any other emergancy phone number for the doctor and tell them. NOW.
Tell them everything you just said here, and they will be able to find you further help for everything- its their job to do so!
My question is can my girl friend move out at the age of 16? She gets emotionally abuse. Meaning her parents put her down , talk bad about her and too her ! They treat her like a slave make her clean everything while they sit there call her dumb , you dont now how to do this or that !!! Her father put up cameras so that she doesnt leave , or use her phone ! She even attemped and succeded to hurt her self because of her parents! Her father yells and curses at her because she texts me !! escrewed her windows so she doesn't open them & everything! Can my girlfriend of 16 years of agw move out?
I think she should if thats the case!
I live in the UK and at 16, technically, legally, she is allowed to move out without her parents permission.
I would recommend looking on websites such as childline.org
or something similar for help.
So i am 17 and a Junior in high school. I never really have had an official boyfriend because i am so picky. I have known this guy for 4 years and he is a really close friend, just this year I started to develop feelings for him he says he has had a "crush" on me since freshman year. He is very physical, he is always wanting to do more and more but i always say no because we aren't dating, but he lacks emotion BECAUSE he is also talking to this freshman in college which he is obsessed with but she pretty much plays him. Just yesterday i was getting to just end whatever we have but he started being really sweet and i told him he needs to choose, he said he didn't know who he would choose then he was like "you know i love you right and it wasn't for her i would be dating you" and i just rolled my eyes and he said "i swear to god i do." I just don't know why he is doing this to me and i don't know what is going on through his head. Help me understand?? Thank you.
You were probably right to roll your eyes~
"If it wasnt for her i would be dating you" ?
What kind of answer is that?! Nononono- He either chooses you, or her, he cant have it both ways.
He probably does like you though, but I wouldnt say he loved you if he's still after that college freshman. In fact, he's probably after her partly because she's a college freshman.
Youre friends, so just tell it to him straight, and if he cant give a serious answer then you can stay friends but go find someone else, cus he wouldnt be worth your time as an offical boyfriend.
Its okay to be picky~
hey, so i have a long distance bf. but for the last few days he has been on this trip n we havent talked much ... n i felt lonely ... but there is this guy who kept on texting me made me laugh n all .. n then invited me to go walk with him .. i agreed n then we ended up going to his room .. i did not have sex with him .. but i was high n i didnt know what i was doing but i ended up making out with him ... n also gave him a handjob .. he basically used me after making me feel special n all through his texts ... n now i feel used up as well as guilty cause i have a bf ... i know i did the rong thing ... n i was probably just sexually frustrated n ended up doing stupid things ... pls help me out m rll confused of how i should be feeling .. !
YEs, you probably should be feeling used and guilty.
I'm not sure whether you should tell your boyfriend or not- you should definetly if youre going to be honest, and if you explain it right he might just sulk for a few days and get over it. But dont be surprised if he gets really angry at you over this.
If you dont tell him, it may keep the peace for a few days but you'll feel even guiltier. And then he'll probably find out- they always find out! It'll be worse that way!
As for the guy who used you, well you can tell him to f@*! right off! Unless he was also high, >in which case, he wouldnt know what he was doing either< the fact that he let you do it wasnt nice- but in saying that, you may have led him on with your responses to those texts.
Look at it from their point of view and think what would I want to hear/not want to hear right now?
So good luck with your sticky situation~hope I helped a little.
I have been struggling with maths recently. I am in top set and just can't keep up with some of the brighter students, however my teacher is refusing to put me down as she says that second set talk too much. Basically she thinks that if I move down I will fail. On top of that she wants the whole class to do Our GCSE'S early. My parents think I just need to revise abit harder but I am literally doing it 24/7! Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you
Buy a revision guide~~~
Some are only about £3 on amazon! Read and revise carefully- my math teacher said 10 minutes a day.
ppfffft yeah, right.
If you have no homework on a night when you should, do some math revision.
Also, try some past papers. To be honest, the questions are the same, its the numbers that change!
Unfortunatley, hard work is the only way to kick Ass at maths.
so, i am a freshman, and there is this senior who is absolutely perfect! i wish we were married haha,but i can only imagine. i see him around school,but he has no clue who i am.i know there is no chance with him, but before he goes to college and i never see him again, i want something to happen, but i dont know what! i dont know what to do or say to get him to talk to me or something. The year is almost over and i need help!
Become his friend! quickly!
I'm from the UK, so Im assuming freshman year is the same as being in our year 10? So youre 15? And he's about 17, 18.
Loads of freshmen are at least friends with seniors in our school, so Im sure you can manage it- look for an excuse to talk, like a club or common intrest or something where you can talk to him.
Then you never know, you might see him in the future after college, and when youre older, the age gap will seem less important and you could have a chance! ;)
So my best friend has asked me out twice in the past and I've said no both times. But within the past 2 months I realized that I think I've fallen in love with him. I was going to talk to him about us possibly being a couple, but he says he likes this other girl (who he's going to prom with) and that he's trying to get over me. The girl who he's going to prom with likes him. So do I bring up to him how I really feel or should I just let him go?
If youre prepared to bring up your feelings for him, do. Just let him know- he's a friend, and if he's had feelings for you in the past, he may understand.
However, dont expect the feeling to be returned straight away- be prepared to be turned down, esspecially if he now likes another girl.
Ahhhh the love triangle... I think if the feeling is defienetly not mutal, you should let him go, and return to being friends again. :p
It might be weird at first but once you get over him, you'll both feel way better
Why is it that my bf bearly kisses me and really doesn't use his tough and turn away
Sounds like he isnt comfortable with it yet. He might be shy, or embarrassed or just not experienced enough...Well, my dear, if thats the case, youre going to have to teach him how! ;)
If he's a respectable decent guy, just ask him staight out about it, and he may give you an answer- if he doesnt, he is clearly uncomfortable with this.
Next time that happens ask "whats wrong?" or reassure him that it'll be alright. Who knows, he might even come to like kissing you, with a bit of practice~