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Hey kids! My name is Amanda, but call me Manders. I'm a psychology/neuroscience/biology student. Throw me questions and I'll throw you an answer. :)

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im a girl by the way...

i know this is like totally gross but ive tried all types of deoderants and i don'tknow if it's just me or the deoderant i use, but im always like feeling sweat(ew) under my arms...like it doesnt smell bad but it's just wet and sometimes it shows a lot when i lift my arms. does anyone know if it's me, or a good brand to try and stop wetness?

thx a bunch. =)

I know some people who had this problem, and they used a brand called Certain Dri. They loved it! It's available at Target, Walgreens, and stores like that. It's not too expensive, either. I think you put it on every night before bed, but I haven't used it, so I'm not sure.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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hey, i currently this straightener.

http://etm.freshegg.com/clientimages/18/resized_coriolisspink1_Resized.jpg

but it doesnt really work well on my hair at all. i have medium length hair and its curly. it often frizzes and it looks good right when i straighten it but after about an hour it gets wavy. so my question is .. i need a good straightener for back to school and i want some stores where i can get them. i do not want to buy it online so if you guys could tell me some stuff about yoru straightener and exactly where you bought it that would be great.

-caitt

Well, I have a CHI straightener. It works great! I've had it for about two years, so it's pretty durable. It gets really, really hot, too. It's pretty expensive, about 150 dollars, but it's well worth it.

Anyway, I've seen them at J.C. Penney, and I'm sure that they have them at Sally's Beauty Supply (or, if not genuine CHIs, they'll have knock-offs).

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Hi. This is someone you know but I'm still going to keep my identity a secret, although you may figure out who I am.
There is this guy i like, but my best friend likes him too. She also hangs around him more. I may sound like a snob but she is the kind of girl who always gets the guy, and I always end up alone. I'm tired of having that happen because she always ends up being mean to them in someway or tells me she doesnt like them anymore, after they start liking her.
Should I stop liking this guy or should I ask her to back off(in a nice way)?

Does your friend know about your feelings for him? If she doesn't, then you need to let her know so you can work things out.

If you just went for the guy, without working things out with your friend, it could really ruin your friendship. Even if she does know how you feel about this guy, you need to talk to her. It wouldn't be fair to her if you just told her to back off.

You could say, "____ (your friend's name), I really like this guy, and I know you like him, too. I don't want us to get in a fight over this, and I don't want us to lose our friendship over a guy. We need to work something out." Don't yell, no matter what you do; People tend to get defensive when people yell at them and are less likely to listen to what you're saying.

But remember: Friends before boys. Always.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave another one in my inbox!
-Manders

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i always feel so ugly my friends are gorgeous and have boyfriends no matter what i always feel left out or outta place what do i do to gain self respect and a more pretty appearance

True happiness and self-confidence come from one place: YOU. Sure, a boyfriend would be nice, but think about it: Once that boyfriend is gone, how do you feel about yourself? Not too good, right? Exactly. Because that good feeling and confidence came from the fact that you had a boyfriend, not from inside of you.

First of all, as many times as you've heard this, it holds true: Attitude is EVERYTHING. Yes, EVERYTHING. What I mean is that you should be optimistic and have a postitive attitude, and to be less negative. I remember that I used to be negative, thinking, "Wow, this sucks." or "I look really, really ugly." but then I realized that my negative comments toward myself weren't going to change anything for the better. So, I decided that I would always be positive, and look on the bright side of life. So, I did. It doesn't just "happen," you just gradually become happier the more you stop being negative.
And the result? Well, for me, I was happier, of course (like I said). Also, I became more open to people and made a lot more friends. That simple change in attitude really makes a difference and draws people to you.

Respect your morals. Surround yourself with people who love and respect you. Be positive. That, my friend, is the "secret" to self-confidence and happiness.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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does anyone have some good songs from linkin park? i just need the names of the songs

thx

Papercut
Points of Authority
Breaking the Habit
Numb
Crawling
In The End
Place For My Head
Forgotten
Somewhere I Belong
Hit the Floor
Easier To Run
Nobody's Listening

I love Linkin Park. :o)
All of those songs came from either "Meteora" or "Hybrid Theory."

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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http://www.conair.com/product_info.php?products_id=59

that is my hair straightener and i was wondering if those are ceramic plates and why is it important for straighteners to have ceramic plates?

Yes, they are ceramic plates. Ceramic plates do less damage to your hair than other kinds, just like the people who answered your question before me said.

But, I recommend Chi straighteners. They're around 150 dollars (maybe a few dollars more or a few dollars less... I don't know the exact price), but I've had mine for years and it still works like it did when I first got it. They work a heck of a lot better than any straightener I got from Target or Wal*Mart.

I do know someone who got a straightener from Sally's Beauty Supply that's almost exactly like a Chi for about 70 dollars.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Okay, there's this Buy It Now item on Ebay, and it comes with a Slim PS2, 2 controllers, 86 games, and all of the cords and memory cards needed to make it work. It comes with everything and everything is in New condition never tooken out of the box. The Buy it now price is $210.00 and $19 shipping. Is that a good price?

Well, that does seem like a very good price for all of those things. But, did you read the entire description and did you make sure that you didn't miss or misread anything? Make sure you 100% understand what you're buying.

Also, check the person's user feedback. If they have a lot of negatives or neutrals, you should probably rethink before you do business with that user.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Hey i have another question, do you know where i could find a good scrapbook to use?

thanks for the advice

You can find a good scrapbook at any craft store, such as Michael's or Hobby Lobby. You can also try looking at Target or Wal*Mart for one, as well.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave another one in my inbox!
-Manders

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this probably isnt the best category but i need scrapbooking tips. Ideas, sites, anyhting would be great.
thanks

I love scrapbooking! It's a fun way to remember things, and I find them better to use than photo albums.

At many craft stores, they have a section just for scrapbooks and scrapbooking items. You can get photo borders to jazz up your pictures.
Stickers are also good. Many stores have stickers with themes (sports, graduations, prom, school, etc.). There are also usually little books full of stickers with words or quotes in them, and they usually run for $4-$5 a book.
Stamps look good, too!
Markers are also important to have. Personally, I like giving each page a certain color scheme (pink and red, blue and yellow, etc.) to make it look neat and organized. Be careful with Sharpies, though; Make sure they don't bleed through the page.
As for words and text, stencils of letters work well. So do stickers with letters on them, and glue-on letters. Usually, though, I just write what I want to on each page with markers.
Oh, and DEFINITELY use a glue stick to glue anything down. Glue that comes in a bottle could get pretty messy!

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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The people that know me think that I'm a nice person, but people who don't, think that I'm stuck up and a goody-goody. It's as if getting good grades is a crime! They assume that I can't have a good time, which is really not true. People won't really come up and speak to me (especially boys) because of this. The problem is, that none of my friends can tell me what it is that makes me appear stuck up at a first glance. How can I appear to be a more friendly and approachable person?

The more answers, the better!

(oh, I'm not really worried about the boys. I have a boyfriend. it's just a detail.)

Don't worry about the people who judge you. If they were people that really were worth being friends with, they wouldn't judge you before getting to know you. Also, don't act "stupid" or try getting lower grades because of what these people say. They really are just jealous that you get good grades and that theirs aren't as good. Your education is the one thing that no one can take away from you. It's important now, and it will be even more important in the future.

There really is no secret to being more friendly and approachable. Just smile and be happy. Be positive, not negative. I remember a few years ago, I was a very negative person. Now, I'm more of an optimist, and I'm a lot happier and have made a lot more friends. The saying "Attitude is everything" is very true.

Body language is everything. It communicates how you feel a lot more than what you say, or even your tone of voice. Don't stand with your arms crossed. That makes you look "closed off" to people. Like I said before, smile. It really does make a difference.

Be open. Introduce yourself to others. Ask them questions, such as, "How are you?" It really shows people that you're interested in getting to know them better.

Also, be considerate of others. Think about this: Imagine someone you know falls down and hurts themself. Do you laugh, or do you go up to them, help them up, and ask if they're okay? If you laugh, you look like you don't care about that person. Be caring, and help others.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I know you personally, but I'm not telling you who I am. You may figure it out, and if so, good for you. Alrighty, well, I've got a question..

My boyfriend of 3/4 months whom I'm madly in love with is out of town for six weeks.. (Know who I am yet?) ..And for about 2 or 3 days now.. (Since he's left.) ..My best friend of 2 years, who is male, has been more.. Flirtacious? No, no. More 'short-and-to-the-point' about what he wants.. Sex. He's so precise with his comments and let's me know that he wants it. I love him to death, but I'd never cheat on my boyfriend. When he says stuff, I usually just laugh it off, but it's hard because he's my bestfriend and I do want to hang out with him, just without the physical contact. I don't want to tell him to stop, because I don't want to hurt his feelings and ruin our friendship. It's just that he has a girlfriend as well and he knows I have a boyfriend. I don't know if he just wants to lose it and keep it a secret or if he wants a relationship. He has stated that he's jealous of mine and my boyfriends feelings for each other, as well as everyone elses.
I'm asking you as a fried that gives good ass adive. What should I do?

I know I don't need to tell you that you definitely shouldn't give in to his offer. You know that already, and I know you definitely won't give in.

Yes, I know that confronting him may be hard, but how else will he know that you aren't interested? You can be assertive without being mean and ruining a friendship.
First of all, do not try talking to him when he's mad/sad/in any kind of bad mood. And also don't do it in front of a bunch of people. You know how guys are, they sometimes act "macho" around their friends. Oh, and don't yell, either. I know you wouldn't, but I thought I might as well tell you that. People get defensive when they're yelled at, do you know what I mean? He might just try defending himself and not really listen to what you're saying.

You should probably say something along the lines of this, "______ (name), I know you've been wanting to have sex with me, but I really don't want to. I have a boyfriend who I love very much, and you have a girlfriend. We're friends, and I want it to stay that way."

He should stop. If he doesn't, and keeps asking, I think you should reconsider the friendship altogether. I mean, think about it: Is someone who constantly pressures you to have sex with him (When he knows you have a boyfriend) REALLY that great of a friend? A friend respects you and your decisions.
He may be your friend, but he has NO RIGHT to take advantage of you.

If it becomes too much to handle, or if he starts getting violent, you need to go to an adult you trust for help.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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what is lax? people always say they have a lax game.

"Lax" stands for "lacrosse." That's really all I can say about that.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Why do guys always flirt with the girl after the girl stops liking him? Or at least that has always been my experience.

Here's my problem: I used to like this guy, "Bob", and he didn't like me back at thr time. Eventually, I got past that and started liking this other guy, "Todd". I'm good friends with both of them but recently "Bob" has been flirting with me again. "Todd" likes me back as well, but our relationship is on stnad by. For example, today "Bob" was playing with my hair, like running his fingers through it. I didn't object at all. Do I go back to "Bob" or do I wait for "Todd"?

Well, the keyword here is that you USED to like Bob. You don't like him anymore, so there's no point in going out with him.

You said that Todd, the guy you actually like, likes you back. That's awesome! I say that you should wait for him. Wouldn't you rather go out with someone you like than someone you don't?

Besides, you don't want Bob to think that you still have feelings for him, when you really don't. Leading him by acting like you like him could really hurt his feelings in the long run.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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How exacally do you send a guy "signals" that you like him and such?

Well, it depends on how obvious you want to be. You don't want to be all over him; that, at most, will scare the guy away. So, if I were you, flirt, but be subtle.

Are you friends with him? If you are, it's a lot easier because you can talk to him more, and you know that you two have something in common.

Anyway, here are some ways you can flirt:
-Be genuinely interested in what he is saying.
-When you're in a group, don't stare at him, but pay extra attention to him.
-If there's a picture of him (like in a yearbook), tell him, "Aww, you look so cute!"
-If he tells you a joke, laugh and say, "____ (name), you're so funny!" (Don't say that in an annoying/weird voice, though.)
-Ask him about things he's interested in.
-If a school dance is coming up, ask him to slow dance.

It's pretty easy to let a guy know you like him. Just don't overdo it. :o)

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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How exacally do you send a guy "signals" that you like him and such?

Well, it depends on how obvious you want to be. You don't want to be all over him; that, at most, will scare the guy away. So, if I were you, flirt, but be subtle.

Are you friends with him? If you are, it's a lot easier because you can talk to him more, and you know that you two have something in common.

Anyway, here are some ways you can flirt:
-Be genuinely interested in what he is saying.
-When you're in a group, don't stare at him, but pay extra attention to him.
-If there's a picture of him (like in a yearbook), tell him, "Aww, you look so cute!"
-If he tells you a joke, laugh and say, "____ (name), you're so funny!" (Don't say that in an annoying/weird voice, though.)
-Ask him about things he's interested in.
-If a school dance is coming up, ask him to slow dance.

It's pretty easy to let a guy know you like him. Just don't overdo it. :o)

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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How exacally do you send a guy "signals" that you like him and such?

Well, it depends on how obvious you want to be. You don't want to be all over him; that, at most, will scare the guy away. So, if I were you, flirt, but be subtle.

Are you friends with him? If you are, it's a lot easier because you can talk to him more, and you know that you two have something in common.

Anyway, here are some ways you can flirt:
-Be genuinely interested in what he is saying.
-When you're in a group, don't stare at him, but pay extra attention to him.
-If there's a picture of him (like in a yearbook), tell him, "Aww, you look so cute!"
-If he tells you a joke, laugh and say, "____ (name), you're so funny!" (Don't say that in an annoying/weird voice, though.)
-Ask him about things he's interested in.
-If a school dance is coming up, ask him to slow dance.

It's pretty easy to let a guy know you like him. Just don't overdo it. :o)

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Ok, so there is this guy that I really like and he knows that I like him and about 5 or 6 months ago I asked him out and he said that he would think about it and he never gave me an answer. Recently he told his friends that i was ugly and he would never go out with me. So now I want to get over him. How can I do that?

Wow, this guy is such a jerk! It's good that you realize that he isn't worth liking, because he really isn't.

The number one mistake people make in situations like these is sitting around dwelling on how to "win him" or thinking of what could have been. Don't do that. Hang out with your friends. Take up a new hobby. Do what you love.

It might not be easy getting over someone, but not dwelling on it makes it a lot easier and less painful. I'm not saying that you should keep your feelings bottled up, though; Cry if you need to. Talk to a friend or family member that you trust.

Oh yeah, another thing: don't be mean, or try to get revenge on, this boy. Doing those just shows that you're still hung up on what he did to you.

Oh yes, one last thing: DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT let what this guy said about you hurt your self-confidence. Who cares about what this idiot said? It's untrue and immature. There are so many more guys out there who are so much better than this guy. He doesn't deserve you, girl.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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there is this eight grade dance in a month. and it seems like all of a sudden guys are asking girls to go. no one as asked me yet and like i don't care if i don't go with a guy but maybe i would like to... i don't want to ask the guy i want to go with and i don't hink he would ask me cause he's shy about those things. how could i get him to ask me? is it fun to just go with your girl friends? do people who bring dates usually hang with them the whole time?

What the last person said isn't totally true. I know a LOT of guys, and they're shy, too. Just because a guy doesn't ask you doesn't mean he doesn't like you.
Anyway, you can flirt with him to give him the hint. You can also say something like, "Are you going to the dance?" or, "Do you have a date to the dance?" in a casual conversation.
Or, you could be bold and ask him yourself.

Some couples hang out with each other all night, but I bet that most of them will want to hang out with friends as well as their date.

Yes, it is fun to just go with your girl friends. You can goof off and have fun without having a date to worry about. Plus, you can dance with any guy you want!

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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Today in Life Skills, my school counselor told us girls "all 13-year-old boys care about is looks." (it's not a co-ed class) She also went on to say that 13-year-old boys only like girls with big boobs and a big ass. She said that they are very shallow, but the best thing for us to do is wait for them to grow up.

Is this really true? Do boys only notice boobs and butts on a girl and nothing else? It doesn't make me feel too good knowing that, because I certainly don't have a big butt and big boobs, and I'd like to have a boyfriend.

What your counselor said was way out of line, untrue, and stupid. Not all guys are like that. Sure, many are, but not all of them. Many of the smarter, more mature ones go for the personality. There aren't many 13-year-olds that do, but they're there.

Your counselor lied. I hate to be blunt, but she did. A more correct statement would be, "Because of puberty, young teenage boys tend to notice a girls' chest and butt more than they did before."
She shouldn't be making generalizations about a certain group of people. If she's a counselor, she should be teaching kids to do otherwise.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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I just want to know why lots of people like Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, the Rolling Stones, Guns 'n' Roses, etc. I like the Beatles and Nirvana because their music is very good but I am bad at knowing what a song means. There is a lot of drug references, I think, but I am sad because I am bad at song meanings. That's why there's songmeanings.net/com but I can't always rely on that.

A lot of people like that kind of music (me included) because of its originality. It's different from 99.9% of the stuff that's on the radio today. Plus, it just sounds good. Plain and simple. :oD

As for song meanings, it depends on the song, when it was written, who wrote it...
Because I'm most familiar with the Beatles, I'll use them as an example. John, Paul, George, and even Ringo all wrote songs while they were together. Because John and Paul wrote the majority of the songs that the Beatles performed, let's use them as examples.
John usually wrote the more complicated, hard to understand songs. Paul was usually writing the slower, ballad-type songs, such as "Yesterday."
Of course, John did write many love songs and Paul did write some songs that weren't slow and ballad-like, but I'm just talking about what they wrote the most.

About the drug references... there are some. For instance, the song "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds" was rumored to be about LSD because of its initials (This was denied, though). In "Get Back," one of the lines is:
"Jojo was a man who thought he was a loner,
But he knew it wouldn't last.
Jojo left his home in Tucson, Arizona
For some California grass."
(FYI, Paul wrote "Get Back" and John wrote "Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds.)

It all depends on the song. Not all Beatles or Nirvana (I'm a Nirvana fan, too) songs have drug references.

I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
-Manders

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