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15/f
Recently I've noticed that I've been receiving a lot more male attention than I used to. At first I thought that it was because I was a lot more flirtatious, but yesterday a really hot guy started talking to me before I even said anything. I lost some weight and I look pretty good, but I was wearing a huge down jacket, so this guy could only see my face, which has been described as pretty in a different way. So did I suddenly get better looking or am I releasing a different vibe? I don't get it. (link)
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both i'm guessing. you have probably started looking more mature than you used to, and if you think you are pretty and are comfortable and proud of the weight you've lost, then that is definitely helping. keep up the confidence, and stay healthy, they are both important, and i'm sure they both are why you are getting more attention from guys
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Can you put any type of lotion/body lotion, on your face? or is it just for the body? My face is really dry from using acne medicine a lot so I want to mosturize it but I get oily skin a lot and right after I wash my face too so I don't want it to get more oily (link)
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i don't advise doing that. body lotion is very different, because faces are much more sensitive than the rest of the skin on your body. your face won't feel as good and could become irritated from different fragrances and chemicals in the lotion.
just go to the drugstore and get some oil-free face cream, like dove or olay, that will help a lot
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ok well i'm skinny...i weigh like 100 pounds but anywayss my friend said i had cankles...not to be rude but isnt that what overweight people have? I dont get how i can have cankles if im not overweight...do you have to be overweight to have cankles (sp) (link)
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don't take her seriously,, it's just your bone structure, you are obviously not fat. anyways, nobody cares about ankles, or cankles, you're the only one that cares that much about how you look, so don't worry
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ummmmk
im not over weight, but i would like to lose a little bit, maybe 8 pounds or so. do things like the cranberry fat flush, or the 7 day fruit diet work? if so, or if not for that matter, does anyone have any dieting tips?
plus...
i recently put on some weight around my thighs, and i have these rather unattractive stretch marks. i guess that its normal for a 16 year old girl, and i use vitamen e oil, but will they ever go away, even if i lose weight?
oh and one more...
what kind of work out can i do to lengthen muscles and limbs instead of make then bulky. (link)
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ok first of all i'm just pointing out the last part because it always bugs me when people say this, i'm not picking on you! stop worrying about getting bulky, you're not a man! you're not just going to look all muscley and freakish in a day!
I don't suggest any fruit/juice/crash diets, you will lose your 8 pounds, and then put them right back on, seriously. choose a realistic diet that you can stick it, it will take longer, but you will not gain it back quickly. Also, it's hard to get rid of stretch marks, but keep using the vitamin E, also go to your drugstore and get some cream. do some exercises for your hamstrings (back of thigh muscle) that will make the back of your legs look better. I suggest running a lot, that will make you look thinner and lean.
drink water!
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Okay, so I'm 14/f and yes I'm a freshie. I know that I am way too concerned about my grades for being in 9th grade but I can't help it. I'm just geeky like that. But since middle school my #1 goal is to be valedictorian [sp?] when I graduate [duh]. And that goal still stands strong for I am a very stubborn person when I make up my mind and I'm the kind of person that HAS to accomplish a set goal or die trying.
Hmm let me simplify this by listing it:
6th grade--Latin I (B)
7th-Latin II (A) and Alg I (A)
8th-Latin III (A) and Geometry (A)
Those were my end grades for the high school courses I took in middle school. And none of them were weighted so it was a 3,4,4, and 4.
Now, I'm in al IB Prep classes and there are 3 weighted credit classes. On top of that I'm in 2 other weighted credit classes (Latin IV and Adv. Strings). From what I know there is no one in my grade that is in their 4th year of their chosen foreign language so by far I have the most weighted credit classes (5 out of 7 classes) in my grade level. The person that has 4 weighted credit classes would be another guy in strings with me but I know that he's getting pretty bad grades right now. If the band doesn't have a weighted credit class (do they? i don't know) then I'm pretty confident that I'm going to have the biggest chance at being valedictorian.
What do you think? About what percentage do you guess that someone would surpass me and become valedictorian. yes I know it's too early to actually get accurate details but I'm asking you to guestimate for me...Thanks =] (link)
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ok, so if you were a senior asking this, then ofcourse you'd be valedictorian, he's not going to surpass you in a year. However, you can plan for the future, but don't base your life around it. It is very possible that you will face very difficult classes in the future that you have trouble with and your grades will drop. Or, some new kid could come next year and be a genius. All i'm saying is that you never know, if school continues the way it is going now, then definitely, but don't get it stuck in your head that it would be absolutely horrible if you weren't valedictorian
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If anyone read Raisin in the Sun in school... what grade were you in when you read it? (link)
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yep, me too, 9th, i think that's when most people read it, if they are required too..
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ok so i cut it "down" there and its like really itchy. what do i do to make it stop? (link)
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yeah, it sucks when that happens. I suggest soothing lotion like calamine or something, at night before you go to bed wet a washcloth with warm water and place it on there so it's not itchy at night, it sounds weird but it's not like anyone can see you so who cares. also put baby powder on, it'll go away soon.
and if you just cut it from shaving, make sure you don't ever slide the razor sideways, that is what usually makes cuts because it will slice skin rather than removing hair
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my mom is irrational and manipulative. if i even begin to make a point during one of our disagreements, she turns it around on me and starts crying. the littlest things get her upset. she can't even react normally. she mopes around all day and when i ask her why she's mad, she says "oh, i'm not mad, sweetie." and then cries or something equally retarded. how do i even go about dealing with her? (link)
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It's possible that she is bi-polar or has a form of anxiety or depression. I'd suggest talking to her one on one to make sure she's alright, because the fact that you guys argue a lot is probably very difficult for her if she is struggling with one of these disorders. she may be irrational and munipulative, but try to fight her less, even if it means giving in to ridiculous things, maybe if you just try forming a better relationship with her she will be more reasonable, it's worth a try.
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17/m
I now realize that I would much rather be a girl than a guy. I think it would be really cool to go to prom dressed as a girl. Think people would get pissed or would it be okay. If I do go, any hints about what I should wear? Thanks (link)
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I think that's great and good luck, i don't know your school, but hopefully the people are nice and openminded enough to not be cruel, and if they are just get over it, it's just because they don't realize how normal it is to be a different gender than you were born, so w/e
I suggest not wearing something over the top, like don't wear a super bright ugly color like super hot pink or bright orange or something that will make you stand out and look like a drag queen instead of what you actually are.
also since you were born a guy, you probably have broader shoulders and less hips than most girls so i suggest not wearing something that has a tube top design, and maybe try to find a dress with an empire waist? something that gets closer in the middle to give the illusion of curves.
also don't wear heels if you are already really tall
have fun! :)
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Hey. Does anyone know of a website or websites were they have a list of current writing contests 9poetry, fiction, novels, essays, etc.) and like what the theme is and what the fee (if any) is and all that stuff. If anyone knows of a website that lists writing contests please let me know! Thanks! (link)
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storywrite.com they have tons of interesting contests with different guidelines, it's free and really fun
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okay, my mom just told me that im getting a shot that prevents cervical cancer, and i decided to look online and see what it was.
i have had sex before and im under 18 years old, and they said that some signs of cervical cancer are:
Abnormal vaginal bleeding or a significant unexplained change in your menstrual cycle.
Bleeding when something comes in contact with your cervix, such as during sexual intercourse or the insertion of a diaphragm.
Pain during sexual intercourse.
Abnormal vaginal discharge containing mucus that may be tinged with blood.
and ive had those happen to me. it really freaked me out, and im scared if i have it.
what do i say to the doctor? my parents cannot know ive had sex! i would be murdered. has anyone had this before??
and if you have, please tell me what you did and what happened. thank you im very nervous (link)
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it is so much more important to live than to have your parents made at you. i agree, ask your mom to sit outside and be very clear with your doctor so that she knows all of your symptoms and can tell if you have canccer. don't get scared yet, it might be nothing, but PLEASE get it checked out or you will regret it later.
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Ok so, I'm starting a debate club at school, I think I have like sixteen people interested, but that number will probably increase by five to ten people. We've never had a debate club at school before, and though I know how a debate is set up, kind of, I have no idea how the teams are made, like will there be 8 people on each side or what? :/
I want people who have been in a debate club to tell me how they did things at school, just so I can get a general idea.
Any tips and advice are nice, but tell me how I set up the teams. Do I have different teams debating different things in groups of four con and four pro, or what?
Oh, and what are any topics you've debated that turned out to be really interesting and informative? (link)
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hey, i'm in debate club but just started, so i can't help you a whole lot but i'll tell you what i know.
first of all are you planning on competing with other schools or is it just a fun thing to do as a group?
the debate's i have been in are parliamentary extemporaneous.
basically there are groups of two, one group is the government and one is the opposition. In the government group they are trying to pass whatever resolution you are debating, the opposition is against the resolution.
parliamentary refers to the parlament, so it's like government kind of, and extemporaneous means immediately, so the teams don't know what the resolution is before they get there. usually it's famous quotes or just an argument about something in the world and then the government gets to define the quote more specifically. sometimes they are serious, sometimes funny.
such as "rap music is offensive and degrading to women and should be banned." then the government goes specific, like "rap music includes lyrics and material that includes descriptions and visuals of female's involved in degrading acts where they have taken advantage of by rappers and characters involved in the rap music, and therefore a $500 penalty should be issued for every album released that shows women in a degrading and lower standard than men." something like that, once i did one that was "there is no moral victory." and you can define that however you want.
those kind of debates are fun but you need a judge, either a real one in a competition or someone in ur group who knows the rules.
there are also debates where the people know the topic weeks in advance and prepare to go one on one with another person with a prepared argument and rebuttal.
also, this isn't debate, but it's part of public speaking if you're interested in that, they are very connected.
*after dinner speeches ar really fun. A person performs a speech as if they were someone else talking to a group of people, they are usually very funny. for instance a girl at my school did one about packaging. She was the CEO of a box company and was basically making fun of how hard it is to open everythin (ex. all of the twist ties on toys, CD cases, etc. just talking about how hard it is to open packages) and in her speech she wrote it as if she was very proud of her company for all of their achievements in making things difficult to open.
there are also competitions where people perform dramatic monologues, those are pretty intense.
anyways good luck, talk to me if you have more questions, i am soo happy to answer them
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ok. i love making stir fry. i love my boyfriend who loves stir fry too. The other day i was cutting up some onions and salting up some broccolli when my boyfriend sexually caressed my rear quarters. i began becoming so exhilirated until the point I COULD NOT TAKE IT ANYMORE! in a blink of an eye IT WAS ON! the next thing i know im naked on the floor laying on broccolli. i was upset because my fry was burnt and looked like crap. i love my boyfriend but if he keeps turning me on and messing up my stir fry then its over. what should i do? i really need stir fry in my life..ha as wierd as it sounds. stir fry over sex. (link)
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lol ok that's funny, but seriously, while you're cooking just tell him to cool and you'll give him something better later. If he knows you're gonna fuck him later and give him a surprise, he'll be able to keep it in his pants, and you can still make ur stir fry
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how do you give a hickie? (link)
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a hickey is just where the skin usually on a persons neck has been slightly irritated from someone else sucking on it, usually from making out. to give someone a hickey just suck on their skin or neck while making out and it'll get red after a while.
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mkay.well im 15.my guy is 15 as well. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months.(actually 7 months, but we broke up over the summer)I am honestly in love with him. and he really likes me as well, we just have a great relationship, we almost never fight. and when we do, like seriously in 5 minutes one of us is calling the other in tears to aplologize. so, i guess im saying that we have a great relationship. BUT. whenever where together, ALL he wants to do is makeout, and finger me, and go up my shirt. like seriously.at my house, the movies,the mall,school.i mean everywhere. we talk on the phone ALOT. in the month of january, we talked for a totaly of 1,658 minutes. most of it late into the night, usually 12:30 or later. im epileptic, so i really need my sleep. One of my problems is that i am SO embarassed about my epilepsy, i have so many great guy friends who care SO much. and are always right by my side when i have a seizure. but, im not sure how HE feels about it. he doesnt want to talk about it usually, but its not like he just doesnt care about me, and my epilepsy. BUt anyways my bigger probelem. whenever we talk on the phone, he ALWAYS wants me to masturbate while on the phone. ive done it more and more recently, i dont mind doing it once in a while, but honestly every night just isnt my cup of tea. and i feel a little uncomfortable. he also wants me to send him pictures of me doing things to myself.im really not up for that. ive already sent him like 4 pictures, but its just never enough, and he uses stupid excuses like "if you loved me" and "the other guys got to see it"(when i was in seventh grade, i got into a really uncomfortable sexual situation with older boys, and i told him about it, and now hes holding it against me) the other things he pressures me to do, is to give him a hand job and a blow job, and i REALLY dont want to, i mean i have never done that, and i just dont know how to. Am i too young for a serious relationship like this? Im not sure if im old and mature enough for this stuff, but i dont want to loose him, and he tells me that he will wait as long as he has to for me to get ready. but i feel really pressured. i DONT want to loose him,i mean i would be devastated. i have NEVER felt like this. am i too young? should i just let it go and wait until somebody else comes along later when im more mature? should i stay with him, and keep feeling pressured?i mean he doesnt pressure me, but i still feel rushed. i just HONESTLY need help. i would talk to my friends, but im in a group of realy goody goody friends, (im one too.lol)and im the only one who has ever had a real boyfriend, and so they think that making out is gross.
PLEASE HELP.
please and thank youss. (link)
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it seems like you're so in love that you can't really tell how much he is pressuring you, because going by that description he defnitely is. it doesn't mean that he isn't a good guy, i'm sure he really cares about you, he's just at the age where the only thing on his mind is sex, and since you're not, it's not a very healthy relationship. you asked if u are old and mature enough to do all this, u can't really go by age, some girls have sex at 12, some wait till college, you are probably very mature but that does not necessarily mean you should do this. if you are at ALL uncomfortable then you should refuse, he is asking to much of you. I think that you should tell him that if he wants to be in a real relationship with you then he needs to take you in account as well. That means not pressuring you to do what you don't want and also to recognize your epilepsy more. I think that you should tell him that if he cannot respect you more, you would like to take a break until he is more mature and caring. that way, if he changes you know it's worth getting back together and if he makes no effort to change it means that he is more worried about sex than you, and you shouldn't pursue the relationship. that's just my opinion, but i think you'll really regret it if you stay with him and do what you are not comfortable with.
ps. i'm 15/f too and i get that you think he's awesome, but you are so much more likely to regret staying with him than letting him go (atleast for a few weeks until you know if he can change)
goodluck
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We are doing these things in school where you have to write something and memorize it about someone who has passed away.
So I am doing Steve Irwin [ the croc hunter].. my question was, what were some of the things he'd always say while wrestling the crocs?
THanks (link)
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whenever he picked up a big spider or somethin, he'd say"awwe she's a beauty!" but pronounce it all funny "buhyootee"
lol, and "awwe, look a that!" lots of "aahhh, awwee"
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okay so im not exactly the best runner and i have soccer tryouts commeing up what are some good tips on like breatheing and stuff and is it good to eat before please help with just anything on being a good runner please and thanks (link)
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start running now, a mile or two a day at a fast jog, and afterwards ust do some sprints. when you are jogging get into a pace where you breathe every 3 steps or something, just find your rhythm, like a drum and stick with it. Don't worry if you get tired out because you'll see a difference pretty quickly. also, eat something small and not too heavy about a half hour before you run. don't eat lots of sugar and fatty foods or junk foods before hand, don't run on a super empty stomach either. Good luck!
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okay so i have really really thick straight hair. its pin straight and you cant even imagine how thick it is
because of this, my hair doesnt scrunch and when i put braids or use a curling iron, it looks horrible.
i might want a perm i dont know....
could i get a perm to make my hair like this???
http://img262.imageshack.us/img262/4778/newfv6.jpg
and if not i need a way to curl my hair i have used every moose and curling iron out there.nothing works!!!! (link)
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i don't suggest getting a perm, that picture does not look like someone with thick straight hair that got it permed, atleast not to me. I suggest looking for a curling iron with a very big barrell, that way it won't be so drastic, it will look better and more natural. also for waves but some curling sprat scrunch your hair and then seperate it into about 7 section and twist each one into a twisty bun, once it dries that should look pretty good, just try it
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I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.
Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)
Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.
Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now. (link)
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ok, yes it is important to stay healthy, but germs are just part of life and you aren't going to die from a common cold, just keep reminding yourself of that.
i don't know you, so it's hard to say, but could you possibly have OCD? it's not that rare of a disorder, but if you are that worried about something like sitting next to a person with a cold, it's definitely possible, just google it and find out if you have the symptoms.
also, eat lots of fruits with vitamin c and take multivitamins, that will help prevent sickness
ADDED: why did you start talking about working out and gaining ten pounds in your feedback to my answer to your germ problem? can you please clear this up because all i did was try to help you become less ancious about germs, nothing about gaining and losing weight, and OCD was just an option, what you described sounded just like it so i shouldn't be blamed for trying to help you
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okay, well my mom and her boyfriend smoke. a lot.
i only visit on saturdays, but it drives me CRAZY because whenever i come home i smell like ciggerettes. and i dispise that smell. i don't like people who smoke that much either, because i have heart issues and i can't really breathe around it.
how can i try and convince my mom and her boyfriend to stop smoking? i already tried, and i told them how bad it is for you and everything, but they didnt' care. i WANT them to care. i hate this.
can someone give me advice on how to avoid this? or something? (link)
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you need some sort of bold statement. it's not just about you, it's about them DYING. take pictures off the internet of black smoker lungs and stuff like that and tape it to your mom's cigarettes, hang it on the door and under it write something like "stop killing yourself" sit your mom down and honestly tell her how much she means to you and that you don't want her to leave you, because honestly she is already going to die earlier than if she never smoked, that's the truth and it's sad but every cigarette takes 11 minutes off of a person's life, and that adds up, plus they could get lung cancer.
just be bold and DON'T BACK DOWN do everything you can to make them quit, nothing is too extreme and if they think you're being juvenile, tell them that that's fine with you, as long as they quit, it's important PLEASE be strong, it affects your health as well
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