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am i too young to go this far?
mkay.well im 15.my guy is 15 as well. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months.(actually 7 months, but we broke up over the summer)I am honestly in love with him. and he really likes me as well, we just have a great relationship, we almost never fight. and when we do, like seriously in 5 minutes one of us is calling the other in tears to aplologize. so, i guess im saying that we have a great relationship. BUT. whenever where together, ALL he wants to do is makeout, and finger me, and go up my shirt. like seriously.at my house, the movies,the mall,school.i mean everywhere. we talk on the phone ALOT. in the month of january, we talked for a totaly of 1,658 minutes. most of it late into the night, usually 12:30 or later. im epileptic, so i really need my sleep. One of my problems is that i am SO embarassed about my epilepsy, i have so many great guy friends who care SO much. and are always right by my side when i have a seizure. but, im not sure how HE feels about it. he doesnt want to talk about it usually, but its not like he just doesnt care about me, and my epilepsy. BUt anyways my bigger probelem. whenever we talk on the phone, he ALWAYS wants me to masturbate while on the phone. ive done it more and more recently, i dont mind doing it once in a while, but honestly every night just isnt my cup of tea. and i feel a little uncomfortable. he also wants me to send him pictures of me doing things to myself.im really not up for that. ive already sent him like 4 pictures, but its just never enough, and he uses stupid excuses like "if you loved me" and "the other guys got to see it"(when i was in seventh grade, i got into a really uncomfortable sexual situation with older boys, and i told him about it, and now hes holding it against me) the other things he pressures me to do, is to give him a hand job and a blow job, and i REALLY dont want to, i mean i have never done that, and i just dont know how to. Am i too young for a serious relationship like this? Im not sure if im old and mature enough for this stuff, but i dont want to loose him, and he tells me that he will wait as long as he has to for me to get ready. but i feel really pressured. i DONT want to loose him,i mean i would be devastated. i have NEVER felt like this. am i too young? should i just let it go and wait until somebody else comes along later when im more mature? should i stay with him, and keep feeling pressured?i mean he doesnt pressure me, but i still feel rushed. i just HONESTLY need help. i would talk to my friends, but im in a group of realy goody goody friends, (im one too.lol)and im the only one who has ever had a real boyfriend, and so they think that making out is gross.
PLEASE HELP.
please and thank youss.
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OH sweetie im afraid to break this to you but this is not a good guy to go out with. I just recently have gone through the same thing he wanted me to do pictures he wanted me to give him head and things of that nature i was lucky enough from prior experience to recall this as a red flag. i told him its better that were just friends its good to becuase i found out he had taken a girls virginity a week earlier and said that nothing was gonna happen after he was done with her. me and her are really tight now and we are telling every girl we know to stay away from him. But seriously he just wants the sexual pleasures of being in a relationship and if he cant talk about your epilepsy with you then thats another sign hes not really caring. i have epilepsy to and im not ashamed of it. if anyone is then its there problem not yours. i hope this helps and if you need anymore advice feel free to contact me.
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i hate to break it to you.
but i dont think this is a "serious relationship" like you say. it seems hes just in this fro the sexual stuff.
i dont think you should stay with him if you feel pressured.
if one of you is pressured then its not fair for the relationship because neither of you will get thee most out of it. (not sexually, more on a mental level.) sometimes pressure makes you believe that you are in love, but your really not. reconsider your options.
also, if hes holding bad expirences youve had in the past against you, than hes really not a great boyfriend.
and the more you give in, the further hell want to go.
i think you should first explain to him how pressured you feel. give it some time, if he doesnt stop, or if he does, but then starts again. then hes not the right guy and you should leave him. there are other fish in the sea, and this perticular carp smells like crap.
i really hope this helps.
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wow thats how i feel sometimes with my boyfriend
our situation is like sooo similar
wow haha like seriously... how long we talk on the phone.. our age.. how long we've been going out w. the guy... the pictures.. when we get in fights.. masturbating on the phone... everything.
the thing is, if he really respects and loves you.. he will wait until you're ready. i feel like my boyfriend pressures me a little sometimes.. and i think thats how you're feeling too. no i dont think you're too young for a relationship like this.. as long as you like it and are comfortable. if you're not comfortable then tell him that. as for like giving him a hand job or blow job.. is the reason that you dont want to because you dont know how.. or because you just dont want to? because if you want to theres plenty of sites and stuff that can help you. but if you really dont want to do that.. then just tell him you're not ready. it sounds like he really loves you and will understand. and if the thought of just like touching him there under his pants is gross for you then you can always like do it over his pants and i'm sure he'll be pretty happy. as for the pictures.. and all that other stuff. guys get horny. hes a teenager. hes obviously really attracted to you and probably finds it really hot when you send him pictures.. etc. that doesnt mean hes just going out w. you because hes attracted to you. it sounds like he loves your personality and your looks. so you're a lucky girl. try to start calling him earlier so you guys wont end up staying up all night! if you get tired.. tell him you need to go to sleep. he'll understand, hes probably just as tired as you are. so yeah and just remember dont do anything that you're not ready for because you will regret it.
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it seems like you're so in love that you can't really tell how much he is pressuring you, because going by that description he defnitely is. it doesn't mean that he isn't a good guy, i'm sure he really cares about you, he's just at the age where the only thing on his mind is sex, and since you're not, it's not a very healthy relationship. you asked if u are old and mature enough to do all this, u can't really go by age, some girls have sex at 12, some wait till college, you are probably very mature but that does not necessarily mean you should do this. if you are at ALL uncomfortable then you should refuse, he is asking to much of you. I think that you should tell him that if he wants to be in a real relationship with you then he needs to take you in account as well. That means not pressuring you to do what you don't want and also to recognize your epilepsy more. I think that you should tell him that if he cannot respect you more, you would like to take a break until he is more mature and caring. that way, if he changes you know it's worth getting back together and if he makes no effort to change it means that he is more worried about sex than you, and you shouldn't pursue the relationship. that's just my opinion, but i think you'll really regret it if you stay with him and do what you are not comfortable with.
ps. i'm 15/f too and i get that you think he's awesome, but you are so much more likely to regret staying with him than letting him go (atleast for a few weeks until you know if he can change)
goodluck
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i was shaking my head about the guy the whole time i was reading this.
that guy = no good.
wanting you to send pictures of you doing things to yourself & then making you feel guilty when you don't do it because it makes you feel uncomfortable? that's not right.
trying to pressure you into things your not ready for? even worse. right now it's just those two things, but later it could be sex. & that...that it was more serious.
you need to get out of this relationship -- fast.
i'm extremely proud of you though for not letting him pressure you into those things. most people now days aren't mature enough to handle what you boyfriend's done.
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listen...this guy probaly does not love you. if he wants photos of you masterbaiting or naked he is just sick. a person that loves you wouldnt pressure you to do this or even ask you to. BUT if oyu do love each other and YOU are sure you both do than go ahead. still i think this guy is just a perv..
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